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Posted by celticlionessPosted by sweethearts
Yes his ego took a huge blow...she was having an affair and it has bought to light that she had been as suspected for some time. They were trying for another child before they split so it's understandable that even after over a year when she gets pregnant it will rock you. I understand that and that isn't what bothers me.
I am just not sure how to support him.
I wish I knew the answer to this question as the Libra i'm seeing is going through the same thing - 1 year separated and still being affected by something his ex just did, she also had an affair towards the end of their marriage and in fact found out she was pregnant 3 weeks after he moved out - she didn't have the baby. We're only at the beginning of a relationship though so I have to weigh up his reaction carefully and how I deal with it or handle it - do I stay around or not, is this the way he will react to crises in the future, I need to protect myself but we get on so well and I like him a lot - he also seems to be easily manipulated by her, he recognises that but allows it to keep the peace. I'm on the verge of calling him and demanding an answer. I keep thinking of my Libra cousin who is separated 6 years and is still not over the fact that her relationship broke down, not the man himself, but the relationship, we've talked about it a lot, she is very over him but keeps saying its the unfairness of it, marriage should be for life and she can't come to terms that, bad and all as it was, it should be over - so is this a Libra trait, to mourn for a long long time over the break down of a relationship rather than the person who they were in the relationship with.click to expand
Posted by NeferPosted by ALibra
My Libra was dumped practically at the altar by a woman after nearly 7 years together. Within a month, she'd moved in with her "just a friend" coworker whom she'd repeatedly denied rumors that she was sleeping with.. it totally wrecked Libra.. mentally, emotionally, financially, physically.. he lost his house, went bankrupt, moved back in with his (recently widowed at the time) mother... he crawled into a bottle and nearly failed to come back out. He almost died (literally) in a bad drunken wreck. He somehow found the strength to pull himself up from the pit he was wallowing in, got his life back on track, dated others, thought he "dealt with" everything surrounding that situation. Time marches on.. a couple years or so pass...
A little over a year into his relationship with ME.. we get the news (grapevine, cuz THEY don't speak at all) that she and the guy got married. I asked Libra how he was taking the news, he said flippantly, "Fine. Doesn't matter, she's in the past. I only ever wanted her to be happy. Good for them, I wish them the best."... and then he promptly turned into a surly, snippy, distant asshole. For a couple, three weeks it was like I was living with some other guy -- a guy who didn't really want to be there, and was setting my teeth on edge and driving me fruit loops. I gently pointed out
Ironically this is almost spot on!! I keep my opinions to myself about her because they are so strong and I feel he walked away without a fight and I believe it was because she basically crushed him. He feels karma will pay back but to watch from afar with her life going so wonderfully pisses ME off so it must be crushing him!!
There's a world of insight there Nef in just your experience and I shall continue on without creating any further drama, because my first natural instinct is to feel hurt and want to shake him as he is focusing on something that he has lost that was a waste of his energy as apposed to what we have which does not even compare. They lived a turmoil life, she cheated a lot and was demanding and bossy and greedy...why would he still want that? We have a very easy time together, and he has said that he can't believe how comfortable he is with/around me as he can be the person that he is. And Enjoy doing why he likes, simple things like watchiclick to expand