shes scorpio/sag dominant (about 20% of both).... scorp sun, cancer moon, cap rising, scorp venus, scorp pluto
how do you guys deal with losing a "bestie' friend/ex lover. Scorpio ex has been trying to be friends with me since our break up(we were long distance at end of relationship and she bounced), she had been popping over my house, sending me pics. me relenting to seeing her/doing favors for her and thinking she's trying to get back together, but is really just trying to stay "connected" as she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to lose me in her life. It had gone on for a few months, but as of October 1st(my cut off time) I've been coldly responding to her because I'm not trying to block her, just not accepting this fake friendship. I called her out on the flirting. she said she still finds me sexy, but we have to be ok being friends.
My last straw was when she said anytime I want to meet up, we can have a lunch or coffee date. screw that on September 31st when I asked her what we were going to do.
two weeks ago she sent me watered down pictures of her vacation and wanted to talk, I blew her off. the last two weeks.... nothing. I'm happy because she finally realizes that unless I get the attention I desire not to call me or reach out, but I don't know what's going on in her head.
Plus her birthday is in two weeks, I plan on not even acknowledging it, as a human being and someone who loves her I want to, but I don't want it misconstrued as me accepting her as a platonic friend.
We are a quiet thread. I know ... I know... we are off giving solicited/unsolicited advice in other threads - saving the world one sun sign at a time or just having a life.... BUT in a few week's we reign over the zodiac!
I am an Aries Moon and Scorpio Venus. when it comes to love interests, I am probably the slowest sentimental person I know until I have deep feelings for you. I don't even trust you for real until I investigate you for a few months. and I don't mean like background check I mean personality check. I refuse to let someone into my circle unless I've vetted them and know how they tick.
yeah... She still does, just not in the way that she used to. She's maturing to another level where she doesn't want to continue to do the same stuff she's always done with you. It's causing you both to grow apart, but you trying to maintain what you had is only going to exacerbate the issue.
My Sag Jupiter is tied with my Scorpio Venus for Dominance....
So being a sag does it make me feel more saggy? um... honestly... I feel up and down. when I am in a good mood I'm such a sag. but I get down a lot and retreat into myself due to life in general and I would say its more scorpio-ish
I just assume and go from there. I would hope the adult rules of multiple partners are being followed but I know a few girls that will have pornstar style sex with one guy, safe sex with another, and romantic sex with another. she literally rotates these guys. she's hot but no way I'd be french kissing her and stuff when other dudes are tearing her up.
I PREFER a sexually monogamous no pressure FWB type situation. If I'm doing casual, I can't relax enough to sex her properly.
hmmm. if you consented to genital to genital massaging. That's pretty grey to me. I kind of agree with @Saggurl88 on that.
If he maliciously penetrated you that's a whole other story. I can't judge intent.
"heat of the moment" situations are tough. there have been times I've been "forced" into having unprotected sex with women because they jump on me while doing oral and stuff. I wouldn't call it rape I would call it a non-consented act because permission wasn't given... but it's not like I didn't want to have sex with them. you know/learn when you are in situations like that there is always a possibility things will not go as designed/planned.
Its a teachable moment.
what I don't like in general is men slut-shaming or women assuming because a man doesn't see it their way attacking them.
STUFF HAPPENS, I'm sorry if OP feels violated, but I wouldn't say rape.
I had one situation where I had a girl that only would do anal. one time by accident it slipped out and went into her kitty. It was an accident!
It's not hard. ask us to be honest about our feelings. What we want and our feelings are two different things.
You can love someone and it not be best for you to be in a relationship
You can be in a relationship and want someone else
It's all relative. Love is a P.I.T.A .... that's why horoscopes didn't focus on love for relationships. the 7th house is for partnerships and contractual dealings, including marriage.
your 5th house is your traditional amorous love. the romantic stuff.
my ex and I have 11 (friendship) , 12 (obsessive/secret/self sacrificing), 8th house(sex) and 5th house(love)... we are amazing together... but we have no 7th house connection in our synastry. I feel we are soul mates, we had an instant connection and are magnetic when together and she really wants to be my friend since we split due to 18 month LD and she got with someone else. I'll NEVER be ok being platonic friends - there is too strong a connection between us, I'll be friendly, but never friends... so I'm ok never talking again at this point.
karmatic life lesson to grow. It might be hard for him to lose you, but he will learn from this situation and be stronger for it.
If I ask you out I want you in my life. and its not just to be buddies. I can have as many acquaintances in my life, but once I find someone that I feel gets me and can put up with me, I don't want to be friends because its never going to be the same. I had 100% of you, now you expect me to be ok with 20% ? no... and I feel you still have feelings for me so I will ask you out to spend time and for you to remember that.
I am a lifepath 11 btw
so double 1 and 2... super intuitive... its draining.
I personally don't like apologies, because they feel forced and if you apologize and do it again...I'm going to hold it against you, because you knew it was wrong the first time. I characterize tiffs as clashing of personalities. just don't lie or cheat on me because there is no coming back.... and if its a test. I might laugh it off as its no big deal.... just don't do it again... as I said previously.... you are f'ing with me and I don't like it.
you are both right. we always are there for friends at a moments notice.
A lot of times we weather storms alone because we don't want to impose on others. unless we need help processing information and need to bounce them off of someone. and we only do that in an emergency.
But because we are great communicators and reliable friends, people take advantage of our good nature and misery loves company, so we take an ear to their issues, but its draining on us.
we care. We always care, and we will always sacrifice. a mature sag starts to think about themselves because we have our own problems and taking on someone else's has a time and place.