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All the functional relationships are too busy having sex.

Pls tiziani. This is a very big misconception. Sex is no where near the main determinant of a functional, healthy relationship. In fact, it’s the sex that gets these people to post about their toxic relationships as if that’s the only thing they stay for in the relationships !

No! He is right!
After my marriage I can spot couple who have sex and who don’t.
And if you will underestimate importance if sex in your rship - it’s doomed!

going to reference dr phil here so a tonne of salt is needed here but he spouts that when a relationship is good, sex plays a 10% role. when it is not, sex becomes 90% of the issue.

here it is

MYTH #7: A GREAT RELATIONSHIP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SEX
The belief that sex is not important is a dangerous and intimacy-eroding myth. Sex provides an important time-out from the pressures of our daily lives and allows us to experience a quality level of closeness, vulnerability and sharing with our partners.
Sex might not be everything but it registers higher (90 percent) on the "importance scale" if it's a source of frustration in your relationship. If your sex life is unfulfilled, it becomes a gigantic issue. On the other hand, couples that have satisfying sex lives rate sex at only 10 percent on the "importance scale."
Don't restrict your thinking by considering sex to be something that only consists of the actual physical act. Touching, caressing, holding hands and any means by which you provide physical comfort to your partner can all be viewed as part of a fulfilling sex life.

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You just referenced what I was unable to express. Thank you jeane.

Posted by virgoOPPP
i'm scared of cancer and taurus men

What about them specifically scares you?

Posted by ElvisStalinWoods
Agree with Taurus. As much as I like some of them, they're absolute horrors in relationships by my experience. The worst case was a Taurus in the forces that my bestie met on the rebound. This guy was so controlling that he nearly raged out when a friend and I were playing ping pong "the wrong way", despite the fact that we were on a binge weekend doing whatever we wanted and only invited him as courtesy of having been alongside our friend.

I had to warn her that I was very likely to kill him in the near future, if she started going off the radar due to his wishes.

Also noticed that a lot of the domestic abuse cases I've had to review at work had Taurus men as the perpetrator.

Were there any other signs that stood out? And what about when it came to any female abusers?

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I don’t think any of those signs are toxic. People perusing them don’t understand them hence the many threads.

Not everyone is designed to crack enigma codes

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Y’all ain’t enigmas, y’all just too extra

Posted by Isolde
I don’t think any of those signs are toxic. People pursuing them don’t understand them hence the many threads.

Something must definitely be wrong with them if they’re not able to be understood in a big number. Did the “Cancer man left me” thread get deleted?!

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The relationship I have with myself is pretty healthy.

I’m sure it is sweetie

Why the condescending attitude?

It’s only condescending if you choose to take it that way

Either that or it’s just people in your dxp ‘inner circle’ only allowed to respond to you in a joking or sarcastic humorous tone without your panties getting in a bunch

The point of my comment is that before you can have a healthy relationship with anyone else, regardless of sign.. you must first have a healthy relationship with yourself. This is something most dxp users don't have.

I appreciate you elaborating your initial post. I agree with that. As much as there’s so much dislike for Geminis, I was surprised to find a lot of users on here married to male ones moreso than other signs. That’s why I’m curious for anyone to share any positive experiences with the signs above who are not the signs & a male themselves ya feel?

But the assumption in the thread is that the toxicity is due to the men/signs mentioned. Is that the correct assumption?

Relationships are a two way street.

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Yeah cause the stories being told are one sided from the women. I’d also love to come across the top signs that men complain about too if they often did it as women.

Posted by Aqua-Marine
I have found good men under all those signs more so than the rest. So this is a little marginalized.

Had any personal relationships with any? I’m looking for long-term relationship stories.

Posted by Aqua-Marine
What are your placements op?

What do you think they are? I like the psychology behind the kind of vibes and perceptions people give off to others hence I don’t really openly disclose my placements much.

Posted by Antiphates
A good friend of me is a Cancer male.
Very tough love but one of the most loyal and helpful people I know.
Also one of the few people who saw and understood my mushy core from the get go, which is still quite rare.
Mostly happy in his married.

Best friend is a Scorpio male and is the first person that gave me the feeling of being valued as a human being and not just a tool.
Very soft and kind with occasional complete lack of empathy. Has always been in working longterm relationships so far.

I’ll bet all signs out there can be an amazing friend and person to someone and their partnerships/marriages can seem so happy...from the outside :p

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Posted by tiziani
All the functional relationships are too busy having sex.

Pls tiziani. This is a very big misconception. Sex is no where near the main determinant of a functional, healthy relationship. In fact, it’s the sex that gets these people to post about their toxic relationships as if that’s the only thing they stay for in the relationships !

the only relationship formula that’s ever held up over time is that couples who have sex more than they argue stay together.

Sure that sounds like an ideal place to be. Maybe it’s just me but I don’t hold sex up on such a high pedestal. There’s so much else in life and a companionship to explore alongside sex.

I don’t hold sex on a pedestal either. just pointing out why internet forums posting about working relationships is less common.

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Honestly that’s why I assume if a sign barely gets much threads about them it’s probably because they’re out in the real world having healthier relationships than the other signs and that for me are like Libras and Virgos for instance. I rarely find anyone posting much on them. The Virgo male seems like such a mystery figure to me cause no one literally talks about their experiences with them.

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Posted by tiziani
All the functional relationships are too busy having sex.

Pls tiziani. This is a very big misconception. Sex is no where near the main determinant of a functional, healthy relationship. In fact, it’s the sex that gets these people to post about their toxic relationships as if that’s the only thing they stay for in the relationships !

the only relationship formula that’s ever held up over time is that couples who have sex more than they argue stay together.

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Sure that sounds like an ideal place to be. Maybe it’s just me but I don’t hold sex up on such a high pedestal. There’s so much else in life and a companionship to explore alongside sex.

Posted by tiziani
All the functional relationships are too busy having sex.

Pls tiziani. This is a very big misconception. Sex is no where near the main determinant of a functional, healthy relationship. In fact, it’s the sex that gets these people to post about their toxic relationships as if that’s the only thing they stay for in the relationships !

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Posted by _Dazed
The relationship I have with myself is pretty healthy.

I’m sure it is sweetie

Why the condescending attitude?

It’s only condescending if you choose to take it that way

Either that or it’s just people in your dxp ‘inner circle’ only allowed to respond to you in a joking or sarcastic humorous tone without your panties getting in a bunch

The point of my comment is that before you can have a healthy relationship with anyone else, regardless of sign.. you must first have a healthy relationship with yourself. This is something most dxp users don't have.

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I appreciate you elaborating your initial post. I agree with that. As much as there’s so much dislike for Geminis, I was surprised to find a lot of users on here married to male ones moreso than other signs. That’s why I’m curious for anyone to share any positive experiences with the signs above who are not the signs & a male themselves ya feel?

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Posted by _Dazed
The relationship I have with myself is pretty healthy.

I’m sure it is sweetie

Why the condescending attitude?

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It’s only condescending if you choose to take it that way

Either that or it’s just people in your dxp ‘inner circle’ only allowed to respond to you in a joking or sarcastic humorous tone without your panties getting in a bunch

Posted by _Dazed
The relationship I have with myself is pretty healthy.

I’m sure it is sweetie

Most occurrence of these sign men based on the toxic relationship threads on here. Anyone like to share any POSITIVE, HEALTHY relationship experiences with the sign of these men?

More dets from her other thread...

Posted by pooface222
Hi Ladies..

I'm just wondering how far you would go to make a guy yours.?

I met a guy a long time ago who wanted to leave his partner for me. And I wanted to leave mine for him.
It never happened.

I've discussed this before a while back but from a very different perspective to this.

Now this guy sat around in his relationship with his partner, waiting for Me to leave my husband first.
Its a long story but I'll keep it short.

He was divorced, had a lump sum, etc but was in a rship with a woman for years and now wanted to leave her for me.
However this would require me getting divorced, selling my house and all that hassle and stress, plus getting a 2nd job to pay my own mortgage etc.

This guy was already living in his partners house. She was divorced and had her own place and when they met, he moved in.

Anyway..he wanted me to get a place of my own, so that he could then move in with me.
He didn't say this literally, but the mild implications he made, told me.
Any suggestions I made for him leaving his partner first, was met with excuses galore.
He just wanted to carry on seeing me (cheating), while I leave first.

My suggestion was that he stops cheating, gets a flat, either rented or bought, so that he - and I - are no longer cheating.

He waited for me to leave.
I waited for him to leave.
Neither one of us left.
So..nothing happened.

He got insecure because he felt I didht love him.

Uh wtf is this. He is just looking for the next cookiemonster to be his sugar mama that takes him in which is why he wasn’t taking any initiative to move out first. Guess the last lady finally came to her senses and kicked him out therefore now he’s moved in with his son.

He’s a complete dead beat with nothing but empty words and you want to go all out for him?!

You must really want to end up living in misery.

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1. Libra men - bias bc hubs
2. Pisces men
Wish I could put all these rest as 12s:
3. Sagittarius men
4. Aquarius men
5. Virgo men
6. Leo men
7. Scorpio men
8. Taurus men
9. Aries men
10. Gemini men
11. Cancer men
12. Capricorn men - bc of people like you smol

come on

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Control your people godz

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Welcome back gemitati

Thanks. I couldn’t live without you any longer...😭

Your struggles are over

Why? Are you married? Or at least engaged? You know that’s all I am looking for...

Still heterosexual here so you'll have to find some other female.

But dear...while you e tried to be funny - I’ve got all of my answers. You aren’t even engaged so marriage question is dismissed. I am however curious if that freedom lover your insufficient money making bf had been replaced yet...

Do you require the men you associate with to be decent or high income earners?

I am that type of an idiot - if I like the man - I’ll pay...that’s the best I can describe how much I don’t care about financial of the man.
There is more to it but I am trying answer shortly.

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Oh I want to know the long answer. That’s actually very interesting to me from women your age. How do you determine they don’t end up financially using you?

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1. Libra men - bias bc hubs
2. Pisces men
Wish I could put all these rest as 12s:
3. Sagittarius men
4. Aquarius men
5. Virgo men
6. Leo men
7. Scorpio men
8. Taurus men
9. Aries men
10. Gemini men
11. Cancer men
12. Capricorn men - bc of people like you smol

Don’t you loooove these stupid pointless games?

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Ya that’s why they receive petty response