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Scorpio Sun, Libra Moon and Mars, Sagittarius Venus, Capricorn Rising

Posted by SugarandSpunk
Unfortunately this DID NOT work out very well. We met yesterday for dinner and right away he starts drinking heavy alcohol. I was the only one who was eating. He ordered food and never ate it. I don't judge people, but I do observe the heck out of people and noticed that he was starting to get tipsy. He gave me some lame statement that he has a very high tolerance to alcohol and that everyone in his family drinks a lot. I gave him the benefit of the doubt but boy was I mistaken. As we're getting to know each other more by asking questions and having convos on different topics, we both agreed that if this didn't turn into a relationship then we can always have a friendship, and I was so happy to hear that, because I'm not in a rush for a relationship, I want to take my time before making taking such a big step. He agreed as well and said he wasn't in a rush either which was refreshing. There was one thing was turning me off. I was drinking wine and he was trying to persuade me to drink faster and more. I only had a small appetizer and the wine was slowly getting to me so I was drinking water on the side. He was like, don't drink too much water, it'll be bad for your stomach (crock of crap to me since I only had to small glasses of water). I was trying to stay sober. I was still recovering from a hangover and told him no thanks, I want to just be laid back and keep it chilled tonight. He still kept insisting from time to time and would hand me my drink to drink more. Rule #1, don't tell a Taurus woman what the hell to do, and don't make her do anything she doesn't feel like doing.

Anyways, as the night is going by, he offered to take me to another place. Because he said the night is young and he wants to go out dancing. I really wasn't in the mood to dance or party hard, and I told him that. But since he was kind enough to pay for dinner and drinks, the least that I could do is check this place out. So I said, fine, I'll join you. He said you'll dance and we'll have shots. I said, no shots, but I'll do one dance and that's it, I just want to chill and relax tonight. He said ok. So as we're walking. He pulls out his arm and says you can wrap your arm around mine. I decided to be nice and put my arm around him. At one point as we're still walking, he tries to grab my hand and wanted to hold hands, I honestly did not want to, so my fingers didn't wrap around him but he continued to hold my hand anyways. After two blocks, I let go and proceeded to put my arm around his arm even though he tried to hold my hand again. When we finally arrived to our second destination, I needed to use the restroom. When I came back, I saw he had ordered me a glass of wine, a shot of tequila and another drink for himself. I honestly didn't want to drink anymore. He said he ordered that shot for me, I said no thank you. I tried to persuade to order food, so he can fill his stomach up. He hadn't eaten anything for 7 hours. I don't think anyone man or woman can have that much tolerance to alcohol. Eventually I got him to order food. For a good hour he was doing this childish run around of why he should eat something when we can go and dance. I said, please eat something filling and then we can go dance. Then he started talking "hypothetically" about if he were to fall in love with me (this is where the date ENDED in my mind already) and wouldn't even finish his sentence because he didn't know what was the purpose of him bringing it up in the first place. That's the easiest way to spot a drunk right off the bat. At this point I wanted to go home. He then has the nerve to mention that he paid over $ 100 for dinner and is paying for the food that he bought now, that why should he feel obligated to eat this food, when all I want to do right now is party. I said, listen, if I didn't give a damn, I wouldn't suggest you to eat. This is a first date and you're already making a bad impression on yourself by being drunk in front of me. He responded with "I'm tipsy, not drunk." I said that's besides the point. I would be very happy, if you ate, etc. He honestly took just a nibble. Later on he said, you know what would be better than this, watching movies at my place, why don't you come back to my place, nothing sexual, just movies and you can call a cab in the morning. In my head, I was wondering if this man was dumb, stupid or slow. I told him "no thanks, maybe some other time."

After an hour of frustration with the back and forth of getting him to eat and him choosing to take the food to go. I was beyond done with the date. He said, I understand if you don't want to hear from me again, but I would really love to see you again. I said maybe if you reach out to me again sober, who knows (i really was saying in my head HELLLLLLL NOO). As I walking out of the place, he grabs me by the hand to force me to stay because he wanted to dance. I pulled my arm away as hard as I could and said "no". Once we were outside that's when his drunk nagging really began to freak me out. He was saying "I'm starting to fall in love with you." I said, that's impossible, you JUST met me in person for the first today, love doesn't happen that way. He said, yes it does, different situations for different people. If this idiot thought that he had a chance with me after that evening, he is sadly mistaken. I decided to walk him to a train station to make sure his drunk ass got there safely. I ended up going the wrong way and then he let out his anger. He said "this is your fault, why do you have to be so F***** stubborn?". I honestly wanted to right hook him at that point because no one speaks to me like that. Then he tries to kiss me and I gave him a disgusted look and said no thanks, he laughed and said he was joking. Seriously? He was digging his own damn grave. After he tried to do that, I needed to get away from him, so I luckily found a cab from a distance, got on the cab and gave my date a fake hug and said, thanks for nice time tonight. He said to text him when I got home. I never texted him and I never will. He may have been nervous which probably caused him to drink, but if you're over the age of 30 then act like it, you're not a frat boy anymore.


LOL! OMG What a major turn off girly!! hahah!
Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Umm after a fight? You might have hurt their feelings. This basically rips rugs out from under us so we start thinking about it from all views. Is it really me? Is it them? Can I live with changing this something about myself to please them? Work , sleep a lot if you've depressed us. Push all our feelings on our friends asking what they think. Once we feel collected , hi what's up?


GIIIRLLL! What a help!

My cap once told me, after a BIG argument that he doesn't talk to ppl about his business but if he did, they'd say I was wrong..

Few weeks later..

We're hanging out at a bar, me and his cousin (best friend) are on the sideline chatting and I'm like "Your cousin was mad at me for a bit and ignoring me.. His friend says "I know, he told me everything.. you were wrong" LOL! I glance at my cap with a smirk.. Then in my mind I'm thinking: this mutha-effer said he doesn't tell his biz blah blah blah.. LOL! But anyway, your "bolded" point must be true because he took his issues to his bud vs coming to me and laying it all on me.. & when he did come out of his hiding, it was if we NEVER argued. O_O

weirdos. lls!
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Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also!

I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)

& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!

I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'

BUT anyways,

What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways...


Cold feet or freaking out cuz they are going to get hurt again? talking to others & me calling him on it in my case 😢 Refusing to deal with it. I don't know maybe thinking...


Exactly... Freaking out to not get hurt. But when you express to them that you won't hurt them like their last.. they don't really speak on it.. It's all mental with them.. & it can be frustrating but.. what can you do.. An unemotional man isn't gonna pour his emotions out all at once.. I guess you wait for the bits and pieces each time.. -__-


What to do when I'm also freaking out? The emotional rollercoaster Omg. Hurt people hurt others & boy it hurt. The good thing is he didn't actually see anyone else. But the last week we didn't see each other & he stopped reaching out. First time I did he said he wasn't sure if I wanted him to. The second time he told me it feels like forever since he's seen me & asked me to come over to snuggle and sleep with him (not for sex) his fav part is the intimacy actually.. it was freaking 1130 pm I said no. It was too late. He did admit to being distant sometimes, having a wall & doing things cuz of being hurt. That's something I guess. I knew all that lol. Also said no excuses & then was afraid I didn't want to talk to him? Well I've gone back & forth on what to do? Run away or come back & work through it. Damn Sag sun, I always run when I'm feeling like this but somehow I'm reaching out to him. And a lot of freaking crying!!! Ugh my aqua moon hates that! Lol my Scorpio daughter plays me freaking music so I'll feel my feelings 🙄 Then I was hysterical and trying to keep it together. Boy I guess the emotion should tell me something.. I have to figure out how to be there to try & work through this without feeling like I'm being walked on. 😳
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Aww, I can listen to songs all day, ones that are based on my mood at the moment.. and when I hear songs that remind me of my cap, I get all emotional.... hahah! That's a scorpio for you!


Anyway, I get you! Trust me.. It's indeed an emotional roller coaster. You have to coast through this with ease..

Think about this..

Maybe it's okay to think the way they (caps) do.. Logically think about what he has done to show you that he is in it with you like you are with him.

It's not much, but sometimes I go through Me and my caps old messages to each other, look at text, Saved Marco Polo videos, Listen to his voicemail (yes I save them! HA!) etc.. & you can tell through actions, words, etc that he really does care.. & wants this as bad as me.. Just harder for him to be emotional like me.

Trust me, I know why you feel the way you do. I get weary when my cap gets distant. His silence sometimes means nothing at all, & it's just one thing they are use to doing. It's in a caps nature. They need space. & I've been told by other caps that they don't necessarily pay attention to the "ghosting" and sometimes they don't even know how it affects other ppl. Sometimes they need a person to keep it real with them.. Be direct. Let them know what they do so they are aware and can fix it.. Nobody would know their wrongs, if no one tells them.. If it's the other way around, a Capricorn would tell us in a heartbeat.. Without second guessing themselves.. For me, I don't like to repeat myself over & over.. It's almost like beating a dead horse.. Pointless in my eyes.. So what works for them, could work for us too.. Silence, speaks volumes and maybe we can take that time to focus on ourselves and our goals.. Because while we're panicking trust that they are doing what they need to do.. without a care in the world.. lol. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure we run across their mind.. which is why alot of caps need REASSURANCE that we're still there.. Kinda like how your cap thinks you're done etc.. Maybe you aren't telling him enough.

There have been times I thought my cap didn't want to be with me, and when I questioned him, he didn't know where I was coming from.. For example:

I told my cap in the beginning when I began to feel neglect.. That I didn't feel like I was in a relationship at all.. & that if he's gonna waste my time to just leave me alone.. His response was that he didn't feel any different about the relationship... That he understands why I would feel the way I do BUT that his silence is not intentional and he doesn't want me to think he's ignoring me on purpose, he's just busy.. he wants me just as much as I want him..

I say all this to say, dig deeper. Has he REALLY given you any reason to doubt him..? I think unless a Cap boldly comes to you and says they are done, then keep pushing forward, remain loyal to him, patient understanding, BUT do you.. & I guarantee, it will get easier to deal with.. & you both will be rewarded in the end.

Whatever you do, don't run.. They are thinking the same as us sometimes they just may not bring it all up.. You need to find a free moment.. NO DISTRACTIONS>> Just you and him. & Talk. Don't leave things open ended, love.

...speaking to myself also dear..

I have a sag Venus and a lot of times my first instinct is to run away from issues to avoid getting hurt.. So I understand your Sag sun ways.. lol & I'm a Scorpio sun so trust me.. I do the crying through all this time.. Nothing wrong with letting those emotions out.. We're human.. But try to stick through this.

I'm rooting for you two! Hugs!!
Posted by MissLadyIceQueen
Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also!

I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)

& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!

I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'

BUT anyways,

What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways...

Definitely get cold feet when falling hard. Makes us twitchy. We don't know what to do with it, because it just kind of hits us and we're like treetrunk. Makes us weird because then we acknowledge we are vulnerable. Very frightening. If you can make it through the weird stage though of the on off silence and stick it out, we'll warm up and boom passion.
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Thanks for this! It helps.. You have no idea..

The silent stages scare me.. But he's sooooooooo loving towards me.. When I return the "love" he goes missing for a few days.. I've been sticking it out and he comes back to check on me.. & then gets back to work mode.. & silence.. My Scorpio intuition can kinda read him and I've said this before:

The person they are falling in love with is like an "alien" to them.. It's weird because that feeling is something they aren't used to.. Unemotional ppl, don't do emotions.. SO when they feel the very thing that they "DON'T DO" it's like "oh treetrunk!"

I also think caps are EXTREMELY Afraid of getting hurt.. They are very gaurded in that aspect while they are insuring you won't "hurt them" in the end.. I mean most of your goals are to succeed at everything you put your mind to.. SO experiencing a moment of loving someone and they break your heart.. You move on telling yourself that it won't happen again.. Meet someone who interest you & in your mind the likelihood of you putting yourself through that again is rare.. BUT then it happens again, you fall for someone again.. and you get scared.. Then I think you put yourself more into your work to not think about it.. It affects us tho.

How do we get you to be more expressive without forcing it? I never force him to be or do anything he is uncomfortable doing.. I just want him to know that I'm here, always.. that I care, & I'm not gonna do him the way his ex did him.
Posted by IamTheRam
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Feel free to ask me questions you probably wouldn't ask a Latina unless you're a Latino man lol



hahaha

I liked that *unless you're a Latino man* xD


Most Latino men were raised by a Latino woman so they already know.. lol


Hehe true ^^

Thing is..most of it i didn't learn from my mother... xD

I've only dated Latina women..and tbh...i think that's the only *type* of woman i wold see myself with...

Good food and family values...it's really a must ^^


Same. Nothing against other races. We're all effin beautiful. I honestly see myself only marrying a Latino man. Wouldn't be surprised if its a Dominican and/or Puerto Rican lol


Indeed !

Latinos (generaly) do have alot of *passion* on them !

Even the fights between each other (couple) are full of *passion* haha

And i also feel like you (!!)..when it comes to a woman...if she is from where i was raised...bingo..

I guess that the food..family...all of that do carry over another thing...that good feeling of being at Home no matter where you are.




I mean just think about the Spanish language. It's a little different among the diff Hispanic cultures but it's a beautiful language.. Very sexy. So we do have a lot of intense passion..

Food, & Family is important to us. So I do feel like I will marry a Puerto Rican or hopefully my Dominican man I'm with now because we know the culture already and can pass it down to our children...



Totally agree with the lamguage thing ! All of them ! Italian..French..Spanish...Portuguese..these are all language that cary alottt of sensuality and passion to them !!

And yes !! the passage of culture !! that really is the ultimate goal ! to pass our own family values...to our children, so the values on which we were raised can carry on !

Damn...we are realy on the same page here haha !

All the best to you and your man ! ^^
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Yasss! I agree to the bolded.. Very sensual languages!

& exactly, our children carry on our culture & values!

Thank you for that! LOL! He better put a ring on it!! hhahaha!
Posted by Rindaroo
Posted by poison_ivy
I'd like to know the answer also!

I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)

& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!

I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'

BUT anyways,

What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways...


Cold feet or freaking out cuz they are going to get hurt again? talking to others & me calling him on it in my case 😢 Refusing to deal with it. I don't know maybe thinking...
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Exactly... Freaking out to not get hurt. But when you express to them that you won't hurt them like their last.. they don't really speak on it.. It's all mental with them.. & it can be frustrating but.. what can you do.. An unemotional man isn't gonna pour his emotions out all at once.. I guess you wait for the bits and pieces each time.. -__-
I'd like to know the answer also!

I'd assume they are working.. (but of course)

& possibly thinking about the person they are silencing.. I mean why else would they come back!?!!

I hear they get cold feet when they are falling hard..'

BUT anyways,

What do I know..? I'm just a mere Scorpio, loving my cap man & his ways...
Posted by SugarandSpunk
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Posted by WarAngel1
No real questions, I just wanted to say ya'll taste GREAT!


I have been told that.

Thanks..


HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! Somos ricos!


jajajaja! Si somos!

We were blessed .


wepa!
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XD
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Posted by SugarandSpunk
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by -Flo-
Posted by IamTheRam
Posted by -Flo-
Feel free to ask me questions you probably wouldn't ask a Latina unless you're a Latino man lol



hahaha

I liked that *unless you're a Latino man* xD


Most Latino men were raised by a Latino woman so they already know.. lol


Hehe true ^^

Thing is..most of it i didn't learn from my mother... xD

I've only dated Latina women..and tbh...i think that's the only *type* of woman i wold see myself with...

Good food and family values...it's really a must ^^


Same. Nothing against other races. We're all effin beautiful. I honestly see myself only marrying a Latino man. Wouldn't be surprised if its a Dominican and/or Puerto Rican lol


Indeed !

Latinos (generaly) do have alot of *passion* on them !

Even the fights between each other (couple) are full of *passion* haha

And i also feel like you (!!)..when it comes to a woman...if she is from where i was raised...bingo..

I guess that the food..family...all of that do carry over another thing...that good feeling of being at Home no matter where you are.


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I mean just think about the Spanish language. It's a little different among the diff Hispanic cultures but it's a beautiful language.. Very sexy. So we do have a lot of intense passion..

Food, & Family is important to us. So I do feel like I will marry a Puerto Rican or hopefully my Dominican man I'm with now because we know the culture already and can pass it down to our children...

Posted by WarAngel1
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No real questions, I just wanted to say ya'll taste GREAT!


I have been told that.

Thanks..


Tastiest of the bunch, I should know, LOL!
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LOL! We were blessed indeed!
Posted by Mered1th
Posted by poison_ivy
Never experienced my Cappie man leaving me then coming'back..? We've "broken up" ..overnight.. because of me.. I had cold feet because the Long Distance was getting to me so I told him I needed a break but we got right back together early the next day. Also, whenever I ask my cap if he wants to be friends, until our timing and schedules get easier to balance w/ our relationship, he straight up says "No, I want you." Never had a problem with him being real about me, no matter how "aloof" he is... He doesn't want anyone else to have me. SO he's not even risking a break.

The time I broke up with my cap.. he said he doesn't necessarily like or agree with my decision, he likes me alot. But he has to respect my decision..(Grown man butter)

Next day, I texted.. "Hey, would I be "coo coo" if I told you I wanted you back, the distance is hard for me, but I can't see myself without you..." he responded, "I wouldn't call you coo coo.. Nothing would surprise me, but I want you too.."

Maybe it's other placements of your cap?

My Cap's Placements:

Capricorn Sun
Aquarius Venus
Taurus Moon
Pisces Mars

My Placements:

Scorpio Sun
Sagittarius Venus
Libra Mars & Moon
Capricorn Rising


It's his Taurus Moon *hearts*

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Can you break down a person w a Taurus moon for me?? Pretty Please?? LOL!


Posted by SugarandSpunk
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Posted by WarAngel1
No real questions, I just wanted to say ya'll taste GREAT!


I have been told that.

Thanks..


HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA! Somos ricos!
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jajajaja! Si somos!

We were blessed .
@CaramelizedCoffee

Is the rage real or made up to keep men in line?
The rage is real, mama! It's in our nature to be feisty. Latino men can handle us tho..

Who do you guys look up to?
My mom

Do you read books or just magazines about fashion?
Both. I'm very fashion forward. I have a biz in Interior Design and I naturally dress really well. So I would pick up a magazine over a book. I mostly read Romance and Naught Novels..

Do you guys appreciate nerdy latina,women or are you only fixated on tits and a $ $
I have tits and ass... Natural.. But I wouldn't say we're fixated on it. I get it from my MAMA! hahah!

Why do you want to be white so bad?
I don't. I love me! & the skin I'm in. I am a Black Latina. Puerto Rican & Bajan (Barbados). My man is Dominican. I have dated every Race but am more attracted to black Latinos (Dominican, Puerto Rican, Panamanian)

Why do you hate black ppl so much?
I don't hate black ppl. AT all! I'm all about love. & I have NO issue with any race.. There are racist in EVERY culture BUT that's not me.

Why are you so into your looks?
I was raised by my mom to carry myself a certain way. To look presentable at all times. I like to look good for myself and my man appreciates it also. .

Why are you so into men? I know one who left a PhD program to be with her guy...why why why
Because we are raised in big families.. The men support the finances the women take care of the home.. A lot of times the woman will go out to work if they have to but it's rare. I for one, will do me. I have my own everything.. A degree, my own biz. No man will stop me. Speaking for the others, they will drop most of their dreams to support their man and kids. It's honestly a shame to me that a woman would end her life for a man.. To each their own tho. **shrugs**

Posted by WarAngel1
No real questions, I just wanted to say ya'll taste GREAT!


I have been told that.

Thanks..
Posted by scorpio24356
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I'm dating this cap and he's been away for a week but we made plans for tonight (first day he's back) but he just cancelled! Says he's got a lot to do today/a lot on his mind (he's moving up north end of the week), that he's sorry, and asked to see me tomorrow for brunch - I wanted to spend a night with him but does this cancellation mean he's lost interest in me?? Help I'm an Arian so this kind of behaviour is opposite to what I would do if I liked someone...


Not necessarily, they tend to like putting everything else as a priority over their SO. My cap man has done this to me so many times. But didnt lose interest.
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@AriesAlways I agree with scorpio24356..

If he was away for a week.. Most likely he canceled because he wanted to get caught back up on his work.. This does NOT mean he has lost interest.. My cap has canceled plans for work also.. But it's not because he lost interest. Work for a cap comes first.

Hang in there.. You'll need a ton of patience.
Never experienced my Cappie man leaving me then coming'back..? We've "broken up" ..overnight.. because of me.. I had cold feet because the Long Distance was getting to me so I told him I needed a break but we got right back together early the next day. Also, whenever I ask my cap if he wants to be friends, until our timing and schedules get easier to balance w/ our relationship, he straight up says "No, I want you." Never had a problem with him being real about me, no matter how "aloof" he is... He doesn't want anyone else to have me. SO he's not even risking a break.

The time I broke up with my cap.. he said he doesn't necessarily like or agree with my decision, he likes me alot. But he has to respect my decision..(Grown man butter)

Next day, I texted.. "Hey, would I be "coo coo" if I told you I wanted you back, the distance is hard for me, but I can't see myself without you..." he responded, "I wouldn't call you coo coo.. Nothing would surprise me, but I want you too.."

Maybe it's other placements of your cap?

My Cap's Placements:

Capricorn Sun
Aquarius Venus
Taurus Moon
Pisces Mars

My Placements:

Scorpio Sun
Sagittarius Venus
Libra Mars & Moon
Capricorn Rising

My Man & my Dad are Decan 2 caps (Jan 1st & Jan 5th)
& both of my sisters are Decan 3 caps.. (Jan 14th & 15th)
Posted by Rindaroo
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Story for you, on how some control of Caps is just ridiculous:

I am latina..

I had just moved and started attending a new school.. (high school) I remember I met a couple of Caucasian girls that thought I was super cool, loved hanging with me in school etc.. They invited me to go out with a group of other kids (male & female) to hang and meet some more peeps outside of school.. Mind you, this is a Mixed group.... Not all Caucasian.. Couple of African Americans, Hispanics, Asian.. Pretty mixed crew..

I'm all pumped when I get home after school that day, I'm like, "dad.. I met some new ppl at the school.. they asked if I can go out bowling with a group of them.. "

My dad ALWAYS had to be in control of what I did and didn't do so he never really let me go out.. Unless he wanted me to.. & I think specially since there were boys going out with us, & he was overly protective of me and my sister.. he def wasn't letting me go.. So he tells me "NO, I don't think that's a good idea..", his reason behind it was "white people smoke pot.." -_- (because I introduced him to the girls I met.. he assumed the whole group were Caucasian..)

I'm like:

"Really dad?" LMAO! I laughed his ass out so hard.. LIKE.. "you kidding me right??? How do you know that they do that.. & Why would you even make that your reason for me NOT to go??.. This isn't the 70's.. LLS! Why can't you let me make a decision on my own to not partake in that if it does comes up.. Have some faith.. TRUST ME..!"

I knew my place, I respected my dad so I didn't go BUT I still told him that I thought his reasoning was invalid, very stereotypical and WRONG! I wasn't even thinking about "pot" back then...

{Side Note: My dad isn't racist.. No offense ppl.}


Lol!! Sounds familiar!! But I'm Caucasian lol. My dad would not allow me to go to parties in high school. He called all parties "pot parties". Omg so protective! Yeah trust was hard for him when I was a teenager. He caught me talking to a boy on a beach on vacation and took me home early & threatened to disown me & not send me to college!!! Uh we were talking dad hello????? But my parents were divorced & he only saw me every other weekend & so the out of control thing was a big issue at that point. Lol He did much better as I got older 😉 Somehow he learned he couldn't control me & just was there when I needed him. 😊
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Your story sounds familiar also.. My parents are divorced also! My dad would only see me on holidays and summer vacations so he overdid his control.. To.. I guess, say "He was the boss!" Yea okay.. Make sure your rules makes sense or I will speak up and tell you otherwise.. lol I wasn't afraid to express myself to him because he was OVERLY controlling and protective.. That particular time I actually was living with him and going to school .. (first time living back with him since I was a little girl..) so he decided that he needed to step in and do his "daddy duties".. That he missed out on.. it was all wrong.. LIKE! NO.. I was literally 17-18 at the time.. Uhmm I think I can "handle my own" dad. LOL!

To this day my dad still says, "You are always gonna be my baby, no matter how old.. You're my first and I respect you for how you go about things with me even tho we haven't had the best relationship.. and IDC what any dude thinks, you don't have no boyfriend until they meet me.." **rolls eyes** OKAY DAD.. whatever YOU say!... I live far from my dad so he's never met any of my boyfriends.. I tell him my boyfriend now is JUST like him.. 4 days away from his bday.. & I feel like I'm dating my dad.. As odd as that sounds LOL! I'm a grown woman so I take my dad's comments w a grain of salt but yep My Cap dad will always be very protective and controlling over me and my 2 sisters.. I don't think that will end.
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I had a Capricorn mother

Controlling with a capital C


Ha I had a Capricorn father!! He was wayyyy worse controlling wise. But he always liked my spunk cause I'd stand up to him lol


My cap dad & cap man are controlling, but I stand up to them too..

pfffttt! They don't intimidate me.. I think they like sass.. I actually NEVER got in trouble with my dad for it also..

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Being Alpha males, things have to go thier way, or else they are uncomfortable.. If it's something I feel will help me in the end, I'm submissive to it.. BUT if they're just being overly controlling about stupid petty butter, you're gonna hear my mouth. They listen.. roll their eyes but they know they are wrong in some cases.. & I think they like having someone that stands up to their issh at times. Caps, you're NOT always right.. LOL!


My Cap's best friend says he's never seen someone stand up to him like I do & that he loves it and thinks it's awesome. Then my Cap laughs and says yeah ❤️

Maybe I just have practice lol. My stepmom told me I was my dad's favorite cuz of my spunk. Hysterical!!

I guess I was letting more go and recently not so much. Which seems to be working better. If he knows how I feel, he's like wait what? He wants me to be happy. but he does get a little touchy when he's feeling out of control and it's important to be respectful of how he's feeling at those times. Support is important then. Now I'm understanding better why he's reacted that way. Most of the times had nothing to do with me, I was just surprised at the strong reactions. I think he was also having trouble related to something else the night the driving & dinner thing happened (same night) and that "not in control" thing isn't about me. And we did discuss it that night too. He's pretty upset about it, and I'm actually his safe place. If I stand up apparently lol.

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LOL! Ya'll are so cute.. What you describe, I can picture a little married couple disputing the little things..

Your cap's friend sounds like my cap's friend.. He just said it differently.. "Aye you made my friend turn into a little kitty.. a little softy.." I was like yep he better be, ONLY for me!!.. *giggles** & My cap laughs and goes "Yea, okay.." hahah

I am also glad that you 2 are sharing more, and expressing your feelings to each other more.. & it seems to be working for you 2!! & Just take time to show him that you care about his feelings of being in control but to trust you also that you have the best at heart for the both of you.. it'll get easier over time and you'll get used to each others ways!