Posted by pooface222 Posted by frozenintime
How long does it take you in a relationship to know if you want it long term?
Or how long in do you feel like you fall in love?
I’m in a relationship for 3 months. We are like best friends, have no fights or issues. But I feel like the “spark” isn’t there like something is missing? But there’s nothing wrong and he treats me good. I feel guilty for feeling this and trying to give it a fair amount of time.
I care about him and I obviously enjoy his company but... just something isn’t there.
I deeply crave passion in relationships...
STraight Away!
I believe the passion has to be there IMMEDIATELY! The moment you see each other for the first time.
BANG!
You WANT each other!
And its not just sexual, its Emotional too!
Like you've both just been set on fire by just the sight of each other!
And you're both tingling everywhere!
Inside and out!
CHEMISTRY!
So when you start dating, you've got to make sure you dont jump into bed too soon.
Just let the passion deepen. Get to know each other first before kissing.
So when you do kiss its like a fireworks display went off inside both of you.
Take it slow..enjoy each other emotionally so the passion burns before making love.
However..with the guy your with, maybe take a step back, see him a bit less, and see if you miss him.
Then maybe the passion you crave will begin because you're seeing him in a different light.
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This is exactly where people constantly go wrong. This fiery passion and high emotion and equal energy/chemistry a person seeks is not healthy and sustainable for long term. In fact, the honey moon phase as you describe will always eventually wear off no matter what relationship you’re in for survival purposes. There is a reason why people often jump from relationship to relationship these days. They crave only the initial highs of relationships. So this also boils down to maturity and how soon a person accepts this and becomes less la-ti-da. People are falling into the traps of becoming instant gratification oriented.