So Op what is wrong with it???

you are treated exactly the way you treat someone else...if you dont like it change and it will change too

I'm in the Gold Coast TOC!!! Nevr heard of the clif bars but maybe a health shop may have something similar. I'm permanently dehydrated and find it hard to drink water except when working out but will try and give it a shot thanks

No I was purely thinking about how this girl would be feeling about her own sexuality...it's a huge leap to take and she would already have pre-conceived ideas on the obstacles she will come up against. And of course be defensive even if they think she knows that are ok with it.

As I had said I've seen a young girl change over and how everyone around her acted and how long it took for her to let it be known completely until she was confortable with her relationship. She is a friend of a friend so I was looking in and there was a lot of back talking, not necessarily vindictive but more specualtion on whether it was a good or bad thing.

Haha tried the speed....took one of my daughters diet pills and all i did was spend money faster!!! Have tried to get back to the gym in the last 2 weeks all I've been is one day!!

And I can't stand wasting time doing nothing...seems such a waste!

What's good energy food?

Going through a patch where I've got no energy...what do you do to regain some? Not big on pill popping although the occasional Vit B is ok. Need to inspire myself and there is plenty to do but cant be bothered right now!

Just feeling plain lazy!!! What ways do you use to snap you out of it?

Posted by libra sun
I would give the boyfriend the oppurtunity to tell them and if they didnt then i would have to, but i dont get involved with domestics!

That's me right there, giving the opportunity to them to come clean first because I'd rather not be the one to break my friends heart with the news! But I also wouldn't want her to be seen as a fool. So he would have a period of time in order to tell her himself!

As for if my friend told me then I would give the benefit of the doubt at first and probably weigh up the situation before confronting my man..but probably already have made up my mind that it was true and wanting to see what his reaction was going to be like...whether he would in fact lie or try and put it on my mate in some way.

Geez hard situation because I believe everybody deserves one stuff up...but only one!

@ Kry,

In this situation I'm seeing more through your flatmates eyes...My scales are tipping but that's probably because I have seen a similar situation with a friend of friends...

As I have stated, I'm seeing through her eyes...when a person changes sides they have their own demons that they have to deal with. And they expect to come up against certain problems it wasnt intended that it was because Candeh felt this way but more that her friend may feel that it was because of this!

Too much hard work if you ask me...they need constant flattery and praise and you will always be looking over your shoulder to see if they are getting it elsewhere. Maybe it is just me but I only give praise where it is due and my experience with a Leo man he needed way more than I could give and had to look elsewhere to puff himself up!

Libras need someone more balanced.

Posted by sweethearts

I understand friendships and yes we miss our friends when they are in new realtionships but that's a part of it as friends, as with parents...you have to learn to let go...even when they are making a mistake. You cant force your opinion on people. You can have a talk and if nothing comes from that then allow that person to take their path, because they will do it anyway and a true friend will be there to help when they can, but also to pick up the pieces when they fall, and most people fall because they have to do things their way!

It just comes down to this and if you dont openly speak to her about how you all feel she will never confront it. Perhaps she needs to look for other accomodation which is more suitable for her circumstance.

But be careful how you approach her as it will come off as an attack...even if you feel you have her best interests at heart.

In this situation I'm seeing more through your flatmates eyes...My scales are tipping but that's probably because I have seen a similar situation with a friend of friends...

She has chosen someone for whatever reason that makes her feel good and rather than being someone that she would normally go with it is a gay relationship...there will definetly be backlash from this so she has prepared herself for it. What she is picking up from you is just to do with this rather than any real thoughts and opinions about the other partner being no good. It was expected! To come out is an extremely hard thing to do and you Candeh have already made lite of it by not placing any value of this relationship because it's not her "norm" choice.

I understand friendships and yes we miss our friends when they are in new realtionships but that's a part of it as friends, as with parents...you have to learn to let go...even when they are making a mistake. You cant force your opinion on people. You can have a talk and if nothing comes from that then allow that person to take their path, because they will do it anyway and a true friend will be there to help when they can, but also to pick up the pieces when they fall, and most people fall because they have to do things their way!

I'm on the 9th, Always nice to see another Libran aboard, Welcome

At the OP, Paper always been a night owl, looks like it could be a Libra thing too.

I have had tests after each partner since my marriage split for my own peace of mind but also approached the subject with the last person as I knew it was going there...he of course said that he had just been tested...I still am not definite as to whether he had but I know for a fact that I never got anything from him. One of the hardest things to do but yes something that has to be taken very seriously. I talk to my daughter all the time about it and have had her checked but in all reality, the truth be told alot of people run the risk.

I mean, when you have a test you should be re-tested in 6 months to be sure they say. If you are going with someone and dont have them have tests then you start with condoms...how long does that last before you think you are safe? Alot of the times people in the spur of the moment & in the heat of it dont even bother with condoms!

Alot also sleep with a guy before they really know them, so asking that question also complicates things and may turn that person off.

It's a game of Russian Roulette in todays world and people play...how many would really stick a gun to their head and fire??

Stop and look around at all your friends that are in relationships...how many of them chased their men and got them? I bet most were pursued by the man!

If this guy is as good looking as you say and all that, aren't you just being like all the other ladies after his affection? What really makes you stand out and tower above the rest of them in his eyes? Girls are obviously a dime a dozen so with this type of guy I would wait for him to make all the moves and if he doesn't then you wont ever really have him hook line and sinker, will you?

Can you at least leave your profile pic up so next time I need advice I can PM you??? You are one of the most respected here in my book, will miss you

Thanks TOC, it sure is a funny funny read. I've only read 2 so far but I was giggling to myself afterwards in the car about the poop everywhere and the kids were like what are you laughing at mum??? NOTHING......

Oh and then there's the whoop whistles from building sites....what the hell is that all about??? Do they think that it's a compliment or that it's going to get them somewhere...seriously!

Guys that aren't upfront about what it is they really want.

Maybe she likes you??? I say this because I myself can talk and flirt with anyone, except the one that catches my eye...he has to approach me and show me he is interested in me enough to make the first move.

Conceited???? Most people are aware of what their good qualities are, I think we are shy, as Libra Sun says, no problems giving out compliments where compliments are due but find it hard to except them back.

Of course Jason You're avatar depicts you always & the way you think.

Hey Bling, thanks