SassyKiwi

Posted by whatthecrab

Posted by BG2

Posted by whatthecrab

Posted by BG2
I am not even going to delve into rape fantasies. I'll keep my views on that to myself

We already know you have them

Haha. I guess, but why I like them, what scenarios I would love to play out...no one knows.


And...no one has spoken about the other side of the coin? What about the one fantasizing about 'raping' and not the one being the 'victim'? Hmmmm...

Scenario: you're both sleeping, it's the middle of the night, you wake up and see your lover off in dreamland and decide to take advantage of their state of 'helplessness'. You decide to tie them up and go to town on them. Would you (anyone) object to it? I'm curious.

That's rape because I'm not awake to give him that consent. Unless we've discussed it before and both wouldn't mind.

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This is true. Consent is always important, even when you're married. There have been cases where married couples have reported their spouse of rape because sex with zero boundaries isn't a given due to some marriage certificate.

Posted by AriesLove

Posted by whatthecrab

Posted by AriesLove
This article is so far from playing hard to get in my opinion. More like playing a dead person.

Playing hard to get does not mean no talking, laughing, going out, having fun, being down to earth etc. Simply means you are moving slow by choice. Slow into intimacy, slow into knowing all about you: where you stay, your family, your whole life.

Allowing yourself or the other person to find out more about you. To be intriguing to each other. If you know everything right away, do everything right away most people become bored right away. I myself am one of those persons.

It's not about getting a jerk, getting married or getting anything at all. It's about making decisions that you will not regret or you will feel good about. And allowing yourself to decide if this is someone you want to deal with. It's ultimately your choice.

Im not competing for best head game, sex game, fun game or whatever. There is always someone better than you. I wouldn't want to be labeled any of those from anyone but my significant other. No contest here.

I agree with your post. The article is sexist and has a nasty underlying tone that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. But I understand what he's trying to say. I don't get close to people easily and I have heard a lot of times that I'm hard to read or a hard nut to crack. But I don't think the article meant people who by nature are slow to intimacy. The writer talks about people(women only, as if men don't do this) who feel the need to play hard to get and act uninterested in order to keep people interested. Just for the sake of appearing elusive. It's true that it is an ironic approach to try maintain interest. To me it seems people play these games because relationships are hard to keep. And it's probably more of an defense mechanism or playing into the idea of hard to get=hard to leave than it is solely a strategy to attract men, like the article appears it to be. For most people it's easier to front with their feelings, because they don't know how to deal with rejection.

I agree....also some people need to realize it's not always "playing hard to get", some people may not be as interested in you as you think. That might be hard for some people to accept (men). So they label it as playing "hard to get".

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This. I'd love to hear what the writer of the article has to say on how he differentiates girls who play hard to get from girls who genuinely weren't interested in him.

Posted by starlover

Posted by BG2
It is much safer to play out a fantasy than cross the line into reality. For instance, I would rather see someone with a blood fetish use fake blood than actually hacking someone up and getting off from that.

As with everything there are different levels, different depths people are willing to go. There are extremes - and one into the BDSM lifestyle isn't necessarily open to everything within it, imo - and I do agree with you starlove that, pertaining to those extremes, one needs to know why they do what they do.

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My sag sister, in a relationship with a taurus man, calls him Daddy and he calls her baby girl. But there is nothing about their relationship that would entail anything remotely close to an incestuous kinda deal. He doesn't treat her like a child or his child and she definitely does not think of him as a father. The power exchange is reminiscent of a father/child relationship, yes, but that's as far as it goes.

I would want to know why i had the need to call a man that wasn't my father daddy....it also screams of someone that is resistant to growing up. If i found out my son was calling any gfs he has *mammy*, tbh i would be treetrunking mortified .....

Maybe some people don't want to know?

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Society's kind of twisted the whole "daddy/baby girl" exchange when it comes to relationships. I mean that's why we have terms like "pimp daddy" and guys endearingly calling their lovers "baby girl." It's more for that comforting protective/protection association to them. At least that's how I believe most people see it. You see some men refer to women as "mama" but more differentiated in common terms like "lil mama" or "mamacita" lol. I can see how it makes people think it gives them a personal ownership to each other in a relationship which a lot of people enjoy. "You are mine, I am yours."

Posted by FrostedElly

Posted by SassyKiwi
I find it very amusing how Scorpio women either come off as a warm, loving person or a detached possible cookiemonster on attack mode. Never usually in between.

LOL.

I guess it's the whole no gray area thing about scorps lol.

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You come off as the former c:

I don't think you're a Scorpio ascendant tbh

What degrees of the rising were you before your new birth time? And what degrees of a Scorpio rising does it say you are now?

Cafe astrology is awful btw, it gave me the wrong moon and ascendant. Use astro.com or astrotheme.

I find it very amusing how Scorpio women either come off as a warm, loving person or a detached possible cookiemonster on attack mode. Never usually in between.

Posted by SensitiveBlues

Posted by SassyKiwi
RIP fellow Hades mooner and asc/height twin.

whats a hades moon?

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http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/do-you-have-a-hades-moon-6304576.asp

He had moon opposition pluto.

RIP fellow Hades mooner and asc/height twin.

Natalie Dormer :p

Meh. This gives me a handful of aspects. First thing I do when I wake up to the full moon... clumsily break a glass cologne. My eyes stung as I cleaned and internally wept. I should track full moons and my clumsiness. I'm sure there's a correlation.

Posted by blessyou

Posted by SassyKiwi
Just in case you guys weren't aware, blessyou is most likely aquaboy84

http://www.dxpnet.com/users/profile.asp?username=aquaboy84

if if aquaboy was here.. he would call you a snitch

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*giggles*

Just in case you guys weren't aware, blessyou is most likely aquaboy84

http://www.dxpnet.com/users/profile.asp?username=aquaboy84

EXAMPLE SCENARIO:

29 Scorpio Sun
26 Taurus Mars (r)

Clearly they've got a sun opposition mars. But how would that mars retrograde affect that aspect? Would they be much different from someone with the same aspect who doesn't have a mars retrograde?

Would a bad aspect to a retro planet be twice as worse?

It's really scary when DJ sounds genuinely humane for once

Kodak moment you guys!

MFW you try to keep yourself from responding aggressively to the most stupid, lack of common sense posts/threads

Posted by TachibanaSan
Arigatou gozaimasu
for all of your concern.

My parents and siblings
and I were in Kumamoto
visiting our grandparents
when the earthquake hit.

The house shook violently.
Walls crumbled and the roof
fell in; house was destroyed.

Almost everyone managed
to survive, except grandfather.
He was buried under the mess.
We could not find him for hours.
He had to be dug out, and when
he was, he was no longer alive.

We wanted funeral for him there,
but graves were destroyed and
knocked over badly in Kumamoto.
So we cremate him in Kagoshima,
my birthplace, and where parents
still live. Grandma now lives there.

I am still shaken and I worry about
my baby's health, but I am here. -_-

Tachi!! So good to finally see you're okay. I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather... may his soul rest in peace. The well-being of you and your family (especially your little one on the way) will be in my prayers. I hope you remain stress free as much as possible. Remain strong, my friend.

Posted by trollbait

Posted by SassyKiwi
Granmaaa come back home ):

She's more like my mother actually.... same generation too (Pluto Leo).

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She's genuinely around my grandma's age

She tried bullying me yesterday. Tuff luv.

Not too long ago my friend and I were on campus talking outside when some guy with a donation sign approached our area, he lingered around for a little bit before approaching my friend. He then asked her something cheeky. She acted super uninterested... at the end of the conversation the guy suddenly starts ripping the poster in half and drops it on the ground, dramatically stomping on it before silently walking away... We were like wtf. And then our other friend who was supposed to meet up with us was waiting on the side comes in saying someone was recording from the distant. So you never know tbh. We didn't see anyone with a camera leave with the guy.

You should've ended it with "Did you need anything else"

Cause maybe he could've said "Your number" or nada if he genuinely needed advice...

Just sayin' I wouldn't have ended it without picking out his intentions