My Weird Moment: And when we were laying down cuddling out of the blue I asked, "You don??t want to be with me anymore?"

Sometimes we have little insecurities but these thoughts should be left in our heads...seen this many of times with ladies here and they desparately try and fix the mistake, which makes them do crazy things and they appear insecure and desparate.

My advice would be to think first and if you do have a slip up then Stop think and let it go, most of the time it will go unnoticed...guys dont generally sweat the small stuff unless it is made a big deal about. If he wanted answers let him ask and then you can clear it up, if not let it go!

So let him go, he'll sort out his probs and when he has time he'll address you. In the meantime go on with your life and be confident that he will wake up and realise how good it was with you...providing there isn't or hasnt been too much drama!

SE Wealth
S Fame
SW relationship
w children
NW friends
N career
NE education
E family/health

of course you will need a compass or you can tell North by lining up the 12 of your watch to the sun and the little hand is pointing north.

I'm with you VB and LS, I do unclutter and always feel better like that and feel a better flow in life etc if I follow a few Feng Shui rules particularly in the money area I always make sure that is good. Think I might look into the relationship area...maybe I'll snag a man lol And also clean up the family area as lately that's been crazy!!

@ Spica, I follow basic rules but dont go all in depth. I have a good life and only when problems are occuring which normally are good do I start to think maybe I should look at my home and see if Feng Shui can help out.

I was actually starting to feel maybe it was ME, I was starting to get to critical and impatient of others as there have been a few this year...

however thinking of the ones I have cut out it is without regret...so maybe not~!

My life is still full and I am still happy


I did say a few years ago (as I have attended a few funerals in the last 5 years and seen people's hypocricy) that I would have a list of people that wouldn't be able to attend mine...that list has grown from 1 or 2 to about 6 now!!!!

Hey not a Cap, but just ignore her flirting. She'll soon start to realise you dont get her and stop making herself look stupid and desperate. Obviously she is lacking something in her own relationship and when you dont bite she'll find someone that will.

Nice to hear some guys are dedicated and true to their beloved even when there is free pussy out there!!

You didnt take up on my offer to go out together somewhere so I've left you alone, partly for myself because rejection isn't at all nice and I needed to deal with it but also to give you back your space.

So now, you are so damn nice...are Pisces like Librans and hate to hurt others so try and make up by being exceptionally nice? Or is it that you dont like to feel ill thought of?

Maybe that's why I was attracted to you in the first place, similar qualities...if so, I'll be on the lookout for another fish!

I picked up a book today and going briefly through it noticed my relationship zone was missing! And yes it has been this year since I moved, I have to look at correcting this but I'm moving again at the end of the month so not sure whether to do it now and see what happens. It's because the house isnt a complete square but rather an L shape and the part missing is the relationhip zone which ia outside and just a bunch of weeds and ugly garden!

As much as astrology Shaks??? Or DXP???

First I'd have to try and get my head around a FWB then I might consider tying to get my head around an Open relationship...

Nah, there are just some things that cant be re-programmed!

Oh and another rule I started to follow was to except all offers of going out, you do meet alot of new people through friends and collegues and esp for women that is the safest way to meet people.

There's no particular place to meet people I found, when i moved countries 4 years ago I had no friends of my own just hung out with family and their friends til I realised that it wasn't enough for me.

I had to turn on my receptive friendly nature and put myself out there a little more than usual. So now I chat to everyone whereever I may be, whether it's in the local grocery store talking to the assistant or shops or gym or coffee shop or petrol station etc. I just chat away and soon enough I found friends all over the place, alot of people are willing to chat while they are working or doing stuff you are doing and singles are more open and receptive to swapping numbers and hanging out etc...sometimes you have to be the one to initiate the convo but it is really easy especially for a Libra

Good luck Sid, break out of your shell

What are your thoughts on it?

I'm a believer as much as I am with astrology. I dont know alot but get the general jest of things and feel it's accurate alot of the times. I'm a fairly lucky person and when i do look at my home and the way i have blindly set things up etc, it is in harmony with the Feng Shui teachings with a few things that can be altered for better energy.

I totally believe that the energy in a home from previous occupants can create disturbed energies and should be clensed regularly. These things are just in me, not trained or taught just things I feel are right or I should be mindful of...

Any other thoughts out there?

For the longest time I've pushed people away and been quite jaded...it's going to be hard to break the habit but I want to try...

I'm going to put away the suspicious mind...what do you want from me??
I'm going to let my guard lower and go with the flow...

If I like someone I find it really hard to actually look at them, they have to be the one that approaches me...just a few things to work on

funnily enough now that I feel ready there isnt anyone around!!!

I still think second time around is the hardest!

I've done the time on myself and love myself entirely...I'm ready and open now for someone to come into my life, actually think I've been ready for a few good months. Now where are you?

I'd like a Scorp with a bit of Pisces and a touch of Libra, the first two being guys that I wasnt ready and open for at the time but have my regrets..the Libra I think being my sun sign I could work well with.

Anyway that is the dream, one day maybe...my eyes are open now!

Not convinced the attitude will change at school...but all i can do is hope that it might have been a wake up call and she will start thinking a little more seriously about what she has to lose if she doesn't start to listen to the teachers!

Thanks and yes I'm taking alot of this in and it is helping.

She is back with me and yes felt unloved and also asked why I bought her back when her sister was out til she came back herself. My answer, I treat you differently because you are different people and need me in different ways.

I have taken her out of school for all of next week and already she wants to go back to school, so she now has to have a meeting with the principle and head of year 10 to be excepted back. After talking to them today they decided that they weren't going to suspend her and let me try my way.

If it was just as easy as her having a voice, that would be one thing but when you refuse to do your school work and constantly chat to others or use the computer to go online and look at formal pics instead of what is asked of you defiantly not listening to the teacher or sitting in the cupboard for god knows what reason then it isn't exceptable at all!!! Now I have to admit reading through the report that she put herself in the closet made me spit my wine...but on a serious note...Who the hell does that??? and furthermore why???

All in all she is a good kid at home, no boy trouble yet thank goodness, her and I have a loving relationship. Her Dad loves her and if she reaches out for him he will be there but he doesn't reach out himself. He couldn't handle her becasue she had decided she wanted to come home and live with me so she forced his hand over a period of time and didnt let up til she got her way. He isn't a strong father at all but he and I have a good friendship and I keep him well informed about the kids even though he lets me do it all. (one thing I would prefer different but havn't managed to change him there and I'm done trying, it just results in him saying that I'm putting him down about being a good father and I cant make him into the father that I want him to be)

So tomorrow we go to school for an interview to get her a part time job (school scheme to work one day a week job experience to gain a certificate in hospitality) and then she can make an appointment with the principle if she wants to return to school next week.

Crazily this kid gets over things this quickly...is it a cancer thing? As I said before she will be mad as hell at me and spit some venomous stuff then within minutes want a cuddle???

If she had a dream or wish then i would be all for it Jase...she has no desire to do anything but sit on her behind and suck up the system...

Sorry you were born into the strict Asian family that you were...my mother escaped that to a Western country and gave her children a different life style ...unfortunetly there are downfalls on this side too...just different obstacles to overcome!

Bottom line after the meeting is that she is non-conforment and compliant in anything she doesnt want to do at school. I have spoken up about the uniform but have come to the realization that it is more than that and somehow I have to wake her up to the harm that she is causing herself for the future....**takes a deep breathe ready to go into the ring again**

I have pulled her out of school for the next week with the backing of both the vice principle and head teacher. Now i need to get her back home...she spent the night with a friend. And the nother rang and told the principle this morning.

@ Pesca, i understand all you are saying. Now though the shoe is ont he other foot and I am the parent having to deal with it or find a way to get through to her. She doesnt get much bought for her these days but i guess I have to be more persistant in her buying for herself from now on. No more $ 20 here and there because she wants to go to the movies or hang out at late night shopping with her friends. Instead I will try and see she gets a part time job which is what I am working on with one of the career ladies at the school.

I understand that because that was how I felt in the beginning but I chose to teach her that in this life there are rules that have to be followed. In the real world if you have rules in the work place and dont abide by them you get sacked!!!

In the real world if you go with the crowd that chooses to do drugs and do it because everyone else does it then you go to jail if caught. So I think there was a bigger issue that needed to be addressed and a bigger life lesson to learn here.

The real world can be so unjust but that doesnt mean we should take it upon ourselves to break rules for the sake of it.

I have a meeting with the teachers now and I will make it clear to them that there has been injustice here and this has had a lot to do with her now attitude...somehow though I feel it will fall on deaf ears! As I have spoken up on two other occassions and they have swept the uniform issue under the carpet now focusing on her attitude!

No it is just because everyone else can wear the coloured ones until next year they say when they are going to clamp down!!! HEARD THIS STORY BEFORE! It wont happen.

She has black Nikes with purple laces...if that isnt cool I dont know what is!

It's purely that she has to conform while everyone else doesn't have to!!!

I'm seriously thinking of getting her the shoes of her 1st choice so that that wont be an issue anymore. I mean talk about splitting hairs!!

However, will it reverse the now attitude???