And what annoys him about me P is that we both butt heads because we are both right!!! And he says one thing and I say another and neither will give in to the other...so what he does is he purposely ignores me because he's worked out that I HATE that. So he wants to get under my skin as I do him!!!!
I understand he sees my defensive side and that to me is why he is also defensive...I feel like we are at a stalemate and yes maybe I should make the first move because I started it by being the defensive one in the first place.
I've been told that I annoy him...but he still loves me, he loves to hate me! (His words) We are friends and frustrate each other...He wont make a move...should I???? Or should I just drop it altogether???
Personally I think we are quite compatible BUT we both have issues...
What to do? Should I just be happy and frustated with the friendship?
Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink. I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it. Conversation wasn??t flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn??t say much. I asked him what was wrong; He said, ???Nothing.?? I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn??t upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it. On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can??t explain his behavior I don??t know why he didn??t say, ???I love you, too.?? When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely, as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore.
He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent. Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed. About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else. He fell asleep ??? I cried. I don??t know what to do. I??m almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.
Boat wouldn??t start today. Can??t figure it out, but at least I got laid.
Last night, my kids and I were sitting in the living room and I said to them, 'I never want to live in a vegetative state, dependent on some machine and fluids from a bottle.. If that ever happens, just pull the plug.'
They got up, unplugged the Computer, and threw out my wine.
I'm with you on that one...nightclubs suck and are too loud. And you dont really meet people at pubs etc.
Just talk to people where ever you are, whether it be at the supermarket, gym, playground, shops everywhere. put on a smile when you see people and say hi and talk, that way you get to meet everyone and the ones that you click with male or female you have to extend yourself out there. that's what I learnt when i moved countries anywho....and be open and brave enough to ask to have coffee or a drink or meet somewhere. i made a heap of new friends this way and before you know it you are meeting their friends...and one day you may even find love like that.