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sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Gemitati, do you just make this stuff up to stir up reactions around here. Seen a few of your threads and you seem to say stuff just to get a reaction and the worse off you sound the more puffed up you get and enjoy others responses and the banter

Whenever I get bored I find where your posting and grab a bag of popcorn 😂 neither pro nor con mind you
Pisces our of my league
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Toti
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by Toti
You sound like a libra Who has leo moon, hungry for attention. Move along and stop overthinking it. He got what he wanted. Nothing more to it. Or it hurt your ego that someone could resist your

Bang on Leon Moon and yes I was hurt being jilted as most would be, he is a decent guy who has his own demons obviously. I don't met many that I think could be a potential partner so when I sleep with someone I've already thought it was going further.

I do get a lot of attention so I would say that I am "hungry for attention' from the right man, evidently he wasn't the one.

Libra with leo moon is what I , unfortunately, experienced many times. Keep that ego under control if you ever want to keep a relationship. You are dealing with humans, not robots equipped to serve you. Most women wouldn't consider that situation as "being jilted", but you, because of the sense of entitlement, did.
Do some inner work before forming relationships. If you want them to last. Good luck.

Thanks, more detail on the Leo moon please. Because I honestly think a lot of woman would feel jilted. Especially after sex and another date.

I’ve seen my gf break down in tears when a date she had seen less than this didn’t show up to a ron de vue and failed to inform her.

At the time, if he’d said hey. It’s not working for me then I would have been fine but just to completely ignore me after our last meeting saying I’ll call you and then ignore the only text I sent after that...??
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Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
He aint coming back, be thankful for that!

Learn about self respect

Learn to Adult and look after that baby
I got played by a capricorn guy... and it hurts!!!
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Your a make and I think it’s different from what I’ve seen with make and female. I have loads of single gfs and if they sleep with a guy first night it doesn’t amount to much. Often not even a call or text. They would like a partner so it’s not them that isn’t interested but a lot of men consider them to not be a challenge I guess??
What’s the general take these days on when to have sex
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
I would have been feeling exactly that around the first month but not now. Plenty of time to analyse and realise we weren’t that compatible. I’m libra he’s Pisces and the communication and coldness would have tipped me over and tbh there would have been plenty of explosions from me from pure frustration! Reading the Pisces boards, definitely not my type. No patience, it all sounds too immature. So yes you hit the nail childish! He ticked a lot of boxes but communication is number 1 and not something I can overlook in a potential mate.
Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
@Boots yes! I’ve noticed long term are generally making them wait a few dates before sex. If I can see potential in someone I’ll make sure we don’t straight away, however, damn it can be soooo hard when it’s a long time between drinks lol

Not only guys Roo! It takes a LOT of self control to stop in the heat of the moment!
What’s the general take these days on when to have sex
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
It’s possible that I’ll find out, our mutual friend is very social and always organising get togethers so at some point we’ll see each other again.

It’s weird, she didn’t know we had a brief fling him and I and is trying to set me up with someone else, so I told her.

Not keen to hook up with the other guy!
Just a vent
sweethearts
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Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by stillstillwater
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by jeane
I don't think it's about feelings, it's about power, control and self esteem. This guy left you high and dry. You even said you feel "entitled" to an explanation.

I think there is no remedy for this other than time and perhaps a successful encounter with someone else where you are in control of the outcome.

I hear you Jeane, definite issues with power and control and I've worked hard on my self esteem so knocks won't ever take me down but do cause me to reassess and check myself.

@Still

It's all a learning curb no matter what age and makes you stronger or open to change

@stillstillwater

I think I'm good, don't really want an explanation anymore, it's been 3 months now and have worked through it on my own, was just thrown with the sudden meeting. I will just be polite and stay away should we be at the same events.

Fair enough. I just don't think it's ever wrong to want to ask questions. If you need to know something then you have the right to ask. It doesn't mean the other person will respond but i mean you always have the right to ask whatever you need to move on.

But glad to hear you worked it out on your own.

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Totally understand and earlier on I would have wanted to know but now, I’ve let it go and dealt with it.

While I was working through the rejection I remember being on the other side a year before. I met this guy that we got on really well, sex was good but he lived an hour away and ended up just wanting to couch sit when I visited. I felt indifferent about us together and told him so and called it quits. He’s still a fb friend. Perhaps it was simple as that? No fireworks.
Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by tctao
So have you figured out why all the hotness just being around him even though you have gotten over him ? I'm not sure what that is but I understand that vibes are there and of course they are ... yeah, you two might have been able to have something but it just didn't turn out that way. That for me doesn't mean that the feelings are gone completely. But now it's in your hands, your control - not his. For me that was an escalator I noticed with my last guy. It sort of, like, felt good when it was "my call" ...

I think it was because I had no control over the situation, he had rejected me. That hurts no matter how little time we spent together because in my mind it was going somewhere and valid and I thought it was reciprocated. When I walked away from him it was me taking back control. You don’t get to enjoy my company (and he did) because of how you treated me.

Don’t get me wrong even though his actions were dismissive he really is a nice guy. Before he left he came to give me a kiss and say goodbye.

It is what it is, just not meant to be.

He is Pisces too if that makes sense.

Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
First meet, definitely 1 night stand or not a keeper and does it differ for men and woman? I think yes.

2nd, 3rd 4th or 5th date or after you’ve discussed compatibility or wants for the future?

Do you think we’re Jumping in the sack too quickly?

I know everyone is different but interested in hearing others take on it

What’s the general take these days on when to have sex
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
It depends on his scales, if he likes you and doesn’t want to hurt you he’ll make excuses but let you know, although it won’t feel definite because he’s sugar coated the way out. But he won’t go full into details because he doesn’t want the confrontation or opposition.
Will a Libra Guy would tell you frankly if he is no longer interested?
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by STILL
Posted by sweethearts
Posted by jeane
I don't think it's about feelings, it's about power, control and self esteem. This guy left you high and dry. You even said you feel "entitled" to an explanation.

I think there is no remedy for this other than time and perhaps a successful encounter with someone else where you are in control of the outcome.

I hear you Jeane, definite issues with power and control and I've worked hard on my self esteem so knocks won't ever take me down but do cause me to reassess and check myself.

@Still

It's all a learning curb no matter what age and makes you stronger or open to change

@stillstillwater

I think I'm good, don't really want an explanation anymore, it's been 3 months now and have worked through it on my own, was just thrown with the sudden meeting. I will just be polite and stay away should we be at the same events.

I agree. I was just asking what you have learned specifically.

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Specifically it reiterated that just because someone may tick a lot of your boxes doesn't mean you will tick theirs.

Guys very easily tap and gap with no second thoughts

It's a hard road finding that perfect someone...

most importantly, it's great to say that you will open your heart and mind to finding someone but you still have to guard your heart because trust takes time and I tend to trust too quickly

Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by jeane
I don't think it's about feelings, it's about power, control and self esteem. This guy left you high and dry. You even said you feel "entitled" to an explanation.

I think there is no remedy for this other than time and perhaps a successful encounter with someone else where you are in control of the outcome.

I hear you Jeane, definite issues with power and control and I've worked hard on my self esteem so knocks won't ever take me down but do cause me to reassess and check myself.

@Still

It's all a learning curb no matter what age and makes you stronger or open to change

@stillstillwater

I think I'm good, don't really want an explanation anymore, it's been 3 months now and have worked through it on my own, was just thrown with the sudden meeting. I will just be polite and stay away should we be at the same events.

Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Toti
You sound like a libra Who has leo moon, hungry for attention. Move along and stop overthinking it. He got what he wanted. Nothing more to it. Or it hurt your ego that someone could resist your charms?

Bang on Leon Moon and yes I was hurt being jilted as most would be, he is a decent guy who has his own demons obviously. I don't met many that I think could be a potential partner so when I sleep with someone I've already thought it was going further.

I do get a lot of attention so I would say that I am "hungry for attention' from the right man, evidently he wasn't the one.
Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
End of Last year I went out with a guy 4 times, we slept together once and to my surprise he ghosted me. It took me a little while (about a month) to realize that was what was happening. I spent a bit of that time wondering why when we seemed to hit it off, very easy to talk to and lots to talk about. Anyway eventually just kept moving but still had me wondering. I realized and concluded that I had done it to guys before, where it just wasn’t there for me so I moved on *shrugs*

Then today out of the blue but kinda expected that at some point we would see each other again, we had met through mutual friends, he was at a birthday celebration. I went up, gave the birthday boy a kiss (my gf’s husband) and said hi also to this guy…but I was shaking and couldn’t think when he was asking how I was and he chatted as we had previously done with ease. I couldn’t wait to get away because I wasn’t in control of myself & felt stupid! I took the first opportunity to move away so I could feel more relaxed and in my own space.

Geez, Hoping it’s not going to be like this every time we happen to be at the same event together. I guess I felt that we really had something and I got attached and still trying to fully detach.

I’ve heard that for some when a woman sleeps with a man they may feel a bond or feel entitle to an explanation at least. Who knows if I did stick around and talk further it might have come out but in reality I don't think I want to know, the truth may hurt...
Just a vent
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Yes, but it's also an acknowledgement that this relationship will eventually fail

Been there
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
I'm sorry, there is no good news for you here.

I have an awesome best friend who I know has always wanted us to be more. It's never going to happen. I love him like a brother and we get on really well in everything we do and people mistake it to be more, even my own children at first thought this but it will NEVER be more. If anything and he pushed for it, it will be less.

I have let him know that it will never be more point blank, your friend has beat around the bush making excuses which is more a cope out. I use to do that in the beginning because I enjoyed our adventures out.

You have to make a decision whether you lessen your time with him so you can start falling out of love and finding someone for you or let him go completely
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
I don't like to be mean or ignore people either but it comes down to you or them. And some you give a little to and they take it for everything and think you are totally interested so it's not worth it
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
Posted by Toti
I know a libra woman, moon and Mars in leo And Venus in Scorpio. If I were a man and she was the only woman in the world, I'd never be with her.inflated ego, always feels like she is entitled to everything, thinks she is the most beautiful one, etc... Numerous failed relationships. I wonder why...

Hit the nail on the head here and always the best piece of information is totally overlooked. Truth hurts!

Until his attitude changes about how great he is, he'll only ever be a fuck buddy, I mean who wants someone that is likely to be looking over your shoulder at his next lay? Not one woman will ever be enough for someone so shallow and with such an inflated ego!

Men can smell desperation just as a real woman smells entitlement!
sweethearts
female
Joined dxpnet on March 24, 2006.
then put him in the pyscho basket and ignore!

How hard can it be? Why do women always feel they have to be nice or talk back to someone they aren't interested in? What does it accomplish for you but anxiety and annoyance. Delete them or block them, problem solved!

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