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sweethearts
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Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShow
I smell

Libras are the basic white pussies of the zodiac. No spine, no guts, no respect (for self or for others), no shame, shallow and materialistic-af (same goes for moons and dominants). Not much grey matter between the ears either. Impish but stupid. Shit liars and never respect anyone enough to be honest with them.

OP's stuff he's smoking is clearly laced with something it shouldn't contain.

"I Know What The Hell I'm Doing" Libras- A Virgo Perspective
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by thatlibralife
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I think you did a bang up job. Many parts resonated with me. You’re on my fave list now lol...

Was just happy to finally hear ‘honesty’ and ‘libra’ in the same sentence for once 😂

I know right? I think it’s the honesty that gets us in trouble the most.

Haha you might be right there! Too much justice seeking 😂Never met a libra that sugar-coated so much they weren’t actually being honest. That’s something that really winds me up with descriptions of us. That and the ‘shallow’ stuff. People just don’t pay attention, I think libra expects people to be as attentive and maybe they’re not, like they’re not listening so they don’t hear us lol. But that’s fine. I’d rather be underestimated than overestimated. 😁

There’s a tshirt selling that I’ve seen on Facebook that says something like “Underestimate me if you want to”....I’m so tempted to get it it lol...
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Love that! I want one
"I Know What The Hell I'm Doing" Libras- A Virgo Perspective
sweethearts
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Posted by LadyNeptune
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Posted by Arielle83
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When is it not sexual harassment.. when the guy doing it is hot and of interest?? Or when you’re doing it?

Say, you’re walking past a site and someone whistles out, you look up and someone that looks like Channing Tatum or Orlando bloom or whoever you find good looking. Is it not consider harassment, Do you still feel grossed out by the act or is it now somehow acceptable and flattering?

On the other hand, you and your friends see someone out, he’s hot and you’re all gossiping loud enough for him to hear and giggling hoping he’ll look at you and come over. When You see someone you like the looks of, doesn’t matter what time of day or where you’re at, you put your flirt on.

The cat callers probably just think they are paying you a complement, it’s a little uncomfortable but you just ignore and keep walking. Unless someone is openly suggesting sexual gestures in an authoritative position which has never happened to me, I’d just do the above ^^^

It’s not a terrible experience if there’s attraction.

Exactly, my point. If you think the other person is unattractive then it is looked at as harassment???

Most of it should/could be ignored unless it’s continuous and to the point where you actually feel threatened in some way.

The pack mentality happens by both sexes, same but different.

That's bullshit. I was almost raped by a pack of "attractive", drunk frat boys.

It's easier for them to not say or do shit in the first place than it is for us to ignore it.

@Ladyneptune
Most of it should/could be ignored unless it’s continuous and to the point where you actually feel threatened in some way.

Ime ignoring has only angered and invited them to be more forward and brazen. And it escalated to the point where I felt threatened by the energy and insulting language directed at me.
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And this is where you speak out either yourself verbally or to authorities. Just as we teach our children to not accept behaviour from strangers and to tell someone or say STOP we also must do the same. They need to know, it’s not acceptable and they have over stepped boundaries. Only an individual experiencing it can put a stop to it. You need to be assertive sometimes.

I have had men when talking to me, touch me. In the past I had overlooked it and moved away, then I got sick of it and made a decision, if it felt uncomfortable I’d just say. Don’t touch me, I haven’t given you permission to do that. Immediately they would withdraw and NOT bother me again. No scene necessary, just set your boundaries or make a choice to take it further.

There was a movement here a couple years ago when a woman Jill Meagher was raped and killed after leaving a bar after dark. Reports at the time pointing to her walking alone after dark, the way she was dressed etc etc as if it was her fault. Long story short, no it’s not what you are wearing, how you look, where you are. There are creeps out there that pray on others, however, you can take control and decide you won’t put up with it. You make a stand and let them no it’s not acceptable behaviour and you won’t put up with it and it will get reported. I still maintain, ignore the minor but you yourself know if it feels threatening and then you take action.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Dread_Pirate_Phanta
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by sweethearts
When is it not sexual harassment.. when the guy doing it is hot and of interest?? Or when you’re doing it?

Say, you’re walking past a site and someone whistles out, you look up and someone that looks like Channing Tatum or Orlando bloom or whoever you find good looking. Is it not consider harassment, Do you still feel grossed out by the act or is it now somehow acceptable and flattering?

On the other hand, you and your friends see someone out, he’s hot and you’re all gossiping loud enough for him to hear and giggling hoping he’ll look at you and come over. When You see someone you like the looks of, doesn’t matter what time of day or where you’re at, you put your flirt on.

The cat callers probably just think they are paying you a complement, it’s a little uncomfortable but you just ignore and keep walking. Unless someone is openly suggesting sexual gestures in an authoritative position which has never happened to me, I’d just do the above ^^^

It’s not a terrible experience if there’s attraction.

Exactly, my point. If you think the other person is unattractive then it is looked at as harassment???

Most of it should/could be ignored unless it’s continuous and to the point where you actually feel threatened in some way.

The pack mentality happens by both sexes, same but different.

That's bullshit. I was almost raped by a pack of "attractive", drunk frat boys.

It's easier for them to not say or do shit in the first place than it is for us to ignore it.
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@Ladyneptune
Most of it should/could be ignored unless it’s continuous and to the point where you actually feel threatened in some way.
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Arielle83
Posted by sweethearts
When is it not sexual harassment.. when the guy doing it is hot and of interest?? Or when you’re doing it?

Say, you’re walking past a site and someone whistles out, you look up and someone that looks like Channing Tatum or Orlando bloom or whoever you find good looking. Is it not consider harassment, Do you still feel grossed out by the act or is it now somehow acceptable and flattering?

On the other hand, you and your friends see someone out, he’s hot and you’re all gossiping loud enough for him to hear and giggling hoping he’ll look at you and come over. When You see someone you like the looks of, doesn’t matter what time of day or where you’re at, you put your flirt on.

The cat callers probably just think they are paying you a complement, it’s a little uncomfortable but you just ignore and keep walking. Unless someone is openly suggesting sexual gestures in an authoritative position which has never happened to me, I’d just do the above ^^^

It’s not a terrible experience if there’s attraction.
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Exactly, my point. If you think the other person is unattractive then it is looked at as harassment???

Most of it should/could be ignored unless it’s continuous and to the point where you actually feel threatened in some way.

The pack mentality happens by both sexes, same but different.
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
When is it not sexual harassment.. when the guy doing it is hot and of interest?? Or when you’re doing it?

Say, you’re walking past a site and someone whistles out, you look up and someone that looks like Channing Tatum or Orlando bloom or whoever you find good looking. Is it not consider harassment, Do you still feel grossed out by the act or is it now somehow acceptable and flattering?

On the other hand, you and your friends see someone out, he’s hot and you’re all gossiping loud enough for him to hear and giggling hoping he’ll look at you and come over. When You see someone you like the looks of, doesn’t matter what time of day or where you’re at, you put your flirt on.

The cat callers probably just think they are paying you a complement, it’s a little uncomfortable but you just ignore and keep walking. Unless someone is openly suggesting sexual gestures in an authoritative position which has never happened to me, I’d just do the above ^^^
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Late to the party...

How soon is he showing up and do I know him already?
Oracle Readings
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
I’m a libra and Leo Moon, if I’m thinking I’m done I’m done. You’re allowing your indecisive scales to tip you because of what if.... I think you already know that, don’t second guess your instincts.
What do you think of this match ? - Libra Woman & Virgo Man
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Newbies always undergo a test here, if you pass by not letting people walk over you... well you become one of the locals. In saying that, if you sound like you’re full of yourself you’ll get smashed, we are all human and have strengths and weaknesses and also remember we all have moods. Some days you get smashed just because of others moods. Just bite back. And sometimes, it’s just fun to sit eat your popcorn and enjoy the shitfights

Welcome back
Cancer man timeout.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by oncast
Posted by sweethearts
I just find that texting people about important shit is a cop out. People haven’t got the balls to confront people in rl and have a genuine conversation when it’s important because god forbid they have to have an emotional conversation and they don’t like confrontation. It’s a sign of a weak character.

How is disliking confrontation a sign of weak character? I do dislike confrontation. I only engage in it with family or CLOSE friends, if I'm being threatened or putting someone rude in their place. Also, how much energy am I supposed to give her? I'm barely mustering up energy for myself. I also don't even know her to the extent to want to have an emotional conversation with her.

Furthermore, it was either "confront her" in the parking around others, in our building around others, or send her a text. I don't hang out with her outside of work. We also don't talk on the phone, she's called me a couple of times. We text, and it's usually her texting me about trivial things (complaining about coworkers or guys she's into). So, what sense would it make to call her, invite her out to basically to tell her to need space? I didn't want to tell her in the first place, I wanted her to take a hint. However, trying to be reasonable, I took the advice of some commenters and decided to tell her...still not enough.
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You’re the one that called her “friend” and from your story it sounds like she is all up your arse in person. If it’s only over the phone then what the fuck are you on about?? Block or ignore but you come on here insisting this “friend” is all in your face when it sounds much like she is helping you from completely wallowing in your own misery and furthermore hardly a big deal if she fronts up to you once in a while at work. Who’s really the drama Queen here?

And btw confronting something or someone head on will end any confusion of where you stand, not doing so will extend the life of your drama ... just watch, she’ll be back.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
I just find that texting people about important shit is a cop out. People haven’t got the balls to confront people in rl and have a genuine conversation when it’s important because god forbid they have to have an emotional conversation and they don’t like confrontation. It’s a sign of a weak character.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
So you texted her?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
What a tangled mess you’ve weaved for yourself. Everything that is happening is because you did this the wrong way. You crossed over the relationship which has put you in this position instead of ending things first and then working on yourself before moving in with this other woman. Had you taken some time to yourself first you would have more perspective on what is more important and that is your own children. Now you’re fathering someone else’s before your own and sounds like Your jumping into another relationship that isn’t going to work.

All you care about is fixing something that shouldn’t be this broken in such a short time. Good luck, can’t see a happy ending here, way too much drama in the beginning.
Have I lost her ?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by GirlyATL12
Posted by sweethearts
Isn’t this supposedly your FWB that you don’t want a relationship with?

Yes we agreed to be fwb when we first met: so that’s why I’m so shocked that he’s behaving completely different. Opening up, being super romantic, etc. but yes that’s what we are and I have no issue with it.
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You still sound like you are falling in love and wanting it. No shame in acknowledging it.
Final Update: Can I break the silence and earn his forgiveness?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Isn’t this supposedly your FWB that you don’t want a relationship with?
Final Update: Can I break the silence and earn his forgiveness?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Ffs, you need to learn that if you have children with someone else they will be in yours and your families lives forever!! There will be birthdays Christmases weddings holidays and relatives.

If she is that insecure about all that she’s probably not the right person for you. You shouldn’t be hiding it either. Grow some balls! Your family have a right to be in your children’s lives and you should be putting them and their needs ahead of a bit of pussy! How would she react if you dared to have a say about her children and who they spend time with.

Once again grow some balls or she’ll lead you around by them until you do. Have you heard the term blood is thicker than water?
Have I lost her ?
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
After a 20 year marriage I feel I knew the Sag really well and he knew me. How we thought, what we feel and feel like. Our moods and what would bring them on, things we liked or disliked. Even years later, I still understand some of the things he’s going through with his new wife and the way he reacts because it was the same as how he would’ve reacted with me lol now of course the most common thing I hear from my girls are when their dad gets frustrated with them and says, you’re just like your bloody mother 🤣

Your can learn someone’s idiosyncrasy’s fairly well especially if you walk through some solid years with them.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Maybe you should step back and open your eyes, she is helping you get through this breakup. You are now concentrating more on her than being depressed. She might be full on but sounds like she cares for you and with some tweaking with the relationship you may have a really good solid friend here. I mean you’re all upset over this guy so you take time off work, she cares enough to contact you and ask you to hang out? Would you rather just wallow? Of course you would but she cares enough to not let you and one day you might see that and be thankful.
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by MyStarsShine
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Have you been tested? If not, ask for one...

Why are you locked up if “they” claim masks and social distancing works?

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Not sure where she is but in New Zealand and Australia, you have to quarantine for 14 days if you’ve traveled either internationally or in Australia across some of our borders.

Why don’t they test all arrivals to save people from being locked up/down and taking away their precious time and liberty?

It’s a 14 day turnaround when you can pass it so they quarantine the full 14 days and then do a second test. We have very small numbers here in Aus and in New Zealand even lower and want to keep it that way.

and on day 15 or 16 they think you're safe? who thought up the two week rule?

The politicians in charge of each state are advised by the chief medical officers. It’s worked so far, as I said we have very low numbers and mortality rates.

But the cases of the virus are higher now in NZ than they were in May....unless I read that incorrectly?

They have 22 cases from 1 cluster which they haven’t worked out where and how it came about. They are back in lockdown and so far seem to have it under control again for now. Until there is a vaccine, it will be an ongoing thing. Protecting the vulnerable and elderly is priority.

....and then we face a whole new ball game with the vaccine.

Stay safe!
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For sure! There’ll always be something! You too
i'm so bored right now
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by MyStarsShine
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by MyStarsShine
Have you been tested? If not, ask for one...

Why are you locked up if “they” claim masks and social distancing works?

🥴

Not sure where she is but in New Zealand and Australia, you have to quarantine for 14 days if you’ve traveled either internationally or in Australia across some of our borders.

Why don’t they test all arrivals to save people from being locked up/down and taking away their precious time and liberty?

It’s a 14 day turnaround when you can pass it so they quarantine the full 14 days and then do a second test. We have very small numbers here in Aus and in New Zealand even lower and want to keep it that way.

and on day 15 or 16 they think you're safe? who thought up the two week rule?

The politicians in charge of each state are advised by the chief medical officers. It’s worked so far, as I said we have very low numbers and mortality rates.

But the cases of the virus are higher now in NZ than they were in May....unless I read that incorrectly?
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They have 22 cases from 1 cluster which they haven’t worked out where and how it came about. They are back in lockdown and so far seem to have it under control again for now. Until there is a vaccine, it will be an ongoing thing. Protecting the vulnerable and elderly is priority.
i'm so bored right now

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