My daughter says I'm like Benjamin Bratt... i thank my asian mother but also the fact that I am happier than I have ever been My step children think I am 15 years younger than I am. I am very fortunate but also not afraid of ageing either.

You see VH...I believe it is the mind that drives and strengthens us! It's my mind that wants what it wants for the future and my foolish heart that knows that it should be content with all the good that he has to offer. My mind tells me that I might one day look elsewhere if my needs aren't met...something that goes against my heart...

I'm going to take a look at your prior post...quickly looked into Virgo but didn't see it there?

The boundaries you have crossed through your insanity far out way his silence!

Let's just say there are two sides to every story and you have proven to be just as dishonest!

@ VH...you be thinking with your little head...not your heart...plain trickery

The heart is weak...if you give into it then you already knew you were going to do it then weren't you? This happens all the time and mostly all it is is sexual and people try to make out its more than that and there is a connection that is undeniable...Until he gets what he wants and then oh shit, we can't hurt her. We have to keep it a secret blah blah blah.

This is classic of why soooo many people are cheaters!

If OP is dead serious on what she is saying and wants to stop the way he/she is making her feel then the only way to do it is to cut them off completely!

keep away from that person, if they happen to be in the group that you hang with then exit it! You put yourself in the position of being vulnerable and also 9 times out of 10 that person knows and also shares the feelings and knows that they can't but will test you anyway. Your bff's bf perhaps? Happens all the time but you can stop it by staying COMPLETELY away from them no matter want it takes!

If not,

What is the definition of "closure"?





Yeah it's the truth. As for the definition of closure, it's bringing to a conclusion or resolution. But that can swing one way or the other. The truth is relationships end and can't be fixed because men and women can't move past their personal crap. They go through life claiming to want love yada yada but then constantly do stuff that dooms the good thing they had. The biggest being not accepting fault for your own actions and changing to make the relationship work. The second being sticking to "your guns" and not compromising with the other person to make it work. It's the time old problem. Then they come on here seeking "answers" to a problem they already know. While you can try to rekindle the relationship, ultimately if you, or both of you aren't mature enough to change and grow then it's pointless. If the other person isn't willing but you are, I suggest you not waste your time waiting for them. If it meant to be, it will happen. If not, find someone who can truly accept you for who you are...faults and all. Until then, use your time to eliminate what you know is wrong with you.





+1 BS, I see you have learnt Grasshopper

Sorry BS, it's the truth!

People come here complaining that they weren't dealt with fairly and they want to understand why the other partner left such an awesome relationship blah blah blah when in reality they want to know how to fix it because they weren't the ones that chose to give up on it. It's not closure they want, that won't help them to move on. That's the excuse to try and revive or bend down to accommodate the other person. Done it myself, mostly it doesn't work and even if it does it's only temporary...

If not,

What is the definition of "closure"?

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson
What is the point of a failed relationship if you don't get any feedback on what you did wrong?

How does one improve and learn and do better next time if you don't know how you fcucked it up this time?

Don't assume you've done something wrong...you just don't fit that other person for whatever reason. It could be something totally stupid like leaving the toilet seat up and they just can't deal with it or lots of stupid little things that grate them...or they could very easily just not want you forever...

I'd like closure if someone has left, however, that isn't in my control so I've learnt to carry on regardless...

TBH if I didn't choose to end the relationship then even getting closure from them wouldn't help. Chances are I'd want to discuss the points and try to overcome them or work on them.

You just have to except that one of you isn't into it...that's life!

Gotcha, just here for sympathy...

All that was said came from you...you said it because you thought it and I'm sure it wasn't just now that you are jaded. Do you honestly think he didn't feel it?? You yourself also said he felt he wasn't good enough! Don't try and pass blame that I am being judgemental, I don't know you I've just read what you say and purely pointing out some of the error of YOUR ways...or do you think you did absolutely nothing wrong in this relationship???

There are always two sides to a story, keep your mind open Leo.

winks @ BS

kudos jru2 for being able to see the err of your ways and for apologising to her (I'm sure that meant something) and especially for letting us see it. Most of us know that karma gets everyone... unfortunately we very rarely get to see it or witness it!

he's a geeky redhead that has a hard time getting play...just saying

he has no fixed opinions of his own so i never did know what i'd get from him.

MOON IN >>>>>>>>>>>>>>PISCES (crazy city)
pretty much everything else is in virgo..which is why he picks picks picks at everything.


You obviously didn't think very highly of him and we aren't stupid...maybe he felt beneath you for a reason! Libra's want equals not someone that feels they are better. JS

And YES writing him a letter is a bad idea, it will fall on deaf ears but if you want to just let him know how you feel go ahead. Definitely delete him off FB, for your own sanity!

No, he has apologised and that is that, if he wanted you back he would have asked you out or invited you out with him. He didn't, just apologised for the away he treated you.

Move on, SD, don't lower yourself for someone only half interested!