Posted by DamnataPosted by PiscesLeoAquarius
He took the breakup really badly and would always say if you change your mind let me know.
^This is an assumption since you're not him.Posted by PiscesLeoAquarius
we met up again after a five year absencePosted by PiscesLeoAquarius
After five years of post-break up friendship he suddenly doesn't want to be friends just cause I asked him out.
^^Those two statements are contradictory. First you say there was a five year absence and you JUST met and he told you what he did..but then you say there was a friendship in these 5 years.
There is no friendship and he probably moved on. Your apologies come 5 years too late to change anything.click to expand
Posted by LilyTree
My interpretation is that he genuinely wanted you back when he said so. But 5 years is a very long time of no-contact, and regardless of how a person feels during a break-up, they WILL get over it and move on.
When you two reconnected, he was no loner interested in being more than friends. Maybe he wasn't even sure if he wanted to even be friends again and was feeling it out. When you tried to get back with him, you triggered his flight response because he is most likely trying to protect himself from heartbreak. Even more likely, he may honestly not see you like that anymore, and now it's just awkward and complicated.
But I'll tell you what, when I make up my mind about someone, it's set. I have a scary way of shutting down and completely cutting someone off. Regardless of what our past relationship looked like. Also, I can't be just friends with someone I was in love with. Relationships can't go backwards.
I think that if there was any hope of you two being together, it would have had to be on HIS terms, I.e.
You should have let HIM initiate that. You DID break his heart, after all. Trust is a very big deal...
Posted by feby16aqua
I just did a here kitty kitty scenario today with the aries myself. I thought it was funny. It does work too.
Posted by feby16aquaPosted by PiscesLeoAquarius
I contacted him a few days ago and he responded saying we can't be friends.
He doesn't ever initiate contacting you?click to expand
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by PiscesLeoAquarius
I don't understand what is going on, because for several years he really wanted to get back together and not that I do, he doesn't and is treating me like a stranger.
Are u serious !!! Because two years he wanted u n u didn't he's supposed be there now. U don't see it??
Is it all about ur terms.
Life doesn't work that way. Don't take for grated when something good is in ur presence.click to expand
Posted by Impulsv
Yes because he's be stringing u along n he's a good person.u would keep a Freindship wanting more. time to move on.
Posted by seraphPosted by PiscesLeoAquarius
seraph, so even just reading my comments it's not attractive cause I seem not confident?
No. Reading your comments is neither this or that. You came here looking for answers. Attraction (or lack thereof) doesn't play into it.
Generally, according to your account you're attractive and desirable. I'll assume it's usually YOU who is the one to control the situation with men. Then, outta the clear blue sky, some runt (according to you) appears, who is completely nonchalant about you, unfazed by you, whereas other men predictably fall all over themselves in your presence (I'm not being glib here, you get my point.)
So this is throwing you for a loop. Suddenly you're questioning things and pulling your self-worth into question because this anti-Adonis acts like he *owns* you, and two things are happening here: 1) your pride is hurt and demands satisfaction, and 2) part of you finds being knocked down a few pegs irresistible.
What's really happening, though, is in the final count, this is only one guy, and it's best not to allow your pride to compel you to seek something long term with someone based on their ability to throw you into a state of confusion.click to expand