SassyKiwi

Situation 1: My mom's cousin is like in his late 20s, he marries this girl in her mid-20s, she's gorgeous, comes from a well off family, has a great career (she paid for her own wedding). They're both from a country where women are still mostly seen as just playing a housewife role so clearly my mom's cousin hit the jackpot. Now my mom's cousin on the other hand just comes from a rich family and God knows what he's doing with his life and most likely does drugs. After the wedding, he shortly divorces her!

Situation 2: My gorgeous friend can honestly get any guy she wants. She got married at 20 to some 28 year old (who had lied about his age, he had told them he was 26). He's 32 now and still hasn't completed his bachelors yet keeps enrolling in courses every semester that he ends up dropping. My friend shortly got her degree at 22. He does shady stuff like lie about going to the library for hours with no evidence of work/studies to back it up. Since he's a good for nothing mofo, my friend's parents bought them a house and paid it off. Fast forward 2 more years later and my friend got sick of his butter and divorced him. Since they had the house under both their names, the bastard ended up making money out of the divorce since they sold it and got 50/50.

Why do men take for granted and treat women who are clearly out of their league like butter? If only they at least had something going on for themselves but they didn't.

For the name of love I have already:
- Learn the language they spoke
- Went back to school for a second degree
- Almost converted to whatever they were practicing

I'm not even 25 yet

Can I get a round of facepalms

*cries hysterically*

I got a dumb cancer sun, cappy moon, aries rising.

Such trash

The obsession with being so fake in all aspects is so disturbing. I'm a Pluto in Sag and even my generation of men are checking to make sure their girls look good without makeup before taking anything seriously so idk why older people think being fake will do them any good.

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i'm so sorry.. what a terrible man... i hope he'd stay far away from you and that you're around loved ones

Yes I had to leave my place and move in with family until I get a new place, he has no idea where I am now. I’m hiding until my court date.

yeah it's best that he doesn't know where you live.. did he show any signs of being violent or abusive in the past? how long have you known each other?

He was never physically abusive
He did argue but I didn’t pay attention to it
He was pocessive and jealous even more towards the end.

2yrs in a half exactly

We lived together half a year.

Did your children live with him also?

I was never ready to let my kids meet him. They never met him. They only knew that I dated someone but never knew him personally

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This is really good. The amount of children who also get abused in the process by such partners of their parents' is alarmingly high.

My thoughts and prayers are with you for fast recovery.

What's worse is when they acted like they cared but ended up actually not caring. Like it mindtreetrunks you.

I dated a Sag that claimed he knew I was the one right after our very first date. 2 months in he asked if I would seriously consider eloping with him to which I responded yes (in the moment thing). The days after he kind of went distant and it was because he couldn't stop thinking about how I would actually elope with him, I guess imagining the reality of that had hit him. Anyway he had claimed he dated like over 25 women and I was the first he wanted to pursue a serious relationship with? He was eager to meet my parents and have me meet his. We broke up before I could meet them in person. He was pretty wealthy but into a Vegas wedding (very distasteful imo). Shortly after our breakup he met someone else and he's already got her calling his mom "mama" so yeah, I'm thinking they're getting hitched.

Posted by FantamRooster
I wouldn't say I've completely gotten rid of my body image issues, because they still creep up from time to time, but I'm so much more accepting and loving of my body than I used to be.

I think one of the things that has helped me most was embracing a style of exercise that focuses on the whole human being and fostering self-love instead of just toning body parts. I've been practicing yoga pretty regularly for (OMG, I'm old) 21 years.

Another thing was that I married a man who isn't constantly looking at other women and who makes me feel good about myself. Before him I dated men whose heads were constantly turning and who cheated.

The third thing was I stopped hanging out with catty women who are obsessed with looks and always comparing themselves to other women and putting other women down.

The fourth thing was I stopped reading women's beauty magazines. Teen, Seventeen, and Cosmo were super damaging to me in my teen years. I don't know if girls still read those magazines or if it's all YouTube and Kardashian Instagram bullbutter now. Anyway, avoid shallow media that tells you your importance lies on your looks. You will internalize it and believe it if you're reading/watching it.

This is so important. I have a specific childhood friend who just grew into this self-image absorbed person and God forbid I got skinnier than her, she will go out of her way to share on social media that one picture she caught of me looking weird as long as she looks better in it. And the amount of times I've been skinny shammed by women in general... you can never win.

Yes they are truly evil. They are not worth it in the long run. Make them all walk the plank.

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Does wonders for the skin and when eaten, the MTCs (Medium-chain Trigkycerides) bypass normal digestion in the liver and are quickly converted into ketones. Great for energy and weight loss.

Ketones only happen in keto strict diets

You're referring to ketosis generated by carb restricted diets. MCTs bypass normal digestion and are digested very quickly, converting into ketones. During the latter process, no carb restriction is needed.

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Really? That sounds too good to be true. That's cool.

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Does wonders for the skin and when eaten, the MTCs (Medium-chain Trigkycerides) bypass normal digestion in the liver and are quickly converted into ketones. Great for energy and weight loss.

Ketones only happen in keto strict diets

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Most of you are 30+. I'm just curious on why you don't ever plan on marrying (apart from believing it's an outdated institution) or maybe you do but just haven't found the right person - in that case what are you specifically looking for in a life partner that you haven't found yet? For women, do you ever feel pressured that your clock is ticking? What's your approach on that? Do some of you believe having a long term life partner without marriage is sufficient enough, if so why?

I've stated my views on marriage so often I feel like a broken record. We've also talked kids. Cause he's younger than me and I have the next 5 years really before I need to pull the trigger. Either way I'm freezing my eggs by 33. My mom had babies up until 41...

My friend is in her 50s and regrets not having kids/freezing her eggs. Her cautionary tale is whats lighting a fire under my butt. She's going through the adoption process and its pretty emotionally and financially brutal.

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I bet Doesn't it also suck that it's us women who need to scram in finding the right mate before we dry up or resort to financial heavy and intrusive alternatives like freezing our eggs.

How old is your beau and what is his sign?

Unless they are immature, those with heavy Pluto energy in their natal chart know how to process the energy and don't play mind games or partake in all that power struggle nonsense. It's said in synastry if you have Pluto aspects with someone it can trigger the negative qualities of Pluto energy but it'll mostly be the non-Plutonian that'll struggle with processing it. Or you know sometimes the other person is a butterty human in general to not just you but to others in their life too.

Posted by LostinmyMind11
I've never been big on the whole marriage deal. I'm not completely opposed to it...just doesn't seem necessary imo. I was engaged for 9yrs...and probably would still be just engaged if the circumstances were different lol.

If I ever do get married though...I'm going to the court house and then have a party afterwards. Screw spending all that money for one day.

Engaged for 9 years... what ended it all?

Posted by nikkistar
Been married once, really don't need to be married to the Cancer. However, HE wants to be married, and he likes the ring, so I will abide by what he wants. That piece of paper isn't the end all be all for me. I can be with him for life, without it. Marriage doesn't equate to longevity of a relationship.

And to be honest, I really don't see a need for an extravagant wedding. The wasting of money, to essentially entertain a bunch of folks, seems economically stupid. I'd be fine going to Vegas, putting on a nice little eggshell dress, and then just having fun the remaining time like a vacation. Hell, I wouldn't mind a justice of the peace doing it, and then spending money on a honeymoon instead.

I just don't see a purpose in NEEDING to be married.

What is the biggest thing from your first marriage that you don't feel concerned over for this next life partner of yours?

Posted by tiziani
I'm about to get engaged end of this month. Just wanted to sort out the living situation first. Having said that ours is not a typical marriage arrangement, which I don't think either of us would have been entirely satisfied with anyway to begin with. So as for the "institution" itself, I've no idea.

Ooh congratulations! What kind of special marriage arrangement will you two have?

Posted by Metatron
been so twice....the ceremonies are super romantic and fun to me - picking out the music you both want to listen to, the menu, setting/decor, everything - open bar w/all your family and friends...just a great way to creatively celebrate your relationship IMO, be excessive and indulgent for a night etc....And I have no issues with the spotty history of the institution of marriage itself, as I think people can and do lend whatever meaning they want to the ritual.....But no, I don't think I would ever put myself in that situation with anyone ever again....I can probably suffer through any kind of obligation, but I no longer have confidence that a lasting love is something I (or anyone else really) can honestly commit to, at least not the emotional component of it....

Can you elaborate on this. Why do you think you struggled to emotionally commit yourself? Did you both want different things? Marriage is supposed to be about more than love. After the infatuation and honeymoon phase it's down to the daily grind of life without that extra cloud 9 fluff - I feel like this is where people give up. It's like all they crave is the initial highs and rush and don't want to face the reality that it is a short duration component of every relationship.

Most of you are 30+. I'm just curious on why you don't ever plan on marrying (apart from believing it's an outdated institution) or maybe you do but just haven't found the right person - in that case what are you specifically looking for in a life partner that you haven't found yet? For women, do you ever feel pressured that your clock is ticking? What's your approach on that? Do some of you believe having a long term life partner without marriage is sufficient enough, if so why?

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Or don't date hoes seems simpler

So you have these magic abilities to tell a faithful woman when you see one??

Can I bring you out with me and let you use your faithful woman radar?

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I have this. If you wire me money I will provide services.

The ones that I've failed I've had ridiculously difficult synastry with. Synastry reports were like in the negatives. Like someone said, sexual chemistry seems to be pretty accurate but let's say for example there's a spicy aspect like ascendant conjunct venus in synastry. Maybe you have it in synastry, if you don't, you could have it in composite instead, or maybe you don't have it in synastry or composite but have it like x's progressed ascendant conjunct y's natal venus. I'm sure there's other ways to justify that ascendant-venus energy. Basically it's all poopie.