Bloody hell Liza lighten up...you yourself said you were laughing, he was playing with ya like most newly couples do with each other. Yeah, so he wasn't mindful of the time or the seriousness of you being late. But in all honesty it was probably a once off bit of fun.

So point it out to him later that night or day and do it in a way that it isn't reprimanding but just letting him know you love him but don't interfere with your job and responsibilities, you take that serious and can't jeopardise your position.

As for the BC, sort it!! Woman have to take complete control over that from the get go. No excuses, you've been together 6 months!!

Actually a whimp is the guy in this post that can't handle a little rejection and lashes out trying to build himself up by tearing as many woman down as he can...one day he will awaken and realise how lonely he is...even though he is in a room full of people!


http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/The-return-of-the-Virgo-player-3645049.asp


Waves back at VB, lovely to see you lady!

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Posted by sweethearts
So Mr Defense...tell us what does a real man does? I'm guessing you think you are one. Throw it out there and let the woman be the judge...that's IF you have any balls at all!!!

http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/The-return-of-the-Virgo-player-3645049.asp

According to him, neurotically obsess about fashion and desperation to "become a player".

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Just read the first part of his thread...his self esteem has taken such a blow that he's trying to prove something to the word by fucking all the woman around to get back at this one girl that hurt him! He's never going to get any self satisfaction from that.

VB put it quite simply...


"What a shallow and cold existence you lead."

He'll never be happy until he changes his own outlook...money doesn't buy happiness Mr Defense and all the fame and notoriety in the world don't cut it either. Hope one day you wake up and start respecting yourself.

So Mr Defense...tell us what does a real man does? I'm guessing you think you are one. Throw it out there and let the woman be the judge...that's IF you have any balls at all!!!

Oh forgot that one...

He had mentioned marriage in the beginning. Tiki, I am NEVER going to get married again. I told him point blank if this is what he is looking for then it's not with me. The first piece of jellewry he bought me was ring...thankfully it was not an engagement ring.

That is something I am not looking for and if he was persistent there I would probable cut him lose! I love having my maiden name back and I love being the person I was born. I believe I got lost in my marriage and I never want to do that again.

Hahaha Bling...it's crossed my mind once or thrice

In the beginning when we met I believed he still loved her (this was where my insecurity crept in recently) but when he started falling "in love" with me I now know that love ended. I do understand that there will always be feelings towards your first, not sure if love is the word but they bought two children up for a good time and they would have shared many a good times together. I'm also sure now that him finally closing everything off is his way of full closure.

The comment you made about the child though is ridiculous, he fathered him from 1 years old, the boy is 13 and they are a very close father and son. I only met these kids and became apart of their lives a year ago and I love them as my own. Paternity doesn't count for much, love is not prejudice!

Thankyou for all your comments, Tiziani and Libra sun your comments most insightful

And Tiki always open to reading your take on things too.

Kong hee fatt choy dxpers

Doesn't matter, at what point he asks, she'll always deny him. We have asked to have then on a Wednesday night for dinner on the week we don't see them. We can't because of school. He's scared of her. The boy is not his biological son, he had raise him from 1 year but she says he can't have any access with him when things aren't going the way she wants. Believe it or not, it really is a matter of a nasty bitch at her best!

He actually doesn't want anything to do with her. She texts her demands and he obides but doesn't text back. He used to text or call the kids and ask if they wanted to do something and they then spoke to their mother. She texted him and said, if you want something you text me, don't go through the kids. So he stopped that and anything he's asked gets a no, because blah blah blah....
So he doesn't reply back or if he does its a brief yes or that's fine.

My belief is she still wants control over him as she did while they we re together. She has texted me in the beginning because he didn't reply and it complained about his selfishness and also contained the threat that if he didn't do blah he couldn't have access to the kids. He then textured her back and also said don't text my gf, she has nothing to do with this. I never received anything More till now and I answered back after abuse with contact your solicitor, we'll sorry it legally. Then more abuse, personally attacking me which I ignored but think it will be handy in court!

I thought it was dxp makes you drink!!

He texted her, she said no and he pointed out that it was a public holiday on the Monday and we are entitled to have them until the Tuesday. We intended to return them on the Monday so they could get ready for school plus they wanted to stay with us, she didn't ask them what they wanted to do. Instead she started her abuse with us and then texting the children saying your father is lying to you, you aren't suppose to be there. What sort off person involves a 10 & 13 year old in an argument. Someone that wants to control the situation.

We have had visitation for a year and a half without a problem, all of a sudden we exercise the right to keep them an extra night, which is entirely legal according to the papers we all have but doesn't suit her. She spits the dummy and starts with the threats and saying we aren't to have them anymore. In actually fact whenever he hasn't done exactly what she wants she threatens us with no visitation, it's happened about 3 times and tbh I personally am sick of it. So very glad we have taken the steps to get something more solid passed!

And what's more, this will all be proven. She has texted to say we can have the children with a whole lot of demands. Now while that is great for now we have already prepared documents with a solicitor to get it in writing officially so she can't pull this stunt again. It also contains the demand to financially severe there ties (the house)

We expect she will spit the dummy and instead of it all ending here it will have to go to court.

The two aren't related, the house is one thing the children are a whole separate issue but both need to be tied up legally so he can move on with his life!

OMG Tiki! You are way off base here! This is not about how they were when they were together. I don't care about the details, as I wouldn't expect him to want to go through my failed marriage with a fine tooth comb!

This is about the kids and his right to father them, it has nothing to do with a woman and her feelings unless she feels we are neglecting or abusing them which I can assure you isn't the case.

You are saying that she is entitled to hold the children back from their father because ABC or however she is feeling on the day??? Bullshit!

And if you go back to the OP, I was more concerned about how I could help him with how he is feeling about what she is doing which is probably why I asked Libra men's opinion. They stick to the point!

Her side...

She's a constant cheater!

I'm very aware of his downfalls and her complaints, he has no backbone and lets people walk all over him very rarely sticking up for himself, he can be selfish (her biggest complaint and one I have seen personally) but I think all men have this tendency in a woman's eyes.

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I have to agree with Tiki33. My libra told me his ex cheated on him, but how he acts sometimes, can't say I blame her for her actions, cause his action also played a part

So cheating is ok if things aren't going your way or he spends too much time at work or with the boys or he isn't paying as much attention to you anymore???

That's a crazy set of values right there!! Here's where you need to look in the mirror as well and up the anti and make your marriage/relationship something more to hang on to...

OR Leave!

Yeah BS!

I'm a pretty good judge of character and the cookie monster has 3 children to 3 fathers. First father pays child support and he isn't even allow to see his kid,(lives in a different country and is trying to contact him through FB, she is stopping him and his family reaching out without finding out what the boy wants) my man has fathered him since he was almost 1...that's the type of person he is. The boy knows that Leeb is not his biological father but stills goes by uses his name at school etc even though it isn't his legal name.

I know another man that had to take his ex to court in order to gain access to his children too.

There are plenty of selfish scornful cookie monsters around that just want to make life difficult for men that simply don't love them anymore!

A woman that moves her new lover into a family home of 2 children within a month of separating doesn't have credit in my book!

Haha, you're a crazy mother E