Posted by _Dazed
@iamnotbot Your expertise is needed.

Not interested in hearing from him! Need more credible feedback!

Are they true?

They say men want to be needed, they want to rescue their SO and feel that they are needed.

In contrast, I always hear they love confidence in a woman spoken from their own lips.

So which is it really?

In what ways do you want to feel needed? What sort of vulnerability does a woman Possess to you that makes you want to rescue her?

Go for gold, it’s a meeting and you have mutual friends. Have you asked anyone about him?

Our birthdays are every month from July, so youngest 4th child is Cancer, no 1 oldest is Leo, no 2 is Virgo, I’m 3 a libra and mother is Scorp.

I get on with all of them but they are all brothers, mum and I clash at times but not a lot. The Leo and Virgo clash but it’s because the Leo is jealous of him.

Least, Virgo’s and Capricorn, I just don’t find them stimulating conversationalists, the ones I’ve met anyway.

Most, Pisces and Scorpio’s

What’s he done now? I haven’t put news on this morning.

From my experience they initiate when they are ready. If you’re impatient and expect them to be messaging you all the time and jump the gun they don’t have to chase you. You need to tone it down, don’t message him and wait for him to start chasing you.

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What happened before you didn't have contact anymore, and what did you tell him after 6 weeks?
would love to know since I might be in a similar situation x

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Sooo slow to act on everything. Doesn’t open up a great deal about past present and future, could be just mine but very guarded.

At first, I was in a spin because I like everything sorted and out in the open. I want to know everything yesterday, but I’m a control freak and right now I’m enjoying being more relaxed. We had no contact for about 6 weeks and I thought he wouldn’t be back... plus, I have a few things on my agenda and need to get it all sorted.

Of course, I could possibly be just mirroring him 😉 and he’s not on the hook yet.

This guy is the real deal and would only entertain a relationship. We haven’t met yet and had been chatting for a couple months. He has 3 kids 50/50 and works 3 alternate shifts, week by week. So a really busy life and hard worker. I pushed to meet and said he was giving off mixed signals. So, he thought about it for 30 minutes and came back and said, let’s leave it here because he doesn’t want to give me mixed signals in a way I was relieved, because I was feeling way too involved and I was only focusing on messaging him. This new world is making people/me feel desperate and lonely.

The 6 weeks, was good therapy. I got back to me but still pined the connection. I went away on a girls trip and woke to the sound of his text... I have a special text sound for him 😀 (tweet) I had drunk texted him the night before, just saying I missed him.

He’s been messaging me since. I’m not so clingy or obsessive anymore. I really feel this guy is worth waiting for, in his time. I’m also very social, so my life isn’t on hold... and if we do get together, I know intuitively there will be no going back. So I’m going to keep enjoying my world. I also live right in the city and he’s in the suburbs 30-40 minutes away.

Long story short, there are some out there that Jump full on into sex and then decide whether they want anything more... I think, this one wants to decide first and then move forward if he feels he wants to pursue. I get the feeling his marriage may have ended in infidelity but Pisces hasn’t opened up about that and I wouldn’t push it.

You could always ask what happened when you both are in a serious mood/conversation. Pisces usually dont mind when people ask but it'll be up to us Pisces if we want to tell you or not. If we dont, we'll tell you tho. From what lil I read here, yeah.. something happened cause most Pisces, when they feel a connection, they fairly quick to jump in the sack. Cause that too is a connection. The ultimate connection tbh. Thats usually how we show the connection we want with you. We're freaks, we love sex, sorry 🤷‍♀️ and when that isnt given, its either due to past experiences or the connection isnt there (yet).

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Sooo, I’m finally going to meet my Pisces this week. Still haven’t got the details but I’m excited and a little nervous 😬

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Instant attraction, Yes Leo Mars but I know better to keep away from them!

Much prefer someone more humble.

you didn't read my post or question, never asked if you were into LEO men.

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Sorry, don’t understand your question then

As long as neither are entertaining romantic feelings unrequited love I don’t see a problem. We all need someone we can release to and you’re both continuing on with your own lives. Penpals are exactly where it’s at.

Instant attraction, Yes Leo Mars but I know better to keep away from them!

Much prefer someone more humble.

Not true for me, I want acts of service and quality time.

Libra sun
Taurus asc
Leo moon

If it’s an arranged marriage then do you have a choice whether you marry or not? I thought you didn’t. Does his parents know that he is seeing someone else? What are your ages?

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You have a lot in common?
How many women have you impregnated recently...?

Why was that comment necessary for you? I’m obviously just trying to get some advice. If you can’t do that for me - why not just put your time to better use?

So you only consider it advice if its what you want to hear. Predictable.

To answer your question, yes your a bit crazy.

You reach out to him on a sm platform and he responded with casual conversation. Now your one side obsession has caused you to ask internet strangers to confirm your hopes that he's your soul mate.
But dude wake up and smell the reality.

He had half a decade + to make an effort to know you past an acquaintance … for a friendship even. He didn't.

He has a family.

Up to you if you want to waste your time pinning after someone who you think ghosted you when the reality is he entertained a casual online conversation. Thats all.

Saying he 'spiraled his life' just because you feel you were the better choice over his baby mamma is a bit arrogant. He didn't choose you. Get. Over. It.

Wowowowoowow reading that message and laughing at how YOU could ever call someone else crazy or arrogant......

when I said we were talking for 2 months... I obviously meant seeing each other???? The fact you got from my message that I didn’t even get passed a social media conversation is hilarious! I literally said we have so much in common (I wouldn’t know much through social media) And, we hangout with the same friends lmao

I didn’t even say anything about his baby mom.... so how you got the impression that I think I’m the better choice is insane to me.... I literally am trying to figure out why I FEEL the way I do. Nothing to do with how he feels about me, nothing about his baby mom, nothing about his family... etc.

So, if my message is what someone like yourself who I should add... seems to be VERY involved in the internet world considers “crazy” maybe I should be a bit worried lmao. This had a lot less to do with him and his life than it did me trying to figure out how I’m feeling.

Thanks for your opinion though. The internet is lucky to have you !

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I hear what you are asking to know but I also read everything as ladyNeptune said. Maybe it’s the way you’ve chosen to tell your story, you do come off as, you wanting this man and also the jilted love interest.

I would think, he didn’t just get some random girl pregnant. He was seeing her the whole time he was talking to you. Let it go and let him be, he now has a family so no point entertaining any ideas at all.

Libra Venus
Leo Mars

Within an hour I’d know. Whether I act on that is a different story. ONS yes but if I feel you are something more then I’ll expect a few dates and to get to know you first. So that depends on how much you open up and share.

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I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .

I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.

Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.

You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .

The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.

Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!

No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!

At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!

I am interested to know what you meant by sounds like she’s opening the door for me ? Because she was in tears pleading with me last night .

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Giving you reason to leave... sometimes we sabotage relationships ourselves because we are scared too.

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I completely agree I do need to sort my self out I am in a big predicament at the moment with my self I just don’t see and even my mum has said I can’t see you and her working my current partner because she saying there’s more to it than her not letting the girls go there my mum said it’s because she doesn’t want them there etc I am in a position to sort my life out right now but I am struggling and it’s really hard I don’t know what first steps I should take well I do but I’m scared to .

I find that facing your fears head on is the best therapy, from there it only gets better.

Concentrate on your work and your children, sounds like one of them is confused and going to need your guidance.

You are correct my oldest The 11year old is very confused at this moment in time she needs me as do my other children I do love my current partner (Gem) this is why it’s so hard I also have feelings there for my ex still when I chat to her we are always having a laugh and joking around etc it comes naturally. This is why it’s confusing me as well My mum is saying my current partner is lovely but there’s more to why she doesn’t want the kids at her house and Also cannot see it working out in the long run and my mums partner is saying look at how different they are as people where is my ex partner has always been their for my oldest daughter never had a problem with her living with us when we was together and also even offered to care for her full time because her mother is a waster !! she even puts my own kid down as her own what I mean by this is she will buy my daughter Christmas / birthday presents before even thinking about it Invite her for tea with our children have movie nights for them at a drop of a hat she cares for my oldest daughter a lot and she wouldn’t care if she decided to be lesbian or what ever the hell she wanted to be but she is a little funny at times and never use to make me tea after work when I come home some times I even had to make the kids tea with mine on the evening after work when she use to sit at home with the kids all day and use to get a little funny with me going out with my mates to football/soccer on the weekend and she also use to moan a lot at me after work if I didn’t want to go out because she had been stuck in the same 4 walls all day long when that isn't my fault She never had any enthusiasm inside of her no get up and go and never really wanted to pay her way when it come to visiting her family far away Etc however when it came to my daughter she was more than brilliant! My current partner is good with my children however she has been alone for so long that it feels like it’s just all about her and her children I have always put my all into her children no matter what and what I should of been doing was putting it into my children anyway the indications are there too see she’s very clever with her words trying to make me feel like I’m wrong or that she has done no wrong what so ever she can’t accept that my ex is still in contact with my family members but she was apart of our family for 8/9 years and all my partners response to that is how would you like it if the shoe was on the other foot and my ex was around my family etc no I wouldn’t like it no body would however have I done stuff about it yes I have I have spoken to my ex about it and my family to make it easier but sometimes it still happens I cannot control my family’s life neither should I and I cannot control my ex partner either so my hands are tied what can I do nothing .

The relationship your ex has with your family is hers. As long as she isn’t there all the time and when you are there if it makes you uncomfortable. I say that because I have my own relationship with my ex in laws. But, I also have a friendly relationship with my ex’s wife, even if she didn’t like me or the fact that I was apart of their lives at times, there isn’t anything she could do about it and my ex-husband isn’t bothered by it at all.

Nothing you’ve said about your partner has any merit to her being a nice person at all. Wake up! When’s she’s done with you, she’ll burn you financially if you stay the legal distance!

No one is perfect, when we raise children we lose motivation and don’t feel good about ourselves. You guys work, not saying it’s easy but you do have a life outside those walls where we have to recreate ourselves as people, as well as a mother and a wife when we are exhausted. If she doesn’t easily make friends or have a friendship group it’s easy to give up. And, If she knew you were cheating, maybe that’s why she wasn’t cooking for you. Ffs man, I’d do more than that. I’d plot my own revenge and you wouldn’t know what hit you until it did, you and your little slut!! Trust me, you got off lightly there!

At the end of the day, you now know the person your partner is and it’s only a matter of time before you split, sounds like she is making excuses and opening the door for you. So choice is yours, stay and be treated like a door mat, you’ve made your bed, lie in it or leave and slam the door shut in her face!

We sat down last night and have had a chat,
She has told me she is 100% committed to me and my children and she has made a few good points her end.
She is currently struggling with her children at the moment as she is raising them on her own however I try to help when ever I can.
She has told me at this moment in time she cannot committee to my child arrangements hence why she suggested that we keep the kids apart for a little bit until hers start to behave and have that routine back and because she needs to sort her own children out first they are unsettled and out of routine due to her moving house and sorting her child arrangements through court with her ex partner etc .
I have made it clear that my children come first and that they come with me as a package and she has said she’ll never leave them out and completely understood that when we got together, whenever we come to live together it wouldn’t be a problem them staying with us over night every other weekend as that is my arrangements anyway .
So last night I went to hers and soon as she opened the door I just wanted to laugh and she told me so did she but I held it in tho and so did she because we was both still upset I just felt complete love for her soon as I seen her and once we talked about things and straightened them out things got a little heated under the sheets and the connection we had was unreal she told me she thought she was going to loose me and that I was going to break it off with her and I did consider it however once we sat and spoke we both realised that we haven’t really shown each other much respect lately and have been expecting too much of each other so soon in the relationship ! I love this lady because she is fair but we just see things differently at times and get our wires crossed and I do feel she can also be unfair at times but so can I, I am far from perfect and I get a lot of things wrong . I seen my ex also with my children and I do miss them a lot however when speaking with my ex I can’t really look her in the eye anymore the spark I had with her is there one moment and gone the next I am pretty confused myself but I do know I love my partner.

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It’s good that you’re communicating, keep that up and don’t under any circumstances take any crap about your children and those arrangements or her insecurities with your ex visiting your family, she is the mother of your children and not Abusive like her ex so she needs to learn to deal with that.

Stop doing too much for her too, keep it around the 50/50 - 60/40 mark.

When you find your coming to strangers on a forum for so much advice, that is when you should be confronting her and airing out your differences. Good luck moving forward, I hope you are not still confused and I do hope she sees what she has been like and changes her ways.

Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby.. If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit!

The tastiest are the brown ones