Actually he turned out to almost be a stalker and from that 1 coffee onwards wouldn't stop ringing and texting til I told him I wouldn't go out with him again! I only got 2 replies to which I ignored, the last being an attack on me personally! But it has been said before from others (not stalkers) so I guess there are all types of reasons why men feel the need to say it. Still makes me feel all defensive!
I believe the first move should be made from the man and then it should be mutual and not hard work trying to figure the other person out second guessing their every move. That's where the texts come in and muck things up as they are always misenterpreted. Maybe it's a Libran thing but relationships should be easy for at least 6 months before hitting hurdles!
I got exactly that from my scorp man and concluded that if you are trying to second guess them in the beginning of your relationship then things wont change from there. Can you handle this sort of treatment??? 3 months later I opted for out, nothing ever changed!
Well it makes me want to run for the hills and I get all defensive and feel like saying it's not something I do that easily! I guess that I take it as arrogance which is why it annoys me, I think there is a time and place for the "L" word but only if it is really felt...no matter how long or short a time!
When you say, "don't fall in love with me" And it's normally said in the first couple of dates if not the first!! My immediate reaction is Nooo, that's not going to happen! I wonder why you would even speak of the "L word" so early in the peace...is it because they have had girls falling straight away or do they feel it themselves & use reverse Psychology??
My sweetheart was 14 & I was 13, he was a cancer & I'm Libran. I joined this site when I met up with him some 25 years later, we were rekindling our love...2 1/2 years ago he died and really rocked my world. I'm still recovering & doubt I'll ever really get over him. Now I look for him in every man I meet...
It's all too laid back and casual after 5 whole months....sorry Denny but I dont think you ROCK her world and shedoesn't seem to have any respect for you! She calls you on a wim because she has nothing better to do!!! AND you're suppose to drop everything for her...then you dont get anything else?????? Seriously.... Have you any respect for yourself???
Hmmmm doesn't sound good in my books, as a Librian woman if I like someone I'd certainly let them know that I'm interested and if I am playing a little hard to get it's because I want to make sure they are interested in more than just a fling. I find it hard ignoring a even total stangers advances as I always put myself in their shoes and think that they had the courage to ask so at least I can tell them that I'm not interested. Mostly this is done by making excuses to why I'm just too busy to go out with them!!! Cant just say "sorry your not my type" because I'm thinking that'll hurt their feelings or they will think I think too much of myself. Anyway that's me...
You've done as much as you can, as you already have acknowledged. Don't stalk Denny, you're way to good for that. Hardest thing is it really is her lose as we all here know but there will be something just around the corner for you...why dont you try conversing with a few of the ladies here onsite...alot seem really keen on you!
Firstly I'm older and I have been married for years with 3 grown children, he's younger and has had none of the life experiences that i have had.(ie: Money, career family travel) So naturally I've experienced alot of pain which has me reserved and trying to stop myself from going through anything more unnecesarily. In the beginning he chased and it felt like a good idea at the time (I wasnt looking for anything more) but there was always the thought that I could fall for him easily...feelings start creeping in there and what you want in the beginning turns...I just dont want to be hurt any more and he backs away sooo easily (no contact for days even weeks) and doesnt want to talk or no how..As the older one maybe I should take the lead but also have the conflict within myself of making a fool of myself!
I miss him, I miss him alot. It's not just sex but that's why he scares me, he wants to hear the three letter word but it's way too soon and to me that's when I have lost control. He's already doing my head in now! My heart wants to take a chance but my head (which is always right) says get out! He'll always run Hot & Cold won't he?
Just like me you must be analysing every conversation/text which is probably more frustrating than anything!!! To be honest I've come to the conclusion that you cant have a relationship with only one person in it and the ignorance drives me MAD!! Time for me to get out...and if he happens to pop in at some stage I might just tell him!! Oh and if I meet another Scorpian man I'm running for the hills!!! As a librian we need things to be on a par with one another.
I was bothered by it at first but found that most men my age either were unavailable/detached or didnt take care of themselves as I do, so I wasn't interested. The only available men on offer of late are younger. I'm over it now but just want to hear others opinions. I got alsorts of reactions from co-workers but mostly good! Thanks