Pack you bags and go back to the country where you have friends and family that can be there to support you. Don't waste another minute on this person, he's not going to step up or be the person you want him to be. It really is over, stop making excuses for him and his behaviour and STOP saying sorry. You haven't done anything to be sorry for!!

Don't except the excuse of "your nagging" made him cheat! He quite simply is a cheater and a control freak, you really don't need that type of person in your life.

You also sound very young and naive and need to grow in order for you to mature and realise the value of you. Men really aren't superior, but I feel that you probably have learnt this through your family. What nationality are you and what are your beliefs on male female roles in general?

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Great to pass the time away, wouldn't get too interested especially if it's long distant. People tend to be more fake online when you can check up on them and their stories. Look around the threads at how many "fall in love" and then reality check when they meet!

He doesn't seem to be very interested in you...love the attention when you are around but doesn't chase you when you aren't...out of sight out of mind.

So why not, do your thing.

Why thank you kind sir...I am a sweetheart

Dinner at a lovely Thai restaurant in our neighbourhood. Although we eat out all the time and every Thursday so it's not because it's Valentines Day.

I did get him a 1 hour Massage because he deserves that but I think it's just another day...

I Remember all the other V Day's when I was single and I think it's more of a focus when you are single and in the hope that one day you will have someone to share it with and possible get a nice surprise...and now that it's here...it's just another day to me!

Happy Valentines to all the lovely people that love this day and treasure it

And if she isn't career orientated, you met her and she worked in a pub or takeaway joint or supermarket or clothing store. A means to an end with no future goals?

so true-fully BS,

When you have children does your wife stay home and look after the kids or go back to work? She doesn't really have a career...

haha, well this might be true. I only know 2 sags you and him...so I'll have to take your words for it

Hey BS, cool hope all is well

Ok if you just want to be barefoot and pregnant...not so if you want to be your own person!

But one things for sure, when they fall in love you are their woman and there's no doubt about that. There was never any wishy washiness, no hesitation whatsoever! But then again I never played games either...You start playing games and that is with any male no matter what sign and you're going to get game playing back.

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I dated a Sag once. My wings felt clipped.

How so?

He was very conservative and into traditional gender roles (ie, women should be demure, submissive little dolls).

But, that was his upbringing.

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Was it just his upbringing? Possibly, but ex of 19 yrs was exactly that!!

Bloody hell Liza lighten up...you yourself said you were laughing, he was playing with ya like most newly couples do with each other. Yeah, so he wasn't mindful of the time or the seriousness of you being late. But in all honesty it was probably a once off bit of fun.

So point it out to him later that night or day and do it in a way that it isn't reprimanding but just letting him know you love him but don't interfere with your job and responsibilities, you take that serious and can't jeopardise your position.

As for the BC, sort it!! Woman have to take complete control over that from the get go. No excuses, you've been together 6 months!!

Actually a whimp is the guy in this post that can't handle a little rejection and lashes out trying to build himself up by tearing as many woman down as he can...one day he will awaken and realise how lonely he is...even though he is in a room full of people!


http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/The-return-of-the-Virgo-player-3645049.asp


Waves back at VB, lovely to see you lady!

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So Mr Defense...tell us what does a real man does? I'm guessing you think you are one. Throw it out there and let the woman be the judge...that's IF you have any balls at all!!!

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/The-return-of-the-Virgo-player-3645049.asp

According to him, neurotically obsess about fashion and desperation to "become a player".

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Just read the first part of his thread...his self esteem has taken such a blow that he's trying to prove something to the word by fucking all the woman around to get back at this one girl that hurt him! He's never going to get any self satisfaction from that.

VB put it quite simply...


"What a shallow and cold existence you lead."

He'll never be happy until he changes his own outlook...money doesn't buy happiness Mr Defense and all the fame and notoriety in the world don't cut it either. Hope one day you wake up and start respecting yourself.

So Mr Defense...tell us what does a real man does? I'm guessing you think you are one. Throw it out there and let the woman be the judge...that's IF you have any balls at all!!!

Oh forgot that one...

He had mentioned marriage in the beginning. Tiki, I am NEVER going to get married again. I told him point blank if this is what he is looking for then it's not with me. The first piece of jellewry he bought me was ring...thankfully it was not an engagement ring.

That is something I am not looking for and if he was persistent there I would probable cut him lose! I love having my maiden name back and I love being the person I was born. I believe I got lost in my marriage and I never want to do that again.

Hahaha Bling...it's crossed my mind once or thrice

In the beginning when we met I believed he still loved her (this was where my insecurity crept in recently) but when he started falling "in love" with me I now know that love ended. I do understand that there will always be feelings towards your first, not sure if love is the word but they bought two children up for a good time and they would have shared many a good times together. I'm also sure now that him finally closing everything off is his way of full closure.

The comment you made about the child though is ridiculous, he fathered him from 1 years old, the boy is 13 and they are a very close father and son. I only met these kids and became apart of their lives a year ago and I love them as my own. Paternity doesn't count for much, love is not prejudice!

Thankyou for all your comments, Tiziani and Libra sun your comments most insightful

And Tiki always open to reading your take on things too.

Kong hee fatt choy dxpers