Case in point. Last night. She initiated sex after changing her mind about sex Sunday... we went at it for about 30min. Not really foreplay, just a little s&m type spanking and choking... no mouth hugs 🙄🙄🙄

I let her finish first. As soon as she finishes she gets an attitude. I’m like what’s wrong. She’s like I hate finishing before you because I feel objectified after I orgasm.

She said she’s like that with women too, so it’s not me. After a few minutes of her showering and complaining about being objectified she comes back to bed and lays on me and falls asleep.

Weirdo....

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

Let’s be real tho, her inconsistency is part of the reason you’ve stuck around. If you could predict her every move you’d have gotten bored and moved on long before this.

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I agree. But it’s also the reason I’m hesitant on being anything more... that and the rare occasion mouth hugs.

Check. She says she normally doesn’t enjoy it, but she likes doing it to me.


Sounds like I need to find one that really enjoys it.

Is there a secret to finding someone that really likes to do it?

Booty sex is like something that I just accidentally find out. Mouth parties I just figured was a norm

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No we don’t sit on top of each other. We don’t really cross path much during week. I’m working two jobs. She’s working a job and going to school full time. She’s home and I’m not home during week. I’m off on weekends she’s working. Since August we don’t really spend as much time together. We make time to hit gym together when possible.

Okay, but if you both are available you spend the time together and it is only disrupted by other activities?
The point is: does she space and time to relax on her own in order to figure out what the fuck she is doing?

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Hell no she doesn’t. She complains about being bored and tries to find friends to hang out with. She’s not comfortable being alone.

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Ehhh. Toss up.

It started off rough... last few months have been good job wise. I say June was my switch.

Maybe it’s around your birthday. I’m december 14th I know you are near Christmas roo .... hopefully it turns soon for you, it sounds like it is.

Yeah I’m Dec 19th. Oh it’s been horrible relationship wise.. started to get better about June and then not. But the job is an awesome opportunity for me. Finally may be able to get my CPA license which could make a huge difference career wise I start that job mid October. And relationship wise I’m just over it for right now lol. Time to concentrate on me!!

I thought you were moving to L.A.?

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Yea I had some setbacks starting last October. I Buried it in boning chicks until aqua came along. She provided a distraction. Things just started coming around end of may/June

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The usual disclaimer when it comes to the topic:
This whole alpha beta whatever shit is complete nonsense in my opinion and fails to grasp all the different shades and nuances if us humans.
That being said it's probably:
Mars conjunct sun
Mars conjunct moon

The first would be more natural in it's depiction of this stereotype while the latter usually sits there and is completly suprised by being seen as "alpha", strong or confident.

i agree with mars conj sun but mars conj moon? how come?

a person driven by their emotion? alpha?

All our will and drive is nothing but focused emotions. The only problem for moon/Mars is that this combination in it's uncontrolled form is, by it's nature, reactive due to being mostly protective. The lesson here is to learn to be active out of your independent motivation and not as a reaction to something that happened to you or other people.
Once that is the case however it might be even more powerful not despite but because of this emotional nature.
It's the same reason why Leo isn't really a fighter placement due to it's "selfish" aspect. Mars/sun falls into the same realm in my opinion.
Granted, moon/Mars can be equally tricked but there is always a high chance that this placement throws caution and self-preservation to the wind and just goes for it with everything that person has. For good and bad.

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Lol my mars conjuncts my moon... and it’s aries and Libra... I know I’m an alpha though. It really comes out when defending others not for the sake of measuring my penis size. I usually try to keep peace most of the time until I’m crossed.

No we don’t sit on top of each other. We don’t really cross path much during week. I’m working two jobs. She’s working a job and going to school full time. She’s home and I’m not home during week. I’m off on weekends she’s working. Since August we don’t really spend as much time together. We make time to hit gym together when possible.

Ehhh. Toss up.

It started off rough... last few months have been good job wise. I say June was my switch.

Maybe it’s around your birthday. I’m december 14th I know you are near Christmas roo .... hopefully it turns soon for you, it sounds like it is.

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She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

I might be wrong but isn't that the Aqua lady that most likely had some rape or sexual abuse experience?

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Yea. She said it doesn’t effect her with me because she loves me and wants to please me, especially now.

I think it does affect her because she’s gotten less active over the time and sex is too personal.

She told me last night she’s probably be more involved if we didn’t live together. Right now due to living together we are kind of stuck together and she’s probably too comfortable.

She had the nerve to tell me that this is the most adult relationship she’s been in... I cook, clean, pay bills, don’t cheat(well not yet 🤷🏾‍♂️), sex is good (from her perspective 🤷🏾‍♂️), we get along great... but yet, she’s lazy as hell and not giving me the attention I need physically and I have to ask her to do things around the house. Like she’s my child. She said she’s so used to doing everything it’s nice to be basically taken care of.

Side note ladies. Just because you give it to us, doesn’t mean that’s what we want. I asked her for some mouth hugs the other night and she goes, can we just have sex? I just gave you one last week. The actual hell is that?!?

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Do you consider her lazy in bed or just lazy in general?
I'm not lazy with the right guy.

Lazy in general/bed. I normally have to chastise her for being so flippant about things. She hasn’t filed her taxes in years, quit school years ago, I saw pictures of her years back and she was stunning, she’s still cute but just stopped being so active.

I’ve literally spent the last 9 months getting her back on track.

When it comes to sex, anytime I want it she basically gives it to me. She says my sex drive is really high so it’s nice not to have to initiate.... it just makes everything one sided.

Try not taking the lead so much. In all aspects of her life. If she leans on you all the time there is no need to initiate.

If you want it a lot, there is hardly any need for her to initiate either. And that Cancer Mars can be very tricky too.... their sex drive can be related to their moods. Cancer mars usually likes it slow and lazy too as far as I know.

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Cancer moon sucks then. I normally date fire and earth moons. Every air/water moon I’ve done has been less than eventful for me.

She will hop on top and enjoy it. Then afterwards go... are you good for the week. That was tiring. It’s annoying. You don’t complain when I’m sore from doing all the work. 🤬

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Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

The inconsistency and aloof behavior is ROUGH..

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Yeah, now I feel bad about all the women that I DATED that I did it to regarding feelings and me dodging future plans. It’s annoying. I was only consistent when it came to physical stuff and sex... all that feels stuff I dodged like the plague.

I swear with this aqua though I don’t know who I’m dealing with from day to day.

Nope. Because I’m all about consistency and the only thing consistent is she’s inconsistent. I’m the last person that should be nagging anyone to do something. But I really realize that’s what I’m doing. I might take her aloofness the wrong way; but she seems very selfish.

When I started with the aqua I’m dating she was all about keeping it casual. We’ve gotten closer over last 9 months.

Basically I’m her best friend and we have sex. That’s how I looked at it. She told me she loved me a few weeks ago. I didn’t know how to take it. As it being “in love” or just that she loves me because I’ve helped her ground herself after four years of just existing.

How are people supposed to figure out how you feel? When we ask you direct questions on feelings you get anxiety. But if we don’t you feel we don’t care.

Case in point. She was like I don’t hug/kiss her enough when we are in public. I’m like you told me you hate that. She was like yeah but you can still do it.

Grrrrrr

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Do you consider her lazy in bed or just lazy in general?
I'm not lazy with the right guy.

Lazy in general/bed. I normally have to chastise her for being so flippant about things. She hasn’t filed her taxes in years, quit school years ago, I saw pictures of her years back and she was stunning, she’s still cute but just stopped being so active.

I’ve literally spent the last 9 months getting her back on track.

When it comes to sex, anytime I want it she basically gives it to me. She says my sex drive is really high so it’s nice not to have to initiate.... it just makes everything one sided.

She’s a cancer mars.

I don’t even need pillow talk honestly. She’s filthy vocally anyway, that honestly sends me over the edge lol

She’s not prudish at all. She’s down for a lot of things. It’s just her sex role is very submissive/lazy.

Like if she could lay there and be used. That would be her ideal experience. But after a few drinks she’s auditioning for a porn role.

Every aqua I’ve ever had sex with are open sexually but just seem so damn lazy. What does it take to get you ladies to put work in? Other than alcohol.

The aqua I’m with now is all into pleasing me and giving me what I want... but as long as she isn’t doing any work... I’ll say something to her about it and she might step up the next time... then it’s right back

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What's going on. How is everybody doing. I miss my sags, seems like we are all off adventuring like always.

How are you doing? Haven’t heard from you for awhile. I’m doing well click to expand

working, traveling, hanging with the bi-sexual Aqua lol.

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Does that mean happy? I met a Libra... trying not to get too excited. But 4 dates in a week and just omg 😍 click to expand

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Not happy, but content enough to not slore around at the moment and focus on other things. lol

glad you are bouncing back. I happen to like libras

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What's going on. How is everybody doing. I miss my sags, seems like we are all off adventuring like always.

How are you doing? Haven’t heard from you for awhile. I’m doing well click to expand

working, traveling, hanging with the bi-sexual Aqua lol.

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Miss you! you gorgeous Gemini!

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What's going on. How is everybody doing. I miss my sags, seems like we are all off adventuring like always.

How are you doing? Haven’t heard from you for awhile. I’m doing well click to expand

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working, traveling, hanging with the bi-sexual Aqua lol.