it'll mend in time...

not everyone we meet is the right one. Sadly, Libra jumps in making it all seem so surreal and then runs out of steam... and many are left to pick up the pieces..

Libra is like a swinging pendant when making up their minds on something. Yes we fall in love very fast and too easily or at least we think we do until we start to question what we are doing and that's when you will get the effect of our scales going up and down or the pendant swinging frantically..the fights we pick and the moods. That is us making an internal decision out loud, creating a noise so we can weigh up whether we are suppose to be there or not...

I think he decided that he wasn't in it with you or for you and as he said there is no need for closure, he's with his family and friends and he is looking after himself. Cutting you off is the way he is dealing with it all, unfortunately for you, because I know you are left after this whirlwind feeling empty!

JT's looking for you Elle...you haven't been paying him much attention go late...

What's the problem? Sometimes I can log on and sometimes not. My computer this morning can't find the server but my phone can, and if I have something to say it's either really slow or times out. Is it going to be fixed? Starting to lose interest in even attempting to be here lately. Maybe you should just send everyone an email when you have it under raps Duncan!

Yes I certainly have had a taste of what you Sag's are all about when in love. mine was told "point blank" it's over and there is no going back! Then when I moved countries and he decided to follow I made him say out loud to me that it was for the children only that he was moving too and he did. Regardless, of all this it still took 6 years for him to move on after I finally filed for divorce. I was even told just the other day as my ex sis in law was discussing his upcoming nuptials that he had asked her if I was indeed happy for him. To be told, she is happy for you and now happy she can move on herself.

So I do know how you fool yourself into believing there maybe something in the future if you hang on in there and be the perfect person for them because you believe there is no other....however, in a Libra's mind...if it is made up and our scales have tipped, the decision is final! As I have said before, we don't like to lose you completely, we want to still look favourable in your eyes and maybe from time to time still know you care. i have but one ex through the years that I wouldn't give the time of day to. The rest would openly sit and have a wine or meal or enjoy my company because I made sure that we parted on good terms. It's just the way we are!

Wow, in just a year the sex has gone very recently, from several times a night to once a day/night to every 2nd day to idk. I'm not counting just consider myself lucky when it's on! Maybe every 3rd day!

The act hasn't lessoned when we are on, but I guess I've been lazy and not initiated and let him do the walking...Problem is I find myself feeling self conscious and uncertain as to whether what I am doing is pleasing. (the silent male in bed) I have no problems with any positions or acts but he isn't a visual person and so parading around in sexy underwear doesn't do much for him. He loves my ass and that turns him on more than anything so flaunting that before bed is a must. Guess I should look at something checky to wear to bed...

But what else people, a few suggestions pls...probably wont go into detail on how it all pans out afterwards but just a few pointers would be great!

Can't believe it has gotten to this already...also, maybe there are some underlying factors as to why. Guys, if you could shed a little light on why you may or may not go off sex...we woman do for varying reasons. He constantly touches me and kisses and caresses when he gets home from work, and not just pecks on the cheeks, still full on passionate kissing. Always wanting to cuddle on the couch or hold hands etc so I don't fear that he is over me already. Just no desire to do anything but cuddle in bed!

She's still around, probably just a little frustrated with DXP of late as I was with not being able to log on or comment on anything. They seem to have fixed the problems

Stop flirting JT, I know with you in the dreams there would be happy endings... but I'm afraid Elle will kick my butt

BS, stop it! How many ways do you need to be told? She has told you definitely no, she doesn't see you like that anymore, she is not interested and you are infatuated. And then on the other hand dangles a little carrot for you to chew on so she still gets your attention and you fall for it! You need to drop her completely and get on with your life and stop excepting the nothings she is offering you!!

Spend more time on you and recognising the beautiful qualities that you have to offer, seriously, you sell yourself very short...It's like you speak one way and act another. Think you will learn a lot in the next few years with your schooling. Congrats with that.

SH

This week you have been on my mind..I guess as you birthday approaches my subconscious mind clicks in and I've dreamt of you once again. Strange dreams but always the same outcome where you leave me or I can't reach or get through to you...sad dreams that have haunted me as far back as I can remember. I wish they would end...I wish there was a happy ending for once even if only in my dreams but I will always love and remember you and all that you taught me and all that you were and we shared in such a short time. Glad we had that second chance even though it says so short , it meant the world to me. Forever yours sweetheart xx

EEE you should have copied that post before she hid it...this would have been fun dxp has been tragic lately!!!!

In true Libra fashion, we've told you we are only friends but we want the attention still...it's called having our cake and eating it. You decide where you go from there but he'll still expect as much attention as before with no strings!!

One of them has a problem that's for sure...just wish they hadn't made it mine!

She's seen my cabinet as she came into the house ( I invited her) it holds 20 bottles and top shelf liquor in the cupboard...it's always full or at least half because it looks good that way. Haha, maybe I have a problem too

I'm the worst liar in the world but I'll be ready to make up a whole lot next time I get a knock at the door!

She's involved me by putting me in the position where I have to lie to one or the other, something I'm not comfortable with. This is the reason why I don't openly friend my neighbors. I like my piece of paradise.
Where I can be totally comfortable.

No I don't pick up any religion, and they don't attend church on Sundays. When he mentions alcohol, in the way he puts it just makes it sound evil or wrong. This is my assumption from the talks we have had. When he does talk to me as I said it is very hard to understand a lot of what he is saying and he talks about a lot of things over a short time. He bought or gave me wine on 2 occasions so I don't think he is completely anti. But they aren't allowed alcohol in their house is what she told me yesterday....I'm leaning more to the fact that she may have had a problem with it, this only makes me feel worst!

I hate being put on the spot. I feel embarrassed for her and now feel I have to hide from her so she doesn??t come again and ask for more!

I??m thinking next time Rudy talks to me I might ask him why he doesn??t drink. His son was a drinker and he always talks like it??s evil...maybe there is more to his story. I thought he was just old school because he is a bit of a chauvinist and comments about me doing all the physical work around my home and how it??s not bad seeing as I??m a woman....I wonder if he is just a control freak or she really does have a problem!

But aside from all that, I??m sure there will be a knock on the door in future and i will have to say to her. I can??t give you anymore alcohol and once again feel embarrassed to be in this situation.

Guess I will only have to bite the bullet and say No once!