He's a LIBRAN!!!! We keep you around because we don't want to feel guilty for anything we have done or said or for you to hate us or we aren't completely certain that we want to let you go....because you might have some use...somewhere!!!
But we sure as hell don't want anything permanent right now or you would know without a DOUBT!
But cut me off completely and I will figure it out...I will make a decision one way or the other... and if you aren't firm then I will keep you hanging around... just because!
1. except him for what he now wants from you and that is to be a sex partner that may or may not be anything more
2. Move on, drop the contact and reconnect with yourself because he's not really wanting a permanent position in your life
Yes it's so much easier said than done but you are both talking about wanting or not wanting different things from each other and at the end of the day it doesn't matter how he is acting/being around you his mind is NOT changing and neither is yours...
So either lower your standards at a PUNT or carry on and don't look back, your call...THAT'S THE BLACK AND WHITE OF IT ALL!
You're argument and analysing here is just you HOPING for him to CHANGE....
He responded back saying that he does not want me to hate him and that "it's not like that" and he does not only want me for sex he is just not ready for any commitment right now and but that he does not want me out of his life. He says that we just moved so fast in the beginning and he was so into me that he never stopped to think if he was ready for a relationship with ANYONE yet.
He does not ONLY want me for sex???
Re-read your OP in this thread....so what has changed in the last 2 months??? Nothing...except maybe you are a little more desperate for him to change and he keeps telling you that he is NOT going to for you!
I still think you need to find yourself before moving on into another relationship, you've only been separate from your marriage how many months/weeks/days? Break it down like that and you really do owe yourself some genuine "ME" time. You don't really know who you are and are already trying to latch on to another, that's another dependancy. I know you don't need it financially but you are looking for emotional dependancy.
GO out find you and become totally Independent, then you might look more appealing as a stable partner.
You Scored as Taurus LIKES Stability Being Attracted Things Natural Time to Ponder Comfort and Pleasure DISLIKES Disruption Being pushed too hard Synthetic or "man made" things Being rushed Being indoors
No but I have the real life pic of you that you put up around Xmas....haha...for some reason, in my drunken state I saved it to my iphone and now when Im showing pics to people they always ask "who's that?" I say oh she' a friend...without further explanation!! lol
It's really something that me and my friends and family never discuss or fuss over ever! If I have to BOOK an appointment to see someone of feel this is what they expect then I'm NOT going to be comfortable enough to go shit in their toilet should the situation arise, so why would I even want to be around them! Maybe it's in the way I was bought up, even at dinner time and someone is there another place is set, you arent asked to leave! But I do know people that arent comfortable with that...I much prefer the way I live.
Now acquaintances ie: work collegues or people you have just met are different but you failed to state that this might be what you were saying.
I show up unannounced all the time to my friends and relatives and there's never been a problem and vice versa....if there was we wouldn't be so close...Maybe that's it be cause we are close we don't have to make appointments to meet with each other!
I'd rather have an unannounced visit with my house in a mess than noone show up at all and be sitting lonely when I can enjoy others company...life's too short!