Posted by EllygantPosted by MrR78
Well, I can speak from personal experience and what I have learnt.
I was madly in love with an Aquarius woman, and we worked together (still do), and she was considerably younger than me. I THOUGHT she was the one and when she spoke to her parents about me they did not agree due to the age difference and my ex broke up with me.
I was pretty devastated and evidence can be found of that on DXP. I looked for answers everywhere and just could not find them, made excuses for my ex's behaviour etc. I was miserable for a year.
Since we broke up (just over a year now) she went back to her ex, and her parents said no to him, they have since introduced her to another boy and she was dating him for a while and that has also died a death. Now she seems miserable in life in general, issues at home, single, and problems with her family while I took the time out to look at my flaws improve myself and generally become a happy person once again.
Now I am talking to someone and hopefully I will make it official this weekend. This girl is amazing and has all the qualities I want in a woman. She is smart, mature, emotionally mature, driven, focussed, beautiful, funny, has a sense of humour, humble and aggressive when she needs to be.
They myth of the one in my opinion is a limitation because we attached ourselves to a person or an outcome.
There is an abundance of people to date in this world and somewhere at someone point, someone is also looking to date just as much as we are.
The bottom line is to accept your flaws, improve yourself and make yourself attractive to the opposite sex once again. Do not attach yourself to a person or an outcome, just be the best you can be and the universe will bring you a person into your life who is suitable. How long they are suitable for is unknown, but the best thing I can say is to laugh and live in the present.
The past is the past, they are not the "one anymore" the future is unknown and we can only control what we have now, the present!!
So the point I am making is that not moving on completely is a personal limitation we put on ourselves, our happiness, sadness, misery, relationships, love etc are all in our hands. We to some degree control our own destiny!!!
Well of course there are always people to date and people to love.
That’s why I’m interested in people who still never quite move on from a particular partner. People who still hold a piece of their past in the present and maintain a sense of being and of happiness.
Finding new people is actually pretty easy. Loving someone for decades who you’ll likely never be with, yet still being happy about your life, doesn’t seem as easy lol.click to expand