So if it was all your idea to have a fwb relationship with the Libra....Why do you hate Libras sooo much Sag89?

I stayed for a further 8 years...making sure it was the right decision (complicated with kids) then after telling him stayed another 10 months trying to make things ok for everyone...(made things worse in fact)

It's never easy to walk out on a relationship especially one of most of your adult life, but eventually with my UNFORGIVING nature it all became too much!

Thanks Nihilist,

I'll be pretty firm, it aint there for me so I know I wont buckle. I havent anything to do this Saturday so will go along anyway. As I said I still do consider him a friend and I know it's not LOVE but LONELINESS that makes him act so irrationally!!!

So ladies, he texted again and wants to take me to the casino for dinner and dancing...

Should I go, when I know I'm not interested in what he wants? The guy was a FWB but wanted a full on relationship and so I backed away really fast and then he met someone within 2 weeks and moved her in with him. Obviously that has ended now. He is a nice bloke but needs a partner and I'm not into him in that way.


Question...Can I expect a friendship and nothing else after everything? I'd really just like to add to my ever increasing friends pile...

And if so, how should I approach it with him?

No it's normal to feel like that when you have been betrayed before. But now you have to try and develop the trust with him cos if you cant then the relationship will be doomed to have alot of problems. And the problem is with you...

You say you feel disrespected and that's how you feel (nothing wrong with that)

I see that he needs to go out with his friends again and realize where he belongs. Trust me I'm sure the night will be BORING and he'll want to come home...he may not tell you that though. When someone is content in their relationship as your (man on the couch is) he'll be thinking about you...that's why I say go out with the girls yourself, give him something extra to think about

But relax honey, he knows who he wants to be with!

Ya think xtina?

I see what you are saying in both instances but most end in the latter??? Curious.

i really dont know many FWB and have only done it twice, first I knew I would never fall for this guy in a million years but I needed it (SEX) and I wasnt ready to move on emotionally after a death. It lasted 6 months. the 2nd was very brief because he wanted more and I still wasn't ready and bailed!

But I dont know of any that have remained in a relationship or have started out as FWB.

I'm sitting here typing on DXP and at the moment my glass is half empty and so is the bottle!!!!!

Question do I open another...or go to bed?

Argument apart from the poor spelling I think I'm doing really well with the advice I'm giving out!!!! LMAO

Oh yeah, sharpening that tool will go a long ways. Sometimes you dont take it for what it is at first...and then when it's too late and you look back and think...I knew that was going to work out like that!

These ladies are dead right about us Librans....should I be offended??? Hell no, I'm old and mature!! lol

i think he has some growing up to do yeah but sometimes it takes an interest to make us grow up first. Being that he had a crush on you for sooo long i dont think he is going to let you go so easily so hang in there if you think he will mature and you are willing to go down that track with him. Most men are immature in alot of things they do in relationships even when they are OLD like my Libran step-dad and he's 55!!!!

But dont you go extending anymore olive branches...wait for him, us ladies need to practice a little patience when it comes to men and love. Our tomorrow is their next week!

Gee as my name starts with "G" classic...

or "Lovely" which I got from a friends partner, we use to cook together and I thought it was real sweet calling me that and I have been called it by other friends too. Nice they think that way of me

Cool subject Nihilist

Sorry I see the same as Tiki, You aren't commitment material in his eyes just a root or good time.

She on the other hand is someone he would marry. HUGE difference.

Is he above himself? Does he have a good job and look down on you because you are a waitress? He also sounds like he is on the rebound anyway for the 2nd time.



Carry on with your life and dont give in to him again!

Not sure Irish, only met one for real...I like all most of them on here though! This board has the most drama on it

I only know one apart from my mother and the people here that I like...so it would be nice to get to know a few more and then I can get a better opinion.

We attract Scorps because we hang out on the Scorp site because mostly it's more interesting than the other sites...more drama!

What this boils down to is that you dont trust him SD and that in itself is very dangerous because you want a commitment with this guy! When you split last time, he tried it on with his ex didnt he? Has he ever cheated on any of his previous gf's? Just trying to get a handle on why you dont trust him... Whether there is grounds for it or just your own insecurity from someone else.

AND Yes it's hard to take the fact that he wants to hang with his mates who are purely out there for the chase but he needs to go down that path himself...once there I'm betting he will actually be quite bored with the whole thing and want to come back home early...to you!

I dont think that you should guilt trip him into not going even though that may be a hard thing to except.


On the other hand you could also go out with your friends for the exact same reason as he is...he is a Libran and now he will feel how you are feeling...

Thanks Nihilist, yes there are some awesome ladies and gents on here. That's why I keep coming back AND it was a Scorp that got me here again and the one I'd love to contact me!

But I'm a realist and I wont hold my breathe!

Hey Irish,

had to laugh when I read this because it has been written throughout the Libran horoscopes in March...the reason I was laughing was because although I'd love for that to happen it was ever so doubtful...

AND then yesterday I get a text from a past love!!!! Damn it I wish it was the one I wanted.... BUT NO!

What a waste, if it was going to happen then why cant it be from the one you want?????? LOL

I see both their points too like two sides to a coin...but then I'm a Libran!

But he did say that he would call back...so I'd be inclined to wait for, that remembering that guys aren't on our time...his calling back maybe a week away not like us girls that are waiting impatiently within hours, even minutes.

When he does call then let him hear that you are interested but yeah he needs to do a bit of work in getting you.

Hey Ging,

I guess some people never grow up huh? You need to block any contact you are getting from her. You can block any emails or facebook/bebo/myspace details and also block her number from your mobile/home ph. Also tell your friends you dont want to hear any gossip either, that way she wont be able to effect you. You may still hear the odd thing but mostly in a short time it'll all become to hard for it/her to get to you. And what you dont know wont hurt!

Unless your life is being threatened...that would be a whole different story!

It's not that you should back down but when someone sees something differently except that they aren't going to see tings your way. I guess I am also guilty of that and maybe it's more than the star sign but a strong person!

But I have butt heads with my bull headed friends because we both have strong opinions and I will try and see it from their point and they NEVER will try my side or opinion!