two greatest loves of my life were/are Virgo men. The first was waaaaaay too emotional and a drunk to boot. Brilliant artist and musician, but such a superficial scardy cat when it came down to it. Everything had to be a poem, it couldn't just be crappy regular ol' life sometimes.
My Virgo now, husband and father to my children, is such a machine at times. Very anxious deep down but hardly ever shows unless pushed. Not really able to handle scary thoughts or bad possibilities but it has it's advantages. On one hand I think I have suffered a bit being a Pisces having to keep myself in check so often but on the other I do feel more in control of myself and less expecting of him to experience life through his emotions and then dissect every living moment of them with me every day, haha. It's the hardest relationship I have ever been in but we still have that something something going on after 5 years which is a first in my life. Can be very lonely at times for sure though. They feel, they just don't generally make a show of it unless it's anger in my experience.
Always considered myself a Pisces through and through but when I started to read more into the astrological traits usually displayed by the signs I started to realize that I actually identified much more with the Aquarian counterpart. I think this could also be a coming of age thing. I've actually kind of come to resent the Pisces side being perceived as weak, impressionable and confused little conformists. Anyone else? I'm hypersensitive for sure though any way you cut it, haha. Oh well.
"accommodating an overbearing person" - good way to put it. I have had a lot of issues with this and my Virgo not seeing what was really going on. Now that he does, at least I don't feel conflicted about supporting their relationship for their kid's sake anymore. He would just give in thinking her requests were dumb but harmless instead of the plays for power that they really were. At least he's finally come around. I've just never dealt with anyone like this before, it's unreal.
^^^this seems to be the case^^^^ she started getting snippy again when she realized my husband was done trying to be nice for good. At every pick up "are you going to talk to me?" "when are you going to talk to me again" "why aren't you talking to me" - she'd be waiting at his car, she'd say the kid wanted to talk to him but then wouldn't put her on when he called, she'd literally hold onto the kid trying to get him to go over to her...It's been ridiculous. He finally sent her a documented request of no contact after she started in with some sexual stuff on his phone and we sent copies to the guardian ad litem because he's filed for custody after an incident w an ex con bf of hers.
I'm just wondering if this is just a psycho ex thing, a scorpio thing, a psycho scorpio ex thing...seems kind of text book in some aspects...all the dark unevolved ones...my Virgo isn't really a mind game type so he has fallen short in keeping this scorpio in check I am afraid. I just recently had my own little scorpio boy last month and am horrified thinking he would ever act this way.
Just hoping our lives aren't always going to be like this. I used to hope she'd find happiness and move on in a healthy way...now I couldn't care less if she was hit by a bus.
oh, and she asked my husband to get my info for a background check when we were only dating and since Id be around her young kid I didn't see the harm except I told him she could ask me herself. she didn't like that one bit and never pursued it.
Husband is a Virgo in all but one area of his chart which is Aries. I forget which placement that falls under though. They were never married. Is this really what it would take? Violence or threats of violence? My husband has told her off viciously at times but to her that emotion just seems to equal affection so he ignores her now instead which just seems to mean its ok to keep on. Nothing seems to work. If anything she seems to be ok with simply being a thorn in his/our side since she can't be anything else.
She's 29. Not horribly unattractive but nothing special either. I have made friends through my husband that used to know them both and they've told me that she used to try to get people to follow us around when we were dating. Apparently this kind of crazy has been going on from day one, I just didn't know it...had I known I never would've gotten involved in it, it's just not my style of living.
Story is a bit messy. I married a man who had a kid with this person. When we dated, I was told they had been over for a while, I had no experience dating anyone with kids and would never again after this experience alone. I offered to get together with the her, offered info for a background check if she wanted, respected their need to communicate and even tolerated some of her antics since I figured she needed time to adjust to her ex dating someone seriously. We are now married with 2 young kids and it's been 5 years. She will not move on. She texts my husband using pet names, sending him pictures of herself despite him telling her to stop or just ignoring her. She has caused embarrassing scenes at any shared events for her kid, my husband has had to bring the child to a therapist at this point bc of what goes on in her care. I have no interest in replacing her as a mom and have told her this but she seems more fixated on my husband in an ownership sense. She has come into our home and knocked ornaments off our Christmas tree while my husband was gathering their kid's stuff, she rips pages out of the kid's homework pad if she thinks I've helped. On and on and on. I am past the point of being civil with this woman and have no more empathy or concern for her feelings after all the trouble she has caused. We have essentially had to cut her out completely unless there is an emergency with their kid. I've read that Scorpios can be possessive over family and obsessive over lovers but this? for this long? She seems obsessed with what my husband does for me as compared to her when they dated. Their relationship was brief and the kid is a result of a drunken one night stand after they'd already broken up. She also seems a bit delusional to be honest, as if to her the only problem is that her boyfriend has a wife and other kids with no interest in her romantically...is this ever going to end? She goes from irate outbursts trying to get into our car to being sugary sweet an hour later in an email about school arrangements. I understand any situation with kids is bound to be messy in general and I understand the likely allegiance to a fellow Scorpio but I was curious about this from an astrological perspective and figured Id go straight to the communal source. Sorry that was lengthy, Thanks for any thoughts. I am a Pisces/Aquarius cusper with heavy Gemini influence in my natal chart. I tend to identify more with the Aquarius traits. She is mid November Scorpio.