Yes Bella, remembering back now I know his mum lied alot. As I said it never really hurt anyone but just little fibs for whatever reason. Like one time she was coming with my husband (we were young & I was prenant with my first child) and I to Australia to visit my mother. She visited us every week and the story remained the same right up til the last week she was still booking her flight on the same as ours. On the day we flew out she showed up and said she couldn't get on that flight as she left it too late but would try and get there that week...Weird but never stopped me loving her.
Anyway I'm assessing him and whether or not he may have some of those traits.
A couple of years ago I was with a guy (FWB) but everything that came out of his mouth was a freakin lie and I NEVER EVER picked up on any of it. i loaned him money to get out of trouble and in the end he moved back home with a lie about going back because his mum was in hospital dying!!!! It all came out after the fact and although there wasn't love for me there, there was alot of hurt from me being soo stupid that I fell for everything he said. ANd looking back now I wonder why I never questioned any of it, apart from the fact that it is so far from anything I could do to anyone, I just didnt believe anyone would to me!
I know that there is alot about my mother that I dont want to be anything like and so I'm looking for it in myself, (to squash it) my own daughters dont want to be likened to me with specific things. Being a child that is filled with disappointment from lies, wouldn't you think that they would want nothing of it themselves?
I think it's that way in most relationships, the ladies always let the man lead because it's meant to be but watch out if he was to go against what SHE wants! So easiest solution let him wear the pants but he better ask which ones to put on first!!!!
Another way of looking at it is He is the Head of the family but she is the neck that turns the head!
I know a lady who use was a liar, she was like an Aunt...not a nasty liar but more one that tells you what you want to hear...all the time. Little white lies like she was going to be doing something for you that never happened. You soon learnt to not take anything she said with much hope & none of these lies ever hurt me. But nevertheless she constantly lied...
My question is:
Do you think it runs in the family, if you are around someone 24/7 and are filled with lies all your life, would you yourself grow to be just like them and not think it's a big deal to be as truthful as possible? Does anyone else know someone like this and how has it effected their children?
Haha thanks Bid Bear and I'm born on Oct 9th too...go figure!!! I've never been like that though, maybe because I have higher values...Idk But now moreso that I'm mid-aged and respect & love myself much more....stilll I cant help but flirt. I LOVE IT!!!! Sorry if it's offensive
You know one day someone will snap you up but I think you have to learn to have your eyes wide open...for some reason you are attracting hoes!!! WTF?
Whats yours like PP, do you have to treat him like a King all the time or does he actually look after you very well? This one is treating me like his Princess already but then he hasnt got me yet... so it makes me wonder if he will want it to be spun around later once he thinks he's hooked me and then expect me to tend to all his needs!
Now that would be ok but as a Libran I like things very balanced and dont want it to be all about him!
Yeah it's hard to read Tiki cos even though he is upfront with alot of things he's still a man and only lets so much go! His confessions are a little over the top for what I'm wanting but not completely out there in time...(not the babies) It's kinda frustrating but in time and with patience(which I can lack) i'll get all my answers I'm sure. Just wish he'd stop with the hidden messaging!!
I believe that this man is serious, he's upfront with you that he has kids and also protective of them that he isnt going to introduce just anyone into their lives. It may not be a big issue for some people but it is REALLY huge for the kids involved. Remember they have had to deal with alot for being so young. Losing their parents whether it be divorce or death and then having to greet someone else in their place.
After 4 years my girls who are all teens dont even like to entertain any idea that either their father or I may one day have another partner.
That is only one issue Cappy but if this man is worth it you then have to consider...
-Meeting the kids & learning to love them -Going from singlehood to instant family -whether you want more children -dealing with the ex if she is still around
just a few things to consider but you have to be ready for it and know it's what you want and if not bail before meeting them!
Because we dont want to be looked at as mothers once that faze has past...Milfs are hot because they have taken pride in their appearance and worked damn hard to keep themselves looking great. And I can guarantee you it's not to capture some young guy who wants to turn them back into mother hubbard!!!! Let alone an older guy who has sown his wild oats for 25 years and then decided it's time to have kids.
I mean good on him for seeing the world and living life to the full but serious find a candidate that can provide you with what you want when you decide that it's your time. I'm pissed that he's given me a glimpse into a world of possibility and it looked & felt good and now I feel he's yank that rug out from underneath me!!!
My friend the Leo that I have been friends with since I was 4 confessed to me after not seeing him in 14 years that he has been in love with me forever. That was something to swallow but I got my head around it even though I wont see him till Feb next year. We both live in different countries. So he is sort of courting me over the net and it's been nice and I can see that we would be very good together if all the sparks are there in person when we meet up again.
BUT today he tells me he wants kids and with me!!!!! My youngest is 14 and I have a 17 & 20 year old and that is the craziest thing I've ever heard not to mention that I'm way too old to even think about going there again.
So the celebs are doing it but I dont have a full time nanny or any patience left and cant think of anything worst than having a teen when I'm nearing 60!!! WOw I cant get this out of my head now and have told him to find someone younger that can do all this with him. He says it's me he wants... do you guys stop and think before things like this come out of your mouths??? Some people talk first and think later but I thought that Leos are very level headed. Will his wants change I wonder because I know I'm not going down that path again so there isn't a compromise and I think he might think he will change my mind.
I guess there had to be something to burst my bubble, everything seemed to be too perfect **shakes head**