I try not to have the talk and just go about my busy schedule with my friends.

I find it doesn’t happen much, Moreso, I’ve experienced it’s the other way around so I do try and put myself in the others shoes. It’s always hard to hear … “I’m just not that into you”

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Libra - scales - decision

He hasn’t decided

So what should I do if he hasn't decided?

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Life!

If you were a definite he’d be all over you. Take a breather and let him decide. You don’t have to cut contract just don’t be all up in his a*** with too much expectation after a couple weeks.

Libra - scales - decision

He hasn’t decided

You’re on the scale and being weighed up..

Stop initiating and you’ll get your answer!

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If he wasn’t that into you it could work out being friends.

I don’t think he’s that into me, so how do I flip it?

I saw upthread you said you hadn’t actually met up yet. Probably best to just be direct in that case and say you only want friendship.

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I pop into his bar sometimes after work, well I have a handful of times. He’s asked me to come in as well. He’s been trying to arrange a dinner date. I know, I want to remain as friends and just hang out sometimes. The bar is local to me and sometimes you just want a drink with someone after a hard day.

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If he wasn’t that into you it could work out being friends.

What if it was the opposite? If she wasn’t into him but he kept insisting on more? It makes me feel so uncomfortable.

Yes that! The awkwardness when saying goodbye and I turn the cheek with the kiss. Or when he starts putting his arms around my shoulders for a cuddle when talking with others… like a claim thing. I tend to freeze up.

Sometimes I am too nice for my own good. I think women tend to under-read interest from guys and guys tend to over-read. Like, I was just bored and chatting to you and you have feelings already? Men don’t take rejection well. If you go out, they think they are guaranteed something.

And I can’t help it. I attract a lot of men. For better or worse. I was at a bank the other day and talking to the director and he said “how come I haven’t noticed such a pretty woman around here before” (and I am thinking…I just moved here!) But I quickly changed the subject by mentioning to him that his last name is that of my middle school friend. And he said that was his cousin. Just awkward, lol! 🤦‍♀️

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Yes, too nice.

I always put myself in the others shoes.

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If he wasn’t that into you it could work out being friends.

What if it was the opposite? If she wasn’t into him but he kept insisting on more? It makes me feel so uncomfortable.

Yes that! The awkwardness when saying goodbye and I turn the cheek with the kiss. Or when he starts putting his arms around my shoulders for a cuddle when talking with others… like a claim thing. I tend to freeze up.

Question is what did he do wrong why you are not attracted to him?

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I was originally attracted when I first met him over a year ago. He’s a bar manager and lately (since this year) I’ve started to get to know him better and I can see a train wreck before it’s happened. Way too much drinking!

I’d still like to pop in every once and a while when I’ve had a s**t day and have a friend to chat with etc

I need to spin it now. But it’s awkward to know when’s the right time to do it and how?

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If he wasn’t that into you it could work out being friends.

What if it was the opposite? If she wasn’t into him but he kept insisting on more? It makes me feel so uncomfortable.

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Yes that! The awkwardness when saying goodbye and I turn the cheek with the kiss. Or when he starts putting his arms around my shoulders for a cuddle when talking with others… like a claim thing. I tend to freeze up.

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If he wasn’t that into you it could work out being friends.

I don’t think he’s that into me, so how do I flip it?

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Your interested in a lady romantically… maybe… you reach out a little but not much.. you’ve hung out a couple times but she isn’t jumping on your bone.. so to speak.

Can you turn it around and just be mates?

Does she need to tell you that or will you figure it out for yourself?

Can you be friends?

Hon. Secret. There is no men in this cave.
It’s more like Disney World Paris or Las Vegas. 😂

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🤣🤣🤣 it’s like pulling teeth

Same when you’re in a relationship with them… they don’t want to talk

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Your interested in a lady romantically… maybe… you reach out a little but not much.. you’ve hung out a couple times but she isn’t jumping on your bone.. so to speak.

Can you turn it around and just be mates?

Does she need to tell you that or will you figure it out for yourself?

Can you be friends?

Depends if I want to be friends with her. Too be honest I'm not nice, if I had 3 dates and it looked like it was going nowhere I'm done.

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Is that an Aries thing? He’s Taurus on the cusp.
We haven’t officially been out on a date, unofficial meetups but he’s asking to go to dinner and I’ve cancelled twice. Just don’t want to get into a tricky situation because I already know, I just want to be friends.

Your interested in a lady romantically… maybe… you reach out a little but not much.. you’ve hung out a couple times but she isn’t jumping on your bone.. so to speak.

Can you turn it around and just be mates?

Does she need to tell you that or will you figure it out for yourself?

Can you be friends?

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Are you saying that you are beautiful and that in your perception that you think ugly deserves ugly???

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I’ve seen the prettiest person being the ugliest… in fact most of the so called beautiful people are ugly so it depends where you thing ugly and beautiful are represented!!!

No, this isn’t about me at all. Lol, jeez.
Just something to discuss. I am actually not beautiful.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen you this angry. Wow!

Yes this topic hits a core with the perception of beauty on the outside is more than beauty on the inside. To me beauty is more inside than out but it’s never seen that way because of our shallow world and the shallow perception of what is!

Okay. But that Aries guy you were crushing on, what did you like about him? Please don’t tell me personality. You didn’t even know him that well. He must have had that something that attracted you to him. And you also said you were horny.

Face your demons. You like sex as much as me. What is the problem with that?

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Sorry, it was personality. His values is what attracted me. If I had to rate his looks, it would be 6/10 for the regular image of good looks. What appealed to me was his family life, his work values.. and his genuine character.

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Are you saying that you are beautiful and that in your perception that you think ugly deserves ugly???

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I’ve seen the prettiest person being the ugliest… in fact most of the so called beautiful people are ugly so it depends where you thing ugly and beautiful are represented!!!

No, this isn’t about me at all. Lol, jeez.
Just something to discuss. I am actually not beautiful.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen you this angry. Wow!

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Yes this topic hits a core with the perception of beauty on the outside is more than beauty on the inside. To me beauty is more inside than out but it’s never seen that way because of our shallow world and the shallow perception of what is!

Are you saying that you are beautiful and that in your perception that you think ugly deserves ugly???

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I’ve seen the prettiest person being the ugliest… in fact most of the so called beautiful people are ugly so it depends where you think ugly and beautiful are represented!!!

That’s Ands all over, someone laughs at something he does so he repeats it until it’s old… then he finds something else that you all think is funny… rinse and repeat

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Do we have any updates? Gemini women, did you discussed with your husband?

What’s your update? Are you still with your husband and sleeping with the other?

The past 6 months, the wolves have been circling (the wrong type of guys) I’ve had several reach out that are still in relationships or guys I have no interest in at all. Tbh, I haven’t had this much interest from guys all at once, ever!

I like astrology but I don’t understand a lot of what you all talk about, I only know the very very basic.

So what’s going on with the planets and why am I feeling off?

Any insights?

https://imgur.com/a/yDHzFdZ

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No happy ending

No answer…

Don’t regret putting it out there though. Makes me realise that when I’m interested in someone, I can’t read them lol

Dam shoulda left your undies for the other woman to find, so you can swoop in after she leaves him.

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Ahahaha you’re an egg 😂

Just got a text…

Hi G, under different circumstances I might have taken you up on that offer but I'm currently seeing someone.
M

Well that was a surprise! I was thinking, it might have been a bit soon considering he’d just split from his wife last year… now I’m wondering if he had someone all along?? lol