ah... that sounds like my ex... she's a scorp sun, cancer moon, I don't know which way is up with her sometimes seems like she is fighting with herself internally all the time. I used to have to be the referee. She would make a perfect spy
Nah they don't just disappear if they are interested. A day or two sure, but the few scorps I know as a romantic interest they are intense! they harassed me regularly just to say Hi. As friends, they check in sporadically and are making sure nobody is hurting you. I only have one ex scorp that honestly checks on me if she doesn't hear from me and that's because life got in the way of our relationship... I don't exist to the others, and I'm fine with that
I did nothing but get into her head/heart and behind her wall as a Sagittarius. We were together ALL the time for 2.5 years, except for work, I've met the one girlfriend she has (and still has), she's from another country. I was her best friend, live-in boyfriend, travel companion, tutor, lover, everything. She was my first real commitment to a relationship.
I had some business issue that I had to leave for 18 months and she couldn't come. She visited, but it got hard on both of us not seeing each other until we decided to take a break after 6 months and just communicate through email/phone. It was tough to even skype and she would cry afterwards so I cut that off. Now I am back home. When I got back to the apartment last month she moved out, but A LOT of her stuff was still here. She moved out in November, but letters I wrote to her as recent as three months ago were neatly stacked in my bed side table. So she had to come over to put them there as I mailed them to her new address she gave me. She said she felt bad moving on and treetrunking somebody else as she thought I was the one for her, I told her we were on a break and I forgive her(I don't think she believes me), it wasn't her fault I had to leave, I knew it was going to be impossible to stay a couple, but I am back now. She didn't cheat, we have been a non-couple for a year.
I feel as though my return has triggered something in her (maybe she told herself she was over us) and she's perfectly fine keeping communication through texting and phone calls, but that's not what I want after the life we had together. she acknowledged I was the best thing to happen to her, but isn't looking to reconcile.
Three nights ago randomly she face-timed me, first asking if she was disturbing anything and we talked for about 1/2 hour like we used to laughing and it felt like us again, for the first time since I left 18 months ago. I could see her happiness and at the end she just stared at me and we just sat for a second before I just told her good bye with our inside joke language. She texted me a few minutes after saying we have to see each other at some point. I got home a month ago. I saw her the first night and face-time just then, that was it. she texted me last night she feels really lost.
I honestly think she's not being truthful about the boyfriend because she hasn't mentioned him since the day I got back. the guy she said she's with isn't even in the country.. and that's verified by her that night she told me and her friend reached out to me saying welcome back (so obviously she told her friend I am here) and mentioned he's away too, but that she didn't know their status. why would she bail on our LDR and get into another one?
Plus she had a serious surgery in July, while he was gone. Since she got the test results for cervial cancer in April she was emailing me and calling me for serious emotionally support for her and that re-bonded me to her as I was hurting I wasn't going to be back in time for her surgery. That should have been her "boyfriends" job if she had one. I think he cut bait and ran when he realized she wasn't treetrunking for a while. I was one of the first people, if not the first to find out her test results from the surgery a few weeks ago.
I'm just trying to get a scorpio opinion because its obvious we both have feelings but why sting both of us?
@sugeredSap she knew I had to leave. wasn't a choice. I always told her I would come back even after we ended our relationship due to distance. I honestly don't think she did keep all ex's around there was one she used to tell me about. and he's the one she's with now, but for the life of me I don't know why she would get back with him. he's 15 years older than her and has 3 kids .
this is a tough one for me because she's the closet person I've been to in my 33 years on this earth... and that's including my twin brother and my fake ex fiancee (I should never had proposed). emotionally, intellectually, I've cut off dozens of women in my past. she's a tough one to let go of. she's a soul mate for me... I'm not saying she's THE ONE I'll be with forever, she's just made for me and I hate how we ended on those terms. I could take being her friend if we fizzled out and weren't compatible, sure we can be friends and she can hook me up with a hot girlfriend of hers lol ... but it's not the case and she and I both know it.
And honestly I turned down a lot of women when I was gone because she was always calling and emailing and she was good to me when we were physically together in same area and I felt I needed to be loyal because I was the one that left. Knowing I stayed loyal as a Sagittarius no less and she didn't ... my Scorpio rising wants to get revenge... make her fall back for me and tell her to peace out! my sag sun/Aries moon has already started getting me past the emotional hurt. But like war machine said that might be winning the battle and losing the war. And it sucks because she really is a cool woman, she's really the only person I was close to in my whole life besides my twin brother and I know if it wasn't for the circumstances we probably be married with a kid on way like we planned but I feel betrayed. I can't let it go until I get back. I know it's petty but I couldn't stay in contact knowing she one upped me and she thinks she got away with it. We have to be even.
@Cancer and I'm willing to treetrunk and let her live her life. I only came back here for her. I thought she was waiting for me and clearly that wasn't the case. So as soon as I can transfer out of here for work or find a better job somewhere else I'm moving. I hate living here anyway. I don't need no new girl in my life or someone trying to follow me when I leave. She's great company and a tree trunk.
When you keep thinking about a person for 18 months you tend to forget the relationship wasn't perfect.
She tried to sting me saying "of course you want me, all of my exs still want me" that put my mind to beat her at her own game to show her I am still in control even though I've been gone. I think she likes her control back because she fell in step in our relationship bc I am a strong man.
She now has guys that just follow her like puppies and she doesn't have to deal with not being in the drivers seat.
You are probably right war angel. I'm thinking more with the little head than the big one. That's how good she looks and memories come flooding back of her in bed. But in terms of women... she's really just one in millions. I'm losing my emotional connection to her bc of the games... and I'm thinking I'm doing the same back to her. It feels good to be baiting her back but I just want a fwb thing not her all over me again. She does have emotional baggage from her past that used to annoy the butter out of me. I'm starting to remember that now... I don't need that drama again no amount of great sack time and arm candy is worth the up and downs that keep popping up. That emotional baggage takes her from a 9.5 with everything else to a 6.
Actually, I'm just trying to make this hard decision I made to return Home to reunite with her salvageable. I really didn't appreciate her ending our romantic relationship on her terms. We had a great relationship. She admits that. She's still finds me attractive. Now I want my seat back at the table. It's more selfish on my part. I'm more feeding my ego. I find it challenging to see if I can win this situation. I was gone for 18 months and I know it broke our bond as a couple and scorpios " never go back". I feel like proving that if we wanted to it, could have worked.
I've been ignoring my scorpio ex (scorpio sun, cancer moon, cap rising)after she moved on from me (i'm a sag sun, aries moon, scorpio rising). She texts me every few days telling me she doesn't like that i'm so cold to her now. She has a boyfriend. She wants us to start meeting up and spending time together again.... but she just doesn't want me to think that it will lead to us reconciling... I told her a few times over the last month that I have lustful (not really romantic) feelings toward her... and I'm not going to treat her as a friend. She simply replied that she knew that with a smiley face. so I replied what is it you miss me or something, and she just replied back either way I would never tell you.
What the heck is this about. its classic signs she wants to start spending time and talking (hopefully some fwb), but she trying to make it clear she doesn't want to get back together...
I do play along... When I play along she's receptive until I say let's meet up and talk. Then she says it would be awkward. And says she doesn't know when she can see me. The one night I saw her, she avoided eye contact almost the whole time until I started making her laugh... then it started feeling like old times and she got anxious and left. All the pictures and texts came after that.
My older Taurus brother was like she can't switch her relationship off on a dime. My sister is like it was hard to move on for her and she's made up her mind. I think he's a rebound and will do anything she tells him to do. She likes men who stand up to her but aren't stubborn.
Ha! I decided to respond to her last text. She said she's deeply sorry for hurting me and don't think she doesn't feel terrible, but she's been deeply hurt and betrayed before so she knows how I'm feeling.
Did that person ask you to be their friend or are you still friends with who did that to you?
No response lol
Is this a Scorpio thing? She wants me in her life so bad at the moment, I know for a fact we were scary close it was intense. But she's with this new guy ... or is she just trying to wash off some guilt.
I don't know if she's testing my sincerity or having mixed feelings because I'm back. My brother thinks it's feelings(Taurus) my sister (Pisces) thinks I'm on the back burner.... my twin brother(sag) said move on you can bag plenty of chics... go figure...but. I want my Scorpio best friend.and don't know if to fight for her or accept her choice... she's reaching out obviously but it might be out of guilt from lying and avoiding confrontation this last half year. She's never been one to hurt me or argue much. We balance each other...
It's tough because I still love her. She's why I relocated back. And I know how scorpios love but I hoped we could reconcile and be together again like I remember. Today she opened up and She said it hurt badly when I left and she doesn't want me to have hope of a reconciliation because hope is bad. And to move on and we can stay in contact. I'm not a back burner guy.
Not to mention she told me who she was dating. One of her leo fling exs she said she never loved how I was the first man she's been in love with... now all of a sudden she did love him before and is kinda in love with him now.... he's just lucky to have her. From what I knew of him he was happy a hot young woman wanted him and I bet he's lied just to get back with her when I left.
My ex scorpio sun (30, Pisces moon ) told me she moved on while I was gone 18 months and only wants a friendship. I am a sagittarius (33 years old, Sun, aries moon, scorpio rising)... she says there is no hope in getting back together and I should accept her friendship and move on as she is with someone she thinks she is in love with for the last 5 months (and never mentioned it to me once). I told her 3 days ago I will not be friends with her because I always saw us together. She just reiterated to move on and sorry for hurting me. She's been reaching out to me ever since asking me if I am ok and sending me pictures of her in a bikini. I am going No contact because I don't just see her as a friend we were together 2 1/2 years before I had to leave and she decided not to come with me on the known 18 month time frame and 7 months in she decided she wanted to take a break... I came back for her and its crushed me. Why can't she just leave me alone to let me get over my heart break?
first love was a sag...but that was because our personailities meshed... I stayed single for 6 years jumping around a lot... women are drawn to me (sag sun, aries moon, scorpio rising).... I met a scorpio woman and what started out as FWB turned into a 2.5 year relationship, I loved her deeply, but I had to go overseas for grad school and she was in school in the US... after a few months we decided on a break.... but talked everyday...and now I just returned home to found out she's "in love" with a previous boyfriend before me. I'm crushed because that was such an intense, easy connection.
im a sag that dated a scorpio. We love to talk... we like puzzles and scorpios are puzzles so we will quiz you guys, I'm pretty much an open book. and sex wise... yeah they say we aren't compatible, but my scorpio, who's had plenty of lovers (yeah she opened up to me about A LOT of things)... tells me I put on a great performance, probably a big reason why we were together strong for that 2.5 years...she begged me for sex out of my sleep and I put her up against the wall quite a few times.... probably the most aggressive lover I ever had, which makes me want to keep her...and I've had a couple few dozen (I don't want to put my big number out there)... I think my scorpio rising is what kept us so connected too.
but to answer your question... we love to talk, but scorpios make us nervous because you guys don't always reciprocate and we don't know if we are screwing up until we learn you.
also I'm a scorpio rising, so I think it helps balance out my Sag Sun, Aries Moon, once I find someone I click with I am loyal and loving 1000% , I completely stop flirting when it gets serious... but now, I'm starting to feel betrayed and that's never good because my deep scorpio anger kicks in.... my superficial fire anger is just yelling and moving on, but that's not the kind I am feeling right now.
also she told me to pretend like she didn't exist anymore, BUT if I ever need anything she will be there for me no matter what. its so confusing Its been bothering my Sagittarius brain... and the guy is a LEO so its not like compatibility wise we are much different. We talked about marrying and having kids before I left, now I feel like I'm just some guy in her past that she's just being friendly to because she knows I'm a great guy.