Posted by SeaLion
My Virgo says he hates wishy washy women. He wants women to tell him what they want from him and he has no patience for women who don't vocalize what they want. He has no problem putting women in the friend zone.
From him and other Virgo men I have met... that seems to be a theme. Like they are more then willing to accommodate but they need to know what is expected of them. However, once you're in the friend zone it seems to be very hard to get out of it.
Note: my Virgo in particular is used to women throwing themselves at him. So he has no problem saying no when he isn't interested.

Yeah thats fair. But not much I can do when he doesn't want a relationship. Im 22 but I hate the talking stage, I hate the dating game as well. Its all BS!! Like dude you are either going to be with me or I'm going to stay single. Peace

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Posted by virgoOPPP
virgo moon?

eww

From my experience, all earth moons are ew. They are closed off emotionally, move at a slowwww pace and are stubborn

Says you. I am overly emotional, super sensitive, got married at 20 (still married) and it took me until my 30's to discover how strong willed I can be. But since I'm a Gemini and older and want to live a more peaceful life, I usually give in or just change my mind. I've got a Virgo moon.

You must be thinking of aqua and taurus moons.

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No, I should have clarified, I am talking about people with earth sun+moon signs....If one or the other is air/water/fire. There is some balance thats all

Posted by 81gems
My brother is a virgo sun/moon/mercury. He's been one of the dumbest men I've ever known. Made some real dumb ass mistakes. Stayed married to an abusive bitch for 20 years. Took her back, made excuses for her. Stupid, dumb, stupid dumbass. Don't expect much from a character like this.

I think people with virgo placements have a "devotion mode" hidden somewhere. Its not healthy by any means. But i have seen similar behavior esp when virgo placements are coupled with other earth placements....also yeah Im a lot more cautious now.

Posted by Arinoaqua
Virgos are really not that difficult. The problem is you’re passively pursuing him. After every kiss and cuddle “what are we?” “Are we dating now?”

Don’t ever got damn ask a man “what are we?” They need to be asking you that. Let a man pursue you. You just be amazing. No man is so passive that they need you to do the leg work for them.

See the issue is I have been patient for 7 months...I didn't push at all. I am passive, but now I have drawn some boundaries for myself. That is all.

We ended up FaceTiming on New Years Eve. He played his guitar for me and sang. He opened up about his past relationships (I didn't insist or even ask he just started talking about his past and other things). He told me how his ex (the one who ruined emotional intimacy for him) he was only with her for 2 months (in 2019) and that he was falling hard for her. She wanted to wait to have sex till marriage and even tho he is sexual he lived like a monk for the sake of being with her but she broke up with him then got with another guy in 2 days. He said it was "iffy on the cheating part but she was probably talking to him during our relationship". I said "No that is emotional cheating, if you are in a relationship why are you entertaining other people". He went on to say that his heart isn't closed off its just sleeping for now.

Damn, then are the virgo sun+moon+venus+mercury men the exception??? Because we were more than friends for 7mo but he never committed (no we never did anything remotely sexual so we were not fwb)

Yeah, if you are in a relationship DO NOT entertain other people. If you wanna act single then don't be in a relationship TF

@GemCurioThe1 thank you for the help and the insight on the virgo man I have been dealing with. I had so much anxiety in dealing with him but your advice def made all the difference. I wish I had reached out to you way before than I did to be honest

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Posted by MadTwins80
I was being sarcastic but ok you seem like a nice girl so I won't be

He prob doesn't want this much emotional turmoil in his life

He was friendly with you after a year later and then he said something and you got angry . At that point he thought "this is not worth it" . We, Geminis and Virgos both mercury, we don't like what we see as unnecessary emotional volatility. We like deep emotions because it's something for us to experience and it doesn't come easily to us on our own but we definitely do NOT enjoy the kind of emotional whirlpool you seem to be lost in. It's a massive headache for us and we'd rather not touch it with a ten foot pole
He blocked you because he doesn't want to deal with your constant emotional outpouring it's really alien and actually unappealing to us
That's my take on it anyway. I'm not reading the whole thing to see what everyone else has said

As a gemini I 1000% agree with this, I like emotions when they are raw and sincere but constant emotional volatility is a DRAIN

Does things workout now if I open up?

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They will if you archive your threads and leave him alone. You vomiting your emotions like this is plain ugly.

Posted by MadTwins80
I was being sarcastic but ok you seem like a nice girl so I won't be

He prob doesn't want this much emotional turmoil in his life

He was friendly with you after a year later and then he said something and you got angry . At that point he thought "this is not worth it" . We, Geminis and Virgos both mercury, we don't like what we see as unnecessary emotional volatility. We like deep emotions because it's something for us to experience and it doesn't come easily to us on our own but we definitely do NOT enjoy the kind of emotional whirlpool you seem to be lost in. It's a massive headache for us and we'd rather not touch it with a ten foot pole
He blocked you because he doesn't want to deal with your constant emotional outpouring it's really alien and actually unappealing to us
That's my take on it anyway. I'm not reading the whole thing to see what everyone else has said

As a gemini I 1000% agree with this, I like emotions when they are raw and sincere but constant emotional volatility is a DRAIN

Lady stop!!! For the love of god, I am emotional but even I am horrified by this. No wonder he blocked you. Please shut up and go

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Posted by CoffeeAndCream
The only stupid person in here is YOU!

You're allowing some shit to disrespect you! That's your problem don't tell ppl to allow anybody to cheat on them you insecure stupid hore.

I'm ashamed you're a cancer

Omg I almost spit out my milk shake 😂

what kind of bs is this tho?

"If you want a virgo man, love him only at the first chance, and commit yourself fully even if he cheats"

yes, this is the truth, because after betraying his trust, he won't be the same and he will be so cold

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When you said he has been disrespectful or cold...how? Like specifically what has he done and what has he said???

Posted by CoffeeAndCream
The only stupid person in here is YOU!

You're allowing some shit to disrespect you! That's your problem don't tell ppl to allow anybody to cheat on them you insecure stupid hore.

I'm ashamed you're a cancer

You are completely out of line, calm down

I wouldn't forgive nor forget: Deceit, abuse (any kind or of any severity), drugs, cheating (any severity) and controlling behavior.

Okay for everyone asking: Isolation is a form of self harm.

This isn't to say that wanting alone time/me time/going off grid for a while is bad. Those are extremely healthy measures for yourself. Those things everyone should do from time to time for the sake of sanity. But in some cases when you go through something painful or traumatic and you shut people out and it goes on to the point where you are essentially isolating yourself. That is harmful, humans are social creatures. People need people, family AND friends are necessary. I have lived through poverty, financially stable and "wealthy" times. But the only time I felt moments in life worthwhile was because I was with people who I have a healthy relation with. I'm not saying you need to center your core around other people. I'm saying that isolation happens and brings out the worse in you.

Okay for everyone asking: Isolation is a form of self harm.

This isn't to say that wanting alone time/me time/going off grid for a while is bad. Those are extremely healthy measures for yourself. Those things everyone should do from time to time for the sake of sanity. But in some cases when you go through something painful or traumatic and you shut people out and it goes on to the point where you are essentially isolating yourself. That is harmful, humans are social creatures. People need people, family AND friends are necessary. I have lived through poverty, financially stable and "wealthy" times. But the only time I felt moments in life worthwhile was because I was with people who I have a healthy relation with. I'm not saying you need to center your core around other people. I'm saying that isolation happens and brings out the worse in you.

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i'd rather virgos cheat than become long-suffering devotees. coz that tends to happen- becoming so devoted, almost worshipping their partner. but mostly i'm saying that coz of their suicide notes.

“Dear Ted, What has happened to us? I don’t know. I feel myself in a spiral, going down down down, into a black hole from which there is no escape, no brightness. And loud in my ears from every side I hear, ‘failure, failure, failure…’ I love you so much…I am too old and enmeshed in everything you do and are, that I cannot conceive of life without you . . . My going will leave quite a rumor, but you can say I was overworked and overwrought. Your reputation with your friends and fans will not be harmed . . . Sometimes, think of the fun we had all thru the years . . . “

-suffers from cancer then gets cheated on but she's still trying to protect her husband's reputation (that she helped in building)

"I am 27 years old and all that was left of me was a shell and a damaged one at that. I am damaged, I am disgusting."

-after getting STDs from a man who refuse to apologize and keeps trying to smear her reputation instead




ohh and camille grammer (though she didn't kill herself but still wtf kelsey)

virgos should never fall for the trap of devotion

i'd even encourage terrible behavior, just not this long-suffering

I feel like thats Beyonce as well....Jay Z cheated on her but sis took him back like YOU ARE BEYONCE YOU ARE THE QUEEN HOWWWWW

he's like her 2nd bf right? she was like 18 when she met him.

i imagine it's hard to leave someone like that.

bet he cheated on her multiple times over the years.

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DUDE, if beyonce can get cheated on then I HAVE NO HOPE lmfao.

Posted by virgoOPPP
i'd rather virgos cheat than become long-suffering devotees. coz that tends to happen- becoming so devoted, almost worshipping their partner. but mostly i'm saying that coz of their suicide notes.

“Dear Ted, What has happened to us? I don’t know. I feel myself in a spiral, going down down down, into a black hole from which there is no escape, no brightness. And loud in my ears from every side I hear, ‘failure, failure, failure…’ I love you so much…I am too old and enmeshed in everything you do and are, that I cannot conceive of life without you . . . My going will leave quite a rumor, but you can say I was overworked and overwrought. Your reputation with your friends and fans will not be harmed . . . Sometimes, think of the fun we had all thru the years . . . “

-suffers from cancer then gets cheated on but she's still trying to protect her husband's reputation (that she helped in building)

"I am 27 years old and all that was left of me was a shell and a damaged one at that. I am damaged, I am disgusting."

-after getting STDs from a man who refuse to apologize and keeps trying to smear her reputation instead




ohh and camille grammer (though she didn't kill herself but still wtf kelsey)

virgos should never fall for the trap of devotion

i'd even encourage terrible behavior, just not this long-suffering

I feel like thats Beyonce as well....Jay Z cheated on her but sis took him back like YOU ARE BEYONCE YOU ARE THE QUEEN HOWWWWW

1) Isolation is a form of self harm
2) Live and let live

No wonder he is divorced, my brother is libra sun+sag moon and frankly they can be selfish people. I'm not saying that they might have malicious intent but that they put themselves first. Also at 49, if you disturbing other people's peace then you kinda need to mature....

The ball is in his court ngl but I am setting up small boundaries for the sake of my sanity. Because being cuddle buddies is a waste of my time. I don't do that shit.