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Posted by MadTwins80

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by MadTwins80

Posted by sweethearts
Curious to know.. if a relationship is bad and you know it but won’t admit defeat, would you sabotage it so the other party has to be the one to end it for you? ie: like cheat on them or purposely became argumentative or difficult, forcing their hand??

I don't think I'd go as far as cheating on them but the other stuff yes I have done that
Also like texting or online if I am not really wanting to continue talking with someone I might do or say something to make them not want to talk to me anymore and hopefully they'll block me lol
I think that stems from not wanting to close doors completely myself. Like geminis tend to want to keep all options open , even if it's an illusion. I try to be more decisive now in life though - something I've learned recently

What sign are you?

Libra, so I see similar traits. That’s why so curious 😉

Oh , you're even worse than us at that sort of thing 😅

Lmao 😂 I’ll admit defeat if whatever it is, is affecting my well-being. If it’s causing personally harm emotionally or mentally I’m happy to throw in the towel. Done it numerous times.

but like if you have problems in a relationship don't you tend to be a bit cold or neutral or kind of dismissive and hope the person changes or goes away? I dont see you as a very upfront and direct sign who's keen on having confrontation. That's not a criticism by the way. I actually really like libra's calming vibe

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I would personally do this but not as you are saying, if I’m in this mode... I’m on the scales weighing back and forth trying to make a decision. I need to be almost 100% sure my next step I won’t regret because once I’ve made it... I’m sticking to it!!

I’ll put you on neutral mode so you don’t/can’t influence my final decision.

Posted by MadTwins80

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Posted by sweethearts
Curious to know.. if a relationship is bad and you know it but won’t admit defeat, would you sabotage it so the other party has to be the one to end it for you? ie: like cheat on them or purposely became argumentative or difficult, forcing their hand??

I don't think I'd go as far as cheating on them but the other stuff yes I have done that
Also like texting or online if I am not really wanting to continue talking with someone I might do or say something to make them not want to talk to me anymore and hopefully they'll block me lol
I think that stems from not wanting to close doors completely myself. Like geminis tend to want to keep all options open , even if it's an illusion. I try to be more decisive now in life though - something I've learned recently

What sign are you?

Libra, so I see similar traits. That’s why so curious 😉

Oh , you're even worse than us at that sort of thing 😅

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Lmao 😂 I’ll admit defeat if whatever it is, is affecting my well-being. If it’s causing personally harm emotionally or mentally I’m happy to throw in the towel. Done it numerous times.

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Posted by sweethearts
Curious to know.. if a relationship is bad and you know it but won’t admit defeat, would you sabotage it so the other party has to be the one to end it for you? ie: like cheat on them or purposely became argumentative or difficult, forcing their hand??

Oh no......this really, really, really has nothing to do with admitting defeat, which is the sign of someone mature and responsible.

What you just said about that person, it's pure cowardice from their part.

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From what I read here people were saying they would stay in a relationship rather than admit defeat even if they were unhappy.

Posted by MadTwins80

Posted by sweethearts
Curious to know.. if a relationship is bad and you know it but won’t admit defeat, would you sabotage it so the other party has to be the one to end it for you? ie: like cheat on them or purposely became argumentative or difficult, forcing their hand??

I don't think I'd go as far as cheating on them but the other stuff yes I have done that
Also like texting or online if I am not really wanting to continue talking with someone I might do or say something to make them not want to talk to me anymore and hopefully they'll block me lol
I think that stems from not wanting to close doors completely myself. Like geminis tend to want to keep all options open , even if it's an illusion. I try to be more decisive now in life though - something I've learned recently

What sign are you?

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Libra, so I see similar traits. That’s why so curious 😉

Posted by MadTwins80

Posted by sweethearts
Curious to know.. if a relationship is bad and you know it but won’t admit defeat, would you sabotage it so the other party has to be the one to end it for you? ie: like cheat on them or purposely became argumentative or difficult, forcing their hand??

I don't think I'd go as far as cheating on them but the other stuff yes I have done that
Also like texting or online if I am not really wanting to continue talking with someone I might do or say something to make them not want to talk to me anymore and hopefully they'll block me lol
I think that stems from not wanting to close doors completely myself. Like geminis tend to want to keep all options open , even if it's an illusion. I try to be more decisive now in life though - something I've learned recently

What sign are you?

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Libra, so I see similar traits. That’s why so curious 😉

Escapism.. you’re just looking for a way out! Do the hard yards of your nuptials.

Curious to know.. if a relationship is bad and you know it but won’t admit defeat, would you sabotage it so the other party has to be the one to end it for you? ie: like cheat on them or purposely became argumentative or difficult, forcing their hand??

This is where I struggle..

Me before meeting someone, all about me and what I want. Number 1, do whatever makes me happy and even been told by one of my girls that I’m selfish.

Me with a partner, I put them first and do what they want to do. My indecisiveness comes in because I want their input in what we do so I’m on the back burner ie: I love vanilla ice cream, he likes chocolate.. I buy chocolate 🙄

I hate this about myself and with the next relationship I’ll be working hard on making sure that I do me as well.

@boomshakalakaboom

What do you think of libra Pisces paring?

And why am I soo drawn to them?

Posted by MikeNYNYC
Gosh, libras just melt me. They're perfect because they help you balance your entire life; starting with internal emotions and then expanding to everything outward. It's just their nature to subconsciously balance everything out. Also, they're ruled by venus, the planet of love and relationships. So you known if they let you into their life, they really have long term intentions. Buckle in for the lying though, and the cheating. Lying to avoid fights and the cheating because their magic is so
desirable.

I personally don’t agree with the cheating but yes to the little white lies. No if they are major.

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i'm a fan of the taurus/libra connection.

not sure about me being the best partner though....i always think i am the fortunate one in my pairing.

No way Jeane!!! I see your values, open your eyes wider. They are the fortunate ones to have you!!

Me, my partners are fortunate if they have me... is that all the Leo that I have in my chart lol 😝

And all my best buddies are Taurus, 5 of them🙄. I think I’d go well with one but I am Taurus rising so maybe that’s why

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My fiancée is Libra so I might be biased but yeah, she’s by miles the best partner I’ve ever had, and most probably will have!

Took a while for you to come to terms with that Boom

Hey! Cool to see you around

Only about 10 years haha. Karma taught me well after having bashed Libra women for a few years 😆

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Exactly you bashed us and got your just desserts. You have us for life and now have to deal with the consequence always good to see you pop up here when you do x

Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
My fiancée is Libra so I might be biased but yeah, she’s by miles the best partner I’ve ever had, and most probably will have!

Took a while for you to come to terms with that Boom

How exhausting and heartbreaking though... bet you’re feeling it!

I hope you wake up soon, it’s painful just to hear what you’re putting yourself through

Posted by Dreamy88
I'm always well protected in the beginning, but after I get close and comfortable, I get pretty soft compared to the start of it. I've been told a lot that I'm pretty cold, so I try to be more affectionate and attentive, but I suppose it's from how I was raised. I think the first time I hugged my mom outside of being a child was somewhere in my mid 20s, my dad a couple of years after, and it felt weird, but now I'm used to it. That moment also opened doors for me when it came to treating women I was with better, emotionally and physically.

So I learned really late to allow myself to be vulnerable.

That’s the Asian upbringing the coldness. Mind you, coupled with your being Pisces might escalate it! 😂

I’m the same, I have to tell myself to try and be more affectionate and not stiffen when someone comes in for cuddles but the stiffening is an instant reaction. It’s the weirdest thing! It’s always been a pet peeve that my mother can’t hug me without the tension and I have it too, not as bad but it’s still there :/

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

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Somethings missing in your relationship with the Cap. You’re not excited by him like in the beginning and the Scorp has sparked that.

Do you talk to your Cap about your issues at work? Does he understand or try to? You need to open up to him and allow him to support you the way you need and not lean on the Scorp.

You would be better to Maintain your distance from Scorp and don’t allow him to touch you. You should keep a healthy professional distance.

If not you will continue to feed the excitement of the forbidden fruit and risk damaging your relationship permanently!

My Goat knows everything about my work issues, more than anyone else including the Stinger. He has always been understanding and supportive in the way that he could. However, he knows of his limitations in terms of his ability to advise or problem solve with me. Which was why he always encouraged me to reach out to my friends and eventually this Stinger as well. Actually, I was indecisive for a long time before I finally took his suggestion.

Besides the recent, hand kiss and hug, nothing ever happened physically. Also it was in full public view of all our mutual circles, so I knew better and behaved. I was aware enough of that despite the infatuation. I have been maintaining a physical distance in terms of that and did not encourage more. I too was worried about the professional side of things because if this infatuation grows. As a fellow Stinger I know this could only go south, because I would not leave my Goat for him (if it ever came to it). It would also mean I lose all the good will, I have built up with him professionally. That would cost me greatly. In that way, I am far too ambitious career wise to watch my work go up in flames.

Well hey, just answering your questions @sweethearts helped me find some levelling ground of sanity back.

Maybe because my Goat has been distant as of late. He has a lot of earth in his chart, Goat and Bull. His bouts of passion does not flare up often but when it does, it always takes my breathe away and leaves me speechless. However those occasion are very far and few in between. He has also been a bit more needy as of late, and hampering my independence in attempts to perhaps control me. If I reply to a message of his a few minutes later than he had wanted, he would blow up my phone with missed calls and messages. He even tried to inflict a curfew on me, saying that it was because he was worried about my well being and safety. If he had it his way I would be at home always before midnight, preferably before 11 pm with dinner ready for him. I told him that was not happening, but that I was willing to consistently update him (as is possible) during my evenings out be it with friends or networking dinners.

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Do you think that your man is intuitively picking up on your vibes with the Scorp? And this is why he is acting this way?

Not sure of your routine and why you’d be out till after 12.00 but perhaps you could/should spend some quality time together. Find some of that excitement that was there in the beginning, 2-3 years into a relationship we start to take one another for granted and put other things ahead of our partners when this is the exact time we should be making sure our love is still rekindling.

Somethings missing in your relationship with the Cap. You’re not excited by him like in the beginning and the Scorp has sparked that.

Do you talk to your Cap about your issues at work? Does he understand or try to? You need to open up to him and allow him to support you the way you need and not lean on the Scorp.

You would be better to Maintain your distance from Scorp and don’t allow him to touch you. You should keep a healthy professional distance.

If not you will continue to feed the excitement of the forbidden fruit and risk damaging your relationship permanently!

You are an old person to a teenager and probably are just as annoying!

You do realise you are whinging like what you say an old person does?

I would’ve rather not go through that at the time. I asked him to leave after a discussion one night where it dawned on me that he wasn’t the supportive partner I needed. The woman scorned certainly came out that’s why I let his workmates know what he did. So I wasn’t mature at the time. It’s been something like 8 years and I realised a while back that he was there for a reason. He taught me a valuable lesson

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Posted by sweetheartswent for testing straight away to make sure I didn’t get anything.

I’m homophobic now, if a guy shows any signs of being interested in another guy, I’m out! Only interested in full heterosexuals.

This is by far the most interesting post I read today. If I may, did the gender of the person your spouse slept with affect in any way your decision to get tested immediately?

No, I would’ve regardless. The night I found out he cheated, we worked out it was a man not a woman within a couple glasses of wine 🙄 I was talking through the text with my sister in law. She put two and two together, I was too emotional.

If you’re comfortable with sharing which was the most obvious telling sign it was a man and not a woman? What’s your sister in law’s sign? You’re lucky to have her. Did she have her doubts about his sexuality? Did she know anything? I am sorry you had to go through something this unusual. A gay (Arab) told me he knew he was into guys when he was 12/13 but that he did have a gf at some point and even had sex with her but he wasn’t feeling it he said. Did your partner and you have an active sex life? If this is too personal you don’t have to answer

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Tbh, it doesn’t affect me at all so don’t have any problems with talking about it. And yes we had a great sex like that’s why if it was a women I felt slighted.

Long story short. He had his phone synced to my computer and when I did the same I ended up with all his texts in date order. So my phone read 200+ texts unread which baffled me for weeks! One night I found them as I scrolled down. This one text caught my attention, he had organised to meet with a hooker!!! I rung my cancer sister in law crying and read the text to her. She was consoling me for about half an hour, then she asked me to read the full text again. It said size 8, 36 DD trans and then their discussion on price and where to meet. The actually text itself went over my head, all I saw was he was hooking up with a prostitute. He wanted anal sex which I wouldn’t do and he also wanted his arse poked lol so I’m not sure which way he went.

Funnily enough I’ve heard he’s married now.. to a woman 🙄 maybe he was just curious and he explored the possibility and worked out it wasn’t for him 🤷‍♀️