Wow!!! How do you sound and stay so calm about all of this? You don’t sound angry or express how hurt you are. Sounds like you suspected this would happen so you’re taking it in the chin.

How long were you together before you split and then got back together and how long before you got pregnant?

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The answer is right there... are you thinking about what you are reading? SMH 🤦🏼‍♀️ jeane’s post highlighted your exact situation. You are the one trying to change her in paragraph 2 and she is the manipulator!

Yeah but how do I sort this shit I just want to be happy with her and she says the same lol but then acts stupid.

either you both come together to talk about your issues, how you both feel, how you trigger each other and then come up with a plan with how to deal with things in the future, and then follow through with that plan.

if she is unlikely to change then you have three options
a) do the work on yourself and learn to accept her reactions
b) stay in the relationship, learn nothing about each other or yourself and continue the cycle with things getting steadily worse resulting in resentment, anger, dysfunction. saying she acts stupid is a good start down that road
c) leave and hope that the next one is better or face the same issues again because you've failed to do any work on yourself.

Ok so I just spoke to her.......

I said I do not want to go over things with you or bring them up again but I would like to know can you see a future with me and is this what you want and be honest.
She said yes she does.
I said in that case we need to talk not now but when we have 5 minuets and we are alone.
I said you need to tell me how I make you feel the things I do wrong to piss you off and I will also tell you what you do wrong as well.

Her response to that was why are you bringing things up again.
I said I just told you I'm not interested in going over things I just want to stop any future aggravation between us and for us to understand each other better so there is no issues and we can straighten it all out.

So not right now but when we have time alone I would like you to tell me the things that I do wrong for you and I will explain the things I feel you do wrong as well.

Could I be any fairer than this?

She said ok but not in an enthusiastic way and that she's not really seeming interested or wanting to.

I know why because she said to me she is feeling drained from it but so am I this is why I am trying to sort it once and for all.

i think a conversation is the best way forward. now that you are going to talk let my golden rule guide you

"seek first to understand, then be understood"

if you go into this genuinely curious to understand her point of view FIRST then there is a good chance you can work through it.

you can't say that she acts stupid - because you are trying to understand her perspective right?

you can't assume things about how she feels.

any question you ask must be made to genuinely hear the answer. take the time to listen to what she is saying. don't immediately react with a "yeah but". to her, even if you disagree, this is how she feels.

if need be, repeat to her what you think she said. not in an incredulous way but again in a honest and heartfelt attempt to really understand her perspective and how she feels when she storms out.

don't go in thinking you are going to force on her your feelings at any cost or that you are just waiting her out until you can have your say. the outcome is not to win the conversation but to come to an understanding of where the other is coming from. you are fighting the problem, not each other.

lastly, go in with "i" statements not "you" statements.
eg "i feel stupid/incompetant/lost/confused when xyz happens"
NOT "you are irrational/stupid/selfish/a bitch"

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I’m coming to you when I need help resolving things iml. Great advice, always.

The answer is right there... are you thinking about what you are reading? SMH 🤦🏼‍♀️ jeane’s post highlighted your exact situation. You are the one trying to change her in paragraph 2 and she is the manipulator!

r and all hare..

Ands?

You need to own it, come clean about why you broke it and answer all the questions the other person needs to hear. Have that tough conversation and then talk about what you’d like moving forward and how it can be achieved and if they want that too.

Once that conversation has happened then you need to give them the space they need to decide whether they are willing to work on the relationship together.

Like anything that is broken, you can try and repair it but there will always be a fracture which will remind the other person that it was broken. It will take a lot to try and conceal it!

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Interestingly, I should ideally match with someone just like me. Something I learnt myself after having a relationship with an opposite.

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sounds like she's just keeping you on a leash, maybe feeling a bit of guilt and throwing crumbles to make you feel like you're the one faulty of not interacting. But you're not the priority

Exactly. And this is what maybe fears me the most. That's it's just all game and the specialness of what I thought we have, is all in my head. Somehow I can't see clearly what she's doing, it's very cloudy around it all. The bond we had feels good, but something in how she does in what she does, does not feel so good.

I 'm used to rationalize things, and this I can't, because it always takes a U-Turn.

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I agree with hydorah 100%

You need to listen to your head not your heart.
You’re heart is making up all the excuses!

I miss some of the conversations we used to have but now he’s indifferent to me when we see each other so I keep it to a hello, how are you.

I’ll talk more with his new wife. I prefer being around them with just our girls and feel awkward if it’s a bigger group setting which happens if there’s some celebration going on.

@dopefly I just add to mine, it’s more about not being afraid and living your life to the full and not letting money or excuses stand in your way if you really want to experience something.

@gudbuy, the pandemic crushed a lot of people’s dreams to travel overseas. So many people I’ve talked to had to canceled plans. Then there’s countries that are way more confined to isolation. Very grateful to be living where I’m living.

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Thanks, how do I read them?

Yes please

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I want tonmove Back top my hometown to cause I am Not at war with my Family anymore.

I want to a Trip to India with my nephew.

I sonst have Depression anymore so I want to overcome my earthy dullness and
live live Like the fire and earth signs.

When and how were the bridges mended with your family?

Last Christmas I confronted my Mom about being Distant until she broke down and g
told me and my brother about her parents hit her and starved her for years and I told her to say sorry and she did.
And my brothers are actually supportive I was wrong about them.

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Life is too short to spend it without the people that we love, our parents and siblings. Glad you have all made amends

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I want tonmove Back top my hometown to cause I am Not at war with my Family anymore.

I want to a Trip to India with my nephew.

I sonst have Depression anymore so I want to overcome my earthy dullness and
live live Like the fire and earth signs.

When and how were the bridges mended with your family?

I’ve traveled to different parts of Queensland last year and really enjoyed it. Probably wouldn’t have if it wasn’t for the pandemic as I was supposed to have another European summer. I’d still like to get back there and explore as much as I can.
Volunteering, I’ve started helping out when I can. There’s so many good but homeless people all over the world and kind soles that have always given up their time money and kindness just to help.

Spend more quality time with my mum and children and their families.

Maybe jump out of a plane... still so undecided about it but definitely ride in a helicopter again.

Fall in love one more time 🥰

When this pandemic is more under control, have you made a bucket list of things you now want to do? Will you aim to tick these things off? What are they, what have you realised that you need and want to experience?

When I walk in to the room, no matter what he’s doing he drops it and runs to me for a hug and kiss and stays there chatting. The whole time we are together his attention is mostly on me ❤️ 2 hours flies past like minutes and when I prepare myself to leave he gets upset and wants me to stay...
I miss him all the time and a mid week video chat brightens up my days and his smile melts me until I can see him and hold him again.

This is my grandson 🥰 and one day I hope to find true love like this in a partner.

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October 3-10 THE WEEK OF SOCIETY LIBRA II March 11-18 THE WEEK OF DANCERS & DREAMERS PISCES III RELATIONSHIPS

STRENGHTS: ROMANTIC,
EMPATHIC, IDEALISTIC

WEAKNESSFS: OVERDEPENDENT,
PAINED, IMPRACTICAL

BEST: LOVE
WORST: MARRIAGE

"Down the Corridors of Time"

The repercussions of the relationship between Libra II's and Pisces Ill's can echo down the corridors of time. Romantic and inspired to the extreme, this relationship also has intensely pragmatic aspects that allow for a certain magic in professional and other ties as well. But the partners can get carried away with each other, so that they neglect societal criticism and opposition. Overconfidence and in some cases a certain arrogance typifies this pair's attitude toward life, which may cause nagging problems in the long run,
even though things seem to be going well for the present. The Libra Il-Pisces III relationship can arouse jealousies and animosities, although it has many admirers.
Love affairs between Libra II's and Pisces Ill's can be ultraromantic. Giving their all for love, the partners seldom hold back emotionally or sexually. Such passionate relationships don't often lead to marriage, however, for they invariably lose that special spark, and either break off or continue on a more ordinary plane.
As the partners age, they inevitably look back on their more active years with a mixture of nostalgia and regret.
Libra II and Pisces III friends and lovers are able to work together, often putting some of their inspirational energy into mutual business, artistic or social activities. Such efforts need not be big moneymakers,' for the idealism of the matchup dictates working on projects that both partners truly believe in, heart and soul. Often impractical, this pair's schemes sound good at the outset but don't often come to fruition, and in retrospect seem almost too good for this world.
In the family sphere, parent-child matchups of either combination tend to be affectionate and empathic.
Sensitivity to each other's moods and wishes can be a problem, since each feels the other's pain or distress so deeply. Both will have to strive for more objectivity, and in adolescence should work to develop their individuality, so that both of them may proceed along their respective paths without encumbrance.

ADVICE: Give each other enough breathing room--don 't stunt individual growth and development. Don't be oversensitive to each other's feelings.

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Thanks 🙏

I’ve done it at the height of organism and always thought that goes both ways. Don’t like the after look though, so concealer and foundation works.

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