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So if fear didn’t exist and you could freely say what you wanted to someone you love would you say it or do you think somethings are better left unsaid ?

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what the freak is going on with my romantic life.
So i'm pretty much confused as hell.
a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.
it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.
i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"
I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”
1. She was either game playing or
2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.
Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?
maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

How has that worked out for you so far??

You’re putting sex ahead of actually getting to know and like someone. And yes I believe I know straight away face to face or within a few conversations online if I’m really interested in a person, so obviously a connection can be there quickly... but is it a lasting connection?

No harm in holding off on the sex, in fact I think it can make it all the more meaningful. Sex for men and sex for woman can change the whole dynamics of a situation and if I’m correct the lady you’re looking for won’t give it up that easily.

so if sex is that impactful, wouldn't that make it something you would want to explore right away? i'm not saying holding off on sex is harmful, but i'm wondering if it is really harmful if you do have sex right away?

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what the freak is going on with my romantic life.
So i'm pretty much confused as hell.
a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.
it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.
i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"
I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”
1. She was either game playing or
2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.
Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?
maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

If that’s what you want, however I don’t think it is or you wouldn’t be here questioning it.

If I slept with every guy that wanted to get with me, I’d be a ho too, wouldn’t care what people think but I care about how I feel afterwards and it comes down to feeling used and not great about yourself which is what I’m picking up from you.

You want someone real, take your time and get to know her. Go on a date or 3 and figure it out before jumping into bed. I don’t believe there are a lot of potential partners that might peek your interests past the looks stage. And most likely they’ll be months apart.

so my question is why can't two adults jump into bed and figure it out there also? I don't understand why sex equals non-relationship material? why are the two mutually exclusive? is sex really that black / white? not sure what you mean by months apart... i can usually tell right away, is that not normal?

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Posted by Dread_Pirate_Phanta
Longest pregnancy ever?

What?

Oh no. Yeah the pregnancy that led us to marriage ended up miscarriage. This is the second pregnancy. I once posted about that here a while ago.

Did he propose marriage because you were pregnant? Shotgun wedding??

No he talked about marriage before I got pregnant. He intentionally impregnate me.

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Life comes at you And it picks you the same as the women. Like another poster said if you want something different you behave like it.mesning don’t go for one night stands

So let's fast forward to more recently, let me ask what am I supposed to do when I am currently in a situation where I am surrounded by people or mutually attracted to people that having a relationship with is just not ideal. either they are married, out of age group, etc

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Posted by twinkletoes
what the freak is going on with my romantic life.
So i'm pretty much confused as hell.
a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.
it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.
i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"
I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

I think the same applies here for woman and men, if you easily jump in bed with someone you are saying you are only looking for hook ups. If you really are interested in a relationship, then take your time to explore the person and decide if you really get on and want to pursue a relationship with them.

That chick, If her response was “who is this?”
1. She was either game playing or
2. She has a few guys on the run and is still game playing

Not the type of person you really want to pursue.

Also, Even if a lady is flirting and trying to seduce you, why are you compromising your wants for a quick fix? This action alone is saying your happy for just hook ups and not serious at all.

I really am assuming she was game playing by her unusual behavior. I, myself, am strange and unusual. I'm not even really complaining. I guess what I'm getting at is I guess I can't seem to find anyone who has common goals or interests that is compatible. I thought about it after I left and when she asked "who is this?" it got me thinking. She really doesn't give a fuck, and probably didn't to begin with.
Again, that's only one example i'm giving right now, because it's one that i was emotionally invested in the least. I feel like the general trend is becoming more common for me though, and I'm not exactly sure how I feel about that. They say taurus tends to hold on too long. maybe i'm just holding on the feeling of holding on for too long?
maybe i should just say "fuck it" and become the man-ho i was destined to become...

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Posted by twinkletoes
what the freak is going on with my romantic life.
So i'm pretty much confused as hell.
a little overall picture: I am most certainly not someone who enjoys entering and leaving relationships rapidly, but for some reason the last few encounters with women have either consisted of one night stands or one night and on with our lives.
it's really getting annoying. i only have one story i'm willing to share right now.
i mean, i go to the trouble of learning someone's name and then *boom* i'm driving across the country the next week. It's not even my fault, I told her straight up what my situation was, and she still somehow showed up in my apartment that night belly dancing with no panties on. of course something was going to happen, but she was at my door every day for the rest of the week. It left me scratching my head thinking "I can't be that great in bed, what the fucks going on here??"
I never gave her my number and after i left early in the morning i felt bad and sent her a text to apologize for leaving without saying anything, but she just asked "who is this?" i wasn't really interested since i was going through a big change in life anyway so i took it as one less thing to worry about. this is just one of many anti-climactic relationships in my life, and so i guess i'm left here wondering why do i only seem to attract people that don't want any serious kind of relationship, when that is exactly what i am looking for? i don't get it, and i thought i'd throw this out there and see if someone sees something that i just simply don't.

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Posted by Dread_Pirate_Phanta
Longest pregnancy ever?

What?

Oh no. Yeah the pregnancy that led us to marriage ended up miscarriage. This is the second pregnancy. I once posted about that here a while ago.

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Posted by SolitariusLupus
Make him wait, he'll start to expose his true intentions. I had an Aries man trying the same shit with me for years, he also pulled out all the stops. He'd pop up every so often and try and convince me he deserved a chance. I got weird vibes from him though.. then he sent me a dick pic I didn't ask for. Blocked!

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Virgo men are masters of oral. OP if a Virgo is giving you the rush he means it. They are usually reserved when they first get to know you. Lucky you.

Exactly what I was thinking. You made a real impression on him. It usually starts out slow and vague. Seems worth investigating if you like him a little...

Ok, I will have to seriously consider his feelings here then.

I’m still wanting what I felt with the Pisces guy and I knew it within a couple of weeks off talking with him. (Maybe I’m still pining for him)

I’m only feeling friends vibes for Virgo.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
As fast as the fire burns, it will burn out just as fast. Don't give in easily and by that I don't mean play games, but make him work for you, if he wants you.

Not sure I want him lol but he’s the one pursuing and making out he’s not that guy and give him a chance.

I just think if he succeeds and gets his way then it’ll be the same like every other guy.

What I want to know is if they talk bullshit to get you and then do the disappearing act? Is it a game for them.. someone clearly tells them, we are after two different things sooooo they’ll chase until they get it and then disappear.

what's that supposed to mean? every other guy.

The last 2 were Pisces, they chased and when I slowed down and started showing interest, they did the disappearing act or were busy. It’s a common theme around here and it hurts tbh.

Trying not to let it effect me but if I’m honest it does make me hesitate more and more each time :/

out of curiousity, were you the initiator or was the other person?

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Virgo men are masters of oral. OP if a Virgo is giving you the rush he means it. They are usually reserved when they first get to know you. Lucky you.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
As fast as the fire burns, it will burn out just as fast. Don't give in easily and by that I don't mean play games, but make him work for you, if he wants you.

Not sure I want him lol but he’s the one pursuing and making out he’s not that guy and give him a chance.

I just think if he succeeds and gets his way then it’ll be the same like every other guy.

What I want to know is if they talk bullshit to get you and then do the disappearing act? Is it a game for them.. someone clearly tells them, we are after two different things sooooo they’ll chase until they get it and then disappear.

what's that supposed to mean? every other guy.

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