The only problems I would have with an over weight friend is if they are not happy with themselves & constantly complain but yet do nothing to fix the problem or if the problem becomes a potential health risk, and they aren't doing anything to help themselves...and even then I couldn't say anything that would hurt their feelings!

Oh you wanted unserious answers... not in my nature to poke fun at people esp friends

He saw your true clolours and didnt like what he saw...pretty simple really!!!

Agree with Cusp sounds like he has a gf, sometimes it's exciting to be exploring someone else when there is no intention of going any further than talking. He probably felt safe talking through the net but once you expected it to go to mobiles where he can more easily be caught then why risk it?

@ cleo

You know in Steve Harvey book he explains that when a guy hasn't got himself settled in a good career and comfortable with their lives, because being a provider is what is expected of them they aren't ready for a relationship. But they are still willing to play around, so if they aren't constantly wanting to be with you maybe they aren't ready because there is still work to be done!

No you dont, not at all but you do have to learn to recognise the people that will take advantage of your disposition becauses they think you're weak! You can be sweet but strong too.

Hun, I'm sweet too, I'm Libran and dont like peole thinking badly of me BUT....I've also recently learnt that people take advantage of sweet people so I've learnt to stop things before they get to that situation or quickly put a stop to something once you realize it's going down the wrong track. Generally it is much better and has less damage to nip it in the butt quickly!

Honestly he will only be upset if he is in fact wanting something more from you than just friendship because by pulling back you are telling him that you dont want that type of relationship with him. If it is just friends then no harm done!

Not just cancers, how bout us beautiful people too! Super super horny but that's probably because it's been way toooooo long!!!

Yes you need to respect his privacy, people deal with grief in different ways and he hasn't opened a door for you to come into his world so dont add to the load that is on his mind.

GG you need to step right out of the picture, your constant attempts to befriend this man is doing nothing more than him keeping you at arms lengths. If he wants you in his life he will let you know but the more you are circling around and contacting him it is likely that he will run the other way!

And you need to work on getting yourself a life, possible without him in it!

People dont belong in your space unless you invite them...do you want him in your space??? (personal space) Keep your hands away from his so he cant touch them put them behind your back if you have to! He has no boundries with you because you haven't set them, so stop being sweet yourself and set those boundries. You've made this harder for yourself by allowing him to cross those lines in the first place!

I've learnt, Sometimes we have to stop being sweet because people of all walks take advantage of it!

Dear Qbone, probably a much better life than you who has nothing better to do than try and spread hatred throughout threads like this...WTF is wrong with you???? You're short right???;P

What the hell do you want??? If you dont have the patience to stick by till she's willing to open up and let you in then it's not her that you really want so then you are wasting her time aren't you???

I think the ones who gave the most advice may have PM'd him. He got the answers he needed and he still comes here to read what people are up to. If you look up his profile it tells you his last sign on date which was the 18th June so he'll be reading this...Hi Denny hope things are going to your liking

i'm confused. u threw in the love-him-like-a-brother there so i don't see how anything can go beyond that... unless that's ur kink. i love my best friend like a brother (i'm a female) and there's no way in hell anything is gonna happen because he truly is like my sibling.

i guess it's because thats the love we had when we were growing up...It's been 10 years now since I have seen him or had any contact and the person that I'm talking to over the net is a totally different person. That's the confusing part...I still feel the person I grew up with... but then there's this man that is making all the right moves and saying all the right things. He is a good looking man too and when we were younger we were curious as youngens can be, we did kiss once...But in my mind at the moment it doesn't go sexual when I think of meeting him again


Why Sweets? if you already care for him and love him as a friend,what is holding you back really? there is doubt in your mind and I just wonder why.we need to talk about this,it's killing me


Honestly Bella...I'm scared... 3 years ago my first love died suddenly and left me to deal with never finding someone to share my life with again. And anyone I have dated has ended quickly & with pain.

I moved countries and I am happy and I'm enjoying my life because I've dealt with it all. I've made a new life with loads of friends and put everything behind me, life is perfect at the moment....and then this...

My mama always says "a bird in hand is worth two in the bush"...

I think To fall in love with him would change everything, all of a sudden Where he is what he is doing and who he is with will matter. Love has demands and wants answers...friends dont

Haha, yeah they all put it out there all the time so I've learnt, now the trick is to tell them to "FUCK OFF" and still maintain your composure and then walk the fuck away without hearing back from them!!!!

Once that is done you can shudder with discust!!!!! Dirty creeps!

Funny enough I just looked at a pic tonight of him and it told a whole different story of what he might have been...funny how love can blind you to seeing what you want to see...

Hey Ging, Just ignore her mate and when your mutual friends start to tell you something, tell them you really aren't interested in what they have to say about her or she about you because it's upsetting. You have to stop them in their tracks and even if you are curious it's not good for you. Some people are just plain sick and it's probably more that you have annoyed her because you haven't responded that has her sooo upset. Head held high and go on with your life, she is nothing to you!!!

GEEZ I'm lost...who is Gemgal parading as now??? Can't be starfish or Ms pisces!?!?!

Can't leave you guys alone for 2 weeks without all hell breaking loose!! lol

Obnoxious Weeds are almost impossible to be rid of!!!

Hey F A M, wondered what happened to you

I'm in a similar situation where an old friend I grew up with has confessed his love....I'm no longer married so we are going to explore this possibility early next year. We currently live worlds apart. I am worried that I might not return the love he is expecting. We have been through alot together in the 35 years we have known each other & now this will change things.

But honestly Nihilist, if I cant reciprocate his love, then I will remove myself from his life to ease his pain without hesitation and as a friend I would have thought you would do the same.

So maybe you need to ask yourself...Is it only his friendship you want or does it go a little deeper???

I never thought of my friend this way throughout our lives together but now it has been bought up...it's made me stop and think of the possibility that this could be good!

He told me that he never said anything to me because I was married, so he held his tongue & that makes me respect him even more.

At the end of the day, it is a mind blowing situation to be in and one that calls for complete UNSELFISH behaviour dealing with it.

Knowing how he feels...I will be very careful of how far things go because the last thing I'd want to do is hurt him & lose him...

Yeah The worst feeling int he world is wanting someone that doesn't want you back...or doesn't care how it makes you feel BUT that doesn't stop us from wanting to go down that track again...with a little more caution the next time round

Thanks Guys