Posted by AriesLovePosted by whatthecrabPosted by AriesLove
This article is so far from playing hard to get in my opinion. More like playing a dead person.
Playing hard to get does not mean no talking, laughing, going out, having fun, being down to earth etc. Simply means you are moving slow by choice. Slow into intimacy, slow into knowing all about you: where you stay, your family, your whole life.
Allowing yourself or the other person to find out more about you. To be intriguing to each other. If you know everything right away, do everything right away most people become bored right away. I myself am one of those persons.
It's not about getting a jerk, getting married or getting anything at all. It's about making decisions that you will not regret or you will feel good about. And allowing yourself to decide if this is someone you want to deal with. It's ultimately your choice.
Im not competing for best head game, sex game, fun game or whatever. There is always someone better than you. I wouldn't want to be labeled any of those from anyone but my significant other. No contest here.
I agree with your post. The article is sexist and has a nasty underlying tone that leaves a bad taste in my mouth. But I understand what he's trying to say. I don't get close to people easily and I have heard a lot of times that I'm hard to read or a hard nut to crack. But I don't think the article meant people who by nature are slow to intimacy. The writer talks about people(women only, as if men don't do this) who feel the need to play hard to get and act uninterested in order to keep people interested. Just for the sake of appearing elusive. It's true that it is an ironic approach to try maintain interest. To me it seems people play these games because relationships are hard to keep. And it's probably more of an defense mechanism or playing into the idea of hard to get=hard to leave than it is solely a strategy to attract men, like the article appears it to be. For most people it's easier to front with their feelings, because they don't know how to deal with rejection.
I agree....also some people need to realize it's not always "playing hard to get", some people may not be as interested in you as you think. That might be hard for some people to accept (men). So they label it as playing "hard to get".click to expand
Posted by starloverPosted by BG2
It is much safer to play out a fantasy than cross the line into reality. For instance, I would rather see someone with a blood fetish use fake blood than actually hacking someone up and getting off from that.
As with everything there are different levels, different depths people are willing to go. There are extremes - and one into the BDSM lifestyle isn't necessarily open to everything within it, imo - and I do agree with you starlove that, pertaining to those extremes, one needs to know why they do what they do.
My sag sister, in a relationship with a taurus man, calls him Daddy and he calls her baby girl. But there is nothing about their relationship that would entail anything remotely close to an incestuous kinda deal. He doesn't treat her like a child or his child and she definitely does not think of him as a father. The power exchange is reminiscent of a father/child relationship, yes, but that's as far as it goes.
I would want to know why i had the need to call a man that wasn't my father daddy....it also screams of someone that is resistant to growing up. If i found out my son was calling any gfs he has *mammy*, tbh i would be treetrunking mortified .....
Maybe some people don't want to know?click to expand
Posted by FrostedEllyPosted by SassyKiwi
I find it very amusing how Scorpio women either come off as a warm, loving person or a detached possible cookiemonster on attack mode. Never usually in between.
I guess it's the whole no gray area thing about scorps lol.click to expand
Posted by SensitiveBluesPosted by SassyKiwi
RIP fellow Hades mooner and asc/height twin.
whats a hades moon?click to expand
Posted by blessyouPosted by SassyKiwi
Just in case you guys weren't aware, blessyou is most likely aquaboy84
if if aquaboy was here.. he would call you a snitchclick to expand
Posted by TachibanaSan
for all of your concern.
My parents and siblings
and I were in Kumamoto
visiting our grandparents
when the earthquake hit.
The house shook violently.
Walls crumbled and the roof
fell in; house was destroyed.
Almost everyone managed
to survive, except grandfather.
He was buried under the mess.
We could not find him for hours.
He had to be dug out, and when
he was, he was no longer alive.
We wanted funeral for him there,
but graves were destroyed and
knocked over badly in Kumamoto.
So we cremate him in Kagoshima,
my birthplace, and where parents
still live. Grandma now lives there.
I am still shaken and I worry about
my baby's health, but I am here. -_-