She's 21 and just like me...she hides away and feels embarrass to cry in front of anyone or show her weaknesses so therefore I know even though she is putting up the front of being ok, she's crippled inside when alone It breaks my heart that she is going through this as having just been down that road I know how hard it was to pick up again and she is so young, this was a very real first for her...she thought they would have babies and be together forever. Tonight she mentioned through FB that she has his named tatooed on him and how stupid she now feels...I took the light road and said remember what Mumma said when you decided to do it, mumma knows best...she replied haha, I know lol
I've come through a breakup which took longer than I thought and took it's toll on me personally, but it's done after an agonising 6 months...
Now my baby girl is going through it after being with her bf for 4 1/2 years and moving to another country for him. I'm totally helpless in what I can do to help. I know she has to go through the motions, as we all do but as a mother I want to ease the pain and being so far away it's differ cult...I ring and text her everyday and she picks up if she is up to it....it's so raw, less than a week and I feel so helpless!
Most people here don't work, not the way we do over this side of the world anyhow. We leave school to work from 17-18 years unless you attend full time university to complete a degree and you wouldn't have time to be playing on a social networking site. We're out of home and on our own not long after school and well on our way to completely being independent by 25!
It's not uncommon to hear your still living with parents and part time schooling to get degrees to obtain a job anywhere from 20-40 from what I've seen in the years that I've been here and I find it all quite bazaar??
Yes, I've had a double brie sitting in the fridge for over a week..If I had a partner it would have been gone along with a few other cheeses and a whole platter of nibbles and when the kids come I go and do a special shop!
Coffee and whatever is the fridge isn't easy enough for them to make a meal, although it suits me fine.
Oh I totally understand that the looking good feeling good is not just for myself and that yes for some strange reason even though I am a happier person single, I still hold out hope that I will find another SO.
And in reality PM, I always want to maintain that feel good feeling, however, when with someone I and a lot of others tend to put their partners first and time together is important. That can cut into "feel good time" with working full time either with the family or job, somethings have got to give or you will find yourself just falling into bed every night exhausted and then even your sex life can suffer. Unless of course you get someone with the same love and can do these things together.
In my job within the gym industry, every single person is there for a reason...it all comes down to wanting to feel better about themselves. People from all walks of life and it is notable that many are unhappy in their relationships and come in to look and feel better. People are generally lonely and unhappy for various reasons.
I was talking to a friend yesterday who says she has put on a lot of weight since being with her fianc?. I myself while in a relationship had put on weight and noticed my daughters young friend has also gained several pounds now she is in a relationship. When my partner and I split, I lost the 5 kilos and carry what I know is my comfortable body weight.
We were discussing the happiness differences of being partnered up and single.
Seems, when your relationship hits the comfort zone, many put on weight. Why do you think this is? Are you really as happy loved up than not? She seemed unhappy and depressed to me, which bought home how I was feeling with my ex...just existing together, no longer any excitement and she is getting married!
When I was loved up, I thought I was happy but looking back now know that I wasn't and it was also noted by my friends after the fact as well as the weight gain. (hate that no one would take the time to tell me what they were thinking)
When single, particularly newly single there is weight loss for various reasons. Depression, grooming yourself to look and feel better and possibly to find love again. A More socially active life style but still beaming on the out and a sadness in at times when all alone.
I know it's very hard to be happy all the time, do you find you're happier with yourself in a relationship or out of one? There are benefits of being single too...complete selfishness is justifiable
I gave $ 500 each to 2 of my children and to my partner at the time and spent $ 3000 on something I wanted for the house. After considering what to do with it, I believed it was a windfall (easy come easy go) and I wanted others to share in it with me. We all needed or wanted something...
My children love me but I have often heard them say that I expect too much from them. I expect them to work, find a partner that works and they work together for a future before children. Help me out when needed...I don't think it's much to ask but I do see that they want the same life I have given them but want it handed to them...that ain't going to happen.
My daughters are Taurus (we always always fight) Leo, get along better with her but she has a loser bf who won't look for work and sits on playstation while she works full-time. Cancer, still young and unattached and living at home.
I know that I have always excepted most of what they do but I always warn them when I see where they are heading, probably because I have been there and done that. I'm also not blinded by rose coloured glasses. The Leo takes on board what I say more than the other two.
I believe I am not stern enough and this would be my biggest downfall when raising them, their father didn't have much input and that didn't help. Children need to be guided by two parents that stand strong together. If one says no, and they go to the other the other will always back the first decision! Otherwise they will divide and concur!!!
The one that trusts imo has the hardest love life, I am both. When I meet someone and the guards come down I trust them with everything and when it falls to pieces, it takes a long time for me to regain myself and I become guarded to protect myself.
I might go without love for a long period of time but this is way easier than dealing with all the emotional turmoil of a split, plus during this time, I work on me as a person and strengthen my character.