Posted by thatlibralife
I don’t like the way he said have a wonderful weekend yourself. Like he’s distancing himself with no real plans to contact you. I can be paranoid though...I’d ask when can y’all meet up...

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Posted by sweethearts
Been a while since I’ve been here but where’s it gone?

The quoting has gotten out of hand. Users quote to talk/flirt to and with another user but you end up with pages of quotes and you lose the topic.

A simple @user tag would tidy things up wouldn’t it?

Duncan, Can we also have some emoji buttons instead of just “like” I think a “lol” and a “ffs” would be fitting with what I’ve read.

ffs

this ain't facebook

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Posted by _Dazed
DXP is a dating site now. Get used to it.

Posted by Jade_Alexander
Women have always been the instigator

We had different social cues throughout history to say ‘i want you, come get me’

I will make the first move. One, because I pick what I want vs whatever creeper chases. Two, I like to chase a lil.

Its not my job to maintain momentum, but I’ll get the ball rolling.

Posted by TheApparition

Posted by sweethearts
Has it come to this? Women having to make the first move? Recently because of this corona bs, I’ve had to go on dating sites and the guys don’t ever IMO make the first move ( maybe it’s just me...) never had any problems in RL then talking to a mate the other day, I asked how he and his now ex got together and he said, they went out on a date and she didn’t leave him alone after that. She chased him down and then got pregnant...! Wtf? 😂 he’s been single for a few years again so maybe the ladies aren’t as aggressive.

Is this the way it is these days? It takes away from my womanhood having to make the first move all the time!

Equal is Equal.

Women fought for an equal voice... Well, surprise! It's not a man's job to make the first move, but rather the first moves should be distributed evenly, lol.

Perhaps this is destiny's way of letting you know that it is time that you to catch up on all of the first moves you never had to make. Haha 😜Post Edit - oh yeah whenever you find a man & you're living together... If you hear a strange noise in the middle of the night 50% of those are yours to check also. Hahaha. Equality and all. 🤣

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Posted by Gobby

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Posted by Gobby
Oh, do fuck off! You wanted equality, you got it.

Cry me a frigging river of crocodile tears...

I guess no ones chasing you gobby? 😂

That's the best you've got?

Keep digging yourself a hole...

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Posted by Soul
Yea. Now its your turn to deal with looking weird making the first move. Have fun dealing with a fair share of rejection along with waisted time, and waisted money on dates and gifts just to figure out they were pretty worthless from the start.

Tbh I was never the type of guy to make a move. 100% of my relationships were all with women who make it obvious I could make moves to begin with. Thats another thing. God forbid a man tell a woman she is beautiful and he would like to get to know her better. That's a good way to get accused for being a rapist. Not all woman are like that, but a handful. That handful though is enough to make most men say "Yea no thanks." Then she turns around and makes a fans only. The second you learn most women hate most women was the first red flag imo.

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Posted by Gobby
Oh, do fuck off! You wanted equality, you got it.

Cry me a frigging river of crocodile tears...

Posted by DonnaLibra
Yeah from what I'm seeing men no longer have to do much because women are chasing them so hard. I think there has been a shift to more than just culture these days.

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Posted by sweethearts

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How much interest do you give to a Pisces man? In general I tend to give back the same amount that men give me but I’ve never been able to last more than a few dates with a Pisces. The connection always seems to be there at first and then they swim away. I’m always attracted to them but struggle dealing with the lack of attention that I feel is needed in the first stages of dating. Is it just that libra and Pisces are not compatible and at what point do I realise that things are going south? I’m chatting to one , just the very beginning but think we will meet soon.

I was in a relationship with a Libra for 5 years, and I would be lying if I didn't admit that I had to regularly and consciously remember to adjust myself to the needs/desires/wants of the other person in the way you described.

If I tell somebody I'm interested or show interest it is because I am, but all those other times that I may not necessarily appear too doesn't change the fact that I am interested. I kind of just assumed that I told you I was interested you should know I'm interested and now I'm just out doing x y and z (which is unrelated), but that's not really conducive to a healthy environment with a Libra who generally enjoys the reaffirmation of comfort more regularly.

I guess the simple way to say it is Pisces assumes Libra knows where things stand and Libra like to know for a fact where Pisces stands. So it's just a matter of being more open to communicating this with one another.

That's just based off of my experience anyway for what little that may or may not be worth.

So if we hit it off am I best to let him know upfront that affirmation is the way to my heart especially in the beginning? I do my own thing too and have been completely independent for years, heaps of friends and quite social but feel I get needy with a partner and if I don’t get the attention, I fuck it up. It could be self sabotaging too as I hadn’t been in a relationship for years and it’s a little scary and the scales are .

For me it's more about specifics than a notion. If you were to tell me, personally, that you just want more affirmation I'm simply going to do more of the same thing that I was already doing which is, if I had to guess, not going to cut it; haha.

How do you like to know? Everybody has these little things that make them feel special or to have that more intimate connection.

Here's a for instance. With my 5y Libra ex it wasn't so much a verbal thing. It was more like a look up from the book and smile at them simply to let them know that you were thinking about them, or in the beginning sending a random 💌 emoji or something if a certain amount of time went by.

This was more prevalent in Social settings where I was more apt to be floating around talking to people distributing myself evenly I guess you could say. Just something that I know that they appreciated to convey that. You may be entirely different and you like something more direct or verbal, but whatever it is to try to be specific. I doubt you're going to hurt his feelings by telling him secret special ways to let you know that you're important.

Don't leave it up to him to figure it out though; haha. Pisces can be cheesy and they may think some corny joke got the message across when it probably didn't. Yep I've done that. It was to a Taurus though. Suffice it to say they weren't very receptive of my tomfoolery. Haha.

This branches out to other areas of the relationship too, by the way. Drop as many hints on to the things you enjoy early on and all kinds of fun things will happen later. They're going to store that in their memory banks and surprise you when you least expect it... and it's going to be epic! You just have to get past the courting part (which is a pain in the ass for most signs dealing with Pisces I would imagine). 🤣

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