I can't speak for him as I discounted astrologically labeling people about a year ago (Unfair to mentally control them and doesn't accurately label someone's actions more than fifty percent of the time scientifically speaking) but my chart fits me to a T and if you claim that he's like me then I will weigh in, but not on his actions. I can only speak for how I come at relationships, and ON them sometimes
Maturity-wise, I gave up on flings a long time ago. I seek out traits in a partner. Trust, loyalty, humor, the ability to connect mentally, intelligent conversation that stirs the imagination, and a "subdued flamboyance" in public. I want a good old fashioned woman that even if she gets looks by other men, she won't let it go to her head. I will not keep pining for someone that isn't into me as much as I am into them. Mutual love and respect for me.
In determining if these traits do exist, I do in fact test. Carefully chosen words (Often nonchalant and made completely unaware of my motives) will let me know how she reacts in certain situations.
This is most of the time a long drawn out mental courting process.
You may not know if he's into you initially. Flirting techniques are also subdued i.e. slight touching, simple compliments, offering help in any fashion to include working on your problems, etc. Once I'm sure, I will open up more and start letting you know exactly what I'm after. No beating around the bush at that point.
If I'm not into you, that's hard to tell someone. The "flirting techniques" may stop or slow, but I hate being hated so generally I will not stick my neck out there and tell you I'm not into you. I'd rather keep you as a friend instead of burning a bridge, so I can see how that may be misconstrued.
If he's not responding to your "making it official" he doesn't want that label. I'm a huge labeler. If anything fits into a box it helps me sleep at night to have categorized it. Labels come with responsibilities and expectations. If he didn't oblige, he doesn't want more than a friendship.
Dream deep in your slumber, for when your eyes close your mind awakes. Visualize all that you want tomorrow to hold at close grasp and set your desires free. A steadfast dream is the key to a utopian mind within which you are the supreme architect.
Haha, same is true. I've even caught myself on accident a few times even wearing the same outfit every friday or monday lol. But what it said about same style , just rotating the colors is spot on. American Eagle with same jeans or Jnco for me and some of my pairs of jeans I've still kept from high school 11+ years ago. Bet!
In my humble opinion speromelior, you mentioned a tad bit of arrogance and relying on your scorpio charms, and that's what did it in for you. Arrogance is WAY the f up there on our list of turn-offs. Being an earth-sign, we are some of the most down-to-earth people you will meet. Our values, morals, beliefs, conversations and day to day doings are very real and simple. We will generally see a person for who they truly are within minutes of conversation. Arrogance, intolerance, dum-dums, flamboyant, dirty people are all huge turn-offs to us. Considerate, selfless, thoughtfull, engaging, intellectual, sweet, simple, real are all qualities we look for within. Hope any of this helps
Re-read the first three lines of the OP's post and tell me a natural feeling of "What the treetrunk did I do wrong" wouldn't/shouldn't arise. I'm not saying what the guy did was right, I'm just saying I operate in a similar fashion where I apply a "Trial & error" scientific approach to many things in life. If my actions didn't get the desired result, what variable do I have to change to create my perfect outcome.
I've been where this guy is and though I agree that she should be left alone, all the guy wanted to know was an explanation of her reasons. I'm sure the guy just wanted to know what he could improve upon so as to not make the next mistake. Unreasonable? Maybe, maybe not. He might've got his explanation had he accepted her terms of friendship and someday down the road she spilled the beans.
It's kind of like with customers. A business often doesn't know about all of it's weaknesses because more often than not an unhappy customer will avoid confrontation and NOT come forward with their complaint, thus the business continues unaware of it's fallacies. This guy should've consulted a forum before he bombarded her with texts and he might've salvaged a friendship.
I also see hints of controlling tendencies, even through her apparent love language - Gift-Giving. As harmless as it may seem, giving gifts may also come with "controlling strings attached". By this I mean with every gift she gives him comes another opporunity for her to be there when she isn't there. The more things from her laying around his house, the more opportunities he has to think of her and I believe that what she wants. A gift or two, no sweat. But cluttering his room with memories of herself sounds like a ploy to control his mind when she can't be there.