Posted by _elle_
You don't take anything from a Taurus.
Good luck.
Posted by WizardzPosted by smiley_smiles
Scorpio man will never leave their wife / first love. It's just an undying loyalty for him. He may cheat, he may use other girls, but he will never love them the way he loves his first love / wife. Instead, your life will be ruined by him if you keep on trying. Is it worth it? Why not get a better and best man for yourself who loves only you and not maintain any side chicks? How beautiful it will look?? Think over it❤️
How do you sound so rational and even wise in this post and so utterly deluded in your own thread?? You sure you're not a Gemini?click to expand
Posted by Ixi
@smiley_smiles
Another Virgo man here...
I have been keeping a very loose eye on your threads for the past few months...and I have to say overall you likely need to back off.
I will start by saying, I understand that you're in pain, a bit lost, let down, angry, sad and hurt...with that acknowledgment I know that it is hard to just let it go.
While it may be hard to let go of him...you have to for your own sake.
You're violating boundaries (his, and believe it or not, yours) despite very significant signals that this relationship would not be a healthy one.
When you give no concern for his emotions and make it his responsibility to make sure you're okay you express selfishness, self-absorption, and emotional immaturity (it does not matter what your intent was or is) at the very minimum.
In the long run, you are setting yourself up for constant disappointment, dismissal, and maybe harm (emotionally, legally, god forbid but perhaps even physically given what you said).
The Virgo male archetype is cool-headed, practical, cautious, reserved...not prone to lose sight of himself even if he is very much so in love...you pressing him as you have likely pushed him away as your efforts smack of desperation and obsession and both of those ways of being are massive red flags to anyone who wants a healthy relationship.
When you refuse to accept what another person's wishes are for themselves (provided those wishes have nothing to do with you and does not harm them or others), you express disrespect of the other person's dignity.
As much as you may want to "convince" him all you're doing is embarrassing yourself and losing out on the opportunity to present yourself as mature and self-sufficient and to a certain degree damaging your self-esteem.
Posted by bkbella86Posted by S2PhoenixPosted by bkbella86Posted by S2PhoenixPosted by bkbella86Posted by S2PhoenixPosted by bkbella86
What do you mean he makes himself available when you ask? Ask what?
To go do things together
Why are you asking a man out? Don’t do that
He asked me to ask whenever I wanted to do something, so I do....but I get you. Won't do that anymore.
Yeah to make it easy for him. Don’t be easy.
I'm trying not to, but I feel comfortable with him a lot times, but when he does this I pull away. I just have to pull away, because I don't feel safe :/
You’re doing good. That’s called mirroring. But please don’t address him with words. He’s not your bf and even still you shouldn’t have to tell someone to contact you. The fact that you’re even asking should tell you something.
I went through this with a Taurus but also other signs. It’s not sign specific it’s human nature. Let men come to you, you shouldn’t have to do any heavy lifting. I mean he’s the one who approached you in the 1st place right?click to expand
Posted by malloryorPosted by Gem03Posted by malloryorPosted by SagoxaPosted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Lol.. i always am with guys older than me. Never been played by them. Never younger, never the same age. The closest one is 2 years, that one was the one that destroyed me the most lol..
So im sticking to older guys.. 4-10 years, i think it's the matter of preference.
But back to the topic right here, OP is seriously dumb. It's not the matter of age gap, it's just a matter of her being delusional 🤪🤣
I didn’t say it’s not possible for a younger woman to date older. I said OP CANNOT date older.
There are two groups of women who date older:
• Women—who are actually little girls, and think they’re doing something by dating an older man because they think: “I’m young, so I’m special,” or “he thinks I’m so mature, I can’t be bothered with kids my age...” it’s like a power trip. But while their confidence is rising, so is their beau’s ego—a recipe for disaster.
•Women who are legitimately light years ahead of their peers in emotional intelligence, career goals, etc.
Op is the first set of women, and she has no business with this man. And this man has no business entertaining a girl who still believes red flags can turn into a “Notebook, fairytale ending.”
Tbh I'm a mix of both types of women you listed (I'm 22 tho). I can be a bit childish and all my air placements don't help. But my boundaries are set in stone. If I am ever in a position where what I'm giving is greater than what I'm receiving I walk out. Reciprocation is everything. I believe in love and want a forever love but self-respect and dignity matter far more than my emotions. When it comes to men the way they treat you is usually how they feel about you. They are simple creatures.
OP is being treated like a doormat/rag. How can he like her when he doesn't even respect her?
The fact that you can admit you’re both, says a lot about your maturity. Give yourself more credit, you’re light years ahead than most women. I wish I knew half this stuff at 22 🙏🏽click to expand
Posted by malloryorPosted by SagoxaPosted by malloryorPosted by Dilemma99
So this guy (30/m) I’m (22/f) seeing just broke up with his ex recently. He wanted to marry her but it didn’t work out. He met me, we hooked up, and spent a week together when I flew out to see him. 2 days later he sends me a text saying he’s working things out with his ex, that we’re just friends, and to take this picture I had added on social media down (from the week we spent together), then he unfollowed me and I saw that he added his ex back. Fast forward 2 weeks later he added me back on social media and saw that he and the ex unfollowed each other. He told me that broke up again the night before. Anyways, I flew back out to see him 3 weeks after they broke up again.
The first time I was here (last month) as I said he called me his friend and told me he didn’t want him getting in the way of me meeting other guys. Now that I’m back out here his friends wanted to go out so I went with him which I took as a good sign that he wanted me to meet his friends. So now I’m convinced he only said those things (saying we were just friends and not to get in the way of meeting other men) because he felt forced to by the ex and didn’t really mean it.
Here’s a little more back story:
We met through my cousin and they’re really good friends. My cousin is also really good friends with the ex. Both parties have confided in so my cousin so she has the inside scoop.
They were broken up for 5 months. Went full NC for 2 or 3 months. I met him months prior, no hanging out yet. He unfollowed me on IG when when they started talking again but not together. He was supposed to go be with her and her family for the holidays and then that’s when they went full NC for 2 months. He added me back and then eventually made plans to see him vday weekend.
During the 2 months they went NC I was told he was crying over her, making posts about her, 2 days before I flew out there he even made a post with her initials saying he missed her, bought tickets for a June concert because he knew she’d be there and was hoping to run into her, and even contacted her mom. So apparently he kept trying but she kept ignoring him. Then on vday, when I was here, he contacted her to say happy vday. I left a few days later and that same day that I left he asked her to go to dinner. This is when he texted me saying he was working things out with her, they had gone to dinner, and that we were just friends, stop making and to take down all posts about my visit. He was also upfront with her about me.
So while they briefly got back together he had talked about how she was going to be his wife and the mother of his children. So he found out that she had seen someone while they were broken up. He got really upset and angry about it and told her now he’s unsure if he wanted to be with her. She in turn got all dramatic and she kicked him to the curb a few weeks later. He begged for her to stay but she still broke up with him. The very next day after their breakup he added me back on social media, and 3 weeks later now I’m here. So I’m out here with his friends again. I do know after meeting me the first time his friend said, “don’t screw it up with the *ex’s name*, she’s the best you’re ever going to get”. So I thought he was bringing me around again so that his friends could get to know me better. So all good signs?
So yea, all of this was told to me by cousin and she and she showed me some of the screenshots.
So my question is, has this Leo man developed feelings for me/like me? I just don’t think a Leo man will spend days with you (I’m out here for a week) and have you meet his friends unless he has feelings for you and it’s not about sex.
Another thing:
Stop dating men almost 10 years your senior. They are out of your league, and out of your depth of understanding.
You girls love to think you’re doing something getting with these older guys but the reality is, majority of the time, he’s with you for one thing, and it’s not cuz you’re some nymph in the bedroom. I bet you that Leo has part of him on lock cuz she’s some of the best sex he’s ever had.
Point? Most guys who entertain a little girl almost 10 years younger are just doing it to play games. You’re easy, naive, emotionally immature, inexperienced at life, and too arrogant to heed anyone’s warnings—-that makes you the PERFECT type of girl to run game on while he waits for ex to take him back.
Lol.. i always am with guys older than me. Never been played by them. Never younger, never the same age. The closest one is 2 years, that one was the one that destroyed me the most lol..
So im sticking to older guys.. 4-10 years, i think it's the matter of preference.
But back to the topic right here, OP is seriously dumb. It's not the matter of age gap, it's just a matter of her being delusional 🤪🤣
I didn’t say it’s not possible for a younger woman to date older. I said OP CANNOT date older.
There are two groups of women who date older:
• Women—who are actually little girls, and think they’re doing something by dating an older man because they think: “I’m young, so I’m special,” or “he thinks I’m so mature, I can’t be bothered with kids my age...” it’s like a power trip. But while their confidence is rising, so is their beau’s ego—a recipe for disaster.
•Women who are legitimately light years ahead of their peers in emotional intelligence, career goals, etc.
Op is the first set of women, and she has no business with this man. And this man has no business entertaining a girl who still believes red flags can turn into a “Notebook, fairytale ending.”click to expand