SassyKiwi

I have so much masculine fixed energy with a scorpio rising so I look all tiny and vulnerable but can put on a tough act. I feel I can protect myself but it just feels less draining to have nice big man do the job for you while you just focus on looking cute instead of constantly alert.

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AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE. I dealt with a Taurus sun, Aries venus before. He was exactly the same. Except he did make it clear he was not looking to get serious anytime soon until like his late 30s (if even that) and we were only in college then. My refined cap venus ain’t got time for butter like that. If you want someone serious, avoid Gemini and Aries placements.

Edit - avoid mutable placements in general. Fixed and cardinals are better (except Aries and Cancers).

i almost liked until you said aries and cancers

man just stfu

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Lol yeah most people are ok with the hate towards other signs until they see their own xD Did you not participate in the why do cancer men suck thread?

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I think both Aries and Cancers energies are trash so them being with each other is like perfect and like a form of containment from the rest of society.

i think you're trash. bye.

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Thx for taking my post personal and proving my point. I despise those energies in men, don’t know enough women with those energies to determine how they are.

Omg. You all don’t know how bad social anxiety I had during my early years of college. I don’t remember if it was an entire year or an entire semester where I strictly took all online classes. I would wake up whenever, sleep whenever, do whatever. Good times.

Now I’m way less socially intolerant and am actually upset I’ll be missing all these nice parties that were supposed to take place these following week. I can’t work from home but wish I could. I love sleep. I wish I didn’t because it’s such a waste of time but my body apparently needs more than the average. So I’d like being able to sleep in. I’d also go walk or run around my neighborhood more because I haven’t had time to do that in sometime. There’s so much to do and so little time idk how people get bored.

I think both Aries and Cancers energies are trash so them being with each other is like perfect and like a form of containment from the rest of society.

AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE. I dealt with a Taurus sun, Aries venus before. He was exactly the same. Except he did make it clear he was not looking to get serious anytime soon until like his late 30s (if even that) and we were only in college then. My refined cap venus ain’t got time for butter like that. If you want someone serious, avoid Gemini and Aries placements.

Edit - avoid mutable placements in general. Fixed and cardinals are better (except Aries and Cancers).

Ok clearly something is really wrong with Scorpio men yet yall keep romanticizing them on here

How much older is he than you? And why would they think he’s after you because of money? Is he broke or something?

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That, and more in ways.

For instance, take DJ. He said he was rich and owned tons of real estate. He said he was a model. He said he only dated top tier. You name it, he boasted it. Turns out he worked at a cell phone booth kiosk, dad was a janitor, and he lived in the basement of his parents house, etc...

There's a few others that I know who have done similar type of "announcements", but really were the polar opposite of what they showed to the world. DJ was probably the most extreme version though.

It's like they can't live with just being an average everyday person, they gotta be that top 1% . If you understand what I am saying?

What?! WAS DJ A TOTAL CATFISH? IS THIS REALLY TRUE?

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Taurean moons come off very mellow and calm. They are definitely more down to earth and rational than pisces mooners. I highly suggest people to avoid pisces moon men. You will regret it. Just think about how annoying kittens is but coming across it in real life? *SHUDDERS*

Except, kitten is a flaming troll! 🙄

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You severely underestimate the effort, dedication and drive it requires to be a consistent diehard troll.
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/moon-signs/why-do-people-hate-pisces-moon--13065315/

That’s why other countries consistently and rightfully laugh at us

Taurean moons come off very mellow and calm. They are definitely more down to earth and rational than pisces mooners. I highly suggest people to avoid pisces moon men. You will regret it. Just think about how annoying kittens is but coming across it in real life? *SHUDDERS*

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How could he lose 100K in 3-5 years, but be debt free and also maintain a joint account while you were seemingly happy with his contribution? He must be earning a lot, then.

If you want to save for the future, you need two joint accounts, not one. One for paying bills and meals. Another one for savings, and the best way to get a return from it in years to come, is by buying stock in good and very good companies. Google apple/alphabet/amazon share price. They are now in free downfall due to coronavirus, from a huge peak a few months ago, so you may want to wait a few weeks/months to stabilize before buying. You need to learn by reading about the stock market, and fast!

What he was doing was not investing, but gambling. This is an addiction, and you need to be able to keep track of it, since he may get into debt in the future.

Previous "lying" is the least of your worries now. All gambles are in denial. Please do not use your energy screaming about it. Of course he "earned less", if you consider the loss he was making!!!! You should have behaved like an adult and taken your part of responsibility for filling in tax forms every f-king year, as a minimum.

Now you've lost your innocence...it's not too late to learn and take a firm stance, if you want to save your marriage and your finances.

He pays for our home mortgage, pays the bills, I pay for other household stuff. Then we put money in the joint account. I don’t earn as much as him. I believe he lies he earns less so that he doesn’t have to contribute more (maybe because he thinks it’s unfair as I am not earning as much as he does) and also so that he can satisfy his trading addiction.

His Earnings=salary+stock trading balance. If his stock balance is negative, he DOES earn less. You should ask him "how much is your salary?" instead. If what he says does not much the payslip, then you could claim he lied!

By the way, he is not obliged to contribute more than you to a common savings account. If he is paying the mortgage on his own and the bills, is the house on his name or both of you? Otherwise it looks like he is contributing A LOT more than you. You are far too entitled!

I have NEVER even asked him to contribute more to the joint account. This is his own guilt. I only ask him to save more for the long term and especially when we are wanting to start a family. He can keep those savings in his individual account. I have no issues with that, but don’t blow it away like this on trading and then lie and hide it. In fact it’s always him advising me about my finances but he doesn’t like me advising him coz he feels he doesn’t need any advise.

You defined his investments as blowing off money
Are you guys equal in social economic
Maybe he came from rich family n this is what they do. While u are more conservative

The irony is - I am the one who belongs to a very affluent family. Even though my father is rich I always saw him saving for the long term and investing wisely. He is a hardcore family man and wanted to save for the kids, for retirement, for his wife. He always said “only a fool parts with his money”

My husband comes from an extremely humble background, hence it surprises me he can make sure much in losses and be ok about it because even I can’t do that even though I come from a rich family.

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I have a similar background, I get it but look, I think you shouldn’t worry about this. After all he made it this far in becoming financially successful without your help. He knows what he’s doing. Have faith in him even after his stupid losses and trust that once kids come into the picture he will naturally worry about their expenses and future investments. Trust that if he hasn’t personally financially neglected you, he won’t with his child. Men sometimes need time for an actual other human being to come into existence before they realize they need to change certain things in their ways like gambling less money.

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The only time I would lie about my finances would be if I didnt trust the person I was lying to.

I would give numerous opportunities for them to show me they are trustworthy and could contribute and comprehend.

If that became unproductive, I would just remove them from that conversation all together.

I dont think he trusts you.
You have been removed from the discussion because it is probably exhausting for him.

Signed,
Scorpio Sun
Cardinal Moon (Aries)
Libra Venus

The issue isn’t that he doesn’t trust me. The issue is he doesn’t like me telling him what to do, also I still fail to understand why he lied the first time about his salary. Everything was perfect but he ruined it with that lies and since then these trust issues started on my end. If I just don’t react and let him keep doing what he wants then there will be no problem.

Then if you know the issue, why are you here?

If joint family bills are being paid and he isnt doing anything illegal or jeopardizing your credit, it really is none of your business.

You have way too much unhealthy interest in his income. I dont quite understand why. Well, I do, just look at your placements....but it is your issue, not his.

You are waving bait in front of us to tailor answers from us. "compulsive liar" and "I wont have kids with him" is to gain sympathy.

At the end of the day, it is still none of your business.

Phew. Just when I thought I was the only one who thought the same. Its not a popular opinion but.... It is somehow the reality. I do agree that her hubby thinks it's none of her business so long as he has done his share of responsibilities.

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I agree with these two ladies. Sometimes it’s best to not be too nosy in the other’s finances as long as all other financial priories and responsibilities have been met. Every relationship has different dynamics, not everyone is lucky to have total financial transparency with each other. Yes that’s ideal but so is never ending up with a cheater. We can’t all have it all.

I also agree with you not involving your parents. It could make him have more resentment towards you. Give him space and time to come back to you and see what he says and guide things in a way to encourage him to talk to you about how he thinks you two should move forward from all this reasonably.

Omg I adore harp music and Irish instrumentals. I realized I needed a harpist at my wedding months after I got married 😔

Posted by 2Moon
Christian mingle treetrunking sucks!

I received a message but I cant even reply to my message, it keeps asking for my credit card number, the free version of the website is so limited it's a joke.

If you too broke for christianmingle I think that’s a sign

I can’t believe I read the entire thing only to find out it’s 3 years old

Who da f is @MikeNYNYC

Posted by Nadiakalidescope
I can't see Aqua being that tactical. I mean I know you all are air there's something more to Aqua then pretending and being tactical. My two cents.

Aquas can be tactical and calculating but not in the same sense as Scorpios. Completely different motives for Aquas. For us it might be to conserve our space and sanity whereas for Scorps it’s about plotting their next move. Aquas get a bad rep for being distant often for a reason. Just because we are often distant does not mean we don’t know what is exactly going on. We just pick and choose when to partake in something carefully in comparison to like a Libra or Gemini who might be more spontaneously down for whatever.

The first one should be worse because the second one would just mean you got abandoned by a looney cookiemonster

I’m curious about how other Aquas see this but I know I do if circumstances require. However I hate to do it because I generally like being direct unless I sense some kind of petty/irrational conflict can arise. Then the issue with when conflicts arise is my avoidant behavior and also that, “cookiemonster I honestly don’t have the time for your butter so I will do whatever it takes to get you off my back even if it requires pretending to be oblivious.”