Posted by alexscariesPosted by neves
"1) If your new partner filmed homemade porn (i.e. not pro stuff) and posted it to the internet would it be a deal breaker?"
YES. Broken trust - is a big thing for me. π
"2) Would it be better if he/she told you? What if he never mentioned it, but you stumbled upon it?"
The beginning of the end. Point being - I don't see myself in relationship with someone who could do something like that (secretly recording our intimate moments - and to make things worst - upload it on the internet).
"3) Do you ask the number of sexual partners? How much would be too much?"
I don't know, maybe. This question was never on my mind to begging with - so i don't even know what to say about that (how to answer it). π€·ββοΈ
"4) If the sex was too good, would you be suspicious?"
You seem way to obsessed - sexually... Or at least - i don't see myself having such inner dialogues ("why is she good at sex"). π€·ββοΈ
"Bonus: Would you be suspicious if he/she mentioned some non-mainstream sex terms or something specific in a conversation? e.g. "my last GF was a rope bunny"
Suspicious of what, i don't get the point of this question... π€ Sounds like you're implying that she could be a whore (fucked way to many guys and such - after all more than half of your questions are tied to this part). π€¨
Both questions 3 & 4 have been posed to me, like I say comes from a real place. The bonus questions implies there is a mismatch between past and present relationships in terms of what they are into and if someone is vanilla and someone is kinky.
It's not clear, but I do mean consensual in terms of filming and uploading, but it's still out there.
Sorry I didn't make it clear.click to expand
Posted by kachi_cakePosted by nevesPosted by kachi_cakePosted by nevesPosted by kachi_cakePosted by nevesPosted by Antiphates
TikToks utility is similiar to Youtube and has similiar risks and drawbacks.
No. Definitely Not. At least not the general version of YouTube - since more recently - they introduced a "Shorts" videos section - and that does resemblee Tik Tok. Point being - the general version (as we know it up this point) - does not revolve around short videos & dopamine manipulation (the core of Tik Tok's algorithm) - which is sure to fuck-up your brain long term (starting with your attention span). Tik Tok's algorithm has a lot in common with online gaming & gambling tactics - with the algorithm used to promote addiction, as in: the matchmaking system - "intentionally" hits you bad results multiple times in a row - only to do the opposite once in awhile (hits you with best results). Thus, you get your dopamine hit - which feels some how rewarding after scrolling through what you deem as boring or poor quality content (as selected by the algorithm - intentionally).
It also shows similar content - somehow similar to YouTube, the only difference (quite big - HUGE EVEN) - on YouTube most content is actually of similar nature (like 90% ). Not just random spikes - like Tik Tok. Not to mention - most YT videos are long enough - to keep your brain engaged at a somehow stable rate. And you can actually get quality content of your liking - multiple times in a row (even more than 90% your time spent on YouTube). Can YouTube be a waste of time (at least - non-productive)? Yes. Does it damage your brain like Tik Tok? No, if you use the same old YouTube as always - and skip the "Shorts (that newly introduced Tik Tok clone)".
Yeah. YouTube is more about quality content.
That's the only way you can rise on YouTube (quality content) - only way to be seen. You may click on a YT video - cause you know the YouTuber (to be good at it - informational, entertaining or highly creative) - or a video sparks your interests. Not like Tik Tok - where the content (mostly garbage) - gets shoveled down your throat - with every scroll.
The money aspect seems nice though. The more entertaining it is the better which makes me think, is it like art where everyone is supposedly free to express themselves?
It's harder to rise on YouTube tho (even if good enough - you have to be somehow special - above the rest offering similar content). Tik Tok on the other hand - doesn't take much, especially for women. I mean, as a guy - it takes more work - even if that implies plagiarism or actually stealing content - and adding some text with your name on it.
Yeah. YouTube also requires the viewers to finish the video I believe in order for the creator to make money.click to expand
Posted by kachi_cakePosted by nevesPosted by kachi_cakePosted by nevesPosted by Antiphates
TikToks utility is similiar to Youtube and has similiar risks and drawbacks.
No. Definitely Not. At least not the general version of YouTube - since more recently - they introduced a "Shorts" videos section - and that does resemblee Tik Tok. Point being - the general version (as we know it up this point) - does not revolve around short videos & dopamine manipulation (the core of Tik Tok's algorithm) - which is sure to fuck-up your brain long term (starting with your attention span). Tik Tok's algorithm has a lot in common with online gaming & gambling tactics - with the algorithm used to promote addiction, as in: the matchmaking system - "intentionally" hits you bad results multiple times in a row - only to do the opposite once in awhile (hits you with best results). Thus, you get your dopamine hit - which feels some how rewarding after scrolling through what you deem as boring or poor quality content (as selected by the algorithm - intentionally).
It also shows similar content - somehow similar to YouTube, the only difference (quite big - HUGE EVEN) - on YouTube most content is actually of similar nature (like 90% ). Not just random spikes - like Tik Tok. Not to mention - most YT videos are long enough - to keep your brain engaged at a somehow stable rate. And you can actually get quality content of your liking - multiple times in a row (even more than 90% your time spent on YouTube). Can YouTube be a waste of time (at least - non-productive)? Yes. Does it damage your brain like Tik Tok? No, if you use the same old YouTube as always - and skip the "Shorts (that newly introduced Tik Tok clone)".
Yeah. YouTube is more about quality content.
That's the only way you can rise on YouTube (quality content) - only way to be seen. You may click on a YT video - cause you know the YouTuber (to be good at it - informational, entertaining or highly creative) - or a video sparks your interests. Not like Tik Tok - where the content (mostly garbage) - gets shoveled down your throat - with every scroll.
The money aspect seems nice though. The more entertaining it is the better which makes me think, is it like art where everyone is supposedly free to express themselves?click to expand
Posted by AntiphatesPosted by nevesPosted by Antiphates
TikToks utility is similiar to Youtube and has similiar risks and drawbacks.
No. Definitely Not. At least not the general version of YouTube - since more recently - they introduced a "Shorts" videos section - and that does resemblee Tik Tok. Point being - the general version (as we know it up this point) - does not revolve around short videos & dopamine manipulation (the core of Tik Tok's algorithm) - which is sure to fuck-up your brain long term (starting with your attention span). Tik Tok's algorithm has a lot in common with online gaming & gambling tactics - with the algorithm used to promote addiction, as in: the matchmaking system - "intentionally" hits you bad results multiple times in a row - only to do the opposite once in awhile (hits you with best results). Thus, you get your dopamine hit - which feels some how rewarding after scrolling through what you deem as boring or poor quality content (as selected by the algorithm - intentionally).
It also shows similar content - somehow similar to YouTube, the only difference (quite big - HUGE EVEN) - on YouTube most content is actually of similar nature (like 90% ). Not just random spikes - like Tik Tok. Not to mention - most YT videos are long enough - to keep your brain engaged at a somehow stable rate. And you can actually get quality content of your liking - multiple times in a row (even more than 90% your time spent on YouTube). Can YouTube be a waste of time (at least - non-productive)? Yes. Does it damage your brain like Tik Tok? No, if you use the same old YouTube as always - and skip the "Shorts (that newly introduced Tik Tok clone)".
Hence why I said similiar and not the same.click to expand
Posted by kachi_cakePosted by nevesPosted by Antiphates
TikToks utility is similiar to Youtube and has similiar risks and drawbacks.
No. Definitely Not. At least not the general version of YouTube - since more recently - they introduced a "Shorts" videos section - and that does resemblee Tik Tok. Point being - the general version (as we know it up this point) - does not revolve around short videos & dopamine manipulation (the core of Tik Tok's algorithm) - which is sure to fuck-up your brain long term (starting with your attention span). Tik Tok's algorithm has a lot in common with online gaming & gambling tactics - with the algorithm used to promote addiction, as in: the matchmaking system - "intentionally" hits you bad results multiple times in a row - only to do the opposite once in awhile (hits you with best results). Thus, you get your dopamine hit - which feels some how rewarding after scrolling through what you deem as boring or poor quality content (as selected by the algorithm - intentionally).
It also shows similar content - somehow similar to YouTube, the only difference (quite big - HUGE EVEN) - on YouTube most content is actually of similar nature (like 90% ). Not just random spikes - like Tik Tok. Not to mention - most YT videos are long enough - to keep your brain engaged at a somehow stable rate. And you can actually get quality content of your liking - multiple times in a row (even more than 90% your time spent on YouTube). Can YouTube be a waste of time (at least - non-productive)? Yes. Does it damage your brain like Tik Tok? No, if you use the same old YouTube as always - and skip the "Shorts (that newly introduced Tik Tok clone)".
Yeah. YouTube is more about quality content.click to expand
Posted by Antiphates
TikToks utility is similiar to Youtube and has similiar risks and drawbacks.
Posted by aquarius09
Everything in life comes with an expiration date .as do relationships. I just donβt understand why one has to cheat to part? Is there no such thing as parting on good terms/clean break?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by nevesPosted by nanobotz
Red flags or sweet:
"You can trust me"
"There's no rush"
"We are building a solid friendship first"
"I am here for you if you ever need to vent about anything at all"
What do you think?
Do you have Asperger's Syndrome? π€
"There's no rush" - dating talk
"We are building a solid friendship first" - dating talk
"You can trust me" - can be used in a platonic way - like a professional environment (while talking & working on a project) - but it can also be used while dating - so called - building trust
"I am here for you if you ever need to vent about anything at all" - this too is way to obvious (that he's going out of his way - to be by your side), platonic friendship between a male & a female - don't work like that
Seriously, academically speaking - while dabbling with Mathematical sciences - you seem intelligent enough. Another way put it, your IQ seems to be above average - on the other hand your EQ or dabbling with social cues... makes me think of Asperger's Syndrome.
It's the motivation behind those words. It's like if someone says "I'm a nice person, everyone tell me so" you automatically go into red alert mode if you've got half a brain.click to expand
Posted by nanobotz
Red flags or sweet:
"You can trust me"
"There's no rush"
"We are building a solid friendship first"
"I am here for you if you ever need to vent about anything at all"
What do you think?
Posted by MaxianPosted by neves
The following music reminds me of nights out & bar hopping - from almost a decade ago... A distant memory - tho, hard to relate (with whom i used to be - aka - highly introverted quite emotional - somehow specific to a stereotypical Cancer, Scorpio or a Pisces - astrologically speaking - even all 3 combined). In a way, it's as if I'm talking a past life - then again... there is some truth in that (since it's truly a thing of the past & a different version - of myself, i guess...).
So long old friend. R.I.P. π»
Oh i like this! Are the songs for three different versions/stages of yourself or are they for three different people 'Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces'?
I didn't get that part...click to expand