SassyKiwi

First of all I believe most people experience infatuation, not love. Especially if it is described as magical or a fairytale. Real love takes time to develop. When your relationship endures things and still survives, that is a good sign of love. You can't just factor the glitzy, sappy romantic moments. You also just can't one day get tired of the other person, you have to constantly work at loving the other person every day. Because real love takes actual effort, especially to make it last. If someone sees it otherwise, it's a good sign that they haven't reached the maturity level to understand how long-term relationships are maintained after the honeymoon period.

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If you're encountering such people in your life, it is a reflection of yourself, of what you attract, the vibes that you give off. The superficiality around us is only mirrored by the superficiality we give off.

Nope, not me...

I'm talking to the betas.

My dating life is SPLENDID. I don't know what you talking about - tell that to men that bought their girlfriend's a bunch of butter and she ain't butter.

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If it was really splendid as you claim, I don't think you'd have the time to worry about how it's going for others out there, just sayin'. No matter what era it is, there will always be superficial people living their superficial lives. Valentine's day is a commercial holiday.

If you're encountering such people in your life, it is a reflection of yourself, of what you attract, the vibes that you give off. The superficiality around us is only mirrored by the superficiality we give off.

A good 95% + of the men on dating sites are a huge turn off. It’s disturbing when they ask for more pics, when they think they’re being suave with their cheesy pickup lines, etc. During my short time I probably met up with a few and all except one I agreed to meet up with because they weren't trying so ridiculously hard to impress me. We would talk about stuff like serial killers, social stigmas, their psycho sister, how their stated six figure salary by age 25 is probably fake, then boom, unexpectedly I agree to meet up with them and have a pretty good time in real life. Maybe I'm weird but I swear most guys on there try too painfully hard. And there seems to be a decline in people who choose to be textually articulate.

It’s only been 5 months lol, so don’t get lust and love mixed. Be practical with yourself in what you’ll be able to handle long term because you will become miserable if you hope he’ll change any time soon or ever. Guys like him get off on a certain high from work and earning that no woman would be able to replace for him.

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A pair of my heels cut my skin. I was assessing my wound when he walked in. He asked if I was okay. I lied I’m okay. He goes out (didnt tell me where he was going) and comes back with antibiotic bandaids and the liquid sealant aid (in case the band ones are no good for this wound). How considerate and touching! 😍 I’m in love.

So thoughtful, love the men who think like that. Without many words or even explanations they just know the right thing to do

This is the kind of man women should go for. The one who feels admiration and respect for you, not just lust. It’s through years of being single (true sense as I was preoccupied with establishing my career), patience and upholding my standard that I finally came across a gem.
As I said in some other thread, that gems are rare to come across. They are the needles in the haystack. Losers are on every corner. Just stick to your standards and don’t get impatient.

Ooooooo don't put words out there like this

The universe will test you

What looks like a gem just might be hard rock

Your ego might be your underdoing

I’m not one to drop easy praises and I’m also not easy to please. If I’m saying this about the guy, obviously I’ve tried and tested the dude. Nor am I one to go crazy over a guy in couple months. I’ve known him a while. He’s not some random I’m dating. LOL.

Don’t even get me started on the tests and the investigative work. I’m very meticulous when it comes to matters of my heart.

What kind of tests?

This is DM material. It’s machevillian and I’ll get butter for it so I won’t disclose it. But I think every woman should do what I do. LMAO.

Im very curious

Hit me up

Okay. I’ll message you privately but keep it to yourself?

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Can you message me it too? 😄

Situation 1: My mom's cousin is like in his late 20s, he marries this girl in her mid-20s, she's gorgeous, comes from a well off family, has a great career (she paid for her own wedding). They're both from a country where women are still mostly seen as just playing a housewife role so clearly my mom's cousin hit the jackpot. Now my mom's cousin on the other hand just comes from a rich family and God knows what he's doing with his life and most likely does drugs. After the wedding, he shortly divorces her!

Situation 2: My gorgeous friend can honestly get any guy she wants. She got married at 20 to some 28 year old (who had lied about his age, he had told them he was 26). He's 32 now and still hasn't completed his bachelors yet keeps enrolling in courses every semester that he ends up dropping. My friend shortly got her degree at 22. He does shady stuff like lie about going to the library for hours with no evidence of work/studies to back it up. Since he's a good for nothing mofo, my friend's parents bought them a house and paid it off. Fast forward 2 more years later and my friend got sick of his butter and divorced him. Since they had the house under both their names, the bastard ended up making money out of the divorce since they sold it and got 50/50.

Why do men take for granted and treat women who are clearly out of their league like butter? If only they at least had something going on for themselves but they didn't.

For the name of love I have already:
- Learn the language they spoke
- Went back to school for a second degree
- Almost converted to whatever they were practicing

I'm not even 25 yet

Can I get a round of facepalms

*cries hysterically*

I got a dumb cancer sun, cappy moon, aries rising.

Such trash

The obsession with being so fake in all aspects is so disturbing. I'm a Pluto in Sag and even my generation of men are checking to make sure their girls look good without makeup before taking anything seriously so idk why older people think being fake will do them any good.

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i'm so sorry.. what a terrible man... i hope he'd stay far away from you and that you're around loved ones

Yes I had to leave my place and move in with family until I get a new place, he has no idea where I am now. I’m hiding until my court date.

yeah it's best that he doesn't know where you live.. did he show any signs of being violent or abusive in the past? how long have you known each other?

He was never physically abusive
He did argue but I didn’t pay attention to it
He was pocessive and jealous even more towards the end.

2yrs in a half exactly

We lived together half a year.

Did your children live with him also?

I was never ready to let my kids meet him. They never met him. They only knew that I dated someone but never knew him personally

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This is really good. The amount of children who also get abused in the process by such partners of their parents' is alarmingly high.

My thoughts and prayers are with you for fast recovery.

What's worse is when they acted like they cared but ended up actually not caring. Like it mindtreetrunks you.

I dated a Sag that claimed he knew I was the one right after our very first date. 2 months in he asked if I would seriously consider eloping with him to which I responded yes (in the moment thing). The days after he kind of went distant and it was because he couldn't stop thinking about how I would actually elope with him, I guess imagining the reality of that had hit him. Anyway he had claimed he dated like over 25 women and I was the first he wanted to pursue a serious relationship with? He was eager to meet my parents and have me meet his. We broke up before I could meet them in person. He was pretty wealthy but into a Vegas wedding (very distasteful imo). Shortly after our breakup he met someone else and he's already got her calling his mom "mama" so yeah, I'm thinking they're getting hitched.

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I wouldn't say I've completely gotten rid of my body image issues, because they still creep up from time to time, but I'm so much more accepting and loving of my body than I used to be.

I think one of the things that has helped me most was embracing a style of exercise that focuses on the whole human being and fostering self-love instead of just toning body parts. I've been practicing yoga pretty regularly for (OMG, I'm old) 21 years.

Another thing was that I married a man who isn't constantly looking at other women and who makes me feel good about myself. Before him I dated men whose heads were constantly turning and who cheated.

The third thing was I stopped hanging out with catty women who are obsessed with looks and always comparing themselves to other women and putting other women down.

The fourth thing was I stopped reading women's beauty magazines. Teen, Seventeen, and Cosmo were super damaging to me in my teen years. I don't know if girls still read those magazines or if it's all YouTube and Kardashian Instagram bullbutter now. Anyway, avoid shallow media that tells you your importance lies on your looks. You will internalize it and believe it if you're reading/watching it.

This is so important. I have a specific childhood friend who just grew into this self-image absorbed person and God forbid I got skinnier than her, she will go out of her way to share on social media that one picture she caught of me looking weird as long as she looks better in it. And the amount of times I've been skinny shammed by women in general... you can never win.

Yes they are truly evil. They are not worth it in the long run. Make them all walk the plank.

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Does wonders for the skin and when eaten, the MTCs (Medium-chain Trigkycerides) bypass normal digestion in the liver and are quickly converted into ketones. Great for energy and weight loss.

Ketones only happen in keto strict diets

You're referring to ketosis generated by carb restricted diets. MCTs bypass normal digestion and are digested very quickly, converting into ketones. During the latter process, no carb restriction is needed.

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Really? That sounds too good to be true. That's cool.

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Does wonders for the skin and when eaten, the MTCs (Medium-chain Trigkycerides) bypass normal digestion in the liver and are quickly converted into ketones. Great for energy and weight loss.

Ketones only happen in keto strict diets

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Most of you are 30+. I'm just curious on why you don't ever plan on marrying (apart from believing it's an outdated institution) or maybe you do but just haven't found the right person - in that case what are you specifically looking for in a life partner that you haven't found yet? For women, do you ever feel pressured that your clock is ticking? What's your approach on that? Do some of you believe having a long term life partner without marriage is sufficient enough, if so why?

I've stated my views on marriage so often I feel like a broken record. We've also talked kids. Cause he's younger than me and I have the next 5 years really before I need to pull the trigger. Either way I'm freezing my eggs by 33. My mom had babies up until 41...

My friend is in her 50s and regrets not having kids/freezing her eggs. Her cautionary tale is whats lighting a fire under my butt. She's going through the adoption process and its pretty emotionally and financially brutal.

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I bet Doesn't it also suck that it's us women who need to scram in finding the right mate before we dry up or resort to financial heavy and intrusive alternatives like freezing our eggs.

How old is your beau and what is his sign?

Unless they are immature, those with heavy Pluto energy in their natal chart know how to process the energy and don't play mind games or partake in all that power struggle nonsense. It's said in synastry if you have Pluto aspects with someone it can trigger the negative qualities of Pluto energy but it'll mostly be the non-Plutonian that'll struggle with processing it. Or you know sometimes the other person is a butterty human in general to not just you but to others in their life too.

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I've never been big on the whole marriage deal. I'm not completely opposed to it...just doesn't seem necessary imo. I was engaged for 9yrs...and probably would still be just engaged if the circumstances were different lol.

If I ever do get married though...I'm going to the court house and then have a party afterwards. Screw spending all that money for one day.

Engaged for 9 years... what ended it all?