SassyKiwi

Posted by _Dazed
FYI..

There are asexual individuals that DO have sex.

Ya. They can also supposedly masterbate and I'd love to know to what xD Themselves?

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Getting too used to one's own cobwebbed dick/vagina or being a virgin or very sexually inexperienced is hardly asexual and I feel like a lot of people would confuse those two things on this site

Yeah I totally agree which is why I want to know about the nature of their relationship experiences if they’ve had any.

I spent a few years voluntarily celibate and I felt as close as I could I think to being "asexual" because the idea of having sex with anyone disgusted me in general and I couldn't even picture it in my head, let alone felt the desire to ever go through with it. I was not asexual. Then I eventually met someone I was actually attracted to and I was turned into a nympho after the celibacy. I think so many of these people just get used to the status quo, forget what it feels like to be touched or kissed after so long. Or maybe they never even did in the first place.

Meanwhile I had a roommate briefly who was a 25 year old virgin, who claimed he was "asexual" but had no problem telling me multiple times he would have sex with me if I wanted to. Riiiiight 🙄🙄🙄 Asexual = involuntarily celibate I guess lol

You were/maybe still are demisexual. You don’t experience sexual attraction until an emotional connection is formed. And yeah your old roommate just needed to get laid.

This guy I didn't have an emotional attachment to though lol, and I had even been attracted to other men I dated but I didn't find them treetrunkable. I think this was based on CHEMISTRY which doesn't necessarily always have to do with physical attraction, imo

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I totally forgot good ol' chemistry existed, esp after coming across all these new terminology. And of course there's those who you can click well with on a mental or spritual level that can be a catalyst for attraction. Ok yeah, this generation for having to slap a label to everything is overdone.

Posted by blvckphvse
Just curious after reading all of this.. What qualifies as asexual then? :/

If someone is a virgin, can it not be by choice because they are asexual?
Can someone who once was sexually active not become asexual?
Are there rules to this? Lol, I really do not know.. I always thought an asexual person was someone who had no desire for sex or that they lacked sexual feelings.. Is it only considered asexual if they always felt this way or could someone develop such a thing later in life and still identify as asexual? Because if not every asexual person would be a virgin..

First of all I think it’s all very fluid. People’s sexuality can change with self-discovery and experience. It’s very new that they’ve began creating terms like pansexual, demisexual, sapiosexual, skiliosexual, etc. The point of these terms is to show that we are all sexually aroused differently and sometimes very specifically.

Nothing is fixed but apparently demisexual falls under the asexual spectrum. So supposedly the average heterosexual male let’s say, would get turned on to a Playboy magazine. An asexual male would not be aroused by it. However maybe at age 30 they meet this woman whom he develops an emotional connection with and then he realizes he started feeling sexually attracted to her. This would make him a demisexual as he required emotional connection to develop a sexual attraction.

Asexuals can be nonvirgins. You can do the act of sex with someone without having any attraction towards them. Asexuals can masterbate supposedly, but that's why I created the thread. To better understand how asexuals work.

Everyone starts off as a virgin. Like the other day CC mentioned how her heart started pacing at the sight of a random attractive male. I'm demisexual, no attractive person on Earth would be able to phase me like that. I'd need to have an emotional connection with a person before they could ever arouse me like that.

You can be an asexual virgin if you voluntarily never want to experience the act of sex because 1. You're not curious enough to. 2. You never had the urge to.

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Makes sense, you’re an Aquarius 😂 So what are the closest things to a relationship you’ve experienced?

Seven year long situationship with a Gemini that officially never was a relationship but had a lot of traits of a relationships in it's interactions.

Seven years and nothing sexual at all? Not even a kiss? 😱 Was it a guy or a girl?

Women, but she is bisexual which can made things harder I guess.
She kissed me once and it probably shocked and suprised her as much as me because we only ran into each other by accident when I wanted to return a book I lent from her to her parents house.

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And how did you response to that kiss? Just brushed it off and never spoke about it?

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Getting too used to one's own cobwebbed dick/vagina or being a virgin or very sexually inexperienced is hardly asexual and I feel like a lot of people would confuse those two things on this site

Yeah I totally agree which is why I want to know about the nature of their relationship experiences if they’ve had any.

I spent a few years voluntarily celibate and I felt as close as I could I think to being "asexual" because the idea of having sex with anyone disgusted me in general and I couldn't even picture it in my head, let alone felt the desire to ever go through with it. I was not asexual. Then I eventually met someone I was actually attracted to and I was turned into a nympho after the celibacy. I think so many of these people just get used to the status quo, forget what it feels like to be touched or kissed after so long. Or maybe they never even did in the first place.

Meanwhile I had a roommate briefly who was a 25 year old virgin, who claimed he was "asexual" but had no problem telling me multiple times he would have sex with me if I wanted to. Riiiiight 🙄🙄🙄 Asexual = involuntarily celibate I guess lol

Good points.
On the other hand it does and doesn't help at the same time the we have an increasingly number of terms and defintions.
I forgot the name of it but one I learned in this place described a sexual orientation that is "asexual" until a real romantic/emotional relationship is formed.
Given what you said I can't exclude the possibility of being that instead of truly asexual but at this point in time it's hard to tell what of the two it is.

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Demisexual.

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Getting too used to one's own cobwebbed dick/vagina or being a virgin or very sexually inexperienced is hardly asexual and I feel like a lot of people would confuse those two things on this site

Yeah I totally agree which is why I want to know about the nature of their relationship experiences if they’ve had any.

I spent a few years voluntarily celibate and I felt as close as I could I think to being "asexual" because the idea of having sex with anyone disgusted me in general and I couldn't even picture it in my head, let alone felt the desire to ever go through with it. I was not asexual. Then I eventually met someone I was actually attracted to and I was turned into a nympho after the celibacy. I think so many of these people just get used to the status quo, forget what it feels like to be touched or kissed after so long. Or maybe they never even did in the first place.

Meanwhile I had a roommate briefly who was a 25 year old virgin, who claimed he was "asexual" but had no problem telling me multiple times he would have sex with me if I wanted to. Riiiiight 🙄🙄🙄 Asexual = involuntarily celibate I guess lol

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You were/maybe still are demisexual. You don’t experience sexual attraction until an emotional connection is formed. And yeah your old roommate just needed to get laid.

Posted by nanobot
Getting too used to one's own cobwebbed dick/vagina or being a virgin or very sexually inexperienced is hardly asexual and I feel like a lot of people would confuse those two things on this site

Yeah I totally agree which is why I want to know about the nature of their relationship experiences if they’ve had any.

Posted by Black-Mamba
i haven't had sex in a long time, how does one know

Asexual is when you don’t feel any sexual urges towards others, or at any fantasies in your head, etc. Being celibate does not equate to being asexual.

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Speaking of, where did Dreamboy go? I hope he finally got to go to booty hole heaven.

When he decided to leave, I was only hanging on by a thread to leave as well.

Now I'm only hanging on by 3, where one is already frayed.

I didn’t know you were a Scorpio before today. But I find it funny how it’s usually always water signs that have to declare in some way that they’re leaving or have wanted to leave. Like instead of just being all talk, how about log off and disappear for some time lol. It’s just a funny observation to me.

People get mad if you leave with no warning. People get mad if you warn before leaving. I've seen both.

You’re joking right? Like how about treetrunk internet people, don’t hate cause I left you to go live real life?

You're here. I mean, if you're not here to interact with people, what are you here for?

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Me being here is not the point. I made this account back in 2015. In between I’ve left for months at a time and whatnot, just disappearing, especially when things were getting heavy and active in real life. I see a lot of people do that. It seems completely normal. But when it’s people declaring they’ll be leaving or whatnot or any mentions of it in any form, it always ends up being a darn water sign is the funny part.

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Makes sense, you’re an Aquarius 😂 So what are the closest things to a relationship you’ve experienced?

Seven year long situationship with a Gemini that officially never was a relationship but had a lot of traits of a relationships in it's interactions.

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Seven years and nothing sexual at all? Not even a kiss? 😱 Was it a guy or a girl?

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Speaking of, where did Dreamboy go? I hope he finally got to go to booty hole heaven.

When he decided to leave, I was only hanging on by a thread to leave as well.

Now I'm only hanging on by 3, where one is already frayed.

I didn’t know you were a Scorpio before today. But I find it funny how it’s usually always water signs that have to declare in some way that they’re leaving or have wanted to leave. Like instead of just being all talk, how about log off and disappear for some time lol. It’s just a funny observation to me.

People get mad if you leave with no warning. People get mad if you warn before leaving. I've seen both.

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You’re joking right? Like how about treetrunk internet people, don’t hate cause I left you to go live real life?

Posted by Undine
I woke up one day disgusted by the thought of genitalia (and of men trying to get into mine's).

I hope it stay like this forever, because I like it.

I agree they’re all sinfully hideous. And you’re not into punanis either?

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Speaking of, where did Dreamboy go? I hope he finally got to go to booty hole heaven.

When he decided to leave, I was only hanging on by a thread to leave as well.

Now I'm only hanging on by 3, where one is already frayed.

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I didn’t know you were a Scorpio before today. But I find it funny how it’s usually always water signs that have to declare in some way that they’re leaving or have wanted to leave. Like instead of just being all talk, how about log off and disappear for some time lol. It’s just a funny observation to me.

This is why you need to be careful in giving yourself to others easily. Also it’s good to have some Leo placements cause you get off on people adoring you vs you adoring them 🌝

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Makes sense, you’re an Aquarius 😂 So what are the closest things to a relationship you’ve experienced?

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I used to have lots of anxiety and was super introverted but now I do much better at meeting people. It all began with me not giving a treetrunk about if it would go well or not, I was just gonna be myself. Not that it mattered but they ended up liking me and as I kept doing it a few more times my confidence just grew. So I encourage others to be themselves and not worry about treetrunking up especially if it’s with someone you don’t see yourself perfectly with just so you’ll be ready for when the right one does come along.

I do wish for that, but in reality.. people doesn't accept me for who I really am.. and I don't talk about small amount of group at all..

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Omg girl. What is this self-defeating mentality. What are your placements? Do you have any libra placements or planets in that house? Aren’t you in your 30s-40s? There has got to be something that you do that some other weirdo also does so y’all can live weirdly happily ever after.

Dxp is usually a dump yard to discuss relationship woes. What about those who don’t need any sexual partners in life? Do y’all exist on here?

I used to have lots of anxiety and was super introverted but now I do much better at meeting people. It all began with me not giving a treetrunk about if it would go well or not, I was just gonna be myself. Not that it mattered but they ended up liking me and as I kept doing it a few more times my confidence just grew. So I encourage others to be themselves and not worry about treetrunking up especially if it’s with someone you don’t see yourself perfectly with just so you’ll be ready for when the right one does come along.

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For some time now I've been thinking that @virgoOPPP was @FknMeow's new user name, so if either of you is wondering why I've been saying confusing butter to you, that could be it!

Really? Virgooppp has always seemed way more socially awkward.

Last saw him a week before I broke up. Mine lives 10 mins away from me. I know which store he gets his groceries from after work. Could totally do a pop up one day but f dat. He’s marrying the girl he got with right after me. It makes me cringe that she looks very similar to me.