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MrR78
joined January 23, 2017
  • the above message is directed to @aquasnoz
  • Mate I am not an Aqua and my closest dealings with an aqua was my ex which I spoke to you about.

    I just want to say that I think you are a good person and I hope you resolve your issues. I may not be able to give you an aqua point of view or experience, but if you need to vent or just chat, message me!!!

    You helped me out at a time where I was confused and at a low point, and if I can I would like to return the favour.

    Best of luck!!
  • @boots1313 - I understand your point of view. Its not that there is anything hidden, I am not saying that, her behaviour to me is weird. Theres no issue with being proper friends with no hidden agendas and motives. Being mates means sharing stuff, meeting up and having a laugh but respecting the boundaries.

    She is married and I doubt I am an option, I don't want to be one either. Its the advice she gives without me even asking for it lol.
  • @queenaries2 - I am not sure and I cant exactly remember her date of birth to confirm it. I know her birthday is tomorrow. If I find out how old she is, I will update it here.

    @pathos - I don't mind my ex talking to me as the feelings are resolved, its the nature of how its done and the restrictions. I have other ex;s who I meet up with and hangout and there is nothing between us except friendship. In fact one is even dating my cousins, cousins and everything is cool. It just the way she does it, that I find a bit weird.

    @nevamore -I have asked in the past in an indirect way and I get a very wishy washy answer. Sometimes she just doesn't respond, I leave it and then a few weeks later I hear from her via text. Saying that in the last 6 months we have only spoken on the phone once, most of the communication is via text.
  • So 11 years ago my ex Taurus girlfriend and I got together we dated for around 4 years. It was pretty intense relationship and we did discuss marriage but over time we grew apart. When we first started to date, we had very little in common and I guess over time those differences just moved us in different paths. As a person I still think she is amazing she just wasn’t the right person for me.
    We split up in 2011 and around 6 months after the break up we became friends with benefits and this lasted for over a year and she told me that she was getting engaged. It was an initial shock but I was happy for her as she always wanted to settle down.

    My ex gets married and I just continued with my life until about 6 months ago when she got into contact with me asking for training and nutritional advice. I was happy to hear from her (I don’t have feelings for her anymore) and we caught up and had a laugh and it was nice. Prior to that I didn’t not hear from that girl at all except the odd Happy birthday or Merry xmas message.
    So my initial question is after so many years of not talking, why did she make contact with me? I know I can ask her but I know I wont get a straight forward response.

    My ex knows I am seeing someone and will be getting engaged soon and she is happy for me.
    However when I ask her to meet up for a coffee as friends she always declines so I don’t ask anymore. She also gives me alot of relationship and marriage advice when I don’t ask for it and when I ask her how her life is and what she has been up to etc, she tells me she just goes to work, comes home and looks after her family.

    Its almost like she has me in her life but keeps me at arms length, from my end I don’t have any feelings for her but would like to be mates with her.

    Can any Taurus women help in shedding light on her behaviour.
    Thanks in advance.
  • This is quite an interesting topic and one I watch closely.

    I am a Leo and my soon to be fiancé is an Aries. So from a personal perspective I would say both are leaders but have very unique ways of leadership. So its quite hard to generalise who is a leader overall.

    For example, I see the bigger picture that my Mrs perhaps doesn't. She was never one to plan, and I introduced her to planning. Now she sees the benefits of planning. I am probably not as spontaneous as her and she has shown me the value to being spontaneous.

    Both of us are capable of leading, however my Mrs is more of a people pleaser than I am so most of the times she is more likely to go along with things. But saying that when she gets a bee in her bonnet about something she is very organised, practical and delivers.

    This is one of the things that attracted me to her, if she has a task to do she achieves it.

    In her worklife she is a true leader and possesses the skills to become successful. Me on the otherhand can be the same but I take a more relaxed approach. So its a hard call to make overall.
  • Thank you all for your advice.

    It is appreciated. We had our first big argument over someone so small which I will go into detail about some other time.

    Most of the characteristics described here is exactly how she behaved. To a degree we were both in the wrong. Talked it out and decided that as we are both very independent people we now need to stop reacting in a way that we are used and to start thinking of each other a bit more.

    But damn man... my woman is really sensitive!!!! Experienced that this weekend.
  • Good advice bud.

    I have always been honest with her even when she doesn't like it.

    She has a tendency to blow up very quickly but then calm down at the same time.

    I am quite independent so have never really taken her independence from her. Been with needy women in the past and I don't want to be with someone I have to look after.

    That's not a partnership, that's baby sitting lol.
  • Hello.

    Opinions and advice please? As the title says are Aries women sensitive? Yes it can be said to a certain degree that all women are sensitive, but are Aries women a little more sensitive than perhaps the rest of the signs.

    I have been dating an Aries for 4 months things are great. She is independent, focussed, driven, family orientated, level headed, attractive and funny.

    My only concern is her sensitivity. I am Leo and raised in Australia and we just say what we need to say and be done with it. Once its out there its done and I don't tend to carry any grudges.

    The sensitivity is probably the only difference between us and I would rather have advice and opinions now than have a disagreement with her. Sure we bicker but we have never had an argument.

    Thanks in advance
  • My aqua ex was definitely an eye opening experience. Even though I don't have her as a person anymore I am glad I went through what I did. My Aqua ex definitely made me a better person and that's one thing I will always thank her for.

    Its because of her things are going really well with my aries.
  • I initially voice my feelings. If you don't listen and consistently make the same mistake then a scene is created. If it still happens then depending on the person or the situation we then become cold and if after all that, the person still doesn't listen or change their behaviours then its goodbye.....

    Its like a simple 3 step theory.. I will ask you, I will tell you, then I will take action.
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  • Have you asked yourself why you want him back? What are your reasons and are you just actually kidding yourself into believing your own thoughts and perceptions?

    I was with an Aquarius girl who completely messed me about and I spent a lot of time trying to figure things out when in actual fact sometimes its best to just let things go and focus on yourself.

    Turns out now that I am with an Aries woman and my Aqua ex cant match what the Aries has on so many levels.

    When things like this happen, we as people tend to waste so much energy on figuring out why it happened as opposed to spending that energy on ourselves.

    I am sure you are a catch. So start believing it, figure out what it is you want in a man and start looking for it. No doubt in time it will come and soon.

    Best of luck, focus on YOU and make YOU happy first. Everything else falls into place afterwards...
  • For me its quite simple...

    Its when any relationship (plutonic or not) runs its course and my morals and ethics tell me its no longer of any value to me.

    I cant speak for other Leos but for me once this happens there is no turning back. I go through a phase of self reflection and look at where I did things wrongs and tend to blame myself.

    I find it hard to let go but once I have in my mind I have logically pieced the puzzle together and then realise there is no value left in that relationship for me. Its at this point I stop thinking with my ego and pride and carry on with my life.

    The thing with Leos is that we placed a lot of value on morals and ethics and if we have acted morally or ethically then the other person is done - out of sight out of mind!!!
  • I think the first thing you should do is to be honest with yourself.

    What is it that you want from life, from her and from yourself in general.

    Then see how she fits into that equation.

    Some people are worth making the effort for but its not necessarily the effort we have in mind. Others we think are worth making the effort for but when we check ourselves and get our own heads straight we realise those people weren't really worth the effort in the first place.

    She does seem like a genuine decent person though. You just need to understand and decided what it is you want form her and how she fits into your life, have the talk, and then move forwards.

  • Its not something you want to spend time analysing and understanding. Been there done that and it did not benefit me at all.

    What did benefit me was to stop wasting my time, improve myself apply an abundance mentality move on with my life and become happy within myself.

    Real happiness is form within and not reliant on how someone else sees your worth.
  • Posted by Ellygant
    Posted by MrR78
    Well, I can speak from personal experience and what I have learnt.

    I was madly in love with an Aquarius woman, and we worked together (still do), and she was considerably younger than me. I THOUGHT she was the one and when she spoke to her parents about me they did not agree due to the age difference and my ex broke up with me.

    I was pretty devastated and evidence can be found of that on DXP. I looked for answers everywhere and just could not find them, made excuses for my ex's behaviour etc. I was miserable for a year.

    Since we broke up (just over a year now) she went back to her ex, and her parents said no to him, they have since introduced her to another boy and she was dating him for a while and that has also died a death. Now she seems miserable in life in general, issues at home, single, and problems with her family while I took the time out to look at my flaws improve myself and generally become a happy person once again.

    Now I am talking to someone and hopefully I will make it official this weekend. This girl is amazing and has all the qualities I want in a woman. She is smart, mature, emotionally mature, driven, focussed, beautiful, funny, has a sense of humour, humble and aggressive when she needs to be.

    They myth of the one in my opinion is a limitation because we attached ourselves to a person or an outcome.

    There is an abundance of people to date in this world and somewhere at someone point, someone is also looking to date just as much as we are.

    The bottom line is to accept your flaws, improve yourself and make yourself attractive to the opposite sex once again. Do not attach yourself to a person or an outcome, just be the best you can be and the universe will bring you a person into your life who is suitable. How long they are suitable for is unknown, but the best thing I can say is to laugh and live in the present.

    The past is the past, they are not the "one anymore" the future is unknown and we can only control what we have now, the present!!

    So the point I am making is that not moving on completely is a personal limitation we put on ourselves, our happiness, sadness, misery, relationships, love etc are all in our hands. We to some degree control our own destiny!!!


    Well of course there are always people to date and people to love.

    That’s why I’m interested in people who still never quite move on from a particular partner. People who still hold a piece of their past in the present and maintain a sense of being and of happiness.

    Finding new people is actually pretty easy. Loving someone for decades who you’ll likely never be with, yet still being happy about your life, doesn’t seem as easy lol.
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    @Ellygant - I see your point of view. This is quite an interesting thread because a lot of what people write will be down to personal experience and that's something that is personal to all of us. None of us will ever share the same as someone else.

    Saying that though - I have happy memories of ex's but Id say I have completely let them go. Now is this possibly based on astrology and charts?

  • Well, I can speak from personal experience and what I have learnt.

    I was madly in love with an Aquarius woman, and we worked together (still do), and she was considerably younger than me. I THOUGHT she was the one and when she spoke to her parents about me they did not agree due to the age difference and my ex broke up with me.

    I was pretty devastated and evidence can be found of that on DXP. I looked for answers everywhere and just could not find them, made excuses for my ex's behaviour etc. I was miserable for a year.

    Since we broke up (just over a year now) she went back to her ex, and her parents said no to him, they have since introduced her to another boy and she was dating him for a while and that has also died a death. Now she seems miserable in life in general, issues at home, single, and problems with her family while I took the time out to look at my flaws improve myself and generally become a happy person once again.

    Now I am talking to someone and hopefully I will make it official this weekend. This girl is amazing and has all the qualities I want in a woman. She is smart, mature, emotionally mature, driven, focussed, beautiful, funny, has a sense of humour, humble and aggressive when she needs to be.

    They myth of the one in my opinion is a limitation because we attached ourselves to a person or an outcome.

    There is an abundance of people to date in this world and somewhere at someone point, someone is also looking to date just as much as we are.

    The bottom line is to accept your flaws, improve yourself and make yourself attractive to the opposite sex once again. Do not attach yourself to a person or an outcome, just be the best you can be and the universe will bring you a person into your life who is suitable. How long they are suitable for is unknown, but the best thing I can say is to laugh and live in the present.

    The past is the past, they are not the "one anymore" the future is unknown and we can only control what we have now, the present!!

    So the point I am making is that not moving on completely is a personal limitation we put on ourselves, our happiness, sadness, misery, relationships, love etc are all in our hands. We to some degree control our own destiny!!!
  • I dated a Virgo years ago when I moved from Australia to the UK. She was my first girlfriend when I moved here and were both in our early 20s.

    Whilst the relationship was somewhat "immature" she is actually my oldest friend in this country. I have known her for 19 years now and we are still going strong as friends.

    Now from personal experience looking back at her as a girlfriend and also a very close friend I can say that what attracted me to her was her carefree attitude. I was quite highly strung at that time mentally. She was attracted to my focus and drive and determination.

    Our communication style s were very different, she would not open up and all I did was want to open up and talk so it became tedious for the both of us.

    One fundamental difference I have found between Leos and Virgos (my brother is a virgo and so are 5 of my closest friends) is that emotionally and mentally we are very different.

    I find that Virgos are also emotionally driven creatures but they are driven for different reasons to Leos. Another thing I have found is that mentally when I engage in proper dialogue (ie ask a Virgo to back up their statements or provide facts evidence etc) they seem to think in the moment at that point as opposed to what the original question was or fail to see how the conversation has progressed to reach the point its at now. That was and still is very frustrating for me.

    Saying that though the one thing I do love about Virgos is that when they feel comfortable or and safe in a relationship they do tend to put everything into it and it can be amazing. My issue with them was I found them to be inconsistent, Leos like consistency.

    So from personal experience, yes I was attracted to Virgos at one point in my life when I was younger, but experiences have taught met now to keep away form them romantically (also Taurus). But I do understand the attraction and energy a leo and Virgo can feel when the "lust or attraction phase" is in play.

    Over time though, I think the differences are too big. This is all from personal experience, I am sure there are successful virgo/leo couples out there. Also you need to take into consideration other factors like the moon sign etc. These things all make a difference as it not just the sun sign that needs to be considered.

    Hope this helps.
  • @aquarius_man - lol ok is the aries worse than an aquarius in that sense? Learnt a lot from my Aqua ex in respect of myself so hopefully the same issues aren't made with the Aries.

    The series is called Cane and Abel mate. I was in the gym doing some stick and knife work and we were approached by the guy making the film asking us to be in the scene. We were like yeah whatever. Turns out the producer is a nice guy and we became mates. We shot half the scene for the film. 2 days later he tells Netflix have contacted him and they want to do a 10 part series. So he now has to stretch 1hr 30 film in 10 50 min episodes.

    @Bittercupcake - Hmm I cant really be temperamental and jealous unless something is triggered inside of me. Come to think of it I am not the jealous type because I value my freedom a lot.

    But thank you for the advice. She seems quite bubbly and has a zest for life which is what I like