I look at it like this, if I was dying I would want my partner to move on after a mourning period of around 2 years...therefore I think should it be the other way around I would probably live by that. However in reality I know it would take longer for me to in fact put it to practice.
Hey, she's human and like most girls the "bad boy" is always attractive...for some reason there's a I can change him factor in it. Most girls fall into this, like the girl that falls for her gay friend thinking that she can change him, he just hasn't tried the right girl yet...
It's appealing, it's dangerous and forbidden so therefore it's exciting...
Look around the threads, the guys getting the most girls swooning after them are the ones that talk to you like crap or present the "bad boy" image...
Elle's comment is based on how an employer would look at it... Your offense to her comment and own summary shows how much you have thought about reconnecting with this man. You really have to look at the whole picture not just your old skool crush but now your future with your job and also his track record. Would it be worth the road you travel? Don't kid yourself that you only want to help him, it's clear it runs deeper than that. Be honest with yourself it won't be plain sailing!
An 86-year-old very wealthy man went to his doctor for his quarterly check-up...
The doctor asked him how he was feeling, and the 86-year-old said ,'Things are great and I've never felt better.' I now have a 20 yr-old bride who is pregnant with my child.
'So what do you think about that Doc ?'
The doctor considered his question for a minute and then began to tell a story. 'I have an older friend, much like you, who is an avid hunter and never misses a season.'
One day he was setting off to go hunting.
In a bit of a hurry, he accidentally picked up his walking cane instead of his gun.'
'As he neared a lake, he came across a very large male beaver sitting at the water's edge.
He realized he'd left his gun at home and so he couldn't shoot the magnificent creature. Out of habit he raised his cane, aimed it at the animal as if it were his favorite hunting rifle, and went 'bang, bang'..'
'Miraculously, two shots rang out and the beaver fell over dead..
Now, what do you think of that ?' asked the doctor.
The 86-year-old said, 'Logic would strongly suggest that somebody else pumped a couple of rounds into that beaver.'
So true Nefer, have had that recently where I asked for timeout and the person wanted answers...I was taking timeout to sort things out in my mind but they wanted answers to something completely different adding on top of what I was going through. This just stressed me to the max and I ended up snapping closed!!