Yeah I'm with you there furry,V-day is going to be the moment of truth!

I dont think we think and act the same, I've read many threads from women complaining about Librian Men. Yes i see that we dont really let go of past loves but mine with the intention that maybe I over reacted and cut things off without weighing everything up completely. The Librian men I read about are quite abusive to women!!! Not something I'd ever do to anyone.

Don't put us in the same category pls!

Lighten up ladies!!! Some people are our soul mates and some are just friends with benefits!! obviously she was a "friend with benefits" because from what I can gather, they had just met...must have been a first time for them as he hadn't realized she would talk for hours after the fact & if he was besotted with her he would have listened to her no matter what she was saying!

Yeah he might be a prick but one day someone will have him crawling on his hands and knees...

Gem, let me know what that book is calle dout of curiosity. But it certainly won't work on me as I'm 108 years old and I have had enough kids to drive me insane and I certainly am commitment phobic as well...which could be my downfall too...

Moon, sounds like a plan to me. I guess we almost sum up within the first date whether they will rock our worlds or NOT as was the story here.

If he does text or call again. My very good friend is going to contact him and tell him TO LEAVE ME ALONE!!!! I am a little shaken that he is still contacting me and my worst fear is that you can google my first name only and get information about me because i have a Bebo site & Old Friends site and i don't know how to get that information off!!!!

i wish i coudl do it every night"

To which she doesn't reply????

Was unintentional...just it wasn't there for me and to be hounded by texts and phone calls for 3 days solid when he knew I was busy & sick started to alert me to the fact that someone was a little over the top!!

Isn't it always the way...the guy you want to flip over you is oh sooo reserved and couldn't care a less if it was a week or two between contact and the one you you aren't interested in is all over you like a rash!!!~!

I pray that when you do kiss her for the first time "You rock her world"

Or you'll be sent to the friendship line... and then you'll get to hear about all the guys that she is dating...

To be honest you are sweet but after nearly 1000 posts there needs to be some "urgency and want" and not just on paper! Read a mills & boons novel, innocence is one thing but there comes a point where action is called for!

Just my opinion...

Well in both cases that I was thinking about, I thought they were more into it than me. It certainly was the last thing on my mind! Funny thing is that the 1st one I ended up caring for more and maybe could have fallen in love with in time...

the other was a nutcase and after a 2 1/2 hour coffee date nearly 3 weeks ago & after I told him there was NO interest in anything further. He has texted 3 times and called once to which I won't reply. Might sound harsh but honestly this guy is a stalker and I'm sooo glad he doesn't know where I live or anything about me but my phone number. And if he calls again I will have his number blacklisted! He really is starting to creep me out now!

So I don't think it was arrogance or experience in that case but more the reverse Psychology... If I say it then she might start to feel it....

Anyway guys leave the teasing of the "L" word out of a relationship/date in the beginning.. Not something you should mess with!!

So thats how i gave her the rose. so she liked it, and she mentioned that it was "friendship"...so i told her not to pay attention to the 'meaning' of it, that I got it becaue i know its 1 of her favorite colors.


Hmmmmm, I have a few male friends which I love spending time with but know that if I wanted, they would want more, BUT I dont. Anytime romance or any hint of something more is bought up I confirm our friendship...




Then i asked her about V-day...and i asked her if she wanted to come otu with me...and shes like where? So i said its a surprise, i just need to know if your going to come. So shes like where, i need to know? So i just told her about the cruise around NYC. And she said she may be goign to see Marc Anthony at MSG on Vday but she would let me know.

V-Day, most girls want nothing more than someone to pay particular attention to them on this day. The fact that you offered and she is stil weighing up her options & stalling even though your planned date sounds so romantic makes me wonder what is going on in this girls mind...?

You haven't rocked her world.... be careful you may become her best friend and that's the worst place to be when you are head over heals in love with someone!!

You Are A Social Butterfly

You truly love all of your friends.
And your motto is "the more, the merrier"!
Making sure everyone's included is your mission. You love getting to know your friends' friends.
You always prefer a group of ten to a group of two. You think large groups have the best dynamic.

Ahahhahahahaha that's the funniest thread I've read!! Doesn't have to be a scorpio ANY woman would've thrown you out!!!

I'm Libra and always find great friends with Taurus.... is that strange? I didnt think we were suppose to be compatible!

That's sooo sad, now you are hurting just like me and sooo many of us because we dont have patience to wait for something beautiful. The pain & anguish will be around for months and unfortunetly will make us that much more guarded when someone else tries to enter our lives. Why, do we do it to ourselves... sometimes I think we wont/dont want to let ourselves be happy or enjoy some happiness...

How long it takes depends on the length and depth of their relationship. Also the time he held on to the hope that she would beat this illness...I'm thinking it's Cancer which is what took my love Glenn and 3 other friends. You know in your heart that they are going to die but you never ever believe it even when they do, complete denial!

Another thing to consider is that although we hold these loved ones with high values we dont forget their faults and also understand what we really want out of a new relationship...there are these expectations in our mind to uphold. Almost a check list and we dont want to settle for anything less. BUT in reality it maybe too high a price for most. The fact that you are with him means you meet some, if not alot of those important criteria.

From experience...I never explained my situation and how I felt to my new man but always kept myself guarded. In hind-sight if I knew I was going to lose him because I hadn't learnt to deal with my past or even openly express my reservations to him, I certainly would have, but that's me. Too late to turn back the clock.

It's harder to get a man to open up but pick the time and try to at least get him to talk to you about her, even if he is explaining how wonderful she was or how frustrating she could be. If he can do this he has your trust. Don't ever feel threatened by her or jealous...

I certainly wouldn't date or see anyone else. If he finds out you are, then you will lose any trust he has for you and him completely. AND NO definietly dont have anything to do with moving her things out of their home, no talk of it from you at all!! That he will do in his own time and only then regardless of ANYBODY'S opinion!

One thing I do appreciate is when people talk about my love Glenn by name, he lived even though he died. He's still very real to me! I seen that when someone dies everybody is too scared to even bring their name up! Me and my friends find comfort in speaking or others speaking their names. They are still very real and a much apart of us!

Hope some of this helps.

I also have lost someone but have recently tried/failed to move on after nearly 3 years... All I can say is that if this person is worth it, then you'll need the patience to see him through. He may feel as I do and that is I do want to love again but feel extreme guilt that I can be happy with someone else and also at times feel I'm betraying the love that we (the departed one) had. All this can be sorted through time & patience. It may not be easy but that's where you have to weigh up whether he is worth it!

OMG Kry, you explain me soooo well and I just act that way without thinking I'm actually doing anything but justifying things in my own mind/world!!!

So QUESTION??? Would he have contacted her or at this stage does he think that she has to contact him to reconnect, because she ended it? Thought they wanted to be the dominant ones in a relationship???

Hope it makes you feel better...somehow I dont think so! Revenge just leaves a bitter taste in you mouth!!

An old man and woman were married for many years, even though

they hated each other.


When they had a confrontation, screaming and yelling could be

heard deep into the night.


The old man would shout, 'When I die, I will dig my way up and

out of the grave and come back and haunt you for the rest of your life!'

Neighbours feared him. They believed he practiced black magic, because of the

many strange occurrences that took place in their neighbourhood.


The old man liked the fact that he was feared. To everyone's

relief, he died of a heart attack when he was 98.


His wife had a closed casket at the wake. After the burial, she

went straight to the local bar and began to party, as if there was no

tomorrow..


Her neighbours, concerned for her safety, asked, 'Aren't you

afraid that he may indeed be able to dig his way up and out of the grave and

come back to haunt you for the rest of your life?'



The wife put down her drink and said, 'Let him dig. I had him

buried upside down......'



Bloody women they think of everything!!!!