Great and lovely to see that some of us really bond and love each other Yes Cappy you love Smiles and everyone else except.... P Angel. You guys are happy to see or chat to each other on certain sites BUT cant you make your own personal I love you and miss you topic???
Not jealous at all but sometimes I'm reading what is an interesting topic and the all of a sudden you guys hi-jack with your I LOVE YOUS!!! 4 or 5 pages later someone tries to get back to the OP only to be hi-jacked again!! Domino makes his own personal I love you sites and when I'm feeling like reading "love" I go there!
Please stick to the topic or at least give the original poster some respect as we would ourselves expect if it were our problem/topic!
Facts are that people get further in life if they apply themselves and groom themselves better, they get recognition and it adds to ones self esteem whether they are male or female. As Tash says she has to do her hair for a job interview...if she didnt apply herself & take pride in her appearance chances of geting the job even with good qualifications are slimmer.
My daughter is currently looking for a job, she has to be well presented and when she is dropping off her CV she doesn't know whether the manager/owners are male or female but if she just rocked up comfortable in her casual clothing she doesn't stand a chance!
I work within the gym industry, there is almost equally the number of men as there are women, even when they are working out, the men are all daked out in their sports labels (Nike, adidas etc) as much as the women...trying to impress... most every person that walks through that door even at 5.30am in the morning has attempted to groom themselves in some way.
Tunnelled vision is what you two have, trying to put out an arguement "that women only care about their appearances to attract men" Women are multi-taskers remember? They always have more than one reason why they will do ANYTHING...most importantly FOR THEMSELVES because they are the most important person in the world to them and anything after that is a bonus!
So you seriously think the only reason a woman gets up in the morning and dresses herself up and makes herself look good, is for men??? Delusional!!!!
Do you think that the way I look in my clothes is more important to how a mere male looks at me or how I look at me? Seriously??? If it was for a man then wouldn't I just dress like a porn star?
The most important person in ANYONES life is generally themselves, with woman it would be themselves and then when kids come into the picture either they would take presedence or come close second.
In the long run, we want to look and feel great and if we happen to capture some man that will work for us the rest of our lives then that might be a bonus and then he can pay for all our beautiful clothes/cosmetics etc etc etc...
So much baggage and soo much negativity...you should get some professional help first. Anxiety attacks have to be dealt with first and foremost.
Forget this guy at the moment he isnt going to be able to help you sort yourself out. You definitely need some proffessional councilling to get on top of your problems. I use to suffer anxiety/panic attacks, worse feeling in the world but havent had one for at least 5 years after help.
Funny when a guy is sick he is dying but the ladies have to toughen up!
It certainly is a guy thing I remember having food poisoning and at 3 in the morning being violently ill not knowing which end should go on the toilet....I'd never suffered anything like that ever and my stomach was spasming and I had to stay right on that toilet...The MAN said can you close the door properly cos the light is in my eyes and keeping me awake!!!! Wtf??
After that I never paid much attention when he was sick again!
@ Domino, already got that one covered, we've been friends for 35 years, good friends
@ Xtina, I think he is....he's a very attentive guy and although at the moment we are only in contact via the net (different countries) he's already showing signs of being very romantic...Yay
@ enfant that sounds great,
I always feel flattered but really shy of romantic jestures...not sure why maybe it's that tough nut no emotion asian in me, fighting with the Libra. I've only had a few romantic times and all I do is smile, the embarrassed type of smile or when I've gone all out to come up with something different like in the bedroom the same sort of feeling of silliness.
So how do I play? And what really is romance to you guys??
To me...The rose is tops, if he greets me with a rose.... I'm GONE!!! Him cooking for me is great but then he's a chef so I know he's going to pull that one off with ease, and it will work a treat as no one has ever done that before! Am I spose to respond or just lap it all up? I'm Libra so I feel I have to give something back...you know to keep that balance.
Good for you PD, being there only to support as that's what he needs right now. Although he is confusing it with more it's probably because he is going through sooo much watching a loved one die.
My friends marriage was at breaking point when she was told her cancer had come back and she was terminal...it's a hell of a road for the surviver/partner and seems never ending as they stuggle every minute with meds, depression, pain, moods, overeating, Starvation, loss of consciousness all from the different medications they take and the effects it has on them. They just get use to one type of medication and then it gets changed bringing about a whole lot of new complications. When his wife finally did pass, he would've given anything to have had her back!!!
Support where you can but always keep at arms length...he is and will go through alot emotionally.
It's a cycle like that of an abuser and he's learnt from his father that this is the way it goes and unless he wants to break that cycle he wont.
Nothing you can say will change him and he will only feel that you are trying to change him so you can have an exclusive relationship and marriage. Walk away...save your own feelings as you have already given this man a good 1 and a half years of your life and dedication to no avail.
Well I'm Libra and I couldn't lie to save myself but i have heard that the males of us tend too. Secondly, I think you need to deal with your own issues of trust before you move on to anyone else. You need to learn to let go and forgive what has happened in the past before trying to move on to someone else as you are taking baggage with you. So you are looking for him to be untrust worthy...Isn't that unfair???