Posted by hydorah
Dear whatever
picnic tonight
bring the buns, I'll provide the sausage and the mayonnaise


eww cheesy lol
Posted by Sagiluv27
I asked him for his password and he gave it to me, he asked for mine andi gave it to him,

Would you give your cell password to your boyfriend or girlfriend, wife or husband?

I would have to clear my browser history everytime I used my phone. More than hiding anything, it would be to have the freedom to keep my browsing to myself. It would make me paranoid though if my SO did that, like what is he hiding haha

If the friend is not paranoid, is it possible he planned it?
Posted by sierra_
maybe this is my libra mars

i hate that cookiemonsterass mars

I think it is the virgo sun. Virgo's like to please and help so easily melt when someone tries to help them or show they are sorry even if it is not genuine. Not that virgos are fools, they know when they are being played, it is just hard to stay angry for long. Even if the hurt is always there.

Posted by sierra_
do you feel paranoid that it's a trait that someone can take advantage off to your detriment?

Yes, it sucks because you can see people not taking you seriously because of this trait. I am the same way, can stay angry internally but if someone makes some effort I forgive on the outside. But what I have learned is giving in too easily only makes that effort temporary till the next time you are hurt again by the same person. People value people who don't give a butter about others more is what it seems like.

Posted by Helen29


What I can't do is FORCE him to feel romantically for me, so at the moment we are kind of friends which may or may not blossom so I have to really set some kind of limit on that. At the moment, we're pretty much dating and doing romantic activities so I guess if he starts dating someone else then that'll be it, over for me but if we continue as we are for a few weeks then maybe we come to a point of being official.

But you said he is still dating other people too? At the end of the day will you be content with having him just as a friend if one day he says he cannot be more. You have already told him you like him and it seems like he does not want or is afraid to commit but same time likes having you around. But you are not getting anything in return, maybe romantic dates but with no commitment. It's like he is having his cake and eating it too. Maybe he is changing, is getting serious about you, but you have to protect your heart. It is not easy to just stay friends with someone you have/had feelings for.

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Posted by DeadInside
do you have a man ?


No. And I am uncertain if i am suited to marriage either if i am honest. I have never lived with a man.

I am admirer of the institution of marriage. But I don't think I want to BE married ..walk down the aisle. Maybe live with someone.

Divorce is hard here. It takes forever.

I have never had to have a boyfriend. I don't know how people get used to living with one another. And not walking away ....how do you stay the same person for 20 yrs...i mean ...wouldn't you be totally different by then. Like different things ..wouldn't different things annoy you?

I mean i am pretty now..but lol at 50 ..maybe i would seem annoying. I often think men and women are not into the same things ....and i can be ..hmm i am intelligent ..but flakey and batty. I guess the impolite or sexist term is BIMBO ...and don't bimbos annoy men after we are no longer cute and pretty????


I am aware I am not a bimbo. I was just struggling to find a way to express that. So it came out that way ....i hope you understand what i mean.


So you've never had a bf, don't won't kids, don't want marriage, and don't want to live with a man???

Good lord... You're some kind of hard work LOL



I have had a boyfriend it lasted 2 yrs It just didn't work out ..no biggie...
We didn't live together though.
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Posted by ScopioConfused

I don't think so. Damaged phone has no effect on your information. His number is what is on his company website and therefore he can't afford to have it deleted. He has only one phone as he hates having to carry two phones a personal and an official one.

He has no other social media except for WhatsApp. I have just WhatsApp and Facebook and nothing else. Neither one of us have snap chat, insta, viber, skype or any other form of communication. We both hate being always connected. I could barely get myself to message him once a month on WA, i am incapable of chasing behind someone who doesn't want me in their life.

More than chasing it is finding if he is okay and then letting him go? You could even try finding indirectly like if he is active on facebook (last online in messenger) etc. Try to find through common friends or something. Or could drop him a text message just asking hows things and then step back? Not right if he is just ignoring, but would bother me if he abruptly blocked. At least if he is out there enjoying your anger would be justified.
Posted by wildflower
Really?? You guys think this? I feel that he would've contacted me again if he was feeling it though..... Is it cool for me to reach out to him?? I am feeling confused haha why would he need to play it cool?

He is trying to play cool or not but he should have checked if you reached home safe, after all you were with him and left late. It was his duty to call. Or he should have at least said let me know when you reach home. did he say that? Also could he have offered to drop you home? It seems like he wanted you stay at his place, but that is odd, because it was your first date. Maybe he thought if it gets late you would stay over? Maybe you should have left a little bit early so he would not have any expectation of you spending the night? In any case he should have checked you reached home. You need to observe more if he is genuine or not maybe?
Posted by hellosaggy
@pinkbird03

I wouldn't consider myself a treetrunk boy. I am upfront (I just edited my OP)... I just want fun. I like the company of women. the complexities, the sexuality, I just don't want a serious relationship. They always start the honey, babe, good morning, good night butter, and I end it for that reason.

I think the problem is I do sweet butter... send you lunch, buy you medication, open doors, pay for outings, etc. I think they aren't used to men being attentive. I'm just noticing and acting accordingly, I won't stop being a good guy just bc we are only having sex.

@Aquanextdoor

sooooo... I should sit at home alone for a year? I've never dated more than 4 girls at once... Right now its actually only one... an aqua(we haven't had sex yet, but she SAID she's cool with being FWB)... so to keep myself from focusing on one, and throwing a mixed signal. I have to date a few more. I'm meeting an aries for coffee Sunday, the girl I went out with tonight (shes a gemini) she's ok...I might keep playing the Cap by ear.. but no more dinners for her! I can save that money for another one.

Where do you meet them, on a dating site?

Posted by rebecca83
It seems like Christmas is the time to get dumped - at least this is the second time in a row that it's happening to me. Last year it literally happened on Christmas Eve, when my boyfriend of some 3 months told me he just wasn't ready for a relationship and asked me to come over and pick my stuff from his place. That breakup was hell for me, and I spent some incredibly painful 4 months just trying to pick myself up.
Maybe I would have picked myself up - eventually - but I ended up not needing to, because come May I met an amazing guy who turned my world upside down - and made me fall crazy in love. He was deployed at the time, so we spent 5 months doing nothing but talking - online and on the phone - and by the end of September we met in person and added the physical aspect to our relationship. Everything seemed to be going great, he went away for work at the beginning of December and we were both looking forward to being reunited for Christmas... Then, last night, he told me that, while he still loves me and thinks I am an amazing woman, he has fallen in love with another girl and, since the feeling is mutual, he is pursuing a relationship with her. I was dumbfounded. Still am. I literally can't pick myself up - nor do I know where to start. This guy and I, we had built such deep intimacy, shared the most sacred things - both physically and emotionally - promised each other again and again that we would withstand all storms together...
He keeps telling me that he is sorry, that I didn't do anything to deserve this, but this is just how he feels. So my question is... what do I do NOW? How do I escape this hell I find myself once more thrown into? Where do I start?

Sorry that he did this to you. Did you guys have a commitment? Not that you have to say it in words that you are committed, but it looks like he did not take the commitment seriously if he so easily moved to someone else. So maybe it is good that you found out sooner that he is not reliable. I am not sure how one can prevent a heartbreak. I think some couples are just lucky that they find each other and want to be together forever. Best thing I think is to not get too attached to someone. Like they know they cannot take you for granted. But it is hard.
If the divorce is because of his cheating then maybe he is already involved with someone? If not, he maybe just wants to enjoy his freedom. He does not want to add any more baggage. OP you should not feel bad for him, he is a grown man with kids. He can figure out his life on his own. You don't want to be there for him too much only to see him go after someone else.
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Posted by Undine
Don't be ridiculous.

As long as you haven't met his parents as his girlfriend/fiancee, you are not officially a couple yet.

If you refused to go with him, for whatever reason, it was not a good move. Singles are often paired up for weddings, by family and friends. Something to do with tradition. Maybe he wanted to avoid that.


Thank you for your post-I haven't met his parents.. and they live in a different country so because of that, especially not.. and I've never been on holiday with him so I totally did not expect an invite to this wedding.. I probably wouldn't have even gone if we had asked but obviously I did not think he'd take another girl..

He's obviously a bit of a commitmentphobe so I'd totally get why he wouldn't take me but to take another girl who he'd only ever dated a few weeks before me and has arguments leading to unfriending ever since, barely makes any sense why he'd "commit" to her by inviting her... :/ vs. 1 year with me where he kept hinting for babies etc. (even though I don't want babies etc. and he knows it so it certainly wasn't to sweet talk me)..

IF he had invited me and I didn't go, I might be mildly surprised he took someone else but not at all upset or angry.. but he hasn't... I guess she went as his official +1...? which makes it worse coz it wasn't like a friend tagging along to a random party...
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It is natural to be upset but also sometimes guys do not think this much. He might have just asked her because she will be there. If she was not there guess he would have not. But he should have told you that he has invited her because she is going to be there. But again friending/unfriending sounds like little more than friendship.
Posted by blybo
I've Been seeing him for a year
He is still hugely eager to meet up with me etc and hang out etc

BUT he has a family wedding in his home country. His 'friend' is a girl he met in a nightclub 2 years ago (before me) and had a kiss with but they ended up being just friends.. on/off friends with him unfriendimg her once, them not speaking for a year before she said sorry and they became friends again..

She's in london too but moving back to their home country this weekend.. so he invited her to his family wedding so basically his plus one as she was moving back there this weekend anyway..

He has told me about her before but did not me she was going with him to the wedding..

& they've never slept together..

Yet I've been seeing him for a year and he's soo attentive and always initiates contact etc with me all year long..

He has many Sagittarius and Gemini aspects in his birth chart..

I feel bad about this


What is his sun sign? Sagittarius people seem to be very close to their friends and it does not seem like it matters if that friend is married or not
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Posted by LadyNeptune
That’s kinda weird. Why didn’t he tell you?! And how did you find out...fb pics from the wedding?


I thought it looked suspicious and had to investigate lol so I contacted her (anonymously) for a general chat and she mentioned she's going to a friends family wedding etc and I knew it was soo his and she said it was good timing was the cause of her going as she's moving back to that country permanently whereas he (my bf) is returning to london on Monday. She said she kinda liked him but prefers being single and says she's been intimate with him but has not ever slept with him (he said the same ages ago so at least the no sleeping together is true)
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It is strange that she shared all this with you when you contacted her anonymously.

Posted by maiden
Life is difficult for everyone. What people choose to broadcast about it (to themselves and to others), and how, varies wildly.

Agree with this. But some people are able to broadcast a happy life on social media, even if it is not, and attract people to them because they seem happy. How is it possible to broadcast you are happy when you are not?

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Posted by GC02
I wish we knew how she is doing, but at the same time if she’s still around I don’t blame her if she wouldn’t want to spend some of her last moments on here.



better with people she loves and loves her alot.


Yeah....also when really ill even concentrating on movies and stuff for any length of time can be hard ...

In the end ..family and friends are the only stuff that matters.
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In the end only family matters.
I don't think there is anything wrong with you. I am sure this is the story of most single girls living away from family, who don't have many or any other single friends to hang around with. I can relate to what you are saying.