I like Cancer and Virgo.
Cancer more than Virgo though

My guy is a Cancer with Virgo moon soo that tells you something lol

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I am in this situation right now with a Cancer male.
We get along really well... our sense of humors match, I trust him, he is very caring and a good listener. He shows me a lot of affection and attention in person. I spoil him, I have always been told I get taken advantage of in relationships but he does not make me feel this way I feel he appreciates me. I am the independent one, while he is more dependent. I give him attention but nothing overbearing. Sometimes he can be clingy (which I normally am not a fan of) but I like how he is. There are times when I have gotten frustrated because of his indirect nature but I have learned his "language" ...
My only concern is the fact he is not good at verbally expressing himself def more of an action speaks louder than words type of guy but he is slowly opening up with this and I am understanding. BUT... we are long distance so hoping this does not become an issue because when you're not with one another communication is all you have



Sounds like you're doing a good job figuring him out.


Yes it has taken a lot of patience and understanding from my end, years actually (he has Virgo moon and Taurus mars). Dealing with a damaged crab is one heck of a chess game lol



So Leo is a patience sign? Me n the Leo talked about this he said he’s very very patience except when it comes to his work. He gets annoyed with people don’t do things quick or his way lol.... I’m just curious normally fire r not known to be patience ?


Leo are more patient compared to the other fire signs. They are a fixed sign which normally comes with consistency and patience. I am patient as long as I know it is going somewhere, I just need a little something to know I am heading in the right direction


WHAt is that little something and are you all in or all out person?
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Such as positive reinforcement? Just let me know I am not wasting time. And I am a all in person for sure, it takes a lot for me to make up my mind but when I do im 100%
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I am in this situation right now with a Cancer male.
We get along really well... our sense of humors match, I trust him, he is very caring and a good listener. He shows me a lot of affection and attention in person. I spoil him, I have always been told I get taken advantage of in relationships but he does not make me feel this way I feel he appreciates me. I am the independent one, while he is more dependent. I give him attention but nothing overbearing. Sometimes he can be clingy (which I normally am not a fan of) but I like how he is. There are times when I have gotten frustrated because of his indirect nature but I have learned his "language" ...
My only concern is the fact he is not good at verbally expressing himself def more of an action speaks louder than words type of guy but he is slowly opening up with this and I am understanding. BUT... we are long distance so hoping this does not become an issue because when you're not with one another communication is all you have



Sounds like you're doing a good job figuring him out.


Yes it has taken a lot of patience and understanding from my end, years actually (he has Virgo moon and Taurus mars). Dealing with a damaged crab is one heck of a chess game lol



Well dealing with with a damaged person in general will take a lot of patience. However with those placements, he'll need an inordinate amount of verbal/emotional consistency from you to feel secure in the relationship.


It has been 2-3 years of me consistently being there and we just recently moved forward into “seeing” one another. Definitely slow moving but, i feel that the best things in life take a lot of work. But it’s if your willing to work for it


Fair, just know that you don't need to martyr yourself either. Hopefully it all works out for the two of you.
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You are right, I seem to put myself to the side when it comes to SO's
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I am in this situation right now with a Cancer male.
We get along really well... our sense of humors match, I trust him, he is very caring and a good listener. He shows me a lot of affection and attention in person. I spoil him, I have always been told I get taken advantage of in relationships but he does not make me feel this way I feel he appreciates me. I am the independent one, while he is more dependent. I give him attention but nothing overbearing. Sometimes he can be clingy (which I normally am not a fan of) but I like how he is. There are times when I have gotten frustrated because of his indirect nature but I have learned his "language" ...
My only concern is the fact he is not good at verbally expressing himself def more of an action speaks louder than words type of guy but he is slowly opening up with this and I am understanding. BUT... we are long distance so hoping this does not become an issue because when you're not with one another communication is all you have



Sounds like you're doing a good job figuring him out.


Yes it has taken a lot of patience and understanding from my end, years actually (he has Virgo moon and Taurus mars). Dealing with a damaged crab is one heck of a chess game lol



So Leo is a patience sign? Me n the Leo talked about this he said he’s very very patience except when it comes to his work. He gets annoyed with people don’t do things quick or his way lol.... I’m just curious normally fire r not known to be patience ?
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Leo are more patient compared to the other fire signs. They are a fixed sign which normally comes with consistency and patience. I am patient as long as I know it is going somewhere, I just need a little something to know I am heading in the right direction
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I am in this situation right now with a Cancer male.
We get along really well... our sense of humors match, I trust him, he is very caring and a good listener. He shows me a lot of affection and attention in person. I spoil him, I have always been told I get taken advantage of in relationships but he does not make me feel this way I feel he appreciates me. I am the independent one, while he is more dependent. I give him attention but nothing overbearing. Sometimes he can be clingy (which I normally am not a fan of) but I like how he is. There are times when I have gotten frustrated because of his indirect nature but I have learned his "language" ...
My only concern is the fact he is not good at verbally expressing himself def more of an action speaks louder than words type of guy but he is slowly opening up with this and I am understanding. BUT... we are long distance so hoping this does not become an issue because when you're not with one another communication is all you have



Sounds like you're doing a good job figuring him out.


Yes it has taken a lot of patience and understanding from my end, years actually (he has Virgo moon and Taurus mars). Dealing with a damaged crab is one heck of a chess game lol



Well dealing with with a damaged person in general will take a lot of patience. However with those placements, he'll need an inordinate amount of verbal/emotional consistency from you to feel secure in the relationship.
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It has been 2-3 years of me consistently being there and we just recently moved forward into “seeing” one another. Definitely slow moving but, i feel that the best things in life take a lot of work. But it’s if your willing to work for it
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Im asian ,my parent accept any race, doesn't care what race I date, non traditional

his family on the other hands, he said his mom and dad aren't really "racist" but the rest of his family are.
They're black and lives in Louisiana. They want their children to marry other religious black within the community.

We haven't set a planned date for me to meet them since we live in different states but I can't help overthinking that despite him saying his mom and dad aren't like the rest of his family, they'll still see me as an outsider.

I don't know if I'm ready to find out because his mom/dad not accepting me would be a deal breaker to me because I know how important family is to him.

So now Im overthinking about something I can't control, losing confidence in myself, thinking the worst that it's not gonna work out and I should just end it now (even though I dont ), that he would just be better off bringing home a black girl

how should I stop my fear and negative thoughts ?


You will never be “ready” you just have to go for it! You will regret it if you don’t take the chance. I promise you weather this experience is good or bad you will learn from it either way! Life is about experiences and risks. You’ll never know til you find out.
I dealt with a ex’s mother who was racist. She was black but the rest of the family was very accepting of me, just not his mother. Although she gave me a hard time it still never stopped our relationship from moving forward and he lived with her and I would come over a lot. My point being, it was difficult to deal with but still if he wants to be with you and you want it as well you can make it work regardless.

I wish you the best of luck! Take a chance
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I am in this situation right now with a Cancer male.
We get along really well... our sense of humors match, I trust him, he is very caring and a good listener. He shows me a lot of affection and attention in person. I spoil him, I have always been told I get taken advantage of in relationships but he does not make me feel this way I feel he appreciates me. I am the independent one, while he is more dependent. I give him attention but nothing overbearing. Sometimes he can be clingy (which I normally am not a fan of) but I like how he is. There are times when I have gotten frustrated because of his indirect nature but I have learned his "language" ...
My only concern is the fact he is not good at verbally expressing himself def more of an action speaks louder than words type of guy but he is slowly opening up with this and I am understanding. BUT... we are long distance so hoping this does not become an issue because when you're not with one another communication is all you have



Sounds like you're doing a good job figuring him out.
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Yes it has taken a lot of patience and understanding from my end, years actually (he has Virgo moon and Taurus mars). Dealing with a damaged crab is one heck of a chess game lol

Physically - my green eyes
Mentally- I'm understanding, and my sense of humor
Leo Sun, Libra Moon, Taurus Rising
I am in this situation right now with a Cancer male.
We get along really well... our sense of humors match, I trust him, he is very caring and a good listener. He shows me a lot of affection and attention in person. I spoil him, I have always been told I get taken advantage of in relationships but he does not make me feel this way I feel he appreciates me. I am the independent one, while he is more dependent. I give him attention but nothing overbearing. Sometimes he can be clingy (which I normally am not a fan of) but I like how he is. There are times when I have gotten frustrated because of his indirect nature but I have learned his "language" ...
My only concern is the fact he is not good at verbally expressing himself def more of an action speaks louder than words type of guy but he is slowly opening up with this and I am understanding. BUT... we are long distance so hoping this does not become an issue because when you're not with one another communication is all you have



I think it’s a tough choice, more so than we realize. You never know the full depth of someone unless you’re in their shoes. It may seem one way from the outside, but how is it to really be them. I’d say I’d rather be Leo like I am. But if I had to choose I’d be most interested in being Gemini, I am fascinated by their mind and intelligence. But there are negative aspects as well but that comes with anythinf
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1.Do you think we’re designed for monogamy? (Why or why not?) no I don’t think so, because our natural instincts and urges tell us otherwise. Emotions are a different story. I believe in it but so I believe we were not meant to be monogamous.

2.If you could enroll in a PhD program, with your tuition paid in full by a mysterious benefactor, what would you study — and why?
Psychology, because I find it very interesting and I love the mystery behind it.
3.What was the best kiss of your entire life?
That’s a good question, I’m no sure if any kiss stood out from another to be considered the best of my entire life.
4.Is there something that people consistently ask you for help with? What is it?
Yes, advice. For some reason people ask my advice or opinion on things such as life matters and relationships. I think it’s because I’m open minded and understanding.

5.Is war a necessary evil?

There is always a negative to positive. I don’t believe it is necessary but things have to come to a point eventually weather it’s a good or bad one. Part of life.


butter please read in the quote there’s my answers lol some how I messed it up.

You have depth!!!!!

1.interesting response! Like at the same time though I feel like we have evolved from just acting off instinct???

4.I can believe that! (:

5.you say it’s not necessary? So what do you think would be a good alternative?
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1. Thank you! And yes that is interesting you say that, I think there are a lot of matters that have played into distracting us from our instinctual ways. We are so brainwashed by others, media, and society. It’s like we make people feel as if something is wrong with them for having instinctual urges, it plays with the pshche. Also, genetically I think it is being downplayed, less and less people are in touch with them as well.
5. Just because I feel it isn’t necessary doesn’t mean it doesn’t serve a purpose. As much as I don’t think it’s necessary I think I more so just wish it wasn’t. Such destruction shouldn’t be needed to solve matters but at the same time death=rebirth.... something has to die in order for some thing new and positive to take light. So pretty much I see both views on this subject it’s hard to take a strong side.
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1.Do you think we’re designed for monogamy? (Why or why not?) no I don’t think so, because our natural instincts and urges tell us otherwise. Emotions are a different story. I believe in it but so I believe we were not meant to be monogamous.

2.If you could enroll in a PhD program, with your tuition paid in full by a mysterious benefactor, what would you study — and why?
Psychology, because I find it very interesting and I love the mystery behind it.
3.What was the best kiss of your entire life?
That’s a good question, I’m no sure if any kiss stood out from another to be considered the best of my entire life.
4.Is there something that people consistently ask you for help with? What is it?
Yes, advice. For some reason people ask my advice or opinion on things such as life matters and relationships. I think it’s because I’m open minded and understanding.

5.Is war a necessary evil?

There is always a negative to positive. I don’t believe it is necessary but things have to come to a point eventually weather it’s a good or bad one. Part of life.

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butter please read in the quote there’s my answers lol some how I messed it up.
Posted by GC03
1.Do you think we’re designed for monogamy? (Why or why not?) no I don’t think so, because our natural instincts and urges tell us otherwise. Emotions are a different story. I believe in it but so I believe we were not meant to be monogamous.

2.If you could enroll in a PhD program, with your tuition paid in full by a mysterious benefactor, what would you study — and why?
Psychology, because I find it very interesting and I love the mystery behind it.
3.What was the best kiss of your entire life?
That’s a good question, I’m no sure if any kiss stood out from another to be considered the best of my entire life.
4.Is there something that people consistently ask you for help with? What is it?
Yes, advice. For some reason people ask my advice or opinion on things such as life matters and relationships. I think it’s because I’m open minded and understanding.

5.Is war a necessary evil?

There is always a negative to positive. I don’t believe it is necessary but things have to come to a point eventually weather it’s a good or bad one. Part of life.

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Okay I am “seeing” someone long distance. I have been the only one To travel to see him.
He is scared to fly and I’m understanding of that so I don’t mind doing the traveling. But my family and close friends are growing bitter (haven’t met him either accept for the friend who introduced us a couple years ago) because they feel I should not be the only one doing the work. They think he should find a way to visit me.

Am I being too understanding or are they being too judgmental?
What are your opinions on this?
Don’t get me wrong I’d be beyond happy if he came to visit me but If he is uncomfortable flying then it is what it is. I am not going to hold I against him.

He has been the one to initiate visits lately and he said he wants to pay for me to fly down soon.
It’s about a 21 hour drive so I wouldn’t expect that.



What do you think?
Do you mind at all?

Your family is looking out for you and that's nice but what matters is how you feel about the situation...

Plus he's splitting the costs I'm assuming ..since he did offer to fly you out ...so it's not like he's taking advantage of you in that way..?

My concern would be ..long term..if you start really really liking this guy ( and your family knowing his existence is a sign you might already...)


I’m okay with it. I don’t mind traveling but eventually I’d like him to come meet my family and friends.


Well have you told him about it?

I'm scared of flying but I did it for an ex boyfriend of mine, he was temporarily living in Europe for work and it wasn't possible for him to fly to me at the time ( work) so I did...I was terrified 0.0 ..especially flying by myself...no one to squeeze my hand...butI mean otherwise it would have meant 2 months of not seeing each other.

If he really can't fly to you...

21 hr drive is a lot ....but I mean he could pull it off it's for a good cause --- > meeting your family.



Aww I guess you are right! How sweet of you flying over there for him. Are you guys still together?


No.

No regrets ..I sort of confronted my fear because of it ..I'm still terrified ..don't get me wrong but I know I can do it now


Good for you, always good to go outside your comfort zone and experience things!


True! I try.

Hopefully you're able to reach an understanding and he gets to meet your family/friends!
Talking about it would help, saying how you feel - helps!

If he cares about you and he knows how important this is for you, he might be able to confront his fear or make that long drive!
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Thank you you’re a sweetheart lol. I have tried I’ll give it some time and see where I can go with it! Thanks again for the input
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Okay I am “seeing” someone long distance. I have been the only one To travel to see him.
He is scared to fly and I’m understanding of that so I don’t mind doing the traveling. But my family and close friends are growing bitter (haven’t met him either accept for the friend who introduced us a couple years ago) because they feel I should not be the only one doing the work. They think he should find a way to visit me.

Am I being too understanding or are they being too judgmental?
What are your opinions on this?
Don’t get me wrong I’d be beyond happy if he came to visit me but If he is uncomfortable flying then it is what it is. I am not going to hold I against him.

He has been the one to initiate visits lately and he said he wants to pay for me to fly down soon.
It’s about a 21 hour drive so I wouldn’t expect that.



What do you think?
Do you mind at all?

Your family is looking out for you and that's nice but what matters is how you feel about the situation...

Plus he's splitting the costs I'm assuming ..since he did offer to fly you out ...so it's not like he's taking advantage of you in that way..?

My concern would be ..long term..if you start really really liking this guy ( and your family knowing his existence is a sign you might already...)


I’m okay with it. I don’t mind traveling but eventually I’d like him to come meet my family and friends.


Well have you told him about it?

I'm scared of flying but I did it for an ex boyfriend of mine, he was temporarily living in Europe for work and it wasn't possible for him to fly to me at the time ( work) so I did...I was terrified 0.0 ..especially flying by myself...no one to squeeze my hand...butI mean otherwise it would have meant 2 months of not seeing each other.

If he really can't fly to you...

21 hr drive is a lot ....but I mean he could pull it off it's for a good cause --- > meeting your family.



Aww I guess you are right! How sweet of you flying over there for him. Are you guys still together?


No.

No regrets ..I sort of confronted my fear because of it ..I'm still terrified ..don't get me wrong but I know I can do it now
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Good for you, always good to go outside your comfort zone and experience things!
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Okay I am “seeing” someone long distance. I have been the only one To travel to see him.
He is scared to fly and I’m understanding of that so I don’t mind doing the traveling. But my family and close friends are growing bitter (haven’t met him either accept for the friend who introduced us a couple years ago) because they feel I should not be the only one doing the work. They think he should find a way to visit me.

Am I being too understanding or are they being too judgmental?
What are your opinions on this?
Don’t get me wrong I’d be beyond happy if he came to visit me but If he is uncomfortable flying then it is what it is. I am not going to hold I against him.

He has been the one to initiate visits lately and he said he wants to pay for me to fly down soon.
It’s about a 21 hour drive so I wouldn’t expect that.



What do you think?
Do you mind at all?

Your family is looking out for you and that's nice but what matters is how you feel about the situation...

Plus he's splitting the costs I'm assuming ..since he did offer to fly you out ...so it's not like he's taking advantage of you in that way..?

My concern would be ..long term..if you start really really liking this guy ( and your family knowing his existence is a sign you might already...)


I’m okay with it. I don’t mind traveling but eventually I’d like him to come meet my family and friends.


Well have you told him about it?

I'm scared of flying but I did it for an ex boyfriend of mine, he was temporarily living in Europe for work and it wasn't possible for him to fly to me at the time ( work) so I did...I was terrified 0.0 ..especially flying by myself...no one to squeeze my hand...butI mean otherwise it would have meant 2 months of not seeing each other.

If he really can't fly to you...

21 hr drive is a lot ....but I mean he could pull it off it's for a good cause --- > meeting your family.

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Aww I guess you are right! How sweet of you flying over there for him. Are you guys still together?
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Okay I am “seeing” someone long distance. I have been the only one To travel to see him.
He is scared to fly and I’m understanding of that so I don’t mind doing the traveling. But my family and close friends are growing bitter (haven’t met him either accept for the friend who introduced us a couple years ago) because they feel I should not be the only one doing the work. They think he should find a way to visit me.

Am I being too understanding or are they being too judgmental?
What are your opinions on this?
Don’t get me wrong I’d be beyond happy if he came to visit me but If he is uncomfortable flying then it is what it is. I am not going to hold I against him.

He has been the one to initiate visits lately and he said he wants to pay for me to fly down soon.
It’s about a 21 hour drive so I wouldn’t expect that.



What do you think?
Do you mind at all?

Your family is looking out for you and that's nice but what matters is how you feel about the situation...

Plus he's splitting the costs I'm assuming ..since he did offer to fly you out ...so it's not like he's taking advantage of you in that way..?

My concern would be ..long term..if you start really really liking this guy ( and your family knowing his existence is a sign you might already...)
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I’m okay with it. I don’t mind traveling but eventually I’d like him to come meet my family and friends. I’d love it to be honest but how can I judge or hold something against someone that they are uncomfortable with and scared of. It happens. And yes my family knows a lot about him and I met a lot of his family and friends