I'll speak from the heart... because right now I don't want to deal with the head issues (personal)
She wants you yes BUT you need to take the lead and be dominant. That's what she wants, someone to take charge, she's probably tired of always being the boss, so to speak..plus you being younger may have a factor in it too..
So I suggest you walk up to her and tell her you are going to take her out to dinner or meet up for a drink at a particular time and to be ready for you!
Dont wait for an answer....just walk away and leave her to think about it!
I come from a family of 4 and my ex from 5. We all have children and from my observations...(my kids have put me through most everything)
I've noticed only 2 out of the 9 families have children that are all obedient and respectful right from 0-22yrs
The common denominator in these families is both parents are firm with decisions and never sway. Their No's mean No. And If one says no to something the children have learnt not to dare ask the other the same question. (children use the divide and conquer tactic to get what they want) Plus the parents took the time to talk to their children not at them!
I think you need to ask yourself a bunch of questions....
Now you said you have changed, Great.
Yet you believe that she maybe lying to you. Has she ever lied before? Is this something that she normally does? Why do you think she is lying now? going out with this guy while you weren't together there was NOTHING WRONG with it. SHE WASN'T YOUR GIRLFRIEND SO SHE WASNT CHEATING ON YOU!
Therefore you have no right to think she has cheated or lied.
Your question is would she hurt you again or cheat on you...
Answer: she NEVER cheated on you in the beginning, at all!!
And yes she will hurt you again if you HAVEN'T CHANGED and you insist on hitting her up about something she did while you were NOT together (going out with someone else)
If you two get back together, you need to trust her and make sure that you wont turn back into the person she left in the first place!
There are other Leeb ladies here, I'm sure they will say the same things but hopefully some will come to the party and help you understand too.