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Posted by Timone
God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭

You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.

Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!

And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..

You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.

PTSD need to work through that because unfortunately you will meet other bullies and u need to know how to stand up for yourself.

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That's unfortunate.. So people who bully still proceed outside of high school into late adulthood too, huh?

And yeah, it'll be easier said than done with my placements and CPTSD abuse trauma but once I move out of my mother's place, I think it'll get easier to heal myself. I have been working on myself, but I definitely now know I need to work on solving conflict head on more and standing up for myself in times of conflict.

I have missing house placements as well like I don't have an 8th house lol rip me

So it's normal, don't worry

Instagram, Facebook and WhatsApp all have a global outage currently with no one able to load anything new. You tell me how wild this Retrograde is currently lool

and also huge lack of communication within my group for our class project in Uni.

Posted by saggurl88
Are you worried that she's gonna tell the teacher that you did nothing?
Why can't you review the work and offer up something to add?
You didn't pull your weight in the project and she's reminding you every chance she gets, so put some work in.

No. I already mentioned here. I confided to my tutor about the situation frankly. I really trust this tutor of mine, she's super understanding, kind, comforting and helpful. She understood what I was going through and did her best to understand both sides because she knows the both of us as opposite type personalities.

My tutor agreed that I could try doing the video call I planned of doing with my Capricorn classmate to discuss our issues with each other, or the tutor offered to be there in the room when we do discuss it instead but I denied doing that because I want to try my way first because I feel guilty in dragging my tutor into the middle of this.

Again, I didn't look at the paper because I thought the capricorn girl had made up her mind when she said she'd do it by herself. When someone seems to have made up their mind, I simply leave them alone unless they communicate to me that they've changed their mind which she did not at all. And she chose to now project her brooding anger towards me through passive aggression in our group meetings.

I didn't mention in my post, but I've mentioned to my group that I was doing research work on ethics and other bits that I realised no one else in our group researched about but that our tutors were looking for to be explained in our final presentation tomorrow. Yet this Capricorn girl is still brooding in her mood about the scriptwriting that was assigned to both of us as a pair. Again, she was fed up and said she'd do it herself. And I can't mind read if she changed her mind later on. I will admit that I now realise I need to speak up for myself and solve our conflict though because maybe that's not what she really wanted despite saying it. I just didn't know.

But I get it now, it's just a pure misunderstanding and lack of communication between us.

Posted by -Capriquarius
Capricorn placments don't like lazy people and people who are trying to get work done by minimal effort. You say, you were working on group projects before. Maybe you did something before that triggered her.
I know few Capricorns, and I know they don't get annoyed by nothing

I thought as much with Capricorns. But on a genuine note, when I am given any task, I actually do the best I can with what I have and am given. And especially when I'm passionate about something and put my mind to it, I'll be one of the hardest working, resilient and determined people you'll see. And I know, me not speaking up is definitely what snowballed this issue, but I didn't even mean to not help her write this paper we're doing. I went off to do separate research for our group that I realised no one had done yet.

If this Capricorn girl had changed her mind about wanting to do it on her own, then I wish she had communicated that to me too. Instead of brooding in her growing anger over me and projecting it in an immature manner. Both sides are at fault.

And the group projects before when I think back to it, I remember I was the leader in the last one we were in together, I was the more bossy one because her and another Capricorn dude were leaving everything last minute. I know how the tables have turned. But maybe it was my stress at them being last minute that I had to become bossy and constantly texted everyday to send the documents and clips over, maybe this is her revenge? I really don't know.

Posted by Timone
God I always hated these group projects in school. I was a bit of a perfectionist and a control freak and always ended up doing most of the work. Still trying to learn from my mistakes and be a better team mate. 🤭

You should have said something and not left. Insist on dividing the tasks and if she's not happy with your work then she can change it whatever she likes but she can't blame you for it later on. That passive aggressiveness on her part is really immature. You should call her out on it instead of getting annoyed in silence.

Looking at your profile photo, are you a Libra? Surely you might get what I mean by the non confrontational side of a Libra, right? (other than me coming from an abusive family background), having Libra and Pisces in my chart, I realised makes me incredibly non confrontational and flighty. And this Capricorn girl has angrily outbursted in our classes many times before, I think that's another reason I'm so scared and intimidated by her is because I'm so scared that I'll tick her off and aggravate her and something bad will happen. Because whenever I've spoken up with my mother (the abusive parent), she'd abuse me. I think that's why I have incredible trouble in speaking up. But I have been working on that!

And I agree, I do realise I have faults in this situation as well now but her passive aggressiveness was unneeded and just super immature. Leave that type of catty behaviour in high school..

You're right though, I do plan on asking her if we can have a video call so at least we'll have the comfort of our homes to discuss our issues as comfortably as possible.

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Posted by Bumboklaat
Non confrontational and flightly. That annoys my cap placements already. It sounds like your making it more work/stressful to work with. Caps do have high standards tho so it just sounds like a bad team up

I agree with this. I was always usually the one to informally initiate leadership and layout the structure of what needed to get done and allocate tasks among others but did not mind someone else stepping up and doing that. If I felt someone was not pulling their weight OPENLY (this is important, you can't just be caring in your head), I would passive aggressively imply certain things just because being direct and telling someone to get their shit together and contribute doesn't work. If she's not allocating tasks, I suggest you directly mention to her in front of the rest of the group how you guys should allocate parts to work on... Or just start working on something someone else hasn't covered and declare you'll be doing that. I don't understand why people wait for others instead of take their own initiative. This is probably a very important learning lesson for you OP.

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I'm guessing you're a Capricorn. May I ask why you guys get passive aggressive then? I don't see how that's helpful or nice compared to being direct, mature and assertive? Passive aggressiveness to me is immature. And you read how my classmate acted. It's immature and petty. I now understand and admit I have some faults in this situation, but so does she. Passive aggressiveness is immature and not needed, especially if you're forced to work with that person.

And when she told me she'd do it by herself, I simply took that as she made up her mind so I'll go do my own thing. I guess I didn't mention but I chose to do my own research to add to our shared group folder. I went to research the ethics, our purpose of our project overall and other bits of research for our piece instead. Which is something some other people in our group are doing, but I realised no one had researched and written up the ethics, purpose etc. so I did it. But this Capricorn girl is still giving me the backhand despite her knowing I did research instead.

I can't read someone's mind if they've changed their mind. If she had changed her mind, I wish she would've communicated that to me too. Our relationship in the prior years has never been smoothly communicative anyway, but yeah this time it's real bad.

Posted by LadyNeptune
I mean… she’s not wrong tho. You did bail on the project and left her to do that portion. Where did she lie? I mean, her delivery is shit. But were you really expecting her to give you credit for the writing portion you bailed on?

I didn't say I expected credit. I'm actually a type of person who when I find something I'm super passionate about, I will put my mind to it and become one of the most determined and hard working people you'll know. But even with any task I'm given, I do the best with what I have and can do. But in this whole situation, it's just been so messy and lost with my whole group who some of us agree we've had lack of communication in general, it's been super hard.

And the Capricorn girl did say "never mind, I'll do it myself". She has a voice that is very deep and boomy and she sounded fed up when she told me that even though I didn't say anything to piss her off other than asking her a question about our thing we were writing about. I get scared that I'll piss her off because she's angrily outbursted in our classes many times before. I'm scared and intimidated of her in general because of that and it's hard to read what she thinks or feels.

To me, when she told me that in her fed up tone, I simply thought she made up her mind. And I didn't want to aggravate her because I wanted to protect myself. Whenever someone sounds like they've made up their mind, I simply go about my own thing and let them do their thing. I can't mind read if someone changes their mind halfway. If you've changed your mind, you should communicate that. And she didn't do that either. So yeah I know, it's clear us two have a lack of communication..

Posted by Gobbie
You'll have to get her natal chart to get a better understanding, as it doesn't come across as typical Cap behaviour.

Withstanding her natal chart, I can only think of two possible reasons:

1) She's a January Cap (December Caps are usually more laidback).

2) The environment itself could bring out a level of competitiveness in those on your course. It's not sign specific and there will always be a few of them on every course.

As for you, I have one piece of advice: whenever you find yourself in these situations again, don't quietly walk away. Try to discuss the matter or speak out whenever necessary. People, in general can be weird, and all it takes is a misunderstanding or a failure to clear the air to worsen the situation.

Thanks for the advice, really appreciate it. I guess this was just a life lesson by The Universe for me to speak up for myself more and solve conflict instead of running away all the time. I realised it's just really hard for me not only because I have Libra and Pisces placements in my main placements, but also because of my trauma responses from heavy abuse by my mother who I still live with. I don't really like defining who I am because of how she raised me but sometimes it is a huge reason that does apply like in this case to explain why I'm so non confrontational. Because my mother raised me so that every time I did try to "talk back" or speak up for myself, she would abuse me in some way. That's why I became scared to do so whenever anyone who exhibited an intimidating or scary or bossy demeanor like her. Just like my Capricorn classmate here. I'm not trying to get pity but I'm just hoping anyone else reading this can understand my side too.

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There's this Capricorn girl in my class who I'm pretty sure doesn't like me. I'm a Virgo Sun with a Pisces Moon and Libra placements as well making me super non confrontational and flighty until enough is enough. And I've had enough of her passive aggressiveness towards me frankly and I plan to ask her to join a video call with me to assertively discuss our problems ​and differences.

Basically this Capricorn girl and I have been in this class project together for the past few weeks with some other people in our group. Both her and I struggle with anxiety too so there's that. But basically one of the days, we were both paired to write something up together and I asked her some questions about how the structure should be and what should we put in this section etc. and she for some reason got pissed, sighed heavily, rolled her eyes and said "never mind, I'll do it myself. You can go if you want." and because I'm awkward and non confrontational at first, I awkwardly left.

And honestly, I hate people who have such little respect for me that they eye roll and toss me aside without explaining what their problems are with me first.

Then for the past few weeks after, each time we're with our group, she's passive aggressively been saying "I'm the one who wrote it", "weeell, I had no one to help write this with me", "I'm left to do all this work aaa", "I get to decide because I'm the one who wrote it" and then gives me lowkey side eye at times and even today when we did a group meeting, she said "that's why I wanted help writing this" and one of the girls in our group said "oh don't worry, that's why we're going through all this now" and the Capricorn girl, I sh*t you not said "don't worry, that wasn't for you" whilst I was sitting behind the Capricorn girl. She knew that I would hear.

I hate that type of bitchy passive aggressive high school behaviour. We're in University for crying out loud. We're both of adult age. Why is she even being like this? You saw what I said. She's the one who said in a very fed up tone "never mind, I'll do it MYSELF". And even prior to this in previous years, I've always been intimidated by her alpha aggressive type of energy because I never knew what she was thinking and assumed she just did not like me because of how she would act towards me a lot of the times yet I know I haven't done anything terrible towards her. And now she's just being passive aggressive about me not helping her out in front of our group. I also hate humiliation (Leo Mars).

I even spoke about this with my tutor today and she thankfully understands me and empathised with my situation. She understands my personality and the Capricorn girl's where I'm more flighty and gentle/reserved and the Capricorn girl is more aggressive and fight mode. We're literally on the opposite ends of the spectrum.

For what I understand, Capricorns like super direct and fiery people who know what they want in every situation and to help guide them. It's why I see so many are best friends with Aries people, because Aries are generally impulsive and direct go getters who like to put on a brave demeanor with every situation they're faced with. Capricorn are like the Scorpios of Earth Signs. Both Capricorns and Scorpios are fiery despite their Water and Earth elements.

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According to my observations based on my aries friends, I can tell you they have a certain type and if you don't fit their standards they won't even acknowledge your existence. And yes, their standards are pretty high, they don't just "chase" anybody. You must be pretty special for them to care.

Interesting, but I don't see what he's basing that on with me. We really haven't gotten to know each other in great detail because I'm not into him so we don't talk often.. at all. And the way we chat is quite awkward to me and he's kinda dry at times. I'm very talkative with the right people. It just doesn't work lol

the only thing I can think of is my appearance and what I post. My Leo Mars and Libra Venus is like a magnet. Maybe Virgo Sun too.
Oh and the fact we live in the same country near the same region. He keeps bringing that up -_-

Maybe he's dry because he sees you're not reciprocating/interested ? In Aries mind if they chase you they expect you to be responsive. You not being interested isn't even an option for them. They want you, they'll have you, as simple as that 😂

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No hah I've sent a good paragraph as one text and he'll still be quite dry in response and that's few months ago. And even then, this phone number question literally happened a few days ago! He's still coming at me! It tells me he's not into me for my personality and intellect if anything so I probably am right about my appearance and general vibe I give off bc of my placements. I have to quit my Virgo and Libra ghosting non confrontational habit for this situation lool

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I was friends with one aries guy, who tried to flirt but I said no. At one point he send me video of him masturbating, hoping it will turn me on and I will sleep with him. I had to block him to stop him from this nonsense

Men are dumb.

Yes. Never experienced such a lack of tack from aries women, even if their bold in love game.

fr, I find Aries women easier to befriend and stay friends with than Aries guys. I'm a Virgo Sun and I know they say Aries and Virgo are one of the most horrible matches, but my placements are very Airy and I have a Leo Mars so I guess it makes it easier for me. I do squabble with my Aries girl friends a bit more than with others, but at a healthy distance, we're pretty cool and funny friends ha

What does Airy placements have to do with Aries?
Plus I've known quite a few Virgo and Aries couples. They seem quite compatible.

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Air + Fire are just famously known as a good pairing for obvious reasons. Famously, Leo + Aquarius. Gemini and Sagittarius. Aries and Aquarius too. Seen them so many times as romantic relationships, friendships and family bonds.

Posted by bmoon8
The ability to lie! If everyone had to be truthful, the world would be a much better place.

even if they said your outfit is ugly everyday to your face or something of this nature? Then again, you're an Aries so maybe you can take it.

Posted by Timone
Just saw a documentary about Gary Ridgway the Green river killer. He was convicted of murdering 49 women and his wife was with him for 16 years without knowing he was a serial killer. That's a really long time to spend with a monster without knowing it. He must have been really good at hiding who he was or she was being oblivious to it. What do you think? I couldn't find her birth of date but it said was was born in August so either Leo or virgo.

I ran his chart and he's born on the cusp between aqua/pisces. All the astro sites list him as an aqua but if he's born later during the day he's a pisces. Does he come across as an aqua or pisces?

Other placements:
Moon scorpio
Venus Aqua
Mercury Aqua
Mars Pisces

I always find serial killers tend to leave their partners, especially wives or husbands alone and hide their dirty inhumane deeds for as long as possible from them. I don't know why. Maybe it's because having a loving relationship with a partner gives them a good cover and alibi to outsiders that they're a good and normal unsuspecting person. Why would a loving husband or wife be guilty of such crimes etc etc.

Answer: To hide their tracks.

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We get away with things most people can't. Think of any Leo who was or is in any way controversial. Like Madonna, or even Tom Brady. We can be slutty af, or even openly cheat and still be a professional. No one will really focus on us Leos. Thanks Obama. Especially when you've got Sagittarius and Aries taking all the blame for the fire signs. Most will die of old age before they ruin a Leo. Even if you do happen to ruin a Leo, you will still spend more then a lifetime convincing said Leo they were truly ruined to begin with. Have fun with that. Which is why we don't tend to get fucked with.

True, y'all are stubborn and refuse to admit fault 95% of the time lol but I'm stubborn too because of my Leo Mars.

I'm not a guy nor am I an Aries, but one of my good friends is a female Aries and we'd both whack each other on the arms when one of us or both of us found something funny.

And we'd savagely tease each other about stuff. And whenever I teased about the guy she liked, she'd get kinda shy and whack my arm and say stop but then she'd be fine to talk about him lool

Aries are just aggressive in their ways, whether that's for playful or serious reasons. And don't most people moan, groan and swear during sex? And "looking angry" could legit be her scrunching her face up and concentrating on getting to her O zone as I like to call it.

Posted by pooface222
I need to ask..

TWO Things.

1) Is it the normal done thing with Pisces men, to want a woman so much, that when he gets the chance to be with her...disappears?!?

Eg he's scared. Because now she's showing interest, he's scared to death and doesn't know what to do?
I've read lots of here about the Classic Pisces disappearing act in relationships.

I'm asking because this behaviour just confuses the hell out of me!
It makes me feel rejected. It makes me feel he never wanted me in the first place.
Therefore I stop bothering with him.

But..

Once I stop bothering with him, that's when he reappears and comes chasing.

Then I hold back. To stop him disappearing again. He feels hurt I'm not showing my feelings for him. Soooo..I show my feelings and POOF he's gone again!

Now..

2) Is it normal for Pisces men to be Stubborn and Selfish in a relationship.?
Eg Only wanting the relationship on Their terms. And of they don't get it their way, they get upset and feel like their potential long-term partner doesn't want them or love them.

Oh my gosh bish bye. Just forget about him. The right person/the one for you won't be this much of a damn emotional, mental and physical hassle for either of you.

But answering your question, yeah the disappearing reappearing magician act is so common probably. I'm only basing this off of one dude though. A lot of Pisces guys get attracted to me for some reason, probably cause of my Leo Mars' confidence and energy.

But they were all physically unattractive to me and some were weird. One was a liar to my family as well and I don't date liars.

Anyway, the one Pisces I'm talking about, I was pretty sure he liked me and he was kind of physically attractive and he was sweet and funny at times and we talked about cool stuff but turns out, he was a complete stalker. From sweetie to nightmare in just 2 months.

I made a reddit post to ask if he actually likes me or not and turns out, he stalks my profile and he confessed on our call that he read my post. And basically asked if I liked him etc.

It was just unexpected for me. I was too shocked to answer and kept avoiding it pretty much then just broke and said "yeah I do, but we can still be friends, I don't mind".

It was just awkward. And I don't remember what else happened but I ended up blocking him on one app. But since we followed each other on other apps, he ended up contacting me on one of them. And he was asking why I blocked him and as a Virgo Sun and Libra Mercury and Venus, I just tend to be non confrontational and get scared by it and run away from it if I can (i'm working on not doing that more). Anyway, I didn't answer and just blocked him again. I was getting creeped out and violated.

He went onto the other app and did it again. And it quickly turned into harassment. He started harassing my close online girl friend who's a Pisces girl too about where I am and why I blocked him. And he was harassing her everyday and showing how obsessive he became over me. And I told her to block him and not reply anything. I was scared for her safety too, it made me hate him. I felt incredibly sorry that my friend got dragged into this even.

And this Pisces dude never verbally confessed his interest to me after I admitted my mediocre interest. His reaction seemed like he didn't like me and I was wrong about my suspicions. But considering how obsessive he went in with his harassing and stalking online of me and my friend, I'd say he was definitely interested.

Moral of the story, be careful with this Pisces dude and cut him off if you want to. I don't think this dude is meant for you.

Posted by PhoenixRising
I totally read the title of this thread wrong....


#BlameScorpBits

Lolol I was second guessing my title cause of the innuendo as well, but I thought most would get what I mean haha

Posted by MyStarsShine
Men chancing their arm
Shooting their shot 🥴
Subtle as an air raid

Don’t they teach them anything at school?
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"subtle as an air raid" haha good one