SassyKiwi

What do you believe is your life's purpose at this point in time?
- I’m not sure yet... still trying to figure it out. It's kind of frustrating and annoying having to feel like I need to be having some kind of life purpose by a certain age or it's just looked down upon. I don't need or want that kind of stress in my life. But I think I should always be striving to be thankful for what I have and never dwell in the “what could haves.” I also used to really want like 4 kids but I’m not sure anymore you know? I figure they’ll be able to raise themselves somewhere down the line 🤷‍♀️ I also need to travel the world for sure. Idk why but foreign places always feel like home to me. Checks out with my heavy 9th house and Jupiter influence.

Are you currently pursuing it? What do you think is holding you back?
- Idk. I feel like I'm floating slowly towards my goals and being fueled by gentle tides. I know nothing happens overnight but I don't enjoy being patient. Reaching goals and dreams usually takes years of hard work. I think I need better time management. I hate that I like sleep and relaxing a lot. Now that I’m newly married my husband and domestic stuff have also taken a significant chunk of my time. At this point I’m just trying to make sure I don’t lose myself in the partnership and always maintain my sense of individuality and independence. That’s always easier said than done.

Do you think that by reaching that point, that you will find happiness in however way you wanted to define it?
- I actually have this idea in my head that immense happiness for me would be having a beach house doing yoga and eating local fresh produce. Then go on spiritual/meditative outings during my free time. I am essentially Frankie but 50 years younger. I will get there and will be happy dammit.

Is there any advice did you would like to give a 10 year younger version of yourself?
- Yessssss. Start loving and breathing the sciences early! I didn’t start appreciating the sciences until after graduating uni. Now it kind of feels too complicated to go back to school just to incur more debt chasing a dream in the medical field. Now I have to kill that dream 😒

Some people in life need to experience the consequences the long way before it finally clicks in their head that they’re morons

I’ll critique ya and measure your creep level

Marriage is definitely not for everyone. Especially if you don’t ever want kids. But I don’t think one can deny it does get lonely when you’re single and independent and well past your 30s regardless of if you’re male or female. Humans are social creatures. People are allowed to have the desire of coming home to someone. Not everyone likes getting themselves a new beau every few years. Many want to build a lifetime of experiences with one single individual. Neither option guarantees more or less happiness than the other.

People are going to judge no matter what your age is. Oh you’re 30+ and unmarried? Something must be wrong with you... oh you’re 21 and married? Lol we all know how that’s going to end five years from now...

You can’t ever win no matter what you do if you care what others think.

But you also can’t be delusional. Of course younger women will always have an advantage over older women in the dating pool. Men are visual creatures. It takes a lot of maturity and standards for a man to take on a more seasoned woman.

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I know lots of Aquas like that. Do you imagine them all to be some stubborn, headstrong rebel? Sure, but not usually in every single aspect of life. Most Aquas are softies who could be susceptible to such controlling people in their life, especially if they’re family/SOs. Protect teh Aquas from abuse !

every Aqua i've encountered has a controlling figure in their life. sup with that? funny too coz he never even slept on my bed. he insisted on sleeping on a mat on the floor so he can at least still stay in my room. so ridiculous why his aunt would ever think anything EVER happening to him. nothing happens to this guy until i came along. and even then, not much is really happening right now. least physical relationship i ever had. and i'm betting my whole ass he's a virgin. he even implied that any form of physicality might be allowed maybe like 7 months from now. but sooo weird coz this feels like the most stable and satisfying of my relationships. more mental in connection than physical but i am sooo here for it.

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Aquas are most likely to lose their virginity the latest. It’s a subconscious rebellion against hookup culture.

I know lots of Aquas like that. Do you imagine them all to be some stubborn, headstrong rebel? Sure, but not usually in every single aspect of life. Most Aquas are softies who could be susceptible to such controlling people in their life, especially if they’re family/SOs. Protect teh Aquas from abuse !

Wait is kittens that parisian capricorn?

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Men are genuinely trash. I have observed what you have in my parents' generation and older. In these recent generations (20-35), it's worse. I consistently see pathetic guys that don't even have their own jobs that still live off mommy and daddy marry these beautiful women who have great jobs. The guys still don't respect these women and treat them like they're disposable. If that doesn't prove you can never make men content idk what does. There are studies published on this millennial generation that significantly have more men who financially rely on parents at adult age than women. The past generations have brought into the world more pathetic excuse for a man types. It's a crisis. You can blatantly see on dating/matrimonial sites there are plenty of more women who have their life together vs men this day and age. That’s why you hear successful women end up with garbage guys often, majority of these men make up today’s dating pool. The solution? Women should also start becoming detached towards needing men in their life to complete it (this can actually be very hard for us as we’re nurturers). Love, marry, do everything, but NEVER rely your main source of happiness to be from a man. They will always disappoint you if you do.

Harsh 😬😥

I know some amazing men....i can think of six or seven (all my family) and men in my community who are strong and supportive.

I'm sorry you're not meeting similar...

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My personal situation is different. I was just mentioning my observations around things that happened to people I know and around our community. Sure, some men can be amazing. But each individual’s idea of amazing can be very different. I think it’s very hopeless romantic to believe a person can easily run into an amazing man or woman because the world is returning to them the energy that they’re giving out. If that was the case, people wouldn’t be having a history of different relationships in life. Sometimes it’s just sheer luck. People can easily look so great and perfect on the outside. Every relationship has their own unique *internal* issues, it’s all just a matter of how much one can tolerate and manage them. Some people are very good at being passive of their SOs bad behavior and write it off as something like “men will be men” and continue to live in this bubble that everything else is still great so it’s just an overall content relationship. Some women love being the breadwinner of the family and don’t mind that their husband is a househusband so she thinks her life is great. It’s all very subjective.

Men are genuinely trash. I have observed what you have in my parents' generation and older. In these recent generations (20-35), it's worse. I consistently see pathetic guys that don't even have their own jobs that still live off mommy and daddy marry these beautiful women who have great jobs. The guys still don't respect these women and treat them like they're disposable. If that doesn't prove you can never make men content idk what does. There are studies published on this millennial generation that significantly have more men who financially rely on parents at adult age than women. The past generations have brought into the world more pathetic excuse for a man types. It's a crisis. You can blatantly see on dating/matrimonial sites there are plenty of more women who have their life together vs men this day and age. That’s why you hear successful women end up with garbage guys often, majority of these men make up today’s dating pool. The solution? Women should also start becoming detached towards needing men in their life to complete it (this can actually be very hard for us as we’re nurturers). Love, marry, do everything, but NEVER rely your main source of happiness to be from a man. They will always disappoint you if you do.

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I'll let you know when I put a ring on her finger. 😊

I can’t usually tell who the males are on here. What’s your criteria for wifing? Am curious of the male dxpers’ expectations.

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Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠

🧐🧐🧐
Adrenal fatigue maybe?

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Omg I have like over 80% of the symptoms. Ugh and of course doctors would say it’s not real. No doctor has taken my symptoms seriously to date. Do you know anything more about it? Do you have it?

Probably makes their existence more annoying

Feed me more data you poopieheads

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Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠

You could be anaemic, have you been tested for it?

What I do is try to wake up at the same time every day. It does help.

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I get general blood work done every year and everything supposedly looks normal. It’s frustrating.

Do you use an alarm or has your body naturally adjusted?

So many pages yet barely anyone actually making statements. Lame.

Middle Eastern men and women are aggressive af and have god complexes.

African immigrants like Nigerians look down on black Americans because their upper class family over there brought them here and so they just think they’re better.

Struggling to wake up in the morning. Idk what it freaking is but even sleeping for over 8 hours doesn't feel enough. It might be my naturally low blood pressure idk but I hate it. I wanna be those people who can't wait to bounce out of bed in the morning and like go on a run or meditate to start the day as the sun is rising ! 😠

Puppies are better. I wonder why there's crazy cat lady but no crazy dog lady. I'd totes be the latter

Posted by MyStarsShine
Depends what for?

Security, loyalty and reliability....Virgo

Raw passion, loyalty and adventures....Aries

A person can have had multiple good relationships. Nobody is perfect (perfect is subjective anyway) and most people who came into our lives taught us something new and unique every time. There can be a lot of trashing people around here based on their signs so I just wanted to create a thread where we acknowledge the people who gave us relationships that had more good outweighing the bad.

Posted by weepingxo
💕 scorpio 💕
i wrote this with him in mind:

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i love scorpios for all that they r
they have an amazing way
of accepting others, protecting,
seeing things one may not see by their self, & being sincere
i appreciate this so much...just to be able to watch one walking and thinking meant everything to me...

one look from the eyes of a scorpio could cure any sadness…it would wipe away any tears forever
one speechless moment in time with them fixes the unfixable...it makes up for every bad day
any word at all means the most important conversation i ever had

& thats not even 2% of how special they r...
im sorry for my poverty of human language ...
i will never to adequately describe to you how special they really are
but i would give a scorpio everything...
they dont have to do give or say anything
through their silent screams and unshed tears
i hear them and im here for them

i never felt more safe, accepted, or complete in my life
the feelings...the experience was something beyond any other and i feel so lucky to have known him

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Wew you just had to come in and ruin the no water sign streak