I always say casually date. I don’t take advantage of anyone.

So... if someone needs assistance or I feel to be nice to them outside of sex I’m wrong? I think that’s pretty selfish. I only end things if I see them getting too close or if when talking I ask if they have any suitors. I don’t want them to miss out on something when there isn’t going to be nothing between us other than what it is.

Oh I don’t like hookers... paying by the hour for a random isn’t really fun.

Now if I got a decent block rate 🤔

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Posted by hellosaggy
I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious
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There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I???) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex.

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

what a fulfilling life you lead

seriously, you wrote: " I date purely out of boredom"

mutables are always seeking out others to fulfill their boredom, because they lack inner resources to not get bored

yes, as you said, take a break from dating for 1 year and try to connect with people you meet organically..... you will be surprised how good it is

you are a successful man, earn good money, and you are spending it to be with total strangers who you are not even interested to talking to after a date or two? how sad is that?

this type of online dating is killing your soul

PS. but the good thing is, you can always brag about it
Edit: PS. Dont flatter yourself too much, these girls text everybody else as well, not only you.... they call everybody else honey and send out multiple texts of good morning and good night but you feel this yourself, thats why you are not really interested and they are not really interested in you

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Don’t tell me what I feel lmao. Some random on the Internet that has never met me lol.

Leave how I feel to me. I said I was bored and I meant it. My soul isn’t drained and maybe that’s your terrible interpretation.

I was merely explaining the life of a dater isn’t easy. There is a lot to balance.... more than being just in a monogamous relationship. It’s not just an easy out or for “fuck boys”. Lots of moving parts.


Idgaf if they are into me or not. Just that we get along and it’s fun. Very few ppl I actually do care if that’s true. Truth is I’m leaving and just like Company when I want it.

I don’t feel to wake up next to someone and take on their baggage. I got my own stuff to deal with and goals to accomplish.

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@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

@Aquanextdoor

sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship

yah. I use date to mean I'm trying to get into her... literally lol... its a non platonic situation.

I'll say I'm courting if I'm trying to be in a relationship *I'm classy*

hanging out or see/meet I just think it means friends.

Duh!!! Its almost christmas!! I bet some of them expect a gift 😂😂 man you keep yourself busy!

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Pffft. A few had nerve to inquire about a gift.

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@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

@Aquanextdoor

sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

I was confused because you keep using the word "date" to me that's when you get to know & take out someone in order to maybe become more serious. You actually see & meet ladies 😎 You don't date since you aren't looking for a relationship

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yah. I use date to mean I'm trying to get into her... literally lol... its a non platonic situation.

I'll say I'm courting if I'm trying to be in a relationship *I'm classy*

hanging out or see/meet I just think it means friends.

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Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.

So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!

You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters

I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.

I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.

I assume you're meeting these women through online dating. Are you specific on your profile that you are looking only for casual? If not then you are setting yourself up for failure.

All these hoes out here and you can't find one on the same page as you? Then you're doing it wrong.

yeah, most of them, I just scroll through my messages.... well....in my profile I say NSA/FWB... but I tend to only reply to the ones I'm interested in, I don't reach out first, so they should have read mine, I only go up there when I get about 10 notifications. I don't really care what they say in their profile, bc they should read mine.

This where you fail. I get it, you're going primarily by physical. But you're not doing it smart. You let the women do the choosing. Already a mistake you should be browsing profiles and picking the ones you like. You are missing out in even better choices because most women don't message first. Then you don't read the profile to screen what it is they are actually looking for. Any woman who states relationship should be immediately eliminated.

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Yeah... I probably should put more effort into it. I put in my headline *please read profile before messaging me* ... so I figure they read it and decide they are willing to be what I want. I go through and like profiles of women I find attractive, I don't read I just scroll through pictures so I know who I liked when I get a message.

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The "Sorry I fucked all your friends, I was just trying to get your attention somehow.. btw, billy's bigger" awards:

Best Sagittarius Male:

@TheSag



Best Sagittarius Female:

@brianafay

I was robbed! *runs sobbing out the auditorium*
*then pauses to look around to find a girl to hit on*

she doesn't make money like that.... she's been texting me all week that it sucks she's sick this week because she needs money for gifts for her nieces and nephews....

I'm feeling like a meal ticket.

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Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.

So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!

You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters

I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.

I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.

I assume you're meeting these women through online dating. Are you specific on your profile that you are looking only for casual? If not then you are setting yourself up for failure.

All these hoes out here and you can't find one on the same page as you? Then you're doing it wrong.

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yeah, most of them, I just scroll through my messages.... well....in my profile I say NSA/FWB and casual... but I tend to only reply to the ones I'm interested in, I don't reach out first, so they should have read mine, I only go up there when I get about 10 notifications. I don't really care what they say in their profile, bc they should read mine.

not to mention... I don't really want a ho .. I can't be friends with hoes...I don't have sex with every girl I date, or assume sex is going to happen on first date.

Posted by AquaNextDoor
Be more selective who you date and why you date them. So most of the above problems will solve themselves. You can't be seriously interested in more than a few girls at a time.

So what do you really want? A serious relationship with mrs right? Then become more selective, become more choosey with your time, money and energy. You sending out the wrong vibes while chasing glitter!

You don't have to date mire than a few times to see if you want to continue the persue or not - you guys know from date 1 if she is a game changer or not. Don't entertain time wasters

I know before the first date if I want to have Sex with her from a purely physical standpoint.... during and after date 1 it confirms it.

I'm not looking for a game changer. I'm looking for a semi-regular friend.

@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a fuck boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night shit, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet shit... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

@Aquanextdoor

sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

Ok Capricorn that told me she's leaving at end of January hits me up (damn saturn return leaving lol)

She's feeling better. This chick asks me if I wanted to go to dinner or something today(Friday the 22nd) because she called out of work to make sure she's good for Saturday.

I replied back, I don't know... I have a couple things I'm juggling, but its not a yes or a no, so go ahead and make your own plans.

You already avoided sex on my birthday, and you told me you have to be "sure" before we do anything, and you told me you are leaving, why would I take you on a dinner date? This is why women get a bad rap.

NO, I can play games too and back burner tf outta you. Now I am feeling really used and disrespected. we can go for coffee, maybe lunch that's like 30 bucks.... I'm not taking you out for dinner and drinks with no end game. maybe a make out session like I'm in f'n high school.

Damn caps.

well what in the actual F'k

so me and this sag girl had a ONS in October. she said I was amazing, I made her sleepy, she asked me if I wanted to sleep over, I said no I'll go (she had two girl roommates and her apartment was hot as hell), and she took my number and gave me hers, she said we had to do it again sometime and that was that. I met the cap and kind of avoided talking since then, plus travel and holidays and because I was trying to date the cap.

her birthday was Dec 3rd... I texted her happy birthday...she replied thanks sexy.

I said you remember mine? she said of course the 14th...

she didn't text me on my birthday.... so I texted her on 15, 18, and yesterday.

wtf. I feel so cheap. I really enjoyed having sex with her ... she hurt my feelings... because she said we could do anal next time for my birthday *sobbing*

I'm a serial dater, It's hard. especially at my age.

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Edit note: I date purely out of boredom, and to have sex. I make it known I'm moving next year, and I don't want anything serious
*******

There are a lot of things that go on... I will explain them a little.

1) not getting attached (the woman). Hardest part.... keeping the other person from getting too attached. You tell them "hey we aren't together" and they call you regularly like they are your partner/gf. hey find your clingy ass some more friends.

2) keeping honesty and communication - some girls don't like you dating other people. one girl texted me 7 times tonight...I'm not responding, so give it a rest. one text said "oh, sorry you must be out with your other THOTs." not cool. you getting clingy (see number 1)... you know you aren't my girl. you don't REALLY want to know what I'm doing, but if you ask I'm going to tell you. and technically you can't get mad, so I don't want to hear shit

3)keeping personal boundaries.... I don't let people come over my place. because...they can randomly pop up. do you have a place? cool let's go there... tired of just your place? I'll priceline a room. and I'll pay for it.unless I'm with you (I wouldn't be dating would I???) or can trust you won't pop the hell up. I don't want you at my place.

4) expenses .... see 3 and 5 below. Holy ish balls, its expensive to date, I easily spend 1500+ a month on dates and hotel rooms....

5)Dinner .... I like nice resturants, so I eat out A LOT especially with the dating. I get what I want and tell them to do it as well. IDGAF, I honestly like charming new women and getting to know them. the hunt I love. I easily spend 150 - 200 dollars a date easy. throw in a room or something... that's damn 300 a date.

6)Memory -...Remembering who's story went with what's her name , lmao everybody becomes babe after a few drinks because names that sound a like I'll start mixing them up. who did I tell what story to already. pet names and inside jokes... ugh.

*Bonus. I put in my contact info, where I met them, nicknames, and rate the sex.

7)Keep track - How many times have we had sex? 0.... oh we good lets just have fun.... 1....hmmm was it ok? have you been annoying me with constant contact, good thing is no point in being uncomfortable anymore I've seen you naked and made you cum, full on flirting...we are out again so I want to see if its good or better than I remember or want to try something non-vanilla... 2 times... hmmmm you are cool, but I don't see a future so I will bow out gracefully. 3 times(I rarely get here)... I really enjoy your company, BUT do I like you better than the others to stop talking to them (THIS IS WHERE I NORMALLY SAY NO LOL)

that's my personal life in a nutshell when I'm single.

I normally don't french kiss someone I'm just having sex with and I don't eat them until I've had sex at least once, but I try to hold out until 3rd time. Most of my sex partners I never take past two times. once I eat you yeah I'll kiss you.

I was out on another date tonight. (side note from: @caramelizedcoffee she was a black girl from Zambia)

anyway.... I told her I would pick her up from her place and we could ride to restaurant together (I'm totally out of places I know I like I can take new girls so I just took her to one of my go to spots like 25 minutes out)

We were talking.. It was a warm day like 60 degrees so I just had a tshirt with a nice jacket some fitted jeans and some motorcycle boots on. I call her let her know I'm outside, walk her to the car open her door etc. gentleman stuff.

we talk mainly I ask her questions and return some quips back she's laughing having a good time etc. get a little drunk and flirty she tells me she's never dated a guy with muscles and abs and stuff. She was shocked I was 34, and I told her well no family, wife, kids, etc. I just work and work out.

She asked me if I was a gigolo and I had to laugh and said it depended if she was planning on paying for dinner. she laughed... but I was kinda serious...


Anywho... What type of bodies do ya'll prefer. I mean I work out for me. but I want you to eye bang me too, so if the 'Dad bod' is truly in, then I'll just go eat stuff I enjoy more often because trying to stay lean with abs is a PITA.

Me as a guy.... I like all different kinds of body types. most of my ex's have been athletic/bikini type, but I like skinny, average, and slightly thick girls too.

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Posted by hellosaggy
I was told by a few sex turns them off after dealing with customers all the time.

I dunno, but after working as a call girl, kinky/BDSM/fetish sex turns me off. Thank god my new boyfriend is vanilla af.
And one of my coworkers at the cabaret turned lesbian after dancing. Some people aren’t cut out to distinguish slimeballs from decent men. And I’ll admit I still don’t trust men either. I know all y’all are dogs in your own respects. I just rest my mind knowing I will always have fall back options if things don’t work out with whoever I date.

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Yea... it takes me time and a little cohershion to become monogamous.

Sag lured me in with a fake open relationship then being so domesticated and sexual I would have been crazy to not be with her

Scorpio, I don’t even know how the hell it happened. She one day just told me I was hers and I said ok lol.

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Posted by hellosaggy
I was told by a few sex turns them off after dealing with customers all the time.

I dunno, but after working as a call girl, kinky/BDSM/fetish sex turns me off. Thank god my new boyfriend is vanilla af.
And one of my coworkers at the cabaret turned lesbian after dancing. Some people aren’t cut out to distinguish slimeballs from decent men. And I’ll admit I still don’t trust men either. I know all y’all are dogs in your own respects. I just rest my mind knowing I will always have fall back options if things don’t work out with whoever I date.

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Once I love you I’m a loyal dog 🐕 lol

I eat healthy,eat lots of fruit. And try to avoid alcohol before a bj to completion. I also won’t let her finish if I haven’t came in a day or the amount might be too much to handle unless I know she loves swallowing... there are women who love it!

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Posted by Ravishing
I never understood this. Women who are straight and don't like giving blow jobs. Who doesn't want a hard cock in their mouths?

Same for men. If you're a straight man, how on earth don't you like licking and satisfying a vagina with your mouth?

But meh. I over-think things.

What I don't understand is how some woman will suck dick but refuse to swallow. It's like....why do all the work without any of the payoff??

If it's that time of the month, I'll go a few times so he's happy. It might seem stupid, but if it's like the third time for the evening, I'll spit it out because i don't know if too much is bad for you. So I'm like yep, 2 shots is enough today!

Can't believe I'm having this conversation with strangers....

Anything more than 1x per day makes you a bj super hero. You win the thread.

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Yeah... tell me about it... other than special occasions, I’ve only had one woman make it her mission to blow me as many times as she could in a day. She got 5 out of me and I tapped out 🙆🏾‍♂️🙆🏾‍♂️🙆🏾‍♂️