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Posted by rejuvenatedheart

Posted by neves
Pisces probably... 🤔

I say this because i can't remember (she treetrunked my brains out... 😵).

What's your Sun sign?

OOH! OOH! OOOOOHHHH!



I know this one! Pick me!

Lmao yes Mlle Fisky, go ahead please. 😌

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I could swear that's at least the 3rd deja vu this year... 😵

Tx, I ow you one 😜

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Posted by neves
Pisces probably... 🤔

I say this because i can't remember (she treetrunked my brains out... 😵).

What's your Sun sign?

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I am Legion



What am I?! 😏

Pisces probably... 🤔

I say this because i can't remember (she treetrunked my brains out... 😵).

Hmm... 🤔

http://www.greatwallofvagina.co.uk/great-wall-vagina-panels

Hard to say based on looks alone. 🤷 I mean, we all know - hygiene is very important. Other than that, it's like looking for your Cinderella (: Poosyrella). It's one of those things you have to try it on - till you find the one that fits just right.

One thing is for sure... there's no one size fits all.

I remember seeing a similar topic shortly after i joined DXP (almost 3 years ago) - and some gal mentioned something about loosing her virginity to a bathtub faucet... 🤔 Every-time somebody talks about this subject - that story keeps popping into my head...

Hmm... 🤔













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Posted by kreol

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Posted by kreol
The point is not victimhood nor oppression Olympics. You can toe a straight line for most of your life, get an education and make an honest living and yet suffer huge discrepancies of opportunity and justice based on the skin you're in, gender and class background, which all begins from birth and not based on merit or any kind of integrity.

Unpacking and dissecting these artificial barriers that place glass ceilings on our potential for living our best lives and acquiring security are worthy of inquiry and examination, instead of reducing points made to victimhood and entitlement.

More like... failing to see the forest for the trees.

Those biases are real though, on all levels. And have concrete consequences as far life chances go

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Indeed they are - on all levels. As in... those biases affect everyone. Racism can still have a saying - but there's no room for comparison with Nepotism. The gap is simply to huge. Everywhere. That tribe within a tribe within a tribe mentality - that's part of human nature (not exclusive tho - cause same can be said about other species from the animal kingdom). Also, and quite ironical... in terms of competition - more often than not you're bound to fight your own (to put it like that). Women hating on women. Men hating on men. And same goes for crimes: this days most crimes against people from a given race "are committed by people from same race". It's not like in the old days - where westerners dehumanized native Americans, Hispanics, Asians and vice-versa. Sill, America is a country composed of tribes from all over the world. Plus the native Americans (the tribe with the most broken spirit). A tribe of conquerors in terms of ancestry - since that's the most relevant detail about "being American (having an ancestry and a piece of land in your name)". I mean, as far as i know - as a recent immigrant - it doesn't take a serious offense to get you deported (even minor ones will do).

Anyway, back to the tribe mentality. In every society the majority dictates "normality (what's deemed as normal)". In U.S. Caucasian are among the majority - but even the other races comply. That being said, there's plenty of Caucasians who go against the norm - and that's usually a risk which comes with repercussions. For most who happen to be among the odd ones out (cause not everyone's a good entrepreneur). Or as you put it... "there's consequences as far life chances go". As proven by the high suicide rate among American Caucasians (exceed only by native Americans)

"Suicide rates vary by race and ethnicity. In 2016, the rate of suicide among American Indians/Alaska Natives was 21.39 per 100,000 and among whites it was 18.15. In contrast, the suicide rate among Asian/Pacific Islanders was 7.00; the rate for blacks was 6.35; and the rate among Hispanics was 6.38."

https://www.sprc.org/racial-ethnic-disparities

Then there's depression which affects all classes. And not surprisingly, since the majority are Caucasians - in U.S. there's also a higher number of homeless Caucasians. And yet, when it comes to being homeless we have people from all classes... from the richest to the poorest. As far as i know - most end-up that way cause of a mental breakdown... As it's the case with war veterans (some bad cases of PTSD), and even people who used to be successful once (be it financially or some respectable profession - which took most of their time - to the point of being deeply attached and identified with it) - but couldn't recover from their failure (as the saying goes: the higher you climb - the most painful the fall). The rest probably end-up there cause of drug abuse or doing jail time - where again, even if you're Caucasian - there's all kind of work places that might have a hard time hiring you (giving you a 2nd chance). They simply see you as a risk - compared to someone who might be less qualified - but with a clean record. Most people don't like risks and prejudice goes with the territory. Even tattoos alone can be cause of prejudice - which can hinder your chances of public acceptance...



My point is - in most cases the lucky ones (to put it like that) - are not privileged cause of their skin color. They're privileged for having a somehow ideal human condition (being born healthy - both physically and mentally, having good/responsible parents, being part of a good/safe neighborhood, making friends with the right people - going to the right schools and such...). If you're among those - it really doesn't matter the color of your skin. You clearly have an advantage at life - compared to the majority (even if you're African-american - compared to the majority of Caucasians from U.S.).

In some cases wise choices can have a bigger relevance. For example... there is such thing as "supply vs demand" - so if you go to a college which prepares you for a field of work that's already over-saturated - your chances of finding a job in that field are close to nothing (only nepotism can still give you that privilege - if you happen to know the right people in the rights places). For that reason, there's lots of people with a college degree - who work at McDonald's (and such). Bottom line, It's easy to fail at life... again and again and again - for all kinds of reasons. It's harder to take responsibility for your failures and learn from your mistakes. Especially if you grow-up in a bad environment (neighborhood) - and you had a lot of negative examples around you - which shaped you to some extent.

Oh, and one last thing. America might be a country but it's almost as big as Europe - where each state can be the equivalent of a country in terms of size and population. And most importantly, there's also differences in terms of life style - from one state to another (somehow different people, different laws, different opportunities too). That being said, sometimes it's for the best (yet hard - since big changes always are / "the evil you know vs the unknown...") - to change your surroundings and move to a different tribe (a place with more like minded people). Tho, i can agree that this move can be really hard for most people - while complaining, well... not the best option - but definitely the easiest.

Posted by kreol
The point is not victimhood nor oppression Olympics. You can toe a straight line for most of your life, get an education and make an honest living and yet suffer huge discrepancies of opportunity and justice based on the skin you're in, gender and class background, which all begins from birth and not based on merit or any kind of integrity.

Unpacking and dissecting these artificial barriers that place glass ceilings on our potential for living our best lives and acquiring security are worthy of inquiry and examination, instead of reducing points made to victimhood and entitlement.

More like... failing to see the forest for the trees.

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Posted by neves
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All that just to say "get over it"

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Not exactly. Tho, i'm a Gemini. Not Aries. 😛

I get that this topic is troll bait. Even so, for those who fell for it... Aesthetics may help to some extent - but Denzel Washington was/is really smart (or more like wise) and proved to have integrity...



And that's what got him so far. If all he had was his looks - you'd probably see him once in a porn shot and forget about him shortly after.

Booker T. Washington stated the following - at a time when racism was barely abolished - yet still at its peak in America...



Apparently, more than 100 years latter his statement still stands.🙄

Again, this came from a man with the following human condition...

"Washington was from the last generation of black American leaders born into slavery and became the leading voice of the former slaves and their descendants. They were newly oppressed in the South by disenfranchisement and the Jim Crow discriminatory laws enacted in the post-Reconstruction Southern states in the late 19th and early 20th centuries."

Booker was born into slavery to Jane, an enslaved African-American woman on the plantation of James Burroughs in southwest Virginia, near Hale's Ford in Franklin County. He never knew the day, month, and year of his birth, but the year on his headstone reads 1856. Nor did he ever know his father, said to be a white man who resided on a neighboring plantation. The man played no financial or emotional role in Washington's life.

From his earliest years, the slave boy was known simply as "Booker," with no middle or surname, in the practice of the time.His mother, her relatives and his siblings struggled with the demands of slavery. He later recalled that...

"I cannot recall a single instance during my childhood or early boyhood when our entire family sat down to the table together, and God's blessing was asked, and the family ate a meal in a civilized manner. On the plantation in Virginia, and even later, meals were gotten to the children very much as dumb animals get theirs. It was a piece of bread here and a scrap of meat there. It was a cup of milk at one time and some potatoes at another."

When he was nine, Booker and his family in Virginia gained freedom under the Emancipation Proclamation as US troops occupied their region. Booker was thrilled by the formal day of their emancipation in early 1865:

"As the great day drew nearer, there was more singing in the slave quarters than usual. It was bolder, had more ring, and lasted later into the night. Most of the verses of the plantation songs had some reference to freedom... Some man who seemed to be a stranger (a United States officer, I presume) made a little speech and then read a rather long paper—the Emancipation Proclamation, I think. After the reading we were told that we were all free, and could go when and where we pleased. My mother, who was standing by my side, leaned over and kissed her children, while tears of joy ran down her cheeks. She explained to us what it all meant, that this was the day for which she had been so long praying, but fearing that she would never live to see."

After emancipation Jane took her family to West Virginia to join her husband Washington Ferguson, who had escaped from slavery and settled there during the war. There the illiterate boy Booker began to painstakingly teach himself to read and attended school for the first time.

When he started school, Booker was faced with the need to provide a surname; he claimed the family name of Washington, after his stepfather. Still later he learned from his mother that she had originally given him the name "Booker Taliaferro" at the time of his birth, with the second name instantly falling into disuse.Upon learning of his original name, Washington immediately readopted it as his own, assuming the name he used for the rest of his life, Booker Taliaferro Washington.

The rest...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Booker_T._Washington

In spite of all the odds - he grew strong and wise...

"Character, not circumstances, makes the man."

"The world cares very little what you or I know, but it does care a great deal about what you or I do."

"Of all forms of slavery there is none that is so harmful and degrading as that form of slavery which tempts one human being to hate another by reason of his race or color. One man cannot hold another man down in the ditch without remaining down in the ditch with him."

"After making careful inquiry I can not find a half a dozen cases of a man or woman who has completed a full course of education in any of our reputable institutions like Hampton, Tuskegee, Fiske, or Atlanta, who are imprisoned. The records of the South show that 90 percent of the colored people imprisoned are without knowledge of trades and 61 percent are illiterate. But it has been said that the negro proves economically valueless in proportion as he is educated. Let us see. All will agree that the negro in Virginia, for example, began life forty years ago in complete poverty, scarcely owning clothing or a day's food. The reports of the State auditor show the negro today owns at least one twenty-sixth of the real estate in that Commonwealth exclusive of his holdings in towns and cities, and that in the counties east of the Blue Ridge Mountains he owns one-sixteenth. In Middlesex County he owns one-sixth: in Hanover, one-fourth. In Georgia the official records show that, largely through the influence of educated men and women from Atlanta schools and others, the negroes added last year $ 1,526,000 to their taxable property, making the total amount upon which they pay taxes in that State alone $ 16,700,000. Few people realize under the most difficult and trying circumstances, during the last forty years, it has been the educated negro who counseled patience, self-control, and thus averted a war of races. Every negro going out of our institutions properly educated becomes a link in the chain that shall forever bind the two races together in all essentials of life. "

https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Booker_T._Washington

Characters like him are admired by almost everybody. Except for the weak, ignorant or the machiavellian type. Since it doesn't fit their "victim agenda". As he also noticed and made clear with above statement - more than a 100 years ago.

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Sometimes. After all... alcohol is not a truth serum. It can be to some extent - since it can numb your ego (your self-control), but since it also clouds your judgment... well, some people say a lot of dumb butter - while being intoxicated. Especially liars (their lying nature gets amplified). We all have that one friend who won a fight with Chuck Norris or climbed mount Everest in causal clothing... 🙄

So it lifts a veil more than tells the truth.

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Or it adds more veils on top. Some people loose their consciousnesses for the time being (forget what happened), while others are ashamed of what happened (as if that wasn't them). Could also be some unconscious drives - which one is not aware of. Then there are those that get really violent - when their drunk (releasing some pent-up anger/hatred - which is something they usually keep under control while awake/sober). I'm really chill while intoxicated and i like it that way - so i prefer to avoid the violent type at all costs. One thing is for sure - not all drunk people are the same.👹🤡👺🤖🤢🤮💩